Yesterday I shared a bit about our parenting book TRIGGERS: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle, Biblical Responses. This quote right here sums up one of my favorite themes in the whole book. When we are triggered and respond emotionally in those highly charged moments, we tend to respond in our flesh. It’s a knee-jerk reaction… which often leaves us feeling (and looking) like a “jerk.” That’s why Amber Lia and I encourage our mom-friends to slow down, sit down, and even write down a better response — a kinder, gentler, and hopefully more effective response. When our kids do wrong we can do right! It won’t happen naturally, but it can happen supernaturally. Find out more about TRIGGERS: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle, Biblical Responses: Link in Bio or find it on Amazon. #parenting #mom #motherhood #momsofinstagram #parentingbooks #christianparenting #momlife #boymom #triggersbook #gentleparenting
Wendy Speake and I had a great time in Colorado Springs! We had incredibly sweet conversations with our dear friend Sally Clarkson, and we always love talking with Jim Daly and John Fuller at Focus on the Family. I remember listening to Focus on the Family growing up and thinking how amazing it would be to write books to share my heart on FOTF. I also remember being a broken and discouraged mom when a friend put Sally Clarkson‘s book The Mission of Motherhood in my hands. I don’t think I would have written books or had the ministry that I have to parents without Sally’s heart ministering to mine. For years now, she has blessed and nurtured me with her friendship. I can’t get over the kindness of God! He knows our hearts and the desires that lie within. He fosters them and nurtures them and brings them to fruition! I’m so thankful! #fotf #triggersbook #gentleparenting
Triggers by Marshall Goldsmith #triggers #marshalgoldsmith #triggersbook #bookpile #bookstagrammer #bookstoread #psycology #psycologyfacts #psycologybooks #selfhelpbooks #selfhelp
📚Five Stars! ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Ever wondered why, despite your best intentions, you end up doing the exact opposite? Welcome to ‘Triggers’ by Marshall Goldsmith and Mark Reiter, your not-so-typical guide to understanding the sneaky forces that shape our actions and derail our success train. 🚂💥 In a world where self-help books often repeat the same old mantras, ‘Triggers’ stands out like a beacon of real talk. Goldsmith, with his decades of coaching experience, doesn’t just tell you to ‘try harder’; he pulls back the curtain on why we resist change, even when we desperately want to transform. 🎭 Think of ‘Triggers’ as your personal FBI profiler for habits. It identifies the culprits (external and internal triggers) that sabotage your path to glory and arms you with strategies to turn your worst enemies into allies. 🕵️♂️🤝 But here’s the kicker: Goldsmith isn’t here to coddle you. He’s here to challenge you, to make you question not just your actions but the environment and mindset that fuel them. And just when you think you’ve got it all figured out, he hits you with insights that have you nodding along, wondering why you hadn’t seen it all along. 🤯 ‘Triggers’ is more than a book; it’s a wake-up call to stop blaming the wind for blowing your boat off course and start adjusting the sails. So, if you’re ready to take a hard look in the mirror and laugh (and maybe cry a little) at what you see, this book is your next must-read. 📚🔍 Because, let’s face it, in the journey to becoming our best selves, we’re often our own biggest obstacle. ‘Triggers’ doesn’t just help you leap over that hurdle; it teaches you to dismantle it, piece by piece. Ready to get triggered into action? 🏃♂️💨 #30Wins #TriggersBook #HabitHacking #MarshallGoldsmith #LifeChangers”
An emotional trigger is anything that sparks an intense emotional reaction, regardless of your current mood. It can be a memory, experience, or event that causes you to feel a strong emotion such as anger, sadness, or fear. Identifying your emotional triggers is an important step in managing your emotions and maintaining good emotional health. To identify your emotional triggers, you can start by paying attention to situations that generate a strong emotional response. You might also experience physical symptoms of anxiety, such as a pounding heart, upset stomach, shakiness, or dizziness . When you notice these signs, stop to consider what just happened and the response it activated. Try following these feelings back to their origins by thinking back on other situations that made you feel what you’re currently feeling . If you’re struggling to identify your emotional triggers, you can try asking yourself questions such as: What situations make me feel uncomfortable or anxious? What topics do I avoid discussing? What behaviors or actions of others upset me? What are some of my most painful memories? What are some of my most joyful memories? Remember, emotional triggers are different for everyone, and it’s okay to seek professional help if you’re struggling to manage your emotions. #triggers #asmrtriggers #cmctriggers #outriggers # #asmrtriggersounds #triggerskate #floralfoamtriggers #goldtriggersnob #emotionaltriggers #migrainetriggers #occustomtriggers #outriggerstikibar #hiperfiretriggers #velocitytriggers #asthmatriggers #knowyourtriggers #hungertriggers #ghosttriggers #foodtriggers #anxietytriggers #triggersbook #triggersafe #acnetriggers
Oh goodness, I’m writing this one on my hand with a Sharpie. #dailyquote #parenting #parentingscripts #triggersbook #mom #momlife #momsofinstagram #motherhood #motherhoodrising #motherhoodunplugged #boymom #homeschool #bookstagram #gentleparenting
Most of us wanted to get married and have kids because we believed it would make us happy, BUT GOD IS USING THESE PEOPLE TO MAKE US HOLY. Of course, growing up is hard. Sure, our children are growing up within our homes, but so are we. Or at least we should be! Let’s commit again (and again and again) to growing up into the likeness of God! I know it’s hard — and I know it’s hot in here. Sometimes your temper feels hot too, but think of it as a crucible, a fiery furnace where the impurities in your own character are rising to the surface of your life so that the dross might be removed by the master-craftsman. He wants you 100% Pure Gold. It’s the refiner’s fire you’re in now. Don’t blame your family that life is hard, thank the Lord that He uses every hard thing to grow you into a clearer image of Him! Raise your hand if He’s using your family to do it! 𝐃𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐠𝐠𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐦𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐲 𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐫 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐦𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐲 𝐬𝐡𝐚𝐦𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐮𝐩 𝐰𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐠𝐢𝐠? 𝐂𝐡𝐞𝐜𝐤 𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤 𝐓𝐑𝐈𝐆𝐆𝐄𝐑𝐒: 𝐄𝐱𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐏𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬’ 𝐀𝐧𝐠𝐫𝐲 𝐑𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐆𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐥𝐞 𝐁𝐢𝐛𝐥𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥 𝐑𝐞𝐬𝐩𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐞𝐬 — 𝐋𝐢𝐧𝐤 𝐢𝐧 𝐛𝐢𝐨! #family #parenting #parentingscripts #triggersbook #mom #momlife #momsofinstagram #motherhood #motherhoodrising #motherhoodunplugged #boymom #homeschool #bookstagram #gentleparenting
I share this quote more than any other… over and over again. It’s true. It’s hard, perhaps, but it is true. Unfortunately, it doesn’t happen by accident — but only on purpose. Are you still losing your temper when your kids do wrong? Do you melt down each time they melt down? Grab a mom friend and a copy of the parenting book, Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses. Get your own copy wherever books are sold near you or follow the link in bio to get it now. #triggersbook #parenting #momlife #motherhood #parentingscripts #mom #momsofinstagram #motherhoodrising #motherhoodunplugged #boymom #homeschool #bookstagram
