Imagine you meet a new person you're attracted to. In conversation, she mentions that she went for a run this morning. You happen to be a runner yourself. You immediately stop listening and try to come up with stories to tell her so you can showcase that you're a good runner. You do this not because you're made for each other or even because she wants to hear it. You do it because it feels good to talk about things you know and understand.
Maybe in order to make a genuine connection, you can show your interest by asking questions about how running makes her feel rather than talking about YOUR experiences. Let her feel those good feelings you get when you get to talk. You must sometimes sacrifice what feels good in the short term in order to be rewarded over the long term.