Despite a slight hiccup, he had his snack and cherished attire! Unfortunately, I haven’t had the chance to communicate with my son for almost 650 days. Any parent understands that memories alone aren’t enough to sustain. Each day, I can only cling to the hope that he’s safe, though I lack concrete evidence, relying solely on faith. #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #TomuKutsukake
It’s been over a year and eight months since Tj last saw his father. All his dad wants is to be there for him, to provide a loving and stable environment where Tj can flourish. Unfortunately, Tj’s mom disagrees. While Tj’s dad prioritized having a mother in his life, recent events paint a different picture. Her actions, which include parental alienation and manipulation, suggest she may not be fulfilling that role in a healthy way. It seems her aim is to hurt Tj’s dad, even if it means harming their son. #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #TomuKutsukake
Each day stretches on, amplifying the emptiness left by your absence, TJ. The echoes of your laughter, the timbre of your voice, the comfort of your being - they linger in my soul, igniting a yearning that transcends words. You’re woven into the fabric of my being, and without you, a hollowness resides within. With every fiber of my heart, I wait for the day I can be bathed in your smile once more, enveloped by your voice, and held safe in your embrace. Until we meet again, please hold this truth: you reside perpetually in my thoughts and eternally within my heart. #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #TomuKutsukake
It’s been a grueling 635 days since TJ last saw his dad. That’s nearly two years without those irreplaceable moments between a father and son, all while $130,000 in child support has been paid. Despite the hardship, there’s a flicker of hope. 2,800 people follow our social media accounts, perhaps offering silent support for their eventual reunion. Maybe they see glimpses of the father-son bond TJ misses so much, or maybe they stand with him in the hope of reconciliation. #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #TomuKutsukake
Another child support payment has been made, marking yet another month without the chance to see my son, TJ. It’s been a staggering 630 days since I last had the privilege of spending time with him. #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #TomuKutsukake
With the advent of April, a tender wave of nostalgia washes over me. As the zephyrs of spring dance around, I envision my dear son TJ, his small hand slipping from mine, crossing the threshold of the kindergarten gates. The memory of his farewell wave, a silent promise of return, lingers vividly in my mind’s eye. Though 629 days have unfurled between us, each moment apart only strengthens the bond that ties our hearts. In every step I take, I sense TJ’s presence, an invisible companion on my journey. #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #TomuKutsukake
Japan to introduce joint custody system after divorce A bill to amend the Civil Code and other laws to allow joint custody of children after divorce was passed by a majority vote in the House of Representatives on April 16th. The bill is expected to be enacted during the current Diet session after deliberation in the House of Representatives. The bill will revise the current law, which only recognizes sole custody by one parent, to allow joint custody as an option. The new system is expected to start in 2026. Under the new system, parents will discuss whether to apply for joint or sole custody when they divorce. If they cannot reach an agreement, the Family Court will decide based on the “best interests of the child”. If there is a risk of DV (domestic violence) or abuse, the Family Court will grant sole custody. Key points of the bill: * Joint custody will be an option for parents after divorce. * If parents cannot agree on custody, the Family Court will decide based on the “best interests of the child”. * Sole custody will be granted if there is a risk of DV or abuse. * The new system is expected to start in 2026. This is a significant change to Japanese family law, and it is expected to have a major impact on divorced parents and their children. #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #TomuKutsukake
Ah, the age-old struggle: insatiable appetite versus the inevitable food coma! It's a scene that warms many parents' hearts: watching their little one valiantly fight off the drowsiness induced by a luxuriously creamy soft serve. TJ, the undisputed soft serve champion, wielded nothing but a spoon and unwavering determination, refusing to surrender his beloved dessert to the clutches of sleep. These are the sweet memories that elicit a smile, reminding us of the simple pleasures and hilarious battles that define childhood.🍦 #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #TomuKutsukake
Seeing this picture of TJ playing in the ball pit brings back such nostalgic memories. I can vividly recall his little hands grabbing the balls and his contagious laughter as he tossed them my way. Those precious moments we shared continue to shine brightly in my heart, even though it feels like just yesterday. I long for the day when I can play with him again. #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #TomuKutsukake
Sole custody can cast a long shadow. Studies by Richard A. Warshak have shown a stark difference in the outcomes of children raised without their biological fathers. These children face a significantly heightened risk of delinquency, with statistics showing they're eight times more likely to end up in prison and ten times more likely to abuse drugs. Their emotional well-being suffers too, with a five times higher chance of suicide and a nine times greater likelihood of dropping out of high school. These numbers paint a concerning picture of the challenges faced by children in single-parent households. #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #TomuKutsukake
As a parent, it’s heart-wrenching to even contemplate the possibility of our child facing danger. Tragic incidents like the Samantha Wishman case in Wisconsin serve as stark reminders of the very real threats children encounter. Each time I come across news about such events, my concern for my son TJ intensifies. His safety and well-being are my utmost priorities. I am resolute in my mission to create a secure and nurturing environment for him. This determination is deeply rooted in my past experiences with Yuka Kutsukake, where I felt unheard and overlooked. The mere thought that TJ might be going through something similar is unbearable. The Samantha Wishman case reinforces my unwavering commitment to shield my son from any tragedy. My love for him fuels my determination to fight fiercely on his behalf. Above all else, my heartfelt wish is for TJ to lead a life that is safe, healthy, and filled with happiness. 🌟 #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #TomuKutsukake