Struggling to parent your strong-willed children without lashing out with your own muscular will? Oh my word, what a challenge it is for many. Our children’s sinful tendencies can cause us to sin tremendously too. And yet, God has a plan for our strength and theirs. Philippians 1:6 promises that God is continuing the good work He started in the lives of you and your children. 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐆𝐨𝐝 𝐡𝐚𝐬 𝐛𝐞𝐞𝐧 𝐩𝐮𝐫𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐞𝐟𝐮𝐥 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐝𝐞𝐬𝐢𝐠𝐧 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐢𝐬 𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐚𝐭 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐞𝐬, 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐣𝐨𝐢𝐧 𝐇𝐢𝐦, 𝐟𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐝𝐫𝐞𝐧 𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐧 𝐚𝐠𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐬𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐦! So often, the parents of strong-willed girls and boys engage in an ungodly battle, ripping their kids down with constant negative corrections and punishments. But the strong-willed person is rarely transformed by such hard, punitive treatment. The strong-willed man, woman, boy, or girl needs to know that you’re on their team, not against them! Need more encouragement? Grab a copy of TRIGGERS today. @therealamberlia and I wrote this book for the moms and dads who struggle with angry reactions — though they long to respond gently and Biblically. If you want to do right when your own kids do wrong, grab a copy of Triggers (along with the Triggers Study Guide) today. (Chapter 4 is all about raising strong-willed kids!) #parenting #mom #gentleparenting #momlife #motherhood #strongwilled #strongwilledchildren #motherhoodrising #momsofinstagram #parentingscripts #triggersbook #motherhoodunplugged #boymom #homeschool #bookstagram
In our parenting book TRIGGERS, Amber Lia and I consider our most common triggers — those things that cause us to react in anger rather than respond gently toward our kiddos during our mothering days. Being overstimulated is a big one for me. We can see how our kiddos meltdown when they are tired or have had too much sugar and too much screen time… but we rarely consider how overstimulation can affect us too! Link in bio to grab a copy of TRIGGERS today. Together we’ll work through 31 of our most common triggers so that we can respond gently instead of reacting in anger. #parenting #parentingscripts #triggersbook #mom #momlife #momsofinstagram #motherhood #motherhoodrising #motherhoodunplugged #boymom #homeschool #bookstagram #gentleparenting
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My daughter Annie and I have implemented the techniques discussed in the book "Triggers," which resulted in a change in our behavior. As a result, Annie was able to make time daily to practice Hindustani Classical Music and successfully passed her first exam level from Pracheen Kala Kendra. I began pursuing my passion for writing and coaching several years ago, and as a result, one of my articles was recently published in the magazine of the ICF Bengaluru Chapter. The article, which pertains to my insights on the book "Triggers", can be found in full length at the provided link - https://www.linkedin.com/posts/vinitksc_triggersbook-behaviorchange-marshallgoldsmith-activity-7023122312438710274-adl_ #TriggersBook #BehaviorChange #MarshallGoldsmith #PersonalDevelopment #GoalAchieving #CoachingTips #ProductivityHacks #MindsetMatters #UnlimitedPotentialInside #ChangeManagement #EnvironmentalTriggers #AchievingSuccess #SelfImprovement #MotivationMonday
How do we become UnTriggered and actually become calm when we are angry with our kids? #sunrisewithamber #triggersbook #proverbs #gentleparentingwithamberandwendy
Girl in Pieces 4/5 The book that got me back into reading! I feel nobody really talks about this one and I can’t figure out why. If you’re going to check it out, please check out the triggers! It’s a heavy one, and was hard to read at times but is so incredibly relatable. #girlinpieceskathleenglasgow #bookstagram #bookstagramblogger #reading #triggersbook
Terus kalau udah milih tapi masih belum komitmen, gimana dong? Yaa...mungkin itu bukan benar² pilihanmu, tapi pilihannya~ *nyanyiakubukanpilihan... #NLP #belajarNLP #NLPforEverydayLife #marshallgoldsmith #triggersbook
In chapter 3 of Parenting Scripts I wrote, “What’s a mom to do when the only thing they’re consistent at is being inconsistent?” Ugh! Often in my desire to teach my children grace and give them second chances, I set us all up for a long childhood of whining voices, asking, ‘Can I earn the cookie back?’” Do you want to talk about the importance of both consistency and grace, and how they go hand in hand? Read Chapter 3 of Parenting Scripts for yourself. This is one of my hardest parenting struggles. Grace is everything! I love saying YES! I want them to get the cookie, have the playdate, and watch the movie! But sometimes our children need to feel the sting of consequences and lost privileges. Whether they are toddlers or teens this is true. Grace doesn’t always get their attention, sometimes they need consequences to learn the lesson. Here’s my question: Can you see how endless second chances and porous boundaries make it hard for your children to learn their lessons? Grab a copy of Parenting Scripts from Amazon: https://amzn.to/2uyOGDu — and join the conversation in our Facebook group: “Gentle Parenting with Amber and Wendy.” #parenting #parentingscripts #triggersbook #mom #momlife #momsofinstagram #motherhood #motherhoodrising #motherhoodunplugged #boymom #homeschool
In which parenting scenario is this the hardest for you? Backtalk, sibling rivalry, naptime, screentime, all-the-time? If you find yourself easily TRIGGERED with your children, consider grabbing a copy of the parenting book TRIGGERS: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses. (Link in bio) We can change the way we respond to our kids. When they do wrong… we don’t have to! #parenting #triggered #authorquotes #raisingchildren #parenthood #biblicalparenting #biblicalresponses #parentingbooks #triggersbook
Do you find yourself hiding in the bathroom in tears after losing your temper and saying words you regret? Has the peaceful home you imagined—pre-children—become a place of slamming doors, frustration, and negativity? Do angry emotions hijack your self-control and leave you feeling guilty and sad? Maybe like so many of us, you wonder How can I become a wise and gentle parent who loves my kids the way God loves me? Our guest, @therealamberlia, offers a powerful insight and practical tools to overcome anger transform your life with your kids. Take a listen today with the link in our bio! #growinghometogetherpodcast #triggersbook #parentingtriggerstuesday #parentingtriggers #momproblems #mommingishard #christianmom
This book has been sitting in my Amazon cart for a while so when I saw it sitting on my sister-in-law's bookshelf, I borrowed it and began to read. Though I'm not quite finished reading it yet, I can say it's one I'd definitely recommend to parents with children of all ages! The book covers external triggers like strong-willed children, disobedience, and whining as well as internal triggers like depression, exhaustion, and feelings of guilt. It's written in a way that you can read each short chapter a day like a devotional. I, however, have devoured it and am reading through it chapters at a time. Not only is it appropriate for parents, but I'm finding some wonderful nuggets in here that I'll be able to use in my classroom as well. Check it out and if you want a little more, they've also got a study guide to go along with it that allows you to answer questions and journal. #dwellingplacewellness #triggersbook #wendyspeake #amberlia
