"Instead of “Do I love him?” ask, “Do I like him?” Fireworks aren’t everything. Affection between two people who genuinely like each other can sustain us through thick and thin." -Alison Armstrong #makingsenseofmen #partnershipworks #chooselike #changethequestion #changeyourlife #relationshipgoals #lifelongpartner #understandmen #understandwomen
Expectations turn receivers into takers — because the giver can now only submit or resist to those expectations — the giver has no chance to be generous or creative or romantic. So remember that whatever (s)he provides for you on Valentine’s Day (or ANY day!) is a GIFT. P.S. Maybe this Valentine’s could be as much about giving as getting...You could ask the men or special someones in your life what would make them feel appreciated and loved this 14th too ❤️ #makingsenseofmen #chooselove #understanding #alisonarmstrong #valentinesday2024
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Expectations turn receivers into takers — because the giver can now only submit or resist to those expectations — the giver has no chance to be generous or creative or romantic. So remember that whatever (s)he provides for you on Valentine’s Day (or ANY day!) is a GIFT. P.S. Maybe this Valentine's could be as much about giving as getting...You could ask the men or special someones in your life what would make them feel appreciated and loved this 14th too ❤️ #makingsenseofmen #chooselove #understanding #alisonarmstrong #valentinesday2023
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"The urgency to start a family can cause a woman to “hunt a husband.” This aggressive energy is a real turn off – way more so than honestly telling your suitors what your dreams and goals are." - Alison Armstrong #genderdifferences #makingsenseofmen #understandmen #understandwomen #partnershipoverrelationship #alisonarmstrong
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Are you letting the man in your life make you happy? ⠀ ⠀ Think about it. I know that for a long time I wasn’t. ⠀ ⠀ I was unhappy. I was unhappy with everything. My job, my house, my marriage. Nothing my husband did would make me happy. I had become critical of everything he did. From how he kept forgetting to fix things around the house to how he loaded the dishwasher. Nothing was right. He couldn’t win with me and there was tension day in and day out in our home. ⠀ ⠀ And then I learned that one of the most important things to a man is his ability to make his woman happy. Really. He just wants to make you happy. And there I was being nit picky about things and not letting him have this thing that is so important to him because I was pissed. ⠀ ⠀ So I started to shift and stopped focusing on the things that pissed me off and started to look for things that I could be grateful for. ⠀ ⠀ Nothing lights my husband up more than my sincere gratitude and happiness when he does something for me. Most of the times it’s little things like getting me the kind of tea I like or doing the dishes but sometimes it’s big things like working 2 jobs or being a great dad. ⠀ ⠀ At first it may feel weird to shower someone with appreciation for emptying the dishwasher but believe me, it is a game changer. The more you do it, the more natural it feels until you do it without even thinking about it. ⠀ ⠀ Who’s up for trying this? Leave me an emoji if you can commit to showing your appreciation for 1 thing a day. Baby steps👣, you can do it! #vetlife #saythankyou #gratitude #happywifehappylife #veterinarywellbeing #veterinarymentalhealth #thepurposefulvet #lethimmakeyouhappy @thealisonarmstrong #makingsenseofmen
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"If you’re not excited about that step…it’s probably not right for you." - Alison Armstrong #listentoyourintuition #understandmen #understandwomen #makingsenseofmen #foodforthought #alisonarmstrong #happymonday #motivationmonday
"Sleeping is the #1 way that a man builds testosterone. This gives him a sense of well-being, extra energy and the desire to produce a result, solve a problem or conquer the world. It’s also the source of that “soldier-standing-at-attention” effect, early in the morning." - Alison Armstrong #happytuesday #happiertomorrow #makingsenseofmen #understandmen #understandwomen #alisonarmstrong
"The phenomenon of “Two women/one man” causes women to compete – for attention, affection, approval and protection. This survival instinct strains the bond between women. If we can catch it – and have a sense of humor about the cavewoman within – we can preserve the strength of the Sisterhood." - Alison Armstrong #understandwomen #understandyourinstincts #yourenotcrazy #chooselove #sisterhood #makingsenseofmen #beinghuman #alisonarmstrong #competition #genderdifferences #partnershipworks #happyfriday
"The urgency to start a family can cause a woman to “hunt a husband.” This aggressive energy is a real turn off – way more so than honestly telling your suitors what your dreams and goals are." - Alison Armstrong #happyfriday #understandmen #understandwomen #understandyourself #partnershipoverrelationship #relationshit #genderdifferences #makingsenseofmen #alisonarmstrong