Seeing this photo and knowing my 6-and-a-half-year-old boy is starting to lose these teeth, a pang of longing shot through me. I wished I could have been the tooth fairy for TJ. But those dreams vanished the day TJ’s mother took him away. Now, the empty space beside me felt far vaster than any missing tooth ever could be. この写真を見て、6歳半の息子の歯が抜け始めていることを知り、切ない思いが胸をよぎりました。TJの歯の妖精になれたらいいのにと思いました。でも、その夢はTJの母親が彼を連れ去った日に消え去りました。今、私の横の空虚な空間は、抜けた歯のどれよりもずっと広く感じられます。 #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #TomuKutsukake #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛優可 #叶夢沓掛 #アンドリュータッカー
Narcissists often prioritize their own needs over their children’s well-being. They may use their children to get back at their ex-partner or act out negative emotions, treating them more like tools than cherished individuals. However, children thrive in environments filled with love and nurturing, which a narcissist may struggle to provide. ナルシストは、しばしば自分のニーズを子供の幸福よりも優先します。元パートナーに仕返しするために子供を利用したり、否定的な感情を表に出したりして、子供を大切な人というよりは道具のように扱います。子供は愛情と養育に満ちた環境で成長しますが、ナルシストはそれを提供するのに苦労するでしょう。 #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #TomuKutsukake #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛優可 #叶夢沓掛 #アンドリュータッカー
This was just a regular day relaxing with my TJ, a day like none I have experienced in over 600 days, and will not experience for years until I am granted the most modest visitation rights I was once permitted. これは、TJ とリラックスした普通の日でした。600 日以上も間経験していない日常で、かつて許可されていた最小限の面会権が与えられるまで何年も経験出来ない一日です。 #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #TomuKutsukake #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛優可 #叶夢沓掛 #アンドリュータッカー
In lands afar where my son, TJ, finds his way, My heart's a blend of worry and sway. Imagining his days filled with schoolyard's cheer, I send my thoughts, hoping he holds them dear. The weight of care, with hope and fear entwined, Continues to pulse with each passing year you find. Wishing him joy in friendships' warm embrace, Yet fearing solitude might find its place. I yearn for updates, to know he is all right, I cherish his growth, both day and night. 離れて暮らす息子よ、TJが見知らぬ土地で道を切り拓いていると思うと、 心は心配と安堵が入り混じって揺れる。 きっと校庭には歓声が響き、楽しい日々を送っているのだろう。そんな彼の傍らに想いを馳せ、どうか父親の気持ちを大切にしてほしいと願う。希望と不安が綯い交ぜになった親心は、年を重ねるごとに強く脈打つ。友情の温かなぬくもりの中で喜びに溢れ、孤独に陥ることなく過ごしてほしいと願うばかりだ。息子の安否を気遣い、知らせを待ち焦がれ、昼夜問わず成長を喜んでいる。 #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #TomuKutsukake #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛優可 #叶夢沓掛 #アンドリュータッカー
Ai Fukuhara took her son to Japan in 2022 and did not return him to his father. Chiang accused her of abduction, and a court ordered her to return their son. The dispute escalated into a high-profile case in Japan. Eventually, Fukuhara agreed to a settlement that returned custody of the son to Chiang. This case has highlighted the issues of international child abduction and joint custody within Japan. #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #TomuKutsukake #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛優可 #叶夢沓掛 #アンドリュータッカー
Seeing family register felt like a weight lifting from my chest, replaced by a lightness that spread through my entire being. It was more than just a piece of paper; it was a tangible symbol of a connection that transcended years of separation and the miles that stretched between us. For 600 long days, the ache of parental alienation and the pain of child abduction by his Japanese mother had gnawed at my heart. This official recognition wasn't just legalese on a document; it was a cherished validation of the paternal bond I'd always felt for my son, a bond that distance and legal hurdles could never sever. Knowing my name is etched next to his in the family register is a precious step forward, a beacon of hope in the darkness. It fuels the unwavering belief that someday soon, the physical distance will be bridged. I yearn for the day when I can finally hold him close, feel the warmth of his embrace, and whisper in his ear the words I've longed to say: "I love ❤ you TJ." That joyous reunion will be the true beginning of building a meaningful relationship, a relationship where we can share stories, laughter, and all the joys life has to offer. This official recognition may be just a piece of paper, but for me, it represents the opening chapter of a future filled with love, connection, and the unbreakable bond between a father and his son. #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #TomuKutsukake
Recently, as a father who started a family later in life, I received a variety of comments, both positive and negative. I share my response here. https://tjneedsdad.com/being-an-old-father-and-having-kids-is-not-a-crime/ #JointCustody #SoleCustody #JapanIsCurrentlySoleCustody #ChildrensRights #ParentalAbduction #ChildAbduction #NoToSoleCustodySystem #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛 #アンドリュータッカー
https://moderntokyotimes.com/japan-set-to-end-parental-alienation-syndrome-dual-custody-of-children/ This is an article about Japan’s new joint custody law. It discusses the legal issues of parental alienation syndrome and international child custody agreements. In the past, one parent could deny the other parent access to their children after a divorce. The new law will allow for joint custody, unless there is evidence of abuse. The Hague Convention on international child abduction is also being ratified. This is expected to help both Japanese and foreign parents. ========Here is the summary of the article ========= Under former Japanese leader Shinzo Abe, who was tragically assassinated, the ratification of the Hague Convention brought hope to those internationally alienated from their children after divorces. Victims of “parental alienation syndrome” in Japan faced exclusion from their children post-divorce, prompting Prime Minister Fumio Kishida’s approval of a family bill for joint custody. The proposed bill, coupled with the Hague Convention, signals optimism for both Japanese and foreign nationals. Grandparents and relatives were also denied access, a concern overlooked by Japanese courts. Sole custody is possible in cases of proven child abuse or domestic violence, but verification by family welfare networks, police, schools, and others is essential. Tokyo’s sole custody system faced criticism, especially from foreign citizens. A UN committee urged Japan in 2019 to allow shared custody in a child’s best interest. The joint custody bill is expected to pass this year, with the law taking effect in family courts within two years, providing hope after years of alienation for one parent and family members. #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #TomuKutsukake