*** Book Review: Triggers *** Wow what a book! To be honest, I wasn’t excited to read this book. I mean, look at the cover…I felt like I was looking in the mirror. I finally decided to read the book and it was comforting. But even better it gives tools grounded in Biblical truth. The book goes over external triggers (our children) and internal triggers (us). Each chapter starts with a trigger in an empathetic way, it works it’s way through wisdom, and finishes the chapter with a prayer. The book includes Bible verses and how to apply them to ourselves and children. This book made a huge impact on me. Mothering is not easy. We need tools but not just any tools. Tools based on Biblical truth. If you need a book to help you with triggers based on Biblical truth, then read Triggers. The book also has a workbook that I plan to complete next time. My only complaint is that the audio and physician book don’t match. I read the physical book while I listen to it. I do like the audio version better. I hope the authors update their book to match the audio version. Either way, the book is worth including in your library. Have you read Triggers? What parenting books do you recommend? #cmbooks #livingbooklegacy #christianparentingbooks #truegoodbeautiful #triggersbook #gentleparenting
GOT PARENTING VIDEOS? Looking for a resource for your church, small group, or personal study? Wendy Speake and I have a video series for both Triggers and Parenting Scripts! PLUS, there are some free bonus items only available to those who get the videos! Check out all that comes with this series (which is a crazy good value) by visiting amberandwendy.com #parentingvideos #amberandwendy #parenting #parenthood #biblicalparenting #Triggersbook #ParentingScriptsbook #parentingbooks #smallgroups
For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. (Ephesians 6:12, NIV) Struggling to live it out with your kids and your spouse right there in your home? Feelings like each day’s a battle? Consider grabbing a copy of our parenting books: TRIGGERS, Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses: https://amzn.to/39Z0Yug PARENTING SCRIPTS: https://amzn.to/3Gk0z1h #parenting #parentingbooks #spiritualbattle #fleshandblood #raisingchildren #family #triggersbook #parentingscriptsbook #biblicalparenting #respondnotreact
Back in the day, I had a variety of bosses. The ones that were the best, believed in me and used their authority in a way that made me feel safe and supported. Long ago, I had a “Mom as Boss” kind of attitude that wasn’t the best. It smacked of, “do it because I said so” with very little compassion. When I adopted a “Mom as Coach” attitude as I describe in the first chapter of “Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses,” everything changed. I saw my role as one to guide, intentionally, lovingly, and biblically. God transformed my heart and my relationship with my children. If your home life is less than what you dreamed it to be, perhaps picking up a copy may bless you as it has done for more than a hundred thousand other parents. You can read more about this transformative book in my bio. #parenting #parentingbook #triggersbook #compassion #intentionally #lovingly #biblically #hearttransformation #biblicalresponses #safeandsupported #godtransformed #moms #dads
I don’t let my kids grumbling influence what we do or don’t do in our home. My responsibility to God and to them is to nurture them toward personal responsibility. I want to model hard obedience to them. That’s not “happy heart” obedience. Obedience will not always be a happy choice–Jesus agonized in Gethsemane. He was willing. But it hurt. It was sacrificial. His groaning did not cause God His Father to yield in His plans. Want to be like your Father? Stop punishing your kids for struggling toward obedience. Just don’t let it stop you–or them–from doing the next right thing. #parenting #momofboys #parentingishard #trainupachild #dotherightthing #obedience #parentingscripts #triggers #foundationoftruth #triggersbook
I promised myself I would never snap at my kids. There may be nothing more defeating than feeling like we are bad moms. Don’t despair. God is able to transform any heart…any mess. “Heavenly Father, when we fail, forgive us. Transform our hearts. May our words be always filled with grace and loving truth. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!” Please join our gentle biblical parenting group by searching for Gentle Parenting with Amber and Wendy on Facebook. #gentleparenting #parenting #amberandwendy #triggersbook #parentingscripts #godlyparenting #godalwaysshowsup #godisable
When I dreamed of being a mom, I never said to myself, “when I’m a mom, I want to be a fool” and yet it’s so easy to become one when we are triggered. In our book, Triggers, Wendy Speake and I share vulnerably about our own struggles and how God refined us toward gentle biblical parenting. We pray this book blesses you richly and gives you hope that you too, can change! Read reviews and check it out in my bio. #parenting #proverbs #bible #triggersbook #biblicalparenting #bookreviews #gentleparenting
I want my kids to WANT to do the right thing, not just try to avoid punishment. When I live out godly character, it creates a different level of respect. Not one based on fear, but from a place of blessing and hope. #triggersbook #parentingtriggers #parenting #godlyparenting #righteousness #respect #parentingscripts
Ok mamas. If you’ve followed my story, you know I’ve been reading this book alongside lent. 😅 ___ I HIGHLY recommend it. I also offer a disclaimer that my FAVORITE reminder from it has been that God convicts us without condemning us. So … you gotta walk into this thing ready for some conviction. ____ Being a mom isn’t easy. Good thing our God is big enough and great enough and gentle enough for allll of us, and He can help us find our way to gentleness too. 🙏🏽 ____ #parentingishard #triggersbook #wendyspeake #momoffour #momoffourboys #fostermoms #fosterparents #godisgoodalways #verygrateful
If you aren’t living a life you love, make a change. For ten years, I taught middle school and high school. I LOVED it! But, I knew it would keep me from being home with my babies—which is what I really wanted. I did what I needed to with property management for a while but my heart? It wanted to CREATE and LEAD. The path to film-making, writing books, and building a multi-million dollar health coaching business while training leaders has been messy. But it’s also given me options to be with my sweet boys and involve them in every aspect of my work life. Today, I’m exceedingly grateful. I’m blessed to be helping others make similar choices as they partner with us. Every day is a GIFT and I can’t wait to see what God does as we pray and seek to do the good work He has for us in the months to come! Will you pray for us as we seek to minister and serve?? #servantheart #blessed #healthcoach #optavia #producer #producerlife #lifestyle #author #authorsofinstagram #thehappycamper #foodtriggersbook #triggersbook #parentingscriptsbook #marriagetriggersbook #whatsnext #motherhood #fitmom #healthylifestyle #parenting #boymom #lovemykids #lovegod #thankful This income testimonial is not representative of the average earnings that Coaches achieve with OPTAVIA; only a very small number of Coaches will achieve income that is within the range of this testimonial. OPTAVIA makes no guarantee of financial success. Success with OPTAVIA results only from successful sales efforts, which require hard work, diligence, skill, persistence, competence, and leadership. Please see the OPTAVIA Income Disclosure Statement (bit.ly/idsOPTAVIA) for statistics on actual earnings of Coaches.”
