Repost from @happywholeway • What is something you learned to carry as the religious good girl that you are you trying to put down now? 👇🏼👇🏽👇🏾 Remember the reason you began carrying this weight in the first place: It met a core need. For example, it gave you: ✔️Acceptance & belonging ✔️ Approval ✔️A sense of power & control ✔️ Importance & meaning Healing the harm done in religion means figuring out what the needs are that you were trying to meet through religion, and finding new ways to meet them now. If this sounds amazing but you have no idea where to start, our signature program (Happy Whole U) is perfect for you! We have led 17 cohorts of women through a the material with RAVE reviews! ⚠️Link in bio to join waitlist and learn more! XOXO, Cara + Rachael #DeconstructingFaith #DeConversion #ExChristian #Exvangelical #Exvangelicals #ExFundamentalist #Exfundie #Exmo #Exmormon #FaithDeconstruction #FaithCrisis #FaithTransition #IGotOut #PatriarchySucks #PurityCulture #ReligionFree #ReligiousTrauma #SpiritualAbuse #SmashPatriarchy
What is something you learned to carry as the religious good girl that you are you trying to put down now? 👇🏼👇🏽👇🏾 Remember the reason you began carrying this weight in the first place: It met a core need. For example, it gave you: ✔️Acceptance & belonging ✔️ Approval ✔️A sense of power & control ✔️ Importance & meaning Healing the harm done in religion means figuring out what the needs are that you were trying to meet through religion, and finding new ways to meet them now. If this sounds amazing but you have no idea where to start, our signature program (Happy Whole U) is perfect for you! We have led 17 cohorts of women through a the material with RAVE reviews! ⚠️Link in bio to join waitlist and learn more! XOXO, Cara + Rachael #DeconstructingFaith #DeConversion #ExChristian #Exvangelical #Exvangelicals #ExFundamentalist #Exfundie #Exmo #Exmormon #FaithDeconstruction #FaithCrisis #FaithTransition #IGotOut #PatriarchySucks #PurityCulture #ReligionFree #ReligiousTrauma #SpiritualAbuse #SmashPatriarchy
The course - Loving and Strengthening Your Mixed Faith Marriage - is NOT for you if: -You are not serious about working on your mixed faith marriage - You want your spouse to change and and you are not willing to take a look at your own contributions - You just want to convince your spouse to believe or not believe in the church - You are fine with how your relationship is today and are content with it always being this way It is for you if: -You are ready for a complete re-evaluation of how you are showing up in your marriage and even thinking about your marriage. -You are open to new tools and ideas to improve connection and respect -You are willing to ask yourself hard questions and make changes -You are wiling to take time, money and effort to make significant improvements in your marriage and in yourself GET ACCESS TO THE COURSE TODAY! https://brookeboothcoaching.com/group/ #mixedfaithmarriage #mormonmixedfaithmarriage #faithtransition #faithcrisis #cojcolds #mormon #mormonism #thechurchofjesuschristoflatterdaysaints #churchofjesuschristoflatterdaysaints #lds #coaching #marriage #relationship #exmo #deconstruct #exmormon
Emotional resilience, emotional capability, or emotional maturity is the goal in a mixed faith marriage. This means when emotions come they do not send us spinning (in our thoughts or behavior) or we don’t stay spinning for too long. There are three parts to emotional resilience. (1) Managing your nervous system (2) processing your emotions (3) using emotions as tools to create the behavior you want. Today let's talk about nervous system activation (sometimes called getting triggered, getting your buttons pushed, being emotional). You know of it as the flight, fight, freeze, faun response. Here are some topics or events that have led nervous systems to become activated in my own mixed faith marriage: alcohol (not even drinking it, just discussing drinking it), tithing, baptisms, not attending church, teaching a FHE lesson. I am guessing you have your own similar list. When these things come up, what helps you deal with it? Maybe you know some things that work for you. Implement those techniques without shame or hesitation. This is just as important as nutrition, sleep and exercise. If you don’t know what helps you soothe your activated nervous system, start to get curious, learn and explore what helps. You can start with a google search if you need. Go for walk, take a nap, breathe, separate yourself from others, curl up in a soft blanket. The key here is to not judge yourself for being human. You are not a machine and will never be. Please don’t hate yourself or beat yourself up for having an activated nervous system. It's like hating yourself for getting hungry or needing to go to the bathroom. Have a plan in place so you have an idea of what to do to help yourself. Having and using a plan will help you take better care of yourself so you can re engage in your marriage and family. #mixedfaithmarriage #mormonmixedfaithmarriage #faithtransition #faithcrisis #cojcolds #mormon #mormonism #thechurchofjesuschristoflatterdaysaints #churchofjesuschristoflatterdaysaints #lds #coaching #marriage #relationship #exmo #deconstruct #exmormon