This is what ChatGPT advised me. What’s yours ? **Your Situation** You're in the United States and can't see your child, who is not born from a marriage (non-marital child). The child's mother has disappeared (gone missing). **Is this Illegal?** No, in the United States, there's no legal difference between children born in and out of wedlock. Fathers of non-marital children have the right to child support and visitation (seeing the child). The mother also has these rights. **What to Do Since the Mother is Missing** If the mother is missing, here's how you can find your child: * Contact the mother's friends and family. * File a missing person report with the police. Once you locate your child, you can file a petition with the court for visitation rights. The court will decide the frequency and method of visitation based on the child's best interests. **Consulting a Lawyer** This situation involves legal issues, so it's strongly recommended to consult a lawyer. They can listen to your situation and provide specific advice. #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #TomuKutsukake
Please read yesterday’s post. I found a picture with TJ and me riding a train in Japan. I still vividly remember TJ’s excitement as he and I explored bustling cities and peaceful landscapes from the comfort of Japan’s iconic bullet trains and buses. I still smile when I remember TJ wide-eyed and surprised at the changing scenery. I want to ask TJ if those experiences still spark the same joy in you. 是非昨日の投稿を読んで下さい。 日本でTJと私が電車に乗っている写真を見つけたので掲載します。 新幹線やバスの快適な車内から、TJ と一緒に賑やかな都市やのどかな風景を探索したときの TJ の興奮を今でも鮮明に覚えています。 変わりゆく景色に目を丸くして驚いているTJを思い出すと、今でも笑顔になります。 TJにあの経験が今でもあなたの中に同じ喜びを呼び起こしているかどうか尋ねたいです。 #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #TomuKutsukake #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛優可 #叶夢沓掛 #アンドリュータッカー
I have so many wonderful memories of us traveling in Japan, TJ. You were always so excited to ride the buses and the Shinkansen, the fastest and most advanced trains in the world. You would look out the window with awe and curiosity, admiring the changing landscapes and the urban scenes. I wonder if you still feel the same way about them, or if you have discovered new interests and passions. I hope that one day, we can reunite and embark on another adventure together, riding the buses and the Shinkansen across Japan. I can’t wait to see your smile and hear your laughter again, as we share more precious moments and stories with each other. TJ、一緒に日本を旅したときの思い出は、どれも本当に素敵だね。特に、バスや新幹線、世界一速くて最新の電車に乗るのが、いつもすごくうれしそうだったよね。窓の外を驚いたような、興味津々な表情で見つめて、移りゆく景色や街並みを満喫していたのを覚えているよ。今でも、あの頃の気持ちが残っているのかな？それとも、新しい興味や情熱を見つけたのかなってふと思うんだ。いつかまた一緒に旅に出て、日本中をバスや新幹線で巡れたら最高だね。あなたの笑顔と笑声をもう一度聴いて、一緒に過ごせる大切な時間と話を、また共有できる日が来るのを心待ちにしているよ。 #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛優可 #アンドリュータッカー
https://tjneedsdad.com/the-daruma-journey-a-testament-to-resilience-and-hope/ Here is my story about TJ, Daruma doll, a symbol of resilience, strength, and hope for reuniting with a loved one. The author describes the process of setting a clear goal, overcoming legal and emotional obstacles, celebrating progress, and achieving a symbolic victory. The Daruma doll serves as a constant reminder of the unbroken circle of hope that guides the author towards the day of reunion. #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody
I recently read a deeply disturbing story about an 11-year-old girl Arabella McCormack in San Diego, California, who allegedly suffered abuse and neglect at the hands of her parents. This tragedy has understandably heightened my concern for my son, TJ’s, well-being. Ensuring his safety and happiness is my top priority. As a loving parent, providing him with a secure and nurturing environment is paramount. These concerns stem from Yuka’s history of neglecting me. Fearing she may inflict further harm, I cannot bear the thought of him enduring similar suffering. The heartbreaking story served as a stark reminder of the dangers children in such situations face, and I will do everything in my power to protect my son from experiencing anything like that. The fight to meet my son is driven by my unwavering love for him and my desire for him to live a safe, healthy, and happy life. 私は最近、カリフォルニア州サンディエゴに住む11歳の女の子が、両親から虐待やネグレクトを受けていたという非常に悲惨な話を読みました。この悲劇は当然のことながら、私の息子TJの幸せを心配させました。彼の安全と幸せを確保する事は私の最優先事項です。愛情深い親として、彼に安心できる育ちの良い環境を提供することが重要です。 この心配は、私の元パートナーの沓掛優可が私を無視してきた歴史に由来します。息子が同じ苦しみに耐えると思うと耐えられません。この心を痛める話は、そのような状況にある子供たちが直面する危険をはっきりと連想させます。私は彼がそんなことを経験しないように、私の力の限り守りたいです。彼との面会権を争うのは、彼に対する揺るぎない愛と、彼に安全で健康で幸せな人生を送ってほしいという願いによるものです。 #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛優可 #アンドリュータッカー
577 days have passed since I last held my son, TJ. While I ache for him, I wonder: does he miss me in the same way? At six and a half, children crave familiarity, and though they might not express missing someone verbally, their play, drawings, or conversations may offer clues. Being an alienated parent is tough, but I remember, the love between TJ and me remains. Explore communication avenues, seek support, and know I am not alone. 息子・TJを最後にハグしてから577日経ちました。彼を恋しく思いながらも、彼は私と同じように私を恋しがっているのだろうか、と疑問に思います。 6歳半の子供は慣れ親しんだものを求めます。彼らが口に出して私に会えない寂しさを見せてくれなくても、遊びや絵、会話の中に手掛かりがあるかもしれません。 疎外された親であることは辛いですが、TJとの愛は変わらないことを忘れていません。コミュニケーション方法を探り、サポートを求め、一人ではないことを心に留めています。皆さんのコメント、リツイートありがとうございます。 #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛優可 #アンドリュータッカー
It has been 573 painful days since Yuka Kutsukake denied me the chance to video chat with my son, TJ. I am deeply saddened by this situation. Can’t understand why I can’t see him and missing out on precious moments with him causes me immense heartache. I hope Yuka will cooperate so we can find a solution and improve this situation. It’s beyond me why she wouldn’t allow me to see TJ. He’s still young, and I believe not seeing his father is causing him significant emotional distress. Video chatting with TJ is irreplaceable for me. Watching him grow, laughing, and talking with him gives my life meaning. I urge Yuka to fulfill her responsibilities as a mother and provide me with the opportunity to see TJ. 沓掛優可さんが、私と息子TJのビデオチャットの機会を奪ってから573日も経ちました。 この事実を思うと、深い悲しみに包まれます。なぜTJと会えないのか理解できず、彼との大切な瞬間を共有できないことが心を痛めます。優可さんには、もっと協力していただけることを願っています。優可さんがTJと会わせてくれない理由が、私には全く理解できません。彼はまだ幼く、父親に会えないことで大きな心の傷を負っていると思います。TJとのビデオチャットは、私にとってかけがえのない時間です。彼の成長を見守り、一緒に笑い、話せることは、私の生きる糧です。優可さんには、母親としての責任を果たし、TJと会える機会を設けてほしいと願っています。 #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛優可 #アンドリュータッカー
I miss your laugh, your smile, and the way you always make me feel loved. I miss our conversations, our adventures, and just spending time together. Even though you’re not here right now, I know that you’re always in my heart. I cherish the memories we’ve made together, and I look forward to making more in the future. Until then, I’ll just have to keep missing you. あなたの笑い声、笑顔、そしていつも私を愛されていると感じさせてくれた姿が恋しいです。私たちの会話や冒険、そしてただ一緒に過ごした時間が懐かしいです。たとえあなたが今ここにいないとしても、私はあなたがいつも私の心の中にいることを知っています。私たちは一緒に作った思い出を大切にしており、将来さらに多くの思い出を作ることを楽しみにしています。それまでは、あなたがいなくて寂しいだけです。 #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛優可 #アンドリュータッカー
I’m desperately searching for my son TJ, who is 6 years old. He is turning seven this year. I have posted flyers with his photo and contact information in various places, such as the grocery store, the library, and the park. Many people have shown their support and kindness by taking flyers home with them and spreading the word. I pray that he is safe and will be in my sight soon. 私は6歳の息子TJを必死に探しています。 食料品店、図書館、公園など、様々場所に彼の写真と連絡先が記載されたチラシが貼っています。 多くの人がチラシを持ち帰ったり、広めたりして支援と優しさを示してくれました。 彼の事がとても心配です。無事でいる事を祈っています。 #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛優可 #アンドリュータッカー
The year of the dragon is energetic, ambitious, and charismatic. They also face challenges with courage and optimism. One of my biggest wishes is to see my son TJ this year, who lives maybe far away from me. I miss him dearly and I want to hug him and tell him how proud I am of him. He is also a dragon, so I know he has the strength and resilience to overcome any difficulties. I hope that the year of the dragon will bring us good fortune and reunite us soon. 辰年はエネルギッシュで、野心的で、カリスマ性があります。 彼らはまた、勇気と楽観主義を持って困難に立ち向かいます。 私の最大の願いの一つは、おそらく遠くに住んでいる息子のTJに今年会うことです。 私は彼がいなくてとても寂しいし、彼を抱き締めて、私が彼をどれほど誇りに思っているかを伝えたいです。 彼はドラゴンでもあるので、どんな困難も乗り越えられる強さと回復力を持っていることを私は知っています。 辰年が私たちに幸運をもたらし、すぐに再会できることを願っています。 #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛優可 #アンドリュータッカー
Please send us your case! If you have a URL, please send it as well. It will be on our website bringbacktj.com An estimated ten million adults have suffered alienation from their children in the United States alone. Globally, the number of parents who have experienced this pathological phenomenon is exponentially higher. Perhaps even more alarming, the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children estimates that over 200,000 children are abducted every year by a parent or other family member in the United States. At the same time, the International Centre for Missing & Exploited Children counts over one million children reported missing every year. As long as these devastating events persist around the globe, it is our mission to shed light on the countless victims of these crimes and lobby for change. #JointCustody #SoleCustody #JapanIsCurrentlySoleCustody #ChildrensRights #ParentalAbduction #ChildAbduction #NoToSoleCustodySystem #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ
The last time I saw my son was when we went to watch "Lightyear”. He was so excited and curious about the movie, and he couldn't take his eyes off the screen. He laughed and gasped and cheered along with the characters, and I felt so happy to share that moment with him. I hugged him tight and told him I loved him, not knowing it would be the last time I would hold him in my arms. It's been almost 19 months. I wonder if he still remembers me, if he still thinks of me, if he still loves me. I hope he does. I hope that someday, I'll get to take him to the movies again, and watch him smile and enjoy himself. 最後に息子と会ったのは、映画館に『ライトイヤー』を観に行った時でした。彼はとても興奮してスクリーンから目を離すことができませんでした。彼は登場人物たちと一緒に笑い、息を呑み、歓声を上げ、その瞬間を彼と共有できてとても幸せに感じました。彼をしっかりと抱き締め、彼を愛していると伝えましたが、彼を腕に抱きしめるのはこれが最後になるとは思っていませんでした。ほぼ19ヶ月が経ちました。彼はまだ私のことを覚えているのだろうか、まだ私のことを考えているのだろうか、まだ私を愛してくれているのだろうかと思う。いつかまた彼を映画に連れて行って、彼が笑顔で楽しんでいる姿を見られることを願っています。 #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛 #アンドリュータッカー
Please be sure to check out the website created for TJ and his father. https://tjneedsdad.com/ https://bringbacktj.com/ These websites are a tribute to TJ Tomu Kutsukake, a boy who lives in Japan or US with his Japanese mother, cut off from his American father since July 30, 2022. The aim is to raise awareness of children like TJ across the globe who are currently deprived of any contact with one caring parent by the other. Numerous children kidnapped by one parent or simply blocked from the other by outdated and/or unfair legal systems endure in silence every day. TJと彼の父親の為に作成されたウェブサイトを是非チェックしてください。 https://tjneedsdad.com/ https://bringbacktj.com/ これらのウェブサイトは、2022 年 7 月 30 日以来アメリカ人の父親と絶縁され、日本人の母親とともに日本または米国に住む少年、TJ 沓掛トムへの追悼の意を表しています。目的は、TJ のような世界中の子供たちへの意識を高めることです。 現在、一方の思いやりのある親ともう一方の親との接触が奪われています。 一方の親に誘拐されたり、時代遅れや不公平な法制度によって単にもう一方の親からのアクセスを遮断されたりした多くの子供たちが、毎日沈黙の中で耐えています。 #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛 #アンドリュータッカー
My Dear Child TJ, You are always in my heart and in my mind. I have tried for years to be a part of your life, but sadly, we are facing a system that does not support our right to family. A system that allows parental alienation to happen, and does not promote shared parenting or joint custody. But I will not give up on you, my child. I will keep fighting for our relationship, and for the chance to show you how much I love you. Please remember that I am always here for you, no matter what. You are my pride and joy, and nothing can change that. I may be down, but I am not out. Your loving Dad ! 親愛なる我が子、TJ、 いつも私の心の中にいて、頭の中にいます。私は何年も皆さんの生活の一部になれるよう努力してきましたが、悲しいことに、私たちは家族を持つ権利をサポートしない制度に直面しています。親の疎外を許容するシステムであり、共同養育や共同親権を促進するものではありません。 しかし、私はTJのことを諦めません、私の子よ。私は私たちの関係のために、そして私がどれだけ愛しているかを示す機会のために戦い続けます。何が起こっても、私はいつもTJのためにここにいるということを忘れないでください。TJは私の誇りであり喜びであり、それを変えることはできません。私は落ち込んでいるかもしれないが、私は諦めていない。TJの愛するお父さんより。 #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛 #アンドリュータッカー
I love my son TJ and I don’t want him to suffer from the harmful effects of parental alienation, which makes him reject me and believe lies about me because of his mother’s influence. Here are how children with PA show negative feelings toward one parent. They say bad things about the rejected parent and have weak or silly reasons for doing so. They see the rejected parent as all bad and the preferred parent as all good, without any mixed feelings. They claim that they decided to reject the parent by themselves, without any influence from the preferred parent. They always side with the preferred parent in any conflict or disagreement. They do not feel sorry for hurting the rejected parent’s feelings. They copy the words and actions of the preferred parent when talking about the rejected parent. They also dislike the relatives and friends of the rejected parent. 私の愛する TJ が母親の影響で私を拒否し、私についての嘘を信じさせる親の疎外による悪影響に彼が苦しむことを心配します。 親の疎外を経験する子供たちが片方の親に対してどのように否定的な感情を示す可能性があるか以下にまとめました。 彼らは拒絶された親について悪く言いますが、そうするのには弱い、または愚かな理由があります。 彼らは、拒否された親をすべて悪とみなし、好ましい親をすべて善とみなし、何の複雑な感情も抱かない。 彼らは、優先親からの影響を受けずに、自分たちで親を拒否することを決めたと主張しています。 争いや意見の相違があった場合、彼らは常に優先される親の側につきます。 彼らは、拒絶された親の感情を傷つけたことを同情しません。 彼らは、拒絶された親について話すときに、好ましい親の言葉や行動をコピーします。 彼らはまた、拒絶された親の親戚や友人も嫌います。 #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛 #アンドリュータッカー
Child support is a legal obligation that a parent has to provide financial support for their child. If you stop paying child support, you may face serious consequences, such as: Court motions and contempt charges: The other parent or the state agency can file a motion to enforce the child support order and ask the court to hold you in contempt for violating it. You may have to pay additional fees, interest, or penalties, and you may face jail time if you do not comply. Wage garnishment and asset seizure: The state agency can garnish your wages, intercept your tax refunds, seize your bank accounts, or place liens on your property to collect the unpaid child support. This can affect your credit score and your financial stability. License suspension and passport denial: The state agency can also suspend your driver’s license, professional license, or recreational license, or deny your passport application or renewal if you owe a certain amount of child support. This can limit your mobility and your ability to work or travel. 養育費は、親が子供に経済的援助を提供しなければならない法的義務です。養育費の支払いをやめると、次のような深刻な結果に直面する可能性があります。 裁判所への申し立てと侮辱罪: もう一方の親または州当局は、養育費命令の執行を求める申し立てを提出し、裁判所に対し、あなたをその違反として侮辱罪で起訴するよう求めることができます。追加料金、利息、または罰金を支払わなければならない場合があり、従わない場合は懲役刑に処される可能性があります。 賃金差し押さえと資産差し押さえ: 州当局は、未払いの養育費を回収するために、あなたの賃金を差し押さえたり、税金の還付を横取りしたり、銀行口座を差し押さえたり、あなたの財産に先取特権を設定したりすることができます。これはあなたの信用スコアや経済的安定性に影響を与える可能性があります。 免許停止とパスポートの拒否: 州当局は、一定の養育費を支払っている場合、運転免許証、職業免許、娯楽免許を停止したり、パスポートの申請や更新を拒否したりすることもできます。これにより、移動性が制限され、仕事や旅行が制限される可能性があります。 #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛 #アンドリュータッカー
I have not seen my son, TJ, since the day his mother took him away from me. It has been 18 months of silence and pain. But I have never stopped caring for him or providing for him. Every month, I send child support, hoping that one day I will get to hold him in my arms again… 私の愛する息子のTJを私のパートナーが私から引き離してから今日で18か月にわたる沈黙と苦痛に耐え続けた事になります。しかし、私は彼の世話や養育をやめた事はありません。毎月、養育費を送っています。いつか彼を再びこの腕に抱きしめられることを願いながら… #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛 #アンドリュータッカー
Are you a parent or grandparent who has been separated from your child or grandchild due to parental alienation? Do you want to share your story and raise awareness about this issue? If so, you are invited to join the powerful short film project The Stranger I Love. All you need to do is send a photo of yourself holding a piece of paper with the length of time you have been alienated from your loved ones. Write or print the time period in large font and make sure the photo is clear and well-lit. Then email it to [email protected] and confirm that you agree to be featured in the film. Your photo will be part of a montage at the end of the film that will show the world the devastating impact of parental alienation. Please join this project and help us spread the word. No matter where you are, you can make a difference. あなたは、親の疎外により子供や孫と引き離された親または祖父母ですか?あなたのストーリーを共有し、この問題についての意識を高めてみませんか?もしそうなら、強力な短編映画プロジェクト「The Stranger I Love」にご招待します。あなたがする必要があるのは、愛する人たちと疎遠になっていた期間を記した紙を持った自分の写真を送ることだけです。期間を大きなフォントで書くか印刷し、写真が鮮明で明るいことを確認してください。その後、[email protected] に電子メールを送信し、映画に出演することに同意することを確認します。あなたの写真は映画の最後にあるモンタージュの一部として使用され、親の疎外がもたらす壊滅的な影響を世界に示します。ぜひこのプロジェクトに参加し、情報を広めてください。どこにいても、変化を起こすことができます。 #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛 #アンドリュータッカー
Japan’s one-parent rule is a legal and cultural practice that grants sole parental authority to one parent after divorce, while denying the other parent any rights or contact with the child.This rule is based on the traditional Japanese custom that children belong to only one family and that the noncustodial parent should not interfere with the child’s life or the custodial parent’s remarriage. However, this rule has been criticized for violating the human rights of both the child and the noncustodial parent, who are deprived of their relationship and bond. The Japanese government has announced a study to consider introducing a system of joint custody, but the proposal faces strong opposition from conservative groups and the public. 日本の片親ルールは、離婚後に一方の親に単独の親権を与え、もう一方の親にはいかなる権利も子供との接触も拒否する法的および文化的慣行です。この規則は、子どもはただ一つの家族に属し、非親権者である親が子の生活や親権者である親の再婚に干渉してはならないという伝統的な日本の慣習に基づいている。しかし、この規定は、子どもと親権を持たない親の双方の関係や絆を剥奪され、人権を侵害するものとして批判されている。日本政府は共同親権制度の導入を検討する検討結果を発表したが、この提案には保守団体や国民の強い反対があった。 #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛 #アンドリュータッカー
Co-parenting is about collaboration, not competition between two homes. Let’s focus on parents working together for the well-being of the kids. 共同子育ては、2 つの家庭間の競争ではなく、協力することです。保護者が子どもたちの幸福のために協力することに焦点を当てましょう。 #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛 #アンドリュータッカー
Despite having no contact with my son, TJ, for over a year and a half, I have never missed a single child support payment. Every month, I hope that he is doing well and that he knows how much I love him. 息子の TJ とは 1 年半以上連絡を取っていませんでしたが、養育費の支払いを一度も滞ったことはありません。 毎月、彼が元気でいることと、私がどれだけ彼を愛しているかを彼が知っていることを願っています。 #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛 #アンドリュータッカー
For almost 530 days, I have been faithfully sending child support checks every month, even though I have not been able to see or talk to my son, TJ, who means the world to me. 💔💔💔 ほぼ530日以上、私にとって唯一の現在どこに居るかも分からない大切な息子TJ に会うことも話すこともできないにも関わず、毎月、養育費の小切手を忠実に送り続けています。 💔💔💔 #JointCustody #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #parentalalienation #solecustody #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛 #アンドリュータッカー
Parental alienation is not just harmful; it's a form of abuse. The smiles of TJ in cherished photos are at risk if this manipulation damages the parent-child relationship. 親の疎外は有害であるだけではありません。それは一種の虐待です。この結果、親子関係が損なわれれば、大切な写真のTJの笑顔が危険にさらされています。 todySystem #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛 #アンドリュータッカー
Witnessing a person devoid of compassion is truly disheartening. Compassion enriches human connections, adding a profound and meaningful dimension to our interactions. When empathy is absent, it highlights the importance of understanding and kindness in our shared experiences. 思いやりのない人を見ると、本当にがっかりします。思いやりは人間関係を豊かにし、私たちの交流に深くて意味のある次元を加えます。共感が欠けていると、私たちが共有する経験における理解と優しさの重要性が強調されます。 #JointCustody #SoleCustody #JapanIsCurrentlySoleCustody #ChildrensRights #ParentalAbduction #ChildAbduction #NoToSoleCustodySystem #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛 #アンドリュータッカー
What is 36 days? To TJ, it is the difference between having a father in his life or not. Yuka Kutsukake has alienated him from me since July of 2022, depriving TJ of the parental bond he needs and deserves. She has ignored my plea for 36 days a year to see his son, and trapped him in the web of Japan’s sole custody system. TJ is suffering from the effects of parental alienation, a form of emotional child abuse. All for what? Yuka Kutsukake’s irrational and selfish hatred. 36日とは何ですか？ TJにとって、それは人生に父親がいるかいないかの違いです。 沓掛ゆかは2022年7月以来、TJを私から引き離しており、彼が必要とし、当然受けるべき親としての絆を彼から奪いました。 彼女は、1年に36日間だけ息子に会いたいという父親の願いを無視し、日本の単独親権制度の網の中に息子を閉じ込めてきた。 TJ は、精神的な児童虐待の一形態である親の疎外の影響に苦しんでいます。 何のために？ 母親の理不尽で身勝手な憎しみの為でしょうか？ #JointCustody #SoleCustody #JapanIsCurrentlySoleCustody #ChildrensRights #ParentalAbduction #ChildAbduction #NoToSoleCustodySystem #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛 #アンドリュータッカー
I share the truth; you share lies. That's how we both survive. You tell our TJ that I don't love him, that I abandoned him, that I'm the enemy. I tell TJ that I love him, that I miss him, that I'm always here for him. You try to erase me from his life; I try to keep a place in his heart. You make him choose sides; I make him feel loved. You create conflict; I create peace. You cause him pain; I cause him hope. You are the alienator; I am the alienated. 私は真実を共有します。あなたは嘘を共有します。そうやって私たちは二人とも生き残るのです。あなたはTJに、私は彼を愛していない、私は彼を見捨てた、私は敵だと言います。私は愛している、会いたい、いつもここにいると伝えます。あなたは私を彼の人生から消し去ろうとします。私は彼の心の中に居場所を残そうと努めています。あなたは彼にどちらの側につくかを選択させます。私は彼に愛されていると感じさせます。あなたは対立を生み出します。私は平和を創造します。あなたは彼に苦痛を与えます。私は彼に希望を与えます。あなたは疎外者です。私は疎外された者です。 #JointCustody #SoleCustody #JapanIsCurrentlySoleCustody #ChildrensRights #ParentalAbduction #ChildAbduction #NoToSoleCustodySystem #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛 #アンドリュータッカー
The tactics employed by alienators involve coercive measures such as forcing a child to reject the targeted parent, encouraging secrecy, and withholding crucial information. This manipulative behavior, akin to brainwashing, contributes to severe psychological damage in children. Alienators may go as far as using first names to disrespect the targeted parent and their family, erasing familial connections and replacing them with the new partner's family. The ultimate goal often includes convincing the child to refer to the stepmother or stepfather as Mom or Dad and even changing the child's last name to sever ties with the targeted parent completely. These actions signify a deliberate campaign of alienation that requires professional intervention to address the resulting harm. 疎外者が採用する戦術には、子供に対して対象の親を拒絶させるなどの強制的な手段、秘密主義を奨励し重要な情報を隠すことが含まれます。これらの操作は洗脳に似た強制的な手法であり、子供に深刻な心理的損傷をもたらします。エイリアネーターは、対象の親やその家族に対する尊重を欠き、新しいパートナーの家族との絆を築くことを目指して、ファーストネームを使用するなどの手段に訴えることがあります。最終的な目標は、子供に対して継母や継父をママやパパと呼ぶよう説得することであり、子供の姓を変えて対象の親との結びつきを完全に断つことがしばしば含まれます。これらの行動は意図的な遠ざけのキャンペーンを示し、その結果生じる損害に対処するためには専門家の介入が必要です。 #JointCustody #SoleCustody #JapanIsCurrentlySoleCustody #ChildrensRights #ParentalAbduction #ChildAbduction #NoToSoleCustodySystem #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛 #アンドリュータッカー
The pain of having my child taken away by my partner is profound and heart-wrenching. It's a storm of emotions; a blend of disbelief, fear, and an aching longing that grips my heart. My child's tears mirror my inner turmoil, a silent plea for things to be different. In this moment of vulnerability, it's crucial to channel my love for my child into action. My feelings are valid, and it's important to express them constructively while fighting for the right to be with my child. Remember, my love is the beacon that will guide me through this darkness. パートナーに我が子を奪われた苦しみは深く、胸が張り裂けそうです。 それは感情の嵐です。 不信感、恐怖、そして切ない憧れが混ざり合って、私の心を掴みました。 子供の涙は私の内なる混乱を反映しており、物事が変わってほしいとの無言の嘆願です。 この脆弱な時期に、子供への愛を行動に移すことが重要です。 私の感情は正当であり、子供と一緒にいる権利のために戦いながら、建設的にそれらを表現することが重要です。 覚えておいてください、私の愛はこの暗闇を通して私を導く灯台です。 #JointCustody #SoleCustody #JapanIsCurrentlySoleCustody #ChildrensRights #ParentalAbduction #ChildAbduction #NoToSoleCustodySystem #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛 #アンドリュータッカー
An alienator refers to a parent whose intense animosity towards their former spouse surpasses their love and concern for their own children, leading to a detrimental impact on the parent-child relationship. #JointCustody #SoleCustody #JapanIsCurrentlySoleCustody #ChildrensRights #ParentalAbduction #ChildAbduction #NoToSoleCustodySystem #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ 疎外者とは、元配偶者に対する激しい敵意が、自分の子供に対する愛情や関心を上回り、親子関係に悪影響を及ぼしている親を指します。 #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛 #アンドリュータッカー
To all the parents who are struggling for the rights of their children, you are not alone in this fight. You have allies and supporters who understand your pain and frustration. Don’t give up hope, because your children need you and love you. You are brave and resilient, and you will overcome this challenge. #JointCustody #SoleCustody #JapanIsCurrentlySoleCustody #ChildrensRights #ParentalAbduction #ChildAbduction #NoToSoleCustodySystem #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ 子どもたちの権利のために奮闘しているすべての親の皆さん、この闘いに参加しているのはあなただけではありません。あなたの痛みや不満を理解してくれる同盟者や支援者がいます。希望を捨てないでください。子供たちはあなたを必要としており、愛しています。あなたは勇敢で回復力があり、必ずこの困難を克服できます。 #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛 #アンドリュータッカー
Seeing a parent suffer abuse can damage a child more than the possible outcomes of splitting up or ending the marriage. 親が虐待に苦しんでいるのを見ることは、離婚や結婚生活の解消によって起こり得る結果以上に、子供に大きなダメージを与える可能性があります。 #JointCustody #SoleCustody #JapanIsCurrentlySoleCustody #ChildrensRights #ParentalAbduction #ChildAbduction #NoToSoleCustodySystem #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛 #アンドリュータッカー
I miss my son like the moon misses the sun. He is the other half of my sky, the one who makes me shine. He has been away for more than 500 days, on a journey that I cannot join. I wonder if he looks at the same stars, if he feels the same breeze, if he hears the same song. I wish I could hold him, talk to him, laugh with him. But I can't. I can only send him my love, my prayers, and my hope. I miss my son like the moon misses the sun. #JointCustody #SoleCustody #JapanIsCurrentlySoleCustody #ChildrensRights #ParentalAbduction #ChildAbduction #NoToSoleCustodySystem #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ 息子が恋しい、まるで月が太陽を恋しむように。彼は私の空のもう一方、私を輝かせる存在。彼は500日以上も遠くにいて、私は参加できない旅に出ています。彼も同じ星を見ているか、同じ風を感じているか、同じ歌を聞いているのか、不安です。抱きしめたり、話したり、笑ったりできればいいのに。でもできない。私は彼に愛と祈り、希望を送ることしかできません。息子が恋しい、まるで月が太陽を恋しむように。 #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛 #アンドリュータッカー
Dads who experience parental alienation may feel unappreciated, undervalued, sad, stressed, and angry. They may also feel isolated, rejected, and powerless. These feelings can affect their self-esteem, confidence, and happiness. Dads need to feel seen, heard, and valued by their children. Dads who overcome parental alienation can rebuild their relationships with their children and enjoy the benefits of fatherhood. パートナーからの疎外を経験した父親は、評価されていない、過小評価されている、悲しみ、ストレスを感じ、怒りを感じます。孤立し、拒絶され、無力であると感じます。 こうした感情は、自尊心、自信、幸福感に影響を与えます。 父親は、子供たちに見られ、話を聞いてもらい、大切にされていると感じる必要があります。 親の疎外感を克服した父親は、子供たちとの関係を再構築し、父親としての恩恵を享受することができます。 #JointCustody #SoleCustody #JapanIsCurrentlySoleCustody #ChildrensRights #ParentalAbduction #ChildAbduction #NoToSoleCustodySystem #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛 #アンドリュータッカー
Your boyfriend can't replace your child's dad. If your child has a loving father, don't keep them apart. Your child will find out and hate you. Co-parenting is good for your child. Learn how to do it well. Your child's happiness matters most. あなたの彼氏は私達の子供の父親の代わりにはなりません。あなたの子供に愛情深い父親がいる場合、どうか父子を引き離さないでください。子供はあなたのその行いを見てあなたを嫌いになるでしょう。一緒に養育することは子供にとって良いことです。上手にやる方法を学びましょう。お子さんの幸せが一番大切です。 #JointCustody #SoleCustody #JapanIsCurrentlySoleCustody #ChildrensRights #ParentalAbduction #ChildAbduction #NoToSoleCustodySystem #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛 #アンドリュータッカー
One of the most influential people in my life is Matsumoto-san, who has always been a mentor and a friend to me. He has watched my son TJ grow up into a wonderful boy. I wanted to spend New Year’s Day with our precious son TJ and the Matsumoto family and create lots of fun memories. We couldn’t do it this year, but next New Year’s I really hope to eat Osechi with you. 私の人生で最も影響力のある人の一人は、私にとって常に師匠であり友人である松本さんです。彼はTJが素晴らしい少年に成長するのを見守ってくれています。私たちのかけがえのない息子TJと一緒に、家族と新年を過ごし、たくさんの楽しい思い出を作るのを楽しみにしていました。今年は叶いませんでしたが、来年のお正月はぜひ一緒におせちを食べたいです。 #JointCustody #SoleCustody #JapanIsCurrentlySoleCustody #ChildrensRights #ParentalAbduction #ChildAbduction #NoToSoleCustodySystem #abusehasnogender #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛 #アンドリュータッカー
If you expand the picture you can see the Paw Patrol characters — Marshall was his favorite 😍 I still have paw patrol Christmas presents for him for 2022 because I haven’t seen him for more than 500 days… パウ・パトロールのキャラクターが見えますか？ マーシャルは彼のお気に入りでした 😍 2022 年の彼へのパウ・パトロールのクリスマスプレゼントを私はまだ渡せずに持っています。 #JointCustody #SoleCustody #JapanIsCurrentlySoleCustody #ChildrensRights #ParentalAbduction #ChildAbduction #NoToSoleCustodySystem #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #TJ #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛 #アンドリュータッカー
I have no sympathy for my brother-in-law Yusuke Kutsukake. He uttered a cruel and unforgivable word to me when I begged him to help me see my son TJ. He said that he hoped that I would never see TJ again. He even said a F word to me. How could he be so heartless and spiteful? He knows how much I love and miss my son. He has no right to keep me away from him. Thanks for all the comments. I am trying to read them as soon as possible. 私は義理の弟の沓掛勇介さんに対しては、同情心がなくなりました。息子TJに会うのを助けてくれないかと頼んだ時、彼は冷たくて許しがたい言葉を発しました。彼は「私がTJに二度と会わないことを望んでいる」と言ったのです。彼はどうしてそんなに冷酷で意地悪なことを言ったのでしょうか？彼は私が息子をどれだけ愛し、会いたいと思っているか知っています。彼には、私を息子と引き離す権利はないはずです。 #JointCustody #SoleCustody #JapanIsCurrentlySoleCustody #ChildrensRights #ParentalAbduction #ChildAbduction #NoToSoleCustodySystem #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛 #アンドリュータッカー
I am the father of a boy that was born in Japan, where I met his mother, Yuka Kutsukake. She was a beautiful and kind woman, but she left me for another man. She said I was too old for her, and she wanted a younger partner. She may have moved to the United States by now, and married an American soldier, Andrew Tucker, who was stationed in Japan. Dual citizenship is not permitted under Japanese law, yet she possesses both American and Japanese passports. I don't know where she is or how my son is doing. I miss him so much, and I wonder if he thinks about me. Being old is not a crime, and it doesn't mean I don't love my son. I wish I could see him again, hug him, and tell him how proud I am of him. Is there anyone else who has gone through something like this? Maybe we can talk to each other and share our feelings and experiences. Perhaps we can also find some ways to reconnect with our children, or at least know that they are safe and happy. 私は日本で生まれた息子を持つ父親であり、そこで彼の母親である沓掛ゆかさんと出会いました。彼女は美しく優しい女性でしたが、彼女は別の男性の元へ去っていきました。私は、彼女にとって「年寄り」過ぎるから、もっと若い相手が欲しいと言いました。彼女は、今はアメリカに戻り、日本に駐留していたアメリカの兵士、アンドリュー・タッカーと結婚しているかもしれません。日本の法律では二重国籍は認められていませんが、彼女はアメリカと日本の両方のパスポートを持っています。私は彼女と息子がどこにいるのか全くわかりません。彼に会いたくてたまりませんし、息子は私のことを思ってくれているのか気になります。 「年寄り」であることは罪ではありませんし、年をとっているからと言って息子を愛していないわけではありません。彼に再び会い、抱きしめ、私が彼のことをどれだけ誇りに思っているか伝えたいけれど、それはまだ叶っていません。他にこのような状況を経験したことがある人たちはいますか？もし話し合える方がいれば、お互いの感情や経験を共有できるかもしれません。 子供たちと再開する方法を見つけたり、彼らが無事で幸せでいるか確認する手段を見つけることも、できるかもしれません。 #JointCustody #SoleCustody #JapanIsCurrentlySoleCustody #ChildrensRights #ParentalAbduction #ChildAbduction #NoToSoleCustodySystem #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛 #アンドリュータッカー
This year, I have to face another Christmas without my son. It’s hard to stay positive when he is not here with me. I miss him so much, and I hope he will come back someday. #JointCustody #SoleCustody #JapanIsCurrentlySoleCustody #ChildrensRights #ParentalAbduction #ChildAbduction #NoToSoleCustodySystem #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker # 今年も息子のいないクリスマスを迎えなければなりません。 彼が私と一緒にいないとき、ポジティブでい続けるのは難しいです。 彼がいなくてとても寂しいし、いつか戻ってくることを願っています。 #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛 #アンドリュータッカー
It is hard to understand what kind of person denies young children access to a father who loves them and wants to be part of their life. When there are so many children in the world who crave for their father's attention and affection, how can someone be so cruel and selfish to deprive a child of their right to have a relationship with their dad? Such a person must have no empathy or compassion for the child's feelings and needs. They must only care about their own interests and agenda, regardless of the harm they cause to the child. 子供を愛していて、子供の人生に関わりたいと望む父親と子供との接触を拒否する、何故そんなことが出来る人がいるのでしょうか。 世界には父親からの愛情を求める多くの子供がいるのに、子供と父親の関係や会う権利を奪うほど、残酷で自分勝手になれるのでしょうか？そのような人は、子供の感情や要求に対して共感したり、思いやりを持つことができないに違いありません。 彼らは子供と父親に与える害を顧みず、自分の利益と都合だけを考えているのでしょう。 #JointCustody #SoleCustody #JapanlsCurrentlySoleCustody #ChildrensRights #ParentalAbduction #ChildAbduction #NoToSoleCustodySystem #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake
Andrew Tucker, I'm sorry to hear that your father, Bradley Ted Tucker, passed away last year. We both have experienced the deep impact of loss. In this difficult time, I appeal to you with compassion and understanding. As TJ's mother's husband, I respectfully ask for your help in creating a meaningful opportunity for me to see my son. Your compassion could make a significant difference in fostering a sense of fatherhood for this child. As a man who lost your father, do you not have any compassion for me and my son? #JointCustody #SoleCustody #JapanIsCurrentlySoleCustody #ChildrensRights #ParentalAbduction #ChildAbduction #NoToSoleCustodySystem #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake
Parents who genuinely love their children understand the importance of fostering a healthy and positive environment. In doing so, they refrain from imparting negativity or animosity towards the other parent, recognizing that a child's well-being is closely tied to the harmony between both parental figures. This approach helps children develop emotionally, fostering relationships based on love and understanding rather than being influenced by resentment or hostility. 本当に子供を愛する親は、健康でポジティブな環境を育てることの重要性を理解しています。そのため、彼らは他の親に対する否定的な感情や敵意を伝えることを控え、子供の幸福が両親の間の調和に密接に関連していることを認識しています。このアプローチは、子供が感情的に成長するのを助け、恨みや敵意の影響を受けるのではなく、愛と理解に基づいた関係を育てます。 #JointCustody #SoleCustody #JapanIsCurrentlySoleCustody #ChildrensRights #ParentalAbduction #ChildAbduction #NoToSoleCustodySystem #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛 #アンドリュータッカー
The holidays should be a time of joy and family, but for some children, they only get to see one parent. This is a clear sign of who is the abuser in the marriage. 休暇は家族と楽しいひと時であるべきですが、子供によっては片方の親しか会えないこともあります。これは、結婚生活において誰が虐待者であるかを明確に示しています。 #JointCustody #SoleCustody #JapanIsCurrentlySoleCustody #ChildrensRights #ParentalAbduction #ChildAbduction #NoToSoleCustodySystem #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛
I can’t believe that my ex-partner, Yuka Kutsukake, is letting her new boyfriend, Andrew Tucker, spend more time with my son TJ than I do! This is so unfair and disrespectful to our relationship as parents. I miss TJ so much and I want to be involved in his life. How can she do this to me and our only child? 元パートナーのYuka Kutsukakeが、私よりも新しい彼氏のAndrew Tuckerと息子TJが一緒に過ごすことを許しているなんて信じられません。親としての関係に対して不公平で無礼なことだと思います。私はTJが恋しくて、彼の人生に関わりたいだけです。彼女はどうして私たちの唯一の子にこんなことができるんだろう？ #JointCustody #SoleCustody #JapanIsCurrentlySoleCustody #ChildrensRights #ParentalAbduction #ChildAbduction #NoToSoleCustodySystem #YukaKutsukake #AndrewTucker #YusukeKutsukake #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO #沓掛
Facing a custody battle? Equip yourself with the mental & legal resources needed to survive this difficult time. Don't let the system make you feel scared or defeated. Don’t Lose Your Sanity. Navigate through the emotional turbulence and fight against unfair accusations. #CoParenting #CustodyBattle #JointCustody #JapanIsCurrentlySoleCustody #ChildrensRights #ParentalAbduction #Kidnapping #ChildAbduction #parentalalienation #childabuse #custodyrights #yukakutsukake #tomukutsukake #andrewtuckerusn #japanesekaren #abuse #coercivecontrol #domesticabuse #kidnapped #narcex #narcawareness #narcabuse #cptsd 親権争いに直面していますか？この困難な時期を生き抜くための精神的・法的リソースを身につけましょう。 システムによって怖がらされたり、打ち負かされたりすることはありません。 感情的な混乱を乗り越え、不公平な告発に立ち向かいましょう。 #共同親権 #日本は今一律単独親権 #子どもの権利 #実子誘拐 #連れ去り #子の連れ去り #単独親権制度にNO
Australia has done a lot to call out parental alienation in the media. On the other side, Japan has been called a black hole for child kidnapping. Japan operates on a single custody system. If a Japanese citizen brings their child back to Japan, even if they are acting illegally, the Japanese court automatically gives them sole custody. This custody is so absolute that if the custodial parent is not happy with the other parent or doesn't want to give visitation for any reason, it can stop in an instant. This is what Yuka Kutsukske has done to Tj and his dad. Tj’s dad is not allowed to see him, and Tj is not allowed to see his dad no matter how much he wants to. Yuka Kutsukake has denied visitation in any form for over a year. #parentalalienation #kidnapping #childabuse #japan #austrailia #narcex #imissmyson #yukakutsukake #andrewtuckerusn #tomukutsukake #japanesekaren #custodyrights #custodybattle #parallelparenting #abuse #domesticabuse #childtherapy #childabuse
The estrangement is good. It’s a child running away from their abuser. Parental alienation is the opposite. It's a child running to their abuser. Alienators often start the abuse before the target parent realizes what is going on. Often it will start while the target parent thinks that they and the other parent are on good terms. However, it can be easy to miss the early warning signs. Especially because parental alienation is a lesser known form of child abuse. Many parents do not think the other parent is capable of that. #parentalalienation #yukakutsukake #tomukutsukake #andrewtuckerusn #japanesekaren #narc #therapy #childtherapy #trauma #ptsd #cptsd #domesticabuse #traumatherapy #narcex #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #childabuse #childabuseawareness
It’s so important to speak up against parental alienation deniers. The hate, vengeance, and plain spite of the alienating parent is poisonous to the child. Because of abuse, children are more likely to grow up to abuse substances, fall into a life of crime, develop PTSD, cPTSD, or suffer any other bad outcomes. Trauma is the ultimate gateway to self-destruction. We must draw this evil into the light. Sunlight is the ultimate disinfectant. Abusers are more worried about what you will think and say than about their own child. #parentalalienation #fathersrights #fathersrightsmovement #fathersmatter #fathersmattertoo #yukakutsukake #andrewtuckerusn #tomukutsukake #japanesekaren #imissmyson #custody #custodybattle #addiction #trauma
Liars and abusers cannot hide from everyone their whole lives. At some point, they get found out. Some people do go into denial, but they work their way through. Your child has the rest of their life to put two and two together and realize they don't equal five. If you are an alienator, is it worth it? Is traumatizing your child for something they have no control over fulfilling? They will find out, and they will leave you. What would the neighbors think? Image isn't everything. #yukakutsukake #andrewtuckerusn #japanesekaren #fathersrights #fathersrightsmovement #fathersrightsmatter #fathersmatter #fathersmattertoo #imissmyson #childtherapy #therapy #coparenting #coparentingwithanarcissist #custodybattles #custodybattle #coparentingproblems #parentalalienation
Australia has lately been making a lot of noise about the custody system in Japan. People who have children with people who are Japanese citizens can be at risk. Japan has a single custody system that favors the demands of Japanese citizens—especially the mother. When Yuka Kutsukake took her son Tj from his dad in the United States, she was immediately sheltered by Japanese law from the consequences. She has the power to legally decide if Tj’s dad has any contact with his son. He has no rights, and Yuka Kutsukake can change contact allowance on a whim. Her mood for the last year has been to deny Tj contact with his dad so severely that he doesn’t even know if Tj is alive. #yukakutsukake #tomukutsukake #andrewtuckerusn #japanesekaren #kidnap #kidnapped #custody #legalrights #parentalalienation #fathersrights #fathersrightsmovement #fathersmatter #fathersmattertoo #japan #custodybattle #australia #imissmyson #parentalrights
Parental alienation and estrangement are far from the same thing. Estrangement is a healthy response from a child towards their abuser. Alienation is when the child is in the care of their abuser, cut off from a loving, good-enough parent. During alienation, the child is manipulated and conditioned to turn towards their abuser. #parentalalienation #fathersrights #fathersrightsmovement #fathersrightsmatter #fathersmatter #fathersmattertoo #parentsmatter #therapy #childtherapy #therapymatters #custody #custodybattles #yukakutsukake #tomukutsukake #andrewtuckerusn #japanesekaren #father #imissmyson
Every child deserves two loving parents. Children who are born to a narcissist are already at a disadvantage. This is especially true if the narc also practices parental alienation. Please remember bad people often have superficial charm. They can come off as nice, charismatic, and compassionate. Unfortunately, the people closest to them do not benefit from this. Narcissists abuse the people who love them. They would rather help strangers for clout than be good enough parents. #parentalalienation #narc #narcabuse #narex #narcissist #stopfamilyviolence #savethechildern #savethechildrenworldwide #yukakutsukake #tomukutsukake #andrewtuckerusn #japanesekaren #fathersrights #fathersrightsmovement #fathersmatter #fathersmattertoo #parentsmatter
It’s a catch-22. You don’t want to bad mouth your ex in front of your kid. You know that your child is half you, half the other parent. At the same time, you want to defend yourself against the lies your ex is telling your child. You are afraid that your ex will harm your child. At the same time, you are afraid that if you rock the boat, you will provoke your ex. Unless you have been through it, it’s hard to describe the sheer terror you feel during abuse. All that we know is as long as we draw breath, the fight goes on. #fight #fightabuse #parentalalienation #yukakutsukake #tomukutsukake #andrewtuckerusn #japanesekaren #fathersrights #fathersrightsmovement #fathersmatter #fathersmattertoo #imissmyson