You know that crushed look on your child’s face when you keep on keeping on? They got the message. But you just keep talking. Snapping. Hashing it out. Angry. Out of control. Harsh. I learned a long time ago that the first step in my parenting was to examine my own heart. We talk in the Triggers book, about proactive parenting, coaching them toward right behavior when they do wrong, clearly coaching them toward right, and being clear on consequences so that nobody has to get their knickers in a twist. Clear. Fair. Loving guidance, consistently and kindly. Consequences that don’t come in the heat of the moment, but in the calm moments of gentle biblical intentional parenting. How about it? Ready to exchange angry reactions for gentle biblical responses? Join our private Facebook group, Gentle Parenting With Amber and Wendy here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/gentleparentingwithamberandwendy #triggersbook #gentleparentingwithamberandwendy #gentleparenting #parenting #lovingguidance #consistentparenting #biblicalparenting
I loved hearing @therealamberlia story of freedom! I think God is so kind and gentle with us that He helps us focus on one area of our lives at a time - for OUR freedom 🙌 Listen in on today’s episode of Ready to Thrive how God led Amber to find freedom in her parenting, her marriage, and then in her health! 🙌 My hope always is that you will have an aha moment of your own as you listen in. ♥️ #foodtriggers #foodtriggersbook #wholehealth #wholeheartedliving #podcastsforwomen #thisismystory #freedommovement #youreanovercomer #givemejesus #triggersbook #healthylifestyle
I remember the day Oliver, as a young boy, tenderly said, “Mom, remember when you promised to buy me a puppy?” I remembered alright. I just had been putting it off. For two years. “I think you were lying to me.” he said, calmly, but sadly. The next day, we went out to the local rescue shelter and brought home our beautiful black labrador, Rosie. It’s been 8 years since that day. As a mom, there are many things I used to do that would exasperate my children. Broken promises? Yep. That was one of them. I wasn’t taking my word seriously so why would I expect my kids to trust me? Obey me? It’s not easy to examine our shortcomings as parents, but God does not condemn us. He does, however, want us to grow. Moms don’t need to be perfect, but we must yield to being perfected in Christ. In so doing, we remove the anger triggers in our own children’s lives and step into honoring God by living out this verse: “Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.” (Colossians 3:21) #triggersbook #perfectparents #moms #parenting #perfectedinchrist #colossians #momlife #boymom
Do you find yourself hiding in the bathroom in tears after losing your temper and saying words you regret? Has the peaceful home you imagined—pre-children—become a place of slamming doors, frustration, and negativity? Do angry emotions hijack your self-control and leave you feeling guilty and sad? Maybe like so many of us, you wonder How can I become a wise and gentle parent who loves my kids the way God loves me? . Today’s guest, @therealamberlia, offers a powerful insight and practical tools to overcome anger transform your life with your kids. She explains: • Why Amber struggled with anger as a mom and how God met her in it • How to stay calm when your kids push your buttons • How to move from simply reacting to your kids so you can teach and train with love • The internal and external triggers that drive our actions • How God sets the perfect example of parenthood for us • The connection between a healthy marriage and effective parenting • How to become a coach who sets your kids up for success • Why your triggers can be God’s tool to move you toward wisdom and maturity . Listen on your favorite podcast player or at the link in our profile. . . . #growingtogetherpodcast #triggersbook #parentingtriggerstuesday #parentingtriggers #momproblems #mommingishard #christianmom
Finished listening to this audiobook today. I highly recommend❤️ #triggersbook #literarypearlsof22
⭐️ GIVEAWAY ⭐️ I am so excited to be giving away these 2 incredible books that every mom should have! Wendy Speake, @wendy_speake , joined me on my podcast this week! We talk about mom anger and what often triggers our angry reactions instead of the gentle responses we wish we had. If you’ve ever been surprised by, disappointed by, or convicted by the anger in motherhood, these books are for you! Triggers, by @wendy_speake and @therealamberlia The 40 Day Sugar Fast, by @wendy_speake To enter: 1️⃣ Follow @seekwhollyliving and @wendy_speake 2️⃣ Like and Save this post 3️⃣ Tag friends who would be blessed by these books. (That would be every mom friend!) one entry per tag 4️⃣ For 5 bonus entries: Share the giveaway or podcast post in your story! Be sure to tag @seekwhollyliving . (10 entries for both!) This is not affiliated with Instagram. Winner must be in the US. Winner will be announced on Tuesday, December 22nd. #seekwhollyliving #christasvoboda #wendyspeake #triggersbook #40daysugarfast #momlife #christianmom #christianfamily #christmas #giveaway #momlifeisthebestlife #homeschool #bookstagram
Day 3// What is something you read in 2021 that has impacted your life? Triggers by @wendy_speake and @therealamberlia had been very impactful in my life! I’ve always been a VERY patient person… ask anyone who knows me! But with each child came some sanctifying that I didn’t even know I needed, because my patience had an ending place I had never before seen. All of the sudden “my” patience had to be a fruit of the spirit that I displayed because of His power at work within me and not my own strength. Triggers goes through many topics that trigger our angry reactions and help moms develop the gentle and more Biblical reactions that we know are the God honoring choices. I’ve read this book on my own and with a group and I recommend it either way! There is a study guide and audio version available as well. I had @wendy_speake on my podcast with me on this topic this week and it was an excellent episode! Link is in my profile or you can watch on YouTube or listen wherever you enjoy podcasts. #seekwhollyliving #christasvoboda #triggersbook #wendyspeake #amberlia #reflectandrefresh2021 #kaysepratt #bookclub #christianmom #christianmoms #readingtime #readinglist