Do you need something for your families this summer? Do you need Children's Time/Moment/Etc. that isn't a bunch of bad object lessons? (Oops... did I say that?) Do you need something for kids to work on during worship? 10 Weeks of Lessons for SUPER cheap... SUPER! Just private message me for details. #faithtutors #childrenstime #Love #progressivefaith #faithtutors #everydayfaith #inspiration #ccdoc #progressivefamilies #religioustrauma #deconstructingfaith #faithtransition #christianity #learnyourbible #godisgood #godislove #christianeducation #youthministry #youthpastor #ministry #solopastor #smallchurchpastor #christianeducation #childrenpastor #faithformation
This is a hard one & also seems necessary when working through trauma or pain caused by said environment. I hope you give yourself permission to step away from a person, place, situation, or space that isn’t meeting you how you need on your healing journey 🫶 . . . Please remember that social media is not a replacement for treatment by a medical professional. This content is created for education and entertainment purposes only. . . . #mentalhealth #healing #traumawork #brainspotting #religioustrauma #postmormon #exmo #exmormon #movement #hope #grief #gratitude #therapy #therapist #traumatherapy #somatichealing #utahtherapist #faithtransition #relationships #californiatherapist #utahtherapist
Having difficulty on your faith journey? Latter-day Seekers Ministry Maybe it is time to consider something different. We do not proselytize anyone in an effort to change their faith. We do, however, invite all who are seeking to, come and see what God can do in their lives in Community of Christ. If you are a transitioning or former Latter-day Saint, we invite you to consider the Restoration anew. Before you leave the Restoration, or faith altogether, please consider our offer of sanctuary. We invite you to experience the peace and meaning that Community of Christ can bring to your life. Latter-day Seekers Ministry introduces Community of Christ to those with a LDS background. We seek dialogue with all people, but do not proselytize. For those happy in their faith, we are happy for you. Check out the LATTER DAY SEEKERS MINISTRY page on our Topeka CofChrist website for information and resources. #FaithTransition #FaithCrisis #FaithJourney #FaithDeconstruction #FaithOverFear #FaithCommunity #FaithInspired #FaithFamily #FindingFaith #FaithOnline #FaithWorks #FaithBased #FaithQuestions #LostFaith #LatterdaySeekers #CofChrist
“The cosmos is so vast that it amazes our minds to try to comprehend limitless space filled with innumerable celestial bodies – some organized, and some unorganized and available for the touch of the creator’s hand. As scientists examine our own Milky Way Galaxy, they may obtain some idea as to the structure and organization of other parts of the universe. One way of considering (on a relatively microscopic scale) the intelligence involved in the design of these magnificent creations is to think about man’s skill in pyrotechnics. Most people have witnessed the magnificent pyrotechnic displays at delightful and enjoyable earthly celebrations that dazzle the eyes of amazed audiences. These fireworks are far more impressive than what you would see in the random explosion of a bundle of dynamite.” The difference in these two events is the touch of intelligence. “All Things Testify of God p.106” robertelasson.com #disciplineequalsfreedom #scienceandreligion #truthandscience #habitsofhealth #meaningoflife #advice #childofgod #lighttheworld #faith #godwins #whatistruth #faithtransition #meaningoflife #whatisreal #isgodreal #faithcrisis #comefollowme #faithoverfear #comeuntochrist #latterdaysaints #ldschurch #thinkcelestial #lighttheworld
Message me to set up a free call to talk about your mixed faith marriage. Coaching can change your marriage, it changed mine. #mixedfaithmarriage #mormonmixedfaithmarriage #faithtransition #faithcrisis #cojcolds #mormon #mormonism #thechurchofjesuschristoflatterdaysaints #churchofjesuschristoflatterdaysaints #lds #coaching #marriage #relationship #exmo #deconstruct #exmormon