“Self-confidence is the most attractive quality in woman. It’s irresistible. It knocks men over. It draws them in. It makes them feel like what they provide will really make a difference, because she’s already fine. She doesn’t need rescuing. They can relax. They can be themselves.” - Alison Armstrong #happytuesday #understandmen #makingsenseofmen #alisonarmstrong #confidence
Does this ring true for you, men? Ladies? Share in the comments below, we'd love to hear what you think about this (or for the ladies, how you feel about this!) :) #makingsenseofmen #makingsenseofwomen #genderdifferences #happyfriday #alisonarmstrong #understandmen #partnershipworks
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"A man told me once, “I think men invented women’s clothes so that we could focus.” – Alison Armstrong #happywednesday #makingsenseofmen #understandmen #partnershipworks #chooselove #alisonarmstrong #focus #wisdomwednesday #lol
"Most men have an acute sense of the passage of time. This is why women need to not lie – deliberately underestimate -- about how long it will take to get dressed or tell them something." - Alison Armstrong #understandmen #makingsenseofmen #alisonarmstrong #transformationtuesday #partnershipworks #honestyfirst
"The written word has a profound effect on women. And "beautiful" never gets old." - Alison Armstrong #understandmen #makingsenseofmen #writtenword #beautiful #happymonday #alisonarmstrong
"We'd all be much better people if we related to our needs from the future. In other words, don't get a good night's sleep because you earned it. Get a good night's sleep for who you will be able to be on the other side." -Alison Armstrong #happytuesday #understandmen #makingsenseofmen #alisonarmstrong #chooselove #partnershipworks
"Most people have trouble receiving more than they think they deserve. And, most people become angry or resentful when the receive less than they deserve. It would seem, then, that getting exactly what you deserve would work perfectly. Except that this amount is often much less than what we actually need -- to be our best selves." - Alison Armstrong #understandmen #understandyourself #alisonarmstrong #happythursday #makingsenseofmen #partnershipworks #chooselove
"It’s who you choose to share the ordinary moments with that makes all the difference. The most important word in this statement is the word “choose.” Are you choosing a person that is right for you – that makes ordinary life special – or are you just going with the person who’s in front of you at the right time?" – Alison Armstrong #understandmen #makingsenseofmen #makingsenseofwomen #relationshipadvice #gendertendencies
"Sometimes all that matters is progress. In the building stage that most men go through in their 30s, what matters is thinking he’s getting somewhere. As long as he sees enough progress, a man will work really hard and go without many things, including feeling appreciated. It’s the progress that makes it worth it to him." - Alison Armstrong #understandmen #makingsenseofmen #happythursday #genderstudies
"Sometime between age 40 and 50, most men go through something we call the Tunnel. Our culture calls it a mid-life crisis. We think it’s a sacred opportunity to reflect on where he’s been, who he is, and what the rest of his life is for" - Alison Armstrong #wisdomwednesday #understandmen #makingsenseofmen #partnershipworks #genderstudies
"If you want a man to tell you more than superficial things, the right tool is called “Waiting for the Well”. Literally count to at least 30 while he’s thinking; it’ll allow him to go deeper. If you want to understand what a man is all about, the right tool is called “Listening to Learn.” As he’s giving his opinion, instead of figuring out whether you agree or disagree, listen for what’s important to him. It will be revealed within his opinion." - Alison Armstrong #happytuesday #makingsenseofmen #relationships #partnerships #understandmen
"...as women we have trouble existing inside of our bodies. Why? Because it is already inhabited by a ‘Cavewoman’ looking out for our survival and an ‘Ideal Woman’ strategizing to compete with other women. This doesn’t leave much room for our spirit to live and play in a temple of sensation and emotion.” -- Alison Armstrong
“I made my decision to leave my first marriage after spending a long afternoon staring at the ocean. My first husband and I were barely roommates. I realized that I would rather risk being alone forever than never have the possibility of a true union.” – Alison Armstrong #partnershipworks #behappy #understandmen #makingsenseofmen #alisonarmstrong
"Emasculation and objectification have the same purpose of disempowering women and men (yes, they apply to both genders). They are two of the most important instinctive behaviors to become aware of ~ if you are committed to partnership and supporting the expression of human spirit. When you notice that you are emasculating or objectifying, try to become conscious of what triggered the reaction. What is the source of your fear, anger, or sense of powerlessness? Then see if you can translate that into something you can communicate that you need. For example, I have a big reaction to being interrupted. Especially if I’m in the middle of answering someone’s question. My mind reacts by objectifying him or her. It’s an involuntary, instinctive response. When I catch those thoughts, then I can say, ‘Please let me finish.’ This gives me a chance to nurture a partnership, instead of diminishing them or writing them off." – Alison A. Armstrong #partnershipworks #chooselove #understandmen #alisonarmstrong #makingsenseofmen #makingsenseofyou #happythursday
"The need for adventure is present in every man. Ask your man this: What does your adventure provide for you?" - Alison Armstrong #wisdomwednesday #makingsenseofmen #adventure #understandmen #alisonarmstrong
“The movie 'Bridget Jones Diary' is famous for the line, 'I like you just the way you are,' because these are words that most women crave to hear. But what if men do love women just the way we are? What if all the things we do to be the way we're not is what's messing up our relationships?“ – Alison Armstrong #wisdomwednesday #makingsenseofmen #genderdifferences #alisonarmstrong #understandmen #chooselove #authenticity #partershipworks
"Men assume everything you have, you need. If they can’t afford all your stuff, they think they can’t afford you.” Men, does this resonate for you? We would love to hear your thoughts, share in the comments below! #makingsenseofmen #understandmen #happytuesday #alisonarmstrong #genderdifferences
"If you’d like the man in your life to not glaze over, then you must spare the details. Only include the details they need to understand what you most want them to know about you or your experience. Save the play-by-play for your girlfriends." - Alison Armstrong #makingsenseofmen #understandmen #genderdifferences #belatededucation #partnershipworks #chooselove #alisonarmstrong #happythursday #tbt
"Whether you have him by the throat (or a more vulnerable part of his body), let go! You might be amazed at who he is when you’re not trying to control him." -Alison Armstrong #letgo #chooselove #partnershipworks #alisonarmstrong #understandmen #makingsenseofmen #happytuesday
"When a man is upset, stressed or frustrated, his body surges with the hormone epinephrine. This makes his skin particularly sensitive, in a bad way. Unfortunately, your instincts may cause you to try to soothe him with touch – generally a good strategy with women – and he’ll react strongly, throwing off your hand, as if you’re burning him. Better for both of you to give him space and let him seek you out when he’s ready." - Alison Armstrong #makingsenseofmen #understandmen #alisonarmstrong #motivationmonday #relationshipadvice #chooselove #partnershipworks #happymonday
“More than ever we need to see beyond merely male or female and masculine or feminine. I find it helps to think of people as ‘Hunting’ or ‘Gathering.’ Both genders do both. The easiest way to tell which mode someone is in – including you – is whether you’re paying attention to a specific result or destination: Hunting. Or are you open to options and alternatives: Gathering?” - Alison Armstrong Which mode are you in right now? Share in the comments! :) #makingsenseofmen #makingsenseofwomen #knowledgeispower #partnershipworks #alisonarmstrong #goodfriday #happyfriday #chooselove
"Men are nurtured by the beauty of women." - Alison Armstrong #makingsenseofmen #understandmen #chooselove #beauty #partnershipworks #happywednesday #wisdomwednesday
“To me, ‘understanding,’ is one of the most important things you can reach for. Because it’s the beginning of so many things: compassion, healing, effective action, and fulfillment; to name a few. If you can contribute to someone’s understanding of themselves or others, there’s no way to predict how far they might take that. This is the great privilege of teaching what we’ve learned about men, women and partnership.” - Alison Armstrong #happytuesday #makingsenseofmen #understandingmen #partnershipworks #transformationtuesday #relationshipgoals #alisonarmstrong #contribution
"Intimacy is a sign that your relationship is blossoming. When people are misunderstood, disrespected or not getting their needs met, they seem stingy and distant. When people are honored, respected, and taken care of, they are naturally more generous and intimate." - Alison Armstrong #happyspring #makingsenseofmen #understandingmen #chooselove #partnershipworks #mondaymotivation #relationshipgoals #alisonarmstrong
Not All Texts Are Created Equal Women are especially sensitive to the written word. If you’re going to take the time to text her (which is good), then spelling out, “Been thinking about you. How are you?” is way better than “How R U?” - Alison Armstrong Ladies, what are you favorite texts to receive? Share in the comments below! #happyfriday #makingsenseofmen
"Being a man is all about impact. If he can help someone fulfill a dream, even by just lending a hand, he’ll be thrilled." - Alison Armstrong Share in the comments below, what are your dreams? Who could you be if you let someone help you achieve them? :)
"A man will never adore a woman who’s trying to get her claws in him. Even for just a romp in the hay, most men avoid this approach. If you want to be adored, it’s all about your receptivity to who he is and what he’s trying to provide. If you’re relating to a man from “what can I get?” or “what can I take?” then you’re already doomed." - Alison Armstrong
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"Never underestimate the effect of feeding a man. Understanding men’s true motivations, you can authentically feed him respect, appreciation, and joy. As long as you think he’s suppose to act like “the perfect woman” you’ll be poisoning him with unrealistic expectations and resentment." - Alison Armstrong #makingsenseofmen #understandmen #relationshipgoals #chooselove #partnershipworks #happythursday
"When I started studying men, I thought it would take 2-3 months to learn everything worth knowing about them. That’s because, like most women, I believed men are shallow. Then I found out that men just skim the surface because we interrupt them before they can go deeper. I started listening longer – literally counting to 30 while they paused – and found out how deep they truly are. Men have often said to me, ‘I can’t believe I’m telling you all this.’ I know it’s because I’ve listened long enough to let them.” – Alison Armstrong Share in the comments, have you been practicing waiting 30 seconds? How has it been? :) #wisdomwednesday #makingsenseofmen #understandmen #partnershipworks #chooselove #relationshipgoals #alisonarmstrong
“I used to hate asking for help. So much so, that if I couldn’t do something on my own, I wouldn’t do it at all. And if someone offered help, I’d reply, insulted, ‘I can do it myself,’ thinking their offer challenged my competency. Then I started noticing how much I enjoyed helping other people. It gave me such a feeling of warmth, usefulness, elation even. And from the simplest things, like holding a door for someone with their hands full. I wondered how’d I feel if no one ever let me help them. That’s when I realized that that asking for help could give someone a chance to be a hero or s-hero.” – Alison Armstrong
"The brain’s ability to screen out everything irrelevant to the result at hand can be wonderful or frustrating. It all depends on whether you’re the one on the other end of the phone." - Alison Armstrong #makingsenseofmen #understandmen #happyhumpday #relationships #chooselove #empowerment #partnershipworks #alisonarmstrong
"Curiosity is one of the most attractive and intelligent qualities you can cultivate. Especially about other people’s perceptions, opinions and motivations." - Alison Armstrong Share in the comments, in regards to the opposite gender, what is something you are curious about? Thank you! #happytuesday #makingsenseofmen #questions #curiosity #transformationtuesday #love #relationships #partnershipworks #understandmen #relationshipadvice #happycouple #hellomarch
"If only we knew the words to close the distance. The words are simple but they take courage and compassion to say. Most women need to hear, ‘I’m sorry I hurt your feelings,’ while most men need, ‘I’m sorry I disrespected you.’ If you’re really committed to closing the distance, try them both!" - Alison Armstrong #motivationmonday #happymonday #relationshipadvice #makingsenseofmen #understandmen #alisonarmstrong #love #chooselove #partnershipworks #leapday
"I had thought that men either didn't care what I needed or were actively withholding it. Now I know that they care deeply and, if they can give me what I need, they will. My part was learning how to tell them and how to let them." - Alison Armstrong #makingsenseofmen #partnershipworks #learning #education #chooselove #relationships #happyfriday #understandmen
"Provide a lot of appreciation for his efforts, not just the results. Reward him by letting him make you happy and show it." - Alison Armstrong #understandmen #makingsenseofmen #relationships #education #learning #chooselove #partnershipworks
Hunters and gatherers have opposing instincts. Which set us at odds with each other. For example, Hunters experience safety through being productive. Where as Gatherers feel safe through being connected. So when a Gatherer interrupts a Hunter in order to connect, these opposing instincts can create anywhere from irritation to a total disconnect. With the small addition of “I’m sorry to interrupt. When would be a good time to connect with you?” Both of us can get what we need to feel loved, wanted, and supported. - Alison Armstrong Share in the comments below if you've tried this and it worked! Or if you haven't yet, are you willing to? #makingsenseofmen #alisonarmstrong #choose #partnership #relationships #motivationmonday
Nothing like the click-click of high heels to penetrate single focus. Many women are afraid of men's ability to focus intently. And we often take it personally, thinking a man is ignoring us by purposefully tuning us out. It would help women to understand that a man's brain does this naturally the moment he commits to a particular result or destination. The good news: many feminine attributes, and a request for help, interrupt single focus and immediately get a man's attention. - Alison Armstrong #understandmen #makingsenseofmen #relationships #love #choose #partnership #alisonarmstrong
What causes a lifetime of affection? Men naturally respond to a woman's playfulness with physical affection. So if you need affection, you have to nurture your own sense of play. This means setting aside the multitude of things to do, getting some rest and maybe some quality alone time...and then opening your heart and mind to your partner. - Alison Armstrong How do you nurture your sense of play? Share in the comments below :) #makingsenseofmen #motivated #happyhour #happylife #understandmen #chooselove #happywife
"The secret to who men marry is this: Men marry their wives. No kidding. Men marry the women who are being their wives before they wed. The woman who already loves and supports them, the woman who already is their future and has their back. This can create a problem in being chosen as a wife, because many women are unwilling to be like a wife and behave like a wife until after the 'deal is closed'. If you’re single, you may want to rethink this approach." - Alison Armstrong #chooselove #partnershipworks #makingsenseofmen
"Try this: While a man is expressing his opinion, instead of asking yourself the question, “Do I agree or disagree?” ask yourself “What is he revealing about himself right now?” or “What is he showing me?” If you listen this way, you’ll hear what is behind that opinion – his commitments, his passions, his integrity or his dreams." - Alison A Armstrong #understandmen #makingsenseofmen
“The problem with wanting to be a Hero is someone has to let you. Are you big enough to allow a man be extraordinary for you?” - Alison A Armstrong #chooselove #makingsenseofmen #understandmen #partnershipworks
"We are challenged by our own limited ability to receive. We say, “No” to show our independence and self-sufficiency, and are left feeling resentful and alone. When we are available to receive, we can get run-over, not knowing how to set boundaries with people we care about and not wanting to hurt or offend. We can feel like a doormat, fearful of being taken advantage of, fearful of getting in trouble, and eventually giving up because we lack the skill and ability to be receptive and self-honoring." - Alison A. Armstrong. #partnershipworks #understandmen #makingsenseofmen #chooselove
"Expectations turn receivers into takers -- because the giver can now only submit or resist to those expectations – the giver has no chance to be generous or creative or romantic. So remember that whatever (s)he provides for you on Valentine’s Day (or ANY day!) is a GIFT." - Alison Armstrong P.S. Maybe this Valentine's could be as much about giving as getting...You could ask the men or special someones in your life what would make them feel appreciated and loved this 14th too ❤️ #makingsenseofmen #chooselove #understandmen #alisonarmstrong
The conditions created by Valentine’s Day actually prevent men from being romantic. Yes, Valentine's Day kills romance! The opportunity to be spontaneous is essential to men expressing their love and affection. This doesn’t mean they don’t like to plan romantic situations. It means the source of planning romantic situations comes from their own inspiration, not from an expectation of ours (or expectations from our culture). Now whether you want to boycott the holiday or throw a celebration - set up your man to win. Try telling him this (fill in the blanks with what is true for you) : “I know Valentine’s Day can be a real problem for men. Whatever you do, I will appreciate it. But, I don’t want you to have to wonder how to succeed. What Valentine’s Day means to me is ________________. What you do for me on that day makes me feel _________. All that I honestly need is __________. Beyond that, what would make me really happy is __________________.” Then, the MOST IMPORTANT part, ask him this: “Is there anything you need me to do, for you to be able to give me what I need on Valentine’s Day?” Take his answer seriously! The answer may be, “remind me nicely,” or, “make the reservations.” If you are unwilling to provide what he needs, don’t expect him to do what you have asked. #alisonarmstrong #makingsenseofmen #understandmen #men #partnership #relationship #valentines #valentines2016 #chooselove #paxprograms
Reading about relationships and understanding why we are how we are, and what we are not, that we continoue trying to be, is so refreshing. Great reads. #makingsenseofmen #thequeenscode #alisonarmstrong #memyselfandtheentireuniverse #determinedtounderstand #growth