This morning I was up early to be a speaker for a MOPS group In Missouri via video. They were a beautiful group of moms and asked wonderful questions! I’ll tell ya, I love being in community with mothers. We all want to become better moms and love our kids with the love of Christ. Keep meeting together. Being vulnerable. Helping each other. We really are better together! #parentingscriptsbook #triggersbook #motherhood #community #gentleparenting #mops
*FYI since today is the day after Thanksgiving I reserve all rights for my photos to be in front of my Christmas tree for the next month 😉🎄 “If we are being consumed by anything - emotions, anger, or pity parties - then we are not relying on God and His faithful plans for our lives.” This was a library read for me, but I will absolutely be buying this book to keep and re-read (a lot)! As a Christian mom I’m often convicted of my attitude when I’m in the thick of parenting. It turns out it’s easier to jump to being frustrated than to being patient. 🤪 This book provides so many words of wisdom along with Bible verses to guide us as moms in how to respond to situations biblically. I have a 3 year old and another little one due soon (🥰), but I think this book would be helpful for moms through the teen years with kids! There were plenty of chapters that discussed what I work with now with my son, but there are also several chapters that cover things I haven’t even dealt with yet! I love how many Bible verses this book gave that relate to parenting that I can always turn to. I highly recommend this book to Christian mamas like me! ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
The day I decided to truly examine what things I might be doing to exasperate my kids (like little broken promises to grab yogurt but then never actually doing so) was a turning point. I watch what I say these days. And how I say it. Taking personal responsibility opened up stronger relationships with my boys. That one change fostered trust and it has made all the difference!
Preparing for tonight’s SPAC mom book club meeting 😊 Quote that stood out to me: “God uses [our children] like sandpaper in His tender hands. Back and forth against our spiritual lives, He rubs them purposefully, to smooth out our own sin tangles, to even out the selfish bumps, to smooth away our anger as we lean into God’s rhythmic, loving refining. Our children are not perfect, but they are perfectly designed to perfect us into the image of Christ.” From “Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses” by Amber Lia & Wendy Speake @wendy_speake Does this idea that God uses our children to refine us, encourage you? I know it does me. Instead of merely focusing on my kids’ immaturity and sinful natures, it puts the focus first on me and MY heart and MY sins. While I don’t expect my kids to be perfect, my Father doesn’t expect me to be perfect either. Within this framework there is so much grace. Room for failure. Space to grow. To my mommy friends, I highly encourage you to read this book (if you haven’t already! So many of you have!) #gracebasedmotherhood #gracebasedparenting #triggersbook #parentingbooks #christianwriter #womenoftheword #writersofinstagram #shewritestruth #sahm #christianmamas #christianmom #momlife #wellwateredwomen #motherhoodbooks #givemejesus #womenintheword
Don’t leave your post. Thanks for the encouragement @thebereanmillennial #parenting #parentingscripts #triggersbook #mom #momlife #momsofinstagram #motherhood #motherhoodrising #motherhoodunplugged #boymom #homeschool #bookstagram #motherhoodpost #homeisasanctuary #gospel #scripture #cultivatealovinghome #stablehome #readthebible
Share something sweet, fun, impressive, or cute that your child has done recently!
This isn’t the first time I’ve shared this quote… and it likely won’t be the last time. Quote by Kristen Welch @wearethatfamily #parenting #mom #momlife #motherhood #momsofinstagram #motherhoodrising #boymom #parentinglife #parentingscripts #triggersbook #motherhoodunplugged #boymom #homeschool #bookstagram #authorquote #bookquote #kindness #kristenwelch
I’m not going to lie, my husband and I haven’t mastered this one yet. But we are actively, in this very season, working on it. One of the things I’m learning (yet again) is something I shared in our parenting book Parenting Scripts… Oftentimes I need to slow down and sit down and even write down my responses before I simply react in triggered moments. I don’t have toddlers anymore. Now they are teens. So the triggers are different. But the need to work through them respectfully is HUGE! So so important. Nagging and lecturing and harping on them too doesn’t get the job down. But coming to them (calm, kind, and Christlike) to continue training them in the way they should go is respectful and right. Let’s keep learning, moms and dads. It’s a marathon, not a sprint. So stay humble and teachable too. Much sincere love from the trenches, Wen #parenting #parentingscripts #triggersbook #mom #momlife #momsofinstagram #motherhood #motherhoodrising #motherhoodunplugged #boymom #homeschool #bookstagram #bookquote #quote #quoteoftheday #mutualrespect
The world will confuse you in your parenting. It will try to wear you down toward compromise. You will look around you and wonder where the like-minded families are. Friends, don’t give up on your commitment to raising kids in a godly way. We may be a remnant but we are on the winning side! Pray over your kids today--it’s not easy for them being in a world that so strongly opposes godly morality. Lean in to learning verses together. Talk with each other often about the things that matter to them and breathe life into the hearts of your kids. Know that you are making a difference in the world, just by holding on to what is true, pure, and lovely in your home!
They don’t need us to shame them for doing wrong but to encourage them to do right. This is why we can’t grow weary in our parenting. When we grow weary we lose patience with them, and with the process of continually training them. Perhaps you’re familiar with Proverbs 22:6: “Train up a child in the way he should go, and even when he is old he will not depart from it.” What I’ve come to experience is that when we grow weary of training (wishing they would learn the lessons already) we stop training and start shaming. Instead of training them in the way they should go, and can go with God’s help and ours too… we berate them for going the wrong way yet again. Dear Mom and Dad, I know that’s not what you want to do, which is why I’m writing this short post to encourage you today to keep doing the training, with patient, gentle, long-suffering loving-kindness. “Let us not grow weary in doing good, for in due season we shall reap a harvest if we do not lose heart” (Galatians 6:9) #parenting #parentingscripts #triggersbook #mom #momlife #momsofinstagram #motherhood #motherhoodrising #motherhoodunplugged #boymom #homeschool #bookstagram
That’s a powerful thought, but I’m also challenged to apply it to my parenting days too. As my children struggle with foolishness of their own and I struggle with endurance as I parent them through this season, I need to remember that they cannot commit more errors than our Savior can forgive. Amen? #parenting #dailyquote #parentingscripts #triggersbook #mom #momlife #momsofinstagram #motherhood #motherhoodrising #motherhoodunplugged #boymom #homeschool #bookstagram #gentleparenting #hope #handlettering #biblejournaling #quotes #bookstagram #forgiveness
Parenting has proven more difficult for many moms and dads. Whether you’re worn out by toddlers or teens. Unfortunately, in our weariness, we can react in exasperated anger when we’d much rather respond in gentle, patient love. Some of us were raised in homes with angry, yelling parents — and we swore we’d never parent that way. Others of us were raised in a home with a calm and kind mom and dad, sure that we’d parent with that same spirit of tenderness. But then we had children of our own and can’t believe the frustration that finds its way out of our overwhelmed heart, tumbling over our lips! Is this hitting a nerve? I’m sorry if it is. And yet, there’s hope and there’s help. Consider grabbing a copy of our parenting book, TRIGGERS: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses. Link in bio. #parenting #parentingscripts #triggersbook #mom #momlife #momsofinstagram #motherhood #motherhoodrising #motherhoodunplugged #boymom #homeschool #bookstagram #gentleparenting
Hey Mom, if you are weary and worn out and struggling to parent gently and patiently, we’d love to help. Amber Lia @therealamberlia and I wrote a parenting book, simply titled, TRIGGERS: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses, and it is changing lives — changing families — changing homes. That’s what happens when we lift our hands for help, don’t you know? God applies His Word to our triggered hearts like a balm and gives us His Spirit to help us too. If you are struggling with angry reactions when you long to give gentle, more loving responses to your kiddos, grab a copy of Triggers today. Link in bio. #parenting #parentingscripts #triggersbook #mom #momlife #momsofinstagram #motherhood #motherhoodrising #motherhoodunplugged #boymom #homeschool #bookstagram #gentleparenting
Anybody hanging on for dear life? There is no better move to make when mountains feel as if they are giving way beneath us, than to cling to the Prince of Peace. Hang on, dear friends. God is still on His throne!
In the pages of our parenting book TRIGGERS: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle, Biblical Responses, Amber Lia and I address some of the most common things about our kids (and things about us) that cause us to lose our cool and react in anger. In chapter 18, I address depression, post-partum, and hormonal imbalance. Sometimes the hardest thing to do is care gently and lovingly for others because our mental and emotional health is wonky and we’re hurting and unable to cope with the big constant needs of all our people. Sometimes we simply need help. If you are downcast and feeling down too, remember the promise in Psalm 3:3 — “But you, LORD, are a shield around me, my glory, and the lifter of my head” As you trust God to lift your head and keep your eyes on Him as you wait… also reach out to the real-life friends and family members around you. They want to help, but they don’t know how. Let them know you are hurting and overwhelmed. Ask for help with the kiddos, tell them if you can’t keep your emotions in check, confess your struggles, and ask for prayer, and maybe a meal too. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Because sometimes God’s lifting hand looks like the hands of real people all around us. Ask for help, sweet friends. If you are struggling with all sorts of triggers with your kiddos these days — if the things they do and the things you are dealing with are all too much and set you off on the daily — grab a copy of Triggers (link and bio) and grab a trusted friend or two to read it with you! Community and accountability helps! Much love, Wen #parenting #parenting #parentingscripts #triggersbook #mom #momlife #momsofinstagram #motherhood #motherhoodrising #motherhoodunplugged #boymom #homeschool #bookstagram #gentleparenting
𝗜 𝗮𝗺 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗮 𝗦𝗨𝗣𝗘𝗥 𝗳𝗮𝗻𝘁𝗮𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗰 𝗺𝗼𝗺. 📰 😱⠀ ⠀ I have to read a book called “Triggers,” because I lose my temper 😠 too much. ⠀ ⠀ But on days when we have great conversations about life around the dinner table filled with laughs and the most AMAZING questions from these to monkeys, I kinda feel like God gave me something special and called me to be THEIR mom and theirs alone.....⠀ ⠀ You ever have those days that are straight up WINS?!? ⠀ ⠀ I know they’re few and far between, but let’s be QUICK to celebrate them here together mamas!! ⠀ ⠀ Ok?!? 👊🏻⭐️👊🏻⭐️⠀ ⠀ {Check out my stories to see a resource we’re using to help prepare our boys for the world!} . . And make sure you listen to this weeks episode of @livingonmissionpod to hear how matt & I have the HARDER conversations with our kids! Life is coming at them HARD everyday! It's our job to disciple & equip them! ⚔️ #raisingkingdomkids #raisingkingdomwarriors #triggersbook #focusonthefamily
IT’S HERE!!! My latest book, Food Triggers: Exchanging Unhealthy Patterns for God-Honoring Habits is now available for pre-order!!!! The release date is January 4th!!!! You can order now so you'll have it as soon as it releases.⠀ ⠀ Check out details at: https://bit.ly/FoodTriggersBook (link in bio)
I remember God asking me to stop. I felt a deep knowing in my spirit that changes were inevitable or I was going to lose it. The cycle of frustration I felt as a mom was robbing me of my joy. I knew God’s Word well, but I needed to use it in a new way to filter my thoughts and actions as a mom. ⠀ ⠀ I sat down every day to look up verses that related to my feelings and everyday moments as a mom. It changed my parenting. Eventually, the Lord asked me to share those lessons I learned in TRIGGERS and in PARENTING SCRIPTS. That’s why they are full of Scriptures. It’s the Truth that set me free from anger and frustration and guilt. ⠀ ⠀ I pray you will join me through the pages of those books and let God’s Word have it’s way with you, too.