Jesus answered her, “If you knew the gift of God and who it is that is saying to you, ‘Give me a drink,’ you would have asked him, and he would have given you living water.” -John 4:10 As I sit working by a pool, I can't help but be reminded of the importance of water in scripture and in life. Take a moment to remember a moment where water gave you life as it did the Woman at the Well. Keep it real as summer unfolds! #faithtutors #keepfaithreal #waterislife #Love #progressivefaith #faithtutors #everydayfaith #inspiration #ccdoc #progressivefamilies #religioustrauma #deconstructingfaith #faithtransition #christianity #learnyourbible #godisgood #godislove #christianeducation #youthministry #youthpastor #ministry #solopastor #smallchurchpastor #christianeducation #childrenpastor #faithformation
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I preached on "integrity" on Sunday. It included God's integrity, our spiritual integrity, and how when we praise something we should do it with integrity. As we keep it "real" - do you engage in spiritual integrity? Examples: People who tell their daughters they can be anything attend churches that don't allow women to be the head leaders. People who feel pressure to do "church" from a place of fear of hell or societal pressure. Maybe people do these things to keep it "easy" in their faith worldview. Yet... real faith... faith with integrity isn't easy. Faith Tutors can help you study your faith so you can respond with more integrity to God's love for the world! It may be hard... but we help keep it bite-sized. :) #keepitreal #faithtutors #Love #progressivefaith #faithtutors #everydayfaith #inspiration #ccdoc #progressivefamilies #religioustrauma #deconstructingfaith #faithtransition #christianity #learnyourbible #godisgood #godislove #christianeducation #youthministry #youthpastor #ministry #solopastor #smallchurchpastor #christianeducation #childrenpastor #faithformation
Having difficulty finding your way on your faith journey? Maybe it is time to consider something different. We offer sanctuary and safe space. Wherever you are on your journey of faith, we invite you to experience the peace and meaning Community of Christ can bring to your life. Community of Christ will help you grow spiritually, discover your purpose, and equip you to be part of Christ’s mission of compassion, justice, and peace. We invite you to join with our people for worship and building community. Latter-daySeekers Ministry introduces Community of Christ to those with an LDS background. We seek dialogue with all people, but do not proselytize. For those happy in their faith, we are happy for you. We invite all who are seeking to come and see what God is doing in Community of Christ. Consider the Restoration anew, one that is "faithful to the spirit of the Restoration, mindful that it is a spirit of adventure, openness, and searching." (CofChrist D&C 161:1b) Emporia Ministry is a Latter-day Seekers Ministry serving east-central Kansas. Please visit us online and on Social Media and see what we have to offer. #InvitetoChrist #InvitePeopletoChrist #SpiritualHome #ForEveryoneBornAPlaceAtTheTable #AllAreWelcome #AllAreWelcomeHere #LatterdaySeekers #FaithTransition #FaithJourney #FaithQuestions #FindingFaith #FaithOnline #FaithDeconstruction #CofChrist
Come, Follow Me with FAIR – Mosiah 25–28; Mosiah 29–Alma 4 – Mike Parker Conversion of Alma & the sons of Mosiah; commencement of the reign of the judges; Nehor & the Amlicites (Mosiah 26–Alma 4) Find this study resource on our website on our blog! #thechurchofjesuschristoflatterdaysaints #lds #faithfulanswers #mormon #comefollowme #ldschurch #churchofjesuschrist #fairmormon #ldsfair #latterdaysaints #sharegoodness #faith #prolds #cfm #jesusisthechrist #mormons #homecenteredchurchsupported #fairlatterdaysaints #bookofmormon #comefollowmestudy #comefollowmebookofmormon #comefollowme2024 #churchresources #cfmresources #faithtransition #scripturestudy #ldscomefollowme
Pull out the bulletin board covered in red thread That’s my favorite thing about the Bible — the connections within it and the layers upon layers to comb through to bring meaning. I am obsessed. It’s why I named it Threaded. I love pulling at all the threads to see where they lead, then weaving them back together once we’ve seen what we’ve got. In fact, every lesson in Threaded includes a short dive into the 4 threads above to help you get a full picture of the passage. Then we weave the threads together to understand the passage and its implications for our lives. Threaded is not just about giving you information, but also walking you through a process. That way even if you never take another Threaded study, you’ll know what layers to peel back in every passage you look at. So you never have to feel overwhelmed looking at the pages of Scripture again. Want to revisit your old favorite kids stories from the Bible and see them fresh? Join us in our summer study! Learn more or join today at KateBoyd.co/threaded or comment “threaded” to get the link in your DMs!