Most of us wanted to get married and have kids because we believed it would make us happy, BUT GOD IS USING THESE PEOPLE TO MAKE US HOLY. Of course, growing up is hard. Sure our children are growing up within our homes, but so are we. Or at least we should be! Let’s commit again (and again and again) to growing up into the likeness of God! I know it’s hard — and I know it’s hot in here. Sometimes your temper feels hot too, but think of it as a crucible, a fiery furnace where the impurities in your own character are rising to the surface of your life so that the dross might be removed by the master-craftsman. He wants you 100% Pure Gold. It’s the refiner’s fire you’re in now. Don’t blame your family that life is hard, thank the Lord that He uses every hard thing to grow you into a clearer image of Him! Raise your hand if He’s using your family to do it! 𝐃𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐠𝐠𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐦𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐲 𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐫 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐦𝐨𝐦𝐦𝐲 𝐬𝐡𝐚𝐦𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐮𝐩 𝐰𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐠𝐢𝐠? 𝐂𝐡𝐞𝐜𝐤 𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤 𝐓𝐑𝐈𝐆𝐆𝐄𝐑𝐒: 𝐄𝐱𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐏𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬’ 𝐀𝐧𝐠𝐫𝐲 𝐑𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐆𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐥𝐞 𝐁𝐢𝐛𝐥𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥 𝐑𝐞𝐬𝐩𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐞𝐬 — 𝐋𝐢𝐧𝐤 𝐢𝐧 𝐛𝐢𝐨! #family #parenting #parentingscripts #triggersbook #mom #momlife #momsofinstagram #motherhood #motherhoodrising #motherhoodunplugged #boymom #homeschool #bookstagram #gentleparenting
“These are Christmas flowers, Mama!” Quade was bursting with joy to bring me these artificial beauties the other day. I’ll treasure them forever! They represent years of planting seeds in the hearts of my boys—yielding to God’s refining. The loving relationship I have with my boys is harvest fruit. Gentle biblical parenting is not permissive parenting. It’s deeply intentional, responsive instead of reactive, proactive instead of defensive. It yields a bouquet of trust, love, and respect between parents and kids—and reflects the relationship God has with us as our Heavenly Father. Keep doing the good parenting, friends. The seeds bloom into a myriad of blessings. And sometimes as Christmas flowers! #gentleparentingwithamberandwendy #love #parenting #motherhood #triggersbook #parentingscriptsbook
This isn’t about permissive parenting, this is about not getting swept up in the drama, but carefully choosing the right words at the right time to address the wrong behavior. Another quote from our book Parenting Scripts says, “Don’t parent in the problem. Save the lesson for later.” While I love that alliteration, the reality is that the best “parenting” sometimes happens when we wait for another time to deal with issues. I want to respond right when my kiddos do wrong… but if I’m not careful I’ll simply jump in and get carried away when they are carrying on. “In the middle of the conflict is not always the best time to speak the Truth in love.” @therealamberlia Sometimes it’s more loving, and more effective, to wait. Do you tend to jump into the conflict and end up saying and doing things you later regret? Consider grabbing a copy of TRIGGERS or PARENTING SCRIPTS. Links in bio! #parenting #parentingscripts #triggersbook #mom #momlife #momsofinstagram #motherhood #motherhoodrising #motherhoodunplugged #boymom #homeschool #bookstagram #gentleparenting
It’s another [HEY MOM] Bible verse. Simply add those two bracketed words and then remember that God’s Word is FOR YOU, TODAY, IN THIS SEASON, WITH THOSE KIDDOS! Seek the Lord in your mothering days. Seek Him concerning their learning disabilities and school choices. Seek Him for more of His power in your waning weakness. Seek Him for wisdom in the right consequences to give when they do wrong. And seek Him for the grace to keep giving grace, because they need that too. Seek the Lord, Mama, and He will answer you. It’s a promise! #parenting #parentingscripts #triggersbook #mom #momlife #momsofinstagram #motherhood #motherhoodrising #motherhoodunplugged #boymom #homeschool #bookstagram #gentleparenting #bibleverse #bible #psalms #hope #seekthelord
Let’s celebrate how far God has brought us! What’s one trigger you have overcome or you’re making progress with?
In our parenting book TRIGGERS, Amber Lia and I consider our most common triggers — those things that cause us to react in anger rather than respond gently toward our kiddos during our mothering days. Being overstimulated is a big one for me. We can see how our kiddos meltdown when they are tired or have had too much sugar and too much screen time… but we rarely consider how overstimulation can affect us too! We’re super-good at limiting our kids’ sweet treats and screen time, and making sure they get enough veggies, vitamins, and sleep… let’s put a little effort into taking care of their mama too! Link in bio to grab a copy of TRIGGERS today. Together we’ll work through 31 of our most common triggers so that we can respond gently instead of reacting in anger. #parenting #parentingscripts #triggersbook #mom #momlife #momsofinstagram #motherhood #motherhoodrising #motherhoodunplugged #boymom #homeschool #bookstagram #gentleparenting
Oh goodness, I’m writing this one on my hand with a Sharpie. #dailyquote #parenting #parentingscripts #triggersbook #mom #momlife #momsofinstagram #motherhood #motherhoodrising #motherhoodunplugged #boymom #homeschool #bookstagram #gentleparenting
What an awesome quote! Who else needed these words today? If you are worn out by your little people already… let me encourage you to remember that you are doing a mighty good work — A GOD WORK— as you train your children today! Show me your hand if you are raising kiddos today and I’ll lift you up by name. parenting #parentingscripts #triggersbook #mom #momlife #momsofinstagram #motherhood #motherhoodrising #motherhoodunplugged #boymom #homeschool #bookstagram #gentleparenting #dailydevotional #quotes #bookstagram
•"Is there hope for change? •Am I a candidate to become a grace-gilled mom whose children will one day rise up and bless? •Can I grow spiritually so that love rules and I breathe life-giving words?" I've asked myself these questions so often. In the midst of parenting, there are times when it seems there is no hope left for me as a mom. 😪 I love the gentle hope the authors share within this book: "You can count on God's promise that He is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to His power that is at work within us. Dream big. Let yourself imagine a home where your words set a tone of loving-kindness. A home where your first reaction is compassion instead of annoyance. Where you replace the fiery cycle of anger and guilt with conviction and spiritual growth. A place where you draw the hearts of your children towards grace and where every one of thrives." Read it again. 🥰 I know that is the prayer for my home and I'm sure it is for you as well. Triggers is a wonderful book, written by Amber Lia and Wendy Peake, and is full of practical encouragement. Each chapter focuses on situations and every day actions of our kids that can "trigger" negative reactions from us as parents. The 31 chapters are short, which is perfect for busy parents. You could easily read one a day for an entire month as part of your morning devotions or routine.🙌 I truly appreciate the approach this book takes on changing our parent hearts instead of trying to "fix" our kids. It starts with us. It starts by asking God to change our hearts! ❤ Have you read Triggers? What are your favorite parenting books?
I was featured on the Grow yourself, Grow your marriage podcast last month! Go have a listen!⠀ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/108-bc-triggers-author-amber-lia-interview/id1473115781?i=1000529552248
Running late and feeling triggered? My kids' shoes were always missing as soon as it was time to leave for school or church. I bought a big basket to set by the front entryway so as soon as we enter, shoes go in the basket. No more running late because of stray sandals or cleats! ⠀ ⠀ What’s one way you help your kids be on time?
Goodness, this quote can apply to every single one of us pressing on through hard times, holding onto hope, and holding onto Jesus (who is our hope!) But these words were originally penned for our parenting book Triggers: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses. One of my biggest Triggers is simply how hard it is. And how long the hard drags on. I know it’s not the same with every family, but it seems we’re always working through hard challenges up in our house. This is why this quote continues to be my confession of faith today: “Believe it or not - experience it or not - we have all received good and not evil from the Father’s hand. But good doesn’t always mean easy. I believe good means just the right circumstances to help us recognize our desperate need for Jesus each and every hard day.” Anyone else holding onto hope and holding onto Jesus today? Let me see those hands! Also, find out more about Triggers! Link in bio. #pray #prayer #amen #parenting #triggersbook #mom #momlife #momsofinstagram #motherhood #motherhoodrising #motherhoodunplugged #boymom #homeschool #bookstagram #gentleparenting
I wrote these words for the moms and dads who struggle with loud, angry reactions when their kids do wrong. Perhaps you’ve felt the rub yourself. You feel out of control so you act out of control, but that won’t help your kiddos learn self-control. Only your control can model that for them. When your kids do wrong you can still do right — as a matter of fact, they need you too! If you struggle with angry reactions, but long to parent with gentle, Biblical responses… grab a copy of TRIGGERS today. Link in bio. #parenting #parentingscripts #triggersbook #mom #momlife #momsofinstagram #motherhood #motherhoodrising #motherhoodunplugged #boymom #homeschool #bookstagram #gentleparenting
Immaturity. So much of our triggers stem from our kids’ immaturity. I love this quote from my friend and co-author, Wendy Speake! Have you read TRIGGERS: Exchanging Parents’ Angry Reactions for Gentle Biblical Responses? Is it time to refresh and reread? Or go through the Study Guide? We pray for each and every one of you as you parent today!⠀ ⠀ http://bit.ly/triggers_book (link in bio - in the book slider!)
Wendy and I spent YEARS working to have the Spanish translation of TRIGGERS up and available for readers. We had one obstacle after another. It was such a struggle. It would bless us tremendously if you shared this new book with your Spanish friends and any ministry you know of that would be blessed by our ministry! Thank you in advance!! ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ Detonantes⠀ http://bit.ly/DetonantesBook (link in bio)
There have been lots of good days this summer. Lots of them. But there have been plenty of hard days too. Too much stimulation, not enough structure, too many people wanting to go to a friend’s house, not enough sharing between brothers here in our house. They’re growing up, but there are still plenty of Triggers. And I don’t want to sing the summertime blues during these last golden days of summer. So I’m slowing down to consider some of my knee-jerk reactions. With the temperatures of summer heat rising, I don’t want to overheat with angry steam coming out of my ears. I want to remain cool, kind, consistent, and Christlike. And I bet you do too. I don’t want to emotionally react wrong because they’re doing wrong. You’ve heard me say it before… Even when they do wrong, we can still do right. Even in the summertime! But we’ve got to slow down, sit down, and write down a better response. Take a moment today (even right now) to consider one of the recurring summertime problems you’re having at home each hot day. -Screen time battles -Laziness around the house -Entitlement -Boredom -Whining and complaining -Sibling rivalry… Pinpoint one of your triggers and then make a very specific plan to respond better. Perhaps you need to redirect them in their play, or maybe you need to make one of these issues into a teachable moment, here at the tail end of summer. Maybe discipline is necessary — but let discipline be a response, not a reaction. Make a plan today to finish summer strong. Press in and press on. #motherhood #mom #momlife #triggersbook #parenting #motherhoodrising #momsofinstagram #parentingscripts #motherhoodunplugged #boymom #homeschool #bookstagram
Struggling to parent your strong-willed children without lashing out with your own muscular will? Oh my word, what a challenge it is for many. Our children’s sinful tendencies can cause us to sin tremendously too. And yet, God has a plan for our strength and theirs. Philippians 1:6 promises that God is continuing the good work He started in the lives of you and your children. 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐯𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐆𝐨𝐝 𝐡𝐚𝐬 𝐛𝐞𝐞𝐧 𝐩𝐮𝐫𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐞𝐟𝐮𝐥 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐝𝐞𝐬𝐢𝐠𝐧 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐢𝐬 𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐚𝐭 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐞𝐬, 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐣𝐨𝐢𝐧 𝐇𝐢𝐦, 𝐟𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐝𝐫𝐞𝐧 𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐧 𝐚𝐠𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐬𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐦! So often, the parents of strong-willed girls and boys engage in an ungodly battle, ripping their kids down with constant negative correction and punishments. But the strong-willed person is rarely transformed by such hard, punitive treatment. The strong-willed man, woman, boy, or girl needs to know that you’re on their team, not against them! Need more encouragement? Grab a copy of TRIGGERS today. @therealamberlia and I wrote this book for the moms and dads who struggle with angry reactions — though they long to respond gently and Biblically. If you want to do right when your own kids do wrong, grab a copy of Triggers (along with the Triggers Study Guide) today. (Chapter 4 is all about raising strong-willed kids!) Link in bio: #parenting #mom #gentleparenting #momlife #motherhood #strongwilled #strongwilledchildren #motherhoodrising #momsofinstagram #parentingscripts #triggersbook #motherhoodunplugged #boymom #homeschool #bookstagram