Many know they need boundaries in their mixed faith marriage - they just are not exactly sure when, where and how. In my Free Mini Course I teach a whole section on boundaries and teach you how to avoid control and manipulation so you just set boundaries from a place of love. #mixedfaithmarriage #mormonmixedfaithmarriage #faithtransition #faithcrisis #cojcolds #mormon #mormonism #thechurchofjesuschristoflatterdaysaints #churchofjesuschristoflatterdaysaints #lds #coaching #marriage #relationship
Come, Follow Me with FAIR – Mosiah 25–28 – @comefollowmeautumn | Understanding Requires Belief | Watch and listen on FAIR's Blog at FAIRlatterdaysaints.org (ink in bio/linktree) #thechurchofjesuschristoflatterdaysaints #lds #faithfulanswers #mormon #comefollowme #ldschurch #churchofjesuschrist #fairmormon #ldsfair #latterdaysaints #sharegoodness #faith #prolds #cfm #jesusisthechrist #mormons #homecenteredchurchsupported #fairlatterdaysaints #bookofmormon #comefollowmestudy #comefollowmebookofmormon #comefollowme2024 #churchresources #cfmresources #faithtransition #scripturestudy #ldscomefollowme
As you can imagine, reader there's a pretty wild time difference between Australia and the US. As we moved around, Evan worked a modified schedule to be available for US time meetings. Bless him. At this house sit he worked from 7pm to 3am and then slept until 11 or so. On the weekends he was desperate to catch up on sleep but we also didn't want to turn down a chance to go explore without having to turn in by 7 so he usually pushed through. (We didn't know it, but he had undiagnosed sleep apnea so any sleep he was getting was not very restful.) He was always so tired. Church was at 9am in a city 30 minutes away. Getting to church was really difficult and after a couple weeks my motivation to continue attending was struggling even more. I remember asking Evan if we should just take a break so we could enjoy our weekends. He wasn't really comfortable with that. Until finally he was. A break. I was giddy! And it didn't take long to adjust. We LOVED the extra time and flexibility to explore the Melbourne area! But our parents would call and ask how church was! And we'd have to dodge the question. Beat around the bush. Give half answers. I suspected they were onto us. And I am deeply uncomfortable with not being 100% honest. Transparent even. It was eating me up inside. And so one morning while Evan slept I drafted an email to our families, letting them know I was taking a break from church and presented it to him when he woke up. [Swipe to read it] He begged me not to send it. My email was coming from me and announcing MY stepping back from the church, but he wanted us to make this move together. He still wasn't comfortable stepping away from church and wanted to try to keep going. He did feel like it was starting to hurt more than it helped, but he was not ready to tell anyone about it and he didn't want me to have to absorb the family's response alone. So I said I would wait. But I asked for how long. He asked for one month. One month for him to get on board, and we agreed that after one month if he was still not on board I would announce to our families that I was taking a break from the church. That month mark was Labor Day weekend, 2018.
We’re not impressed, and we’re not buying the bullshit. #exvangelical #exevangelical #whitejesus #exchristian #exmoe #exjw #exfundie #goodwithoutgod #atheist #agnostic #humanist #separationofchurchandstate #whitechristiannationalism #religioustrauma #spiritualtrauma #faithtransition #deconstruction #deconstructingfaith #deconstructioncommunity #republicanhypocrisy #smashthepatriarchy #affirming #leavingchristianity #igotout #jesusfreak #bibleeveryday #sundaymorning #freedomofreligion #freedomfromreligion #cynaneshay
I’ll never forget the day a supervisor who wasn’t super familiar with Mormonism reached out to me with a screenshot of one of the churches marketing ads directed toward members that said to, “doubt your doubts”. He was blown away at the idea that people grow up with messages like this and are still okay?! The brazenness with which members were being told to turn off their brains. I remember laughing to myself as we chatted because this is such a staple message from that organization. We are that saying for breakfast! 😆 Especially for us millennials! Breaking free from ‘Doubt your doubts’ and embracing the journey to trust ourselves again is essential, no matter where you land. Critical thinking and healthy cognitive dissonance are keys to our healing. 🌱 👉🏼 Follow @mellissaperrytherapy for practical tips from a therapist who gets it. 🧠 Disclaimer- nothing on this Instagram account should be considered therapy or therapeutic advice. This account was created for educational and entertainment purposes only. These opinions and perspectives represent my experience alone and do not represent any larger organization, business, or practice. 🛋️ To Schedule: click the link in bio, email me [email protected], or use this 🔗 https://storiescounseling.clientsecure.me/ #aztherapist #arizonatherapist #gilbertherapist #mesatherapist #phoenixtherapist #azmentalhealth #licensedtherapist #postmormonmentalhealth #faithtransition #mormonfaithcrisis
I am a coach for Mormons in mixed faith marriage. I know many people think a mixed faith marriage is HARD and coaching is expensive. That may be true. Sometimes really good things are hard. Sometimes really valuable things are expensive (I like to call them investments). Hard things can also be AMAZING. Investments can be a GREAT VALUE. You marriage can be hard AND good AND wonderful AND challenging. Magic happens when we let hard things be hard or expensive things be expensive and not make it a problem. When we expect it to be hard we don’t freak out when its a little hard. When we expect it to be an investment we don’t stop moving towards our goals. We keep moving forward. We do not have a lot of drama about getting help or entering a new phase in our marriage. THAT is the magic. That is what makes hard things easy. When we are able to lose the drama and anguish and not make our experience in the world a problem. Your mixed faith marriage can be hard and easy. Getting help for your marriage can be an investment and a great value. Your mixed faith marriage is NOT a problem to be solved. There may be tools you need to learn. There may be ideas to consider. BUT it is NOT a problem. Coaching may be a tool you need (pretty good chance it is). Message me and grab one of the few free calls I have open on my calendar. #mixedfaithmarriage #mormonmixedfaithmarriage #faithtransition #faithcrisis #cojcolds #mormon #mormonism #thechurchofjesuschristoflatterdaysaints #churchofjesuschristoflatterdaysaints #lds #coaching #marriage #relationship #exmo #deconstruct #exmormon
It’s coming, friend. Don’t you worry. #lifecoach #lifecoaching #dreams #goals #futurefocused #goalgetter #possibility #abundance #lifetransitions #lifetransition #lifequakes #lifequake #transition #transitions #opportunityknocks #intuition #followyourgut #hope #keepgoing #faithtransition #faithcrisis #hope #Godisbigger
I've got a home study course for you. It's packed full of the the tools and teachings needed to have a successful mixed faith marriage. It's based on cognitive work and emotional processing. Which means - it works and is sustainable long term. You can do it on your own time and at your own pace. The best feature is that you have lifetime access and can come back and refresh and fine tune a concept or teaching at any time. This means if something comes up next month or next year or in three years, I've got you covered. You can share your access to the course with your spouse. In fact, I WANT you to share your login credentials with your spouse so they can benefit from the course too! https://brookeboothcoaching.com/group/ #mixedfaithmarriage #mormonmixedfaithmarriage #faithtransition #faithcrisis #cojcolds #mormon #mormonism #thechurchofjesuschristoflatterdaysaints #churchofjesuschristoflatterdaysaints #lds #coaching #marriage #relationship #exmo #deconstruct #exmormon
Did you used to think these were not possible unless you were connecting to God in JUST the right way?🤚🏿 🤚🏼🤚🏾🤚🏻 There are a lot of really tough things about deconstructing your beliefs, but one of the amazing discoveries is that you STILL have access to all that goodness... and more! ✨ It was within YOU all along, and it’s still there! ✨ This is a topic we dive deep into at Happy Whole U (Our signature course & coaching program) that we have completely updated! ▶️ (Link in our bio) to join the fall waitlist, Find out more & save 💰! XOXO, Cara + Rachael #DeconstructingFaith #DeConversion #Exvangelical #Exvangelicals #exfundie #ExFundamentalist #exmormom #exmo #exjw #FaithDeconstruction #faithtransition #igotout #InwardJourney #SelfHealers #SelfHealingJourney #SelfHealingTools #SpiritualHealth #spiritualabuse #spiritualcoach #SelfLovery #SelfHeal #SelfHealer #Selftrust
Do you know what the liturgical year includes? It is basically a way for the church to celebrate different learnings throughout the year. Clearly... my dog DID NOT want to learn about the liturgical year, and ate my new sticker yesterday before it made it onto a quality sticker place. (Keeping it real!) But... if you want to learn more. https://www.teachingcatholickids.com/the-liturgical-year-a-journey-with-jesus/ #keepitreal #illustratedministry #faithtutors #pepperpudegrove #Love #progressivefaith #faithtutors #everydayfaith #inspiration #ccdoc #progressivefamilies #religioustrauma #deconstructingfaith #faithtransition #christianity #learnyourbible #godisgood #godislove #christianeducation #youthministry #youthpastor #ministry #solopastor #smallchurchpastor #christianeducation #childrenpastor #faithformation
**🪡 Summer study FAQs** I know a new study always brings new questions! So here are the most frequently asked that may help you decide if our summer study is right for you! Visit my story (or the Threaded story highlight on my profile) for the most asked questions! Still have a Q? Drop it here for me to answer! Ready to jump in with us? Comment “threaded” to get the link to join today in your inbox!
Have you ever considered your emotions are tools you can use to have a great mixed faith marriage? This is a powerful concept. I used to think my emotions sort of happened to me. I had no control or influence over them. I was at the dispense of my emotions. This was a very disempowering way of dealing with emotions for me in my mixed faith marriage, I would often blame my spouse for my emotions. When we show up taking action in our mixed faith marriage (initiating a conversation, responding to a question, making decisions, touching or not touching, talking or not talking, etc) it is because of an emotion. Our emotions are the fuel to our actions. If you want to take or not take certain actions - look to your emotions. If there is a discussion that needs to take place - say about kids going to church or bringing coffee into the house or whatever - What emotion do you want to fuel your part of that discussion? When I am feeling curious I speak to my spouse is a certain way that is different than when I feel disappointed. When I feel sad I act differently than when I feel committed. This is how I use emotions as tools. I decide how I want to show up and I line up the emotion to help me show up that way. I may ask - What emotion would best serve me for this conversation/discussion? Then I cultivate that emotion instead of just hoping it shows up or waiting for someone to make me feel a certain way. What is something you want to do or say in your MFM? What emotion can you use as fuel to do that thing? How can you cultivate that emotion? For more resources on this go to the Mormon Mixed Faith Marriage Podcast. #mixedfaithmarriage #mormonmixedfaithmarriage #faithtransition #faithcrisis #cojcolds #mormon #mormonism #thechurchofjesuschristoflatterdaysaints #churchofjesuschristoflatterdaysaints #lds #coaching #marriage #relationship #exmo #deconstruct #exmormon
Have you found good ways to have interfaith and interbelief conversations? Share them! #churchofjesuschristoflatterdaysaints #bookofmormon #latterdaysaints #jesuschrist #thechurchofjesuschristoflatterdaysaints #jesus #faith #latterdaysaint #christian #christ #interfaith #josephsmith #god #church #exmormon #mormon #postmormon #exchristian #athiest #religion #faithtransition #ldschurch #bookofmormon #christianity #faithcrisis #byu #skeptic #deconstruction #exmo
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Did you get the newsletter? Do you want to know how to access the stories that go along with these amazing images by Lauren Knipper? If so... message me, and I will share with a great summer deal for those needing something for children's time, worship bags, and home. Where are we storing our treasures this summer? #faithtutors #Love #progressivefaith #faithtutors #everydayfaith #inspiration #ccdoc #progressivefamilies #religioustrauma #deconstructingfaith #faithtransition #christianity #learnyourbible #godisgood #godislove #christianeducation #youthministry #youthpastor #ministry #solopastor #smallchurchpastor #christianeducation #childrenpastor #faithformation
Got Questions? Latter-day Seekers Ministry If you are a member of the LDS community and are continuing to struggle on your faith journey, our Latter-day Seeker Ministry may be a great resource for you. Not only does this ministry provide an opportunity to learn more about the Community of Christ, but it also offers a welcoming and inclusive community for those who may feel isolated or disconnected from their current faith community. This ministry encourages dialogue and open-mindedness, which can help you gain a deeper appreciation for other perspectives and beliefs. By engaging with a community of seekers who share your background, you may find a sense of belonging and connection that you may not have experienced before. You can explore new ways of thinking about faith and spirituality without feeling pressured to abandon your current beliefs. The ministry offers a safe and supportive space to ask questions, share your experiences, and learn from others. Our Latter-day Seekers Ministry is a great place to connect with others who are on a similar journey of seeking, learning, and growing. Whether you're looking to expand your understanding of faith or simply want to connect with like-minded individuals, this ministry may be a valuable resource for you. You will find Topeka CofChrist on Social Media, and check the LATTER DAY SEEKERS MINISTRY page on our website for Community of Christ Latter-day Seekers Ministry resources. https://www.topekacommunityofchrist.com/latter-day-seekers.html #FaithTransition #FaithCrisis #FaithJourney #FaithDeconstruction #FaithOverFear #FindingFaith #FaithQuestions #LostFaith #LatterdaySeekers #CofChrist
It is time to get to work on your mixed faith marriage? Message me and ask about my next group coaching program - Strengthening Your Mixed Faith Marriage. This program is tailored for Mormon mixed faith marriages. Learn how to change how you approach your mixed faith marriage to create more connection, respect and satisfaction. https://brookeboothcoaching.com/group/ #mixedfaithmarriage #mormonmixedfaithmarriage #faithtransition #faithcrisis #cojcolds #mormon #mormonism #thechurchofjesuschristoflatterdaysaints #churchofjesuschristoflatterdaysaints #lds #coaching #marriage #relationship #exmo #deconstruct #exmormon
Wow, such overwhelmingly great reception on this week’s episode with @tammykae84 - LDS Faith Transition and Reframing Values and Spirituality with TAMARA JACOBS. Thank you so much to Tamara for this heartfelt, vulnerable conversation where she shares her story and beautiful thoughts like this 🤍. If you haven’t had a chance to listen yet don’t miss this thoughtful conversation on faith & spirituality, available wherever you get your podcasts. Links to listen in our bio & stories! #podcast #beautifulshiftspodcast
Recently, I had a hard decision to make in my business. Staying where I was at felt familiar, but it was no longer aligning with my goals. Letting go of what wasn’t serving me seemed scary. I’m guessing you’ve felt like this before. One hand on what is familiar but no longer yours, the other hand ready to release and let go so new opportunities could come. So how do you decide what to do? How do you let go when it’s time? You trust. You trust your gut, your intuition, your knowing. You believe that this opportunity has served you well, and there are SO MANY more on their way as well. You practice thinking that whatever is coming wants to be in your life as much as you want it. And you let go. Not surprisingly, within days of my decision, 6 new opportunities came my way. SIX! If I had stayed in the same place, at least 5 of them would have had to be a “maybe some other time.” Now, with the decision made, I was able to be a hell yes! to all of them. What’s holding you back, friend? What might you be holding on to so tightly that you’re not allowing for what’s coming for you? Will you be ready when it comes? Or will you be stuck - in indecision, in fear, in a graspy or scarcity energy? Opportunities are coming. How will you answer? #lifecoach #lifecoaching #dreams #goals #possibility #abundance #lifetransitions #lifetransition #lifequakes #lifequake #transition #transitions #opportunityknocks #intuition #followyourgut #faithtransition #faithcrisis #hope #Godisbigger
My hope for this group is to create a confidential, safe space for women to process the impact of Mormonism. The intention of group will be centered on building community, increasing connection, and creating support. Please email me directly if you would like to sign-up, space is limited 🤍 . . . Please remember that social media is not a replacement for treatment by a medical professional. This content is created for education and entertainment purposes only. . . . #mentalhealth #healing #traumawork #brainspotting #religioustrauma #postmormon #exmo #exmormon #movement #hope #grief #gratitude #therapy #therapist #traumatherapy #somatichealing #utahtherapist #faithtransition #relationships #californiatherapist #utahtherapist
“There was much more to my reading than just marking scriptures. With each reading of the Book of Mormon, front to back, I was filled with a profound love for the Lord. I felt a deeply rooted witness of the truth of His teachings and how they apply to ‘this day.’ This book fits its title, ‘Another Testament of Jesus Christ.’ With that study and the spiritual witness that was received, I became a Book of Mormon missionary and a disciple of Jesus Christ” Ronald A. Rasband,“This Day” See Preach My Gospel Chapter 5: Use the Power of the Book of Mormon #thechurchofjesuschristoflatterdaysaints #lds #faithfulanswers #mormon #comefollowme #ldschurch #churchofjesuschrist #fairmormon #ldsfair #latterdaysaints #sharegoodness #faith #prolds #cfm #jesusisthechrist #mormons #homecenteredchurchsupported #fairlatterdaysaints #bookofmormon #comefollowmestudy #comefollowmebookofmormon #comefollowme2024 #churchresources #cfmresources #faithtransition #scripturestudy #ldscomefollowme
Paul is one of our newest therapists with a unique background in law! Paul has immediate openings for new clients at Course Counseling! You can meet with him online or in person - contact us by texting 801.880.3395 or calling 801.901.3330. We are so lucky to have Paul on our team at Course Counseling! #therapy #utahtherapist #trauma #PTSD #anxiety #depression #LGBTQ #faithtransition #lifetransition #identitytransition #selfimprovement #healing #betterhelp #selflove #selfcare #affordabletherapy #counseling #marriagetherapy #anxietytherapy #anxious #depressed #help
Come, Follow Me with FAIR – Mosiah 18–24 – Mike Parker Ammon’s expedition; Limhi & Alma’s escape to Zarahemla | (Mosiah 7–8, 18–25) Go to our blog on our website at FAIRlatterdaysaints.org (link in linktree/bio) to find this great Come, Follow Me Resource. #thechurchofjesuschristoflatterdaysaints #lds #faithfulanswers #mormon #comefollowme #ldschurch #churchofjesuschrist #fairmormon #ldsfair #latterdaysaints #sharegoodness #faith #prolds #cfm #jesusisthechrist #mormons #homecenteredchurchsupported #fairlatterdaysaints #bookofmormon #comefollowmestudy #comefollowmebookofmormon #comefollowme2024 #churchresources #cfmresources #faithtransition #scripturestudy #ldscomefollowme
LDS Faith Transition and Reframing Values and Spirituality with TAMARA JACOBS - Out today! Today we are joined by Tamara Jacobs, one of Lindsay’s closest lifelong friends! In this thoughtful conversation Tamara shares about her LDS faith transition including her experience growing up in the church, what led to her faith transition, and how she has reframed and rebuilt values and spirituality. Tamara shares aspects of deconstructing that were pivotal for her personally as well as in raising her children, and helpful perspectives on reframing values and spirituality after such a big life shift. Tamara has a beautiful way with words in this heartfelt, vulnerable conversation. We know her insights will help many people going through similar transitions, and in bridging understanding. Thank you, Tamara, for coming on Beautiful Shifts and sharing your story! Tamara is a wife, mother of four, and is an intervention aide at an elementary school. She loves to read, write, go on walks, and enjoys music and creativity. Find Tamara @tammykae84 where she shares fun tidbits of her life, books she’s reading, and creative inspiration. 🎧Available wherever you get your podcasts. Links to listen in our bio & stories! Thanks for listening! 🤍 #podcast #faithtransition #conversation #listening #beautifulshiftspodcast
Despite Utah’s overall lack of acknowledgement of the impact of Mormonism on mental health, the most prevalent issue showing up in my therapy practice is Mormon religious trauma. For those going through it, I believe you, you are not alone, and healing is possible. What else would you add for someone who is struggling? . . . Please remember that social media is not a replacement for treatment by a medical professional. This content is created for education and entertainment purposes only. . . . #mentalhealth #healing #traumawork #brainspotting #religioustrauma #postmormon #exmo #exmormon #movement #hope #grief #gratitude #therapy #therapist #traumatherapy #somatichealing #utahtherapist #faithtransition #relationships #californiatherapist #utahtherapist
In my previous post, I referenced the 6 stages of Faith. Fowler developed a theory of six stages people go through as their faith matures. The basic theory can be applied, not only to those in traditional faiths, but those who follow alternative spiritualities or secular worldviews as well. Faith expansions often occur in the transition from stage 3 to stage 4. Stage 4 is often full of angst, anger, and dissonance and can take several years to move through. Tap the link in bio for more info + a printable download on Fowler's Stages of Faith. #drjuliehanks #fowlersstagesoffaith #jamesfowler #faithexpansion #faithjourney #lds #latterdaysaints #mormon #faithcrisis #faithtransition
When someone has been hurtful or abusive towards you, give yourself permission to disengage. Their pain and the pain they caused is not yours to fix. . . . Please remember that social media is not a replacement for treatment by a medical professional. This content is created for education and entertainment purposes only. . . . #mentalhealth #healing #traumawork #brainspotting #religioustrauma #postmormon #exmo #exmormon #movement #hope #grief #gratitude #therapy #therapist #traumatherapy #somatichealing #utahtherapist #faithtransition #relationships #californiatherapist #utahtherapist
It’s really no wonder that Mormonism maintains the stronghold it does on people & communities. . . . Please remember that social media is not a replacement for treatment by a medical professional. This content is created for education and entertainment purposes only. . . . #mentalhealth #healing #traumawork #brainspotting #religioustrauma #postmormon #exmo #exmormon #movement #hope #grief #gratitude #therapy #therapist #traumatherapy #somatichealing #utahtherapist #faithtransition #relationships #californiatherapist #utahtherapist
These three things I was doing were making my mixed faith marriage worse. In fact, these three things were causing me to show up in my marriage full of fear, negativity and hopelessness. When I was able to stop these three things it opened the door to respect, connection and love. It was like a breath of fresh air and helped my turn things around completely in my own marriage. I have a free training video where I walk you through the three simple things I was doing that were stopping me from having a great LDS/Mormon mixed faith marriage. Click on the LINK to get instant access to my free training video. https://mailchi.mp/6693c4461c40/1yma9l0t1o You can have a great LDS/Mormon mixed faith marriage, it is totally possible. - Brooke #mixedfaithmarriage #mormonmixedfaithmarriage #faithtransition #faithcrisis #cojcolds #mormon #mormonism #thechurchofjesuschristoflatterdaysaints #churchofjesuschristoflatterdaysaints #lds #coaching #marriage #relationship
Growing up in Utah within a devout Mormon family, Rosana inherited her parents’ beliefs but soon found herself grappling with the suffocating pressures of conformity and cultural expectations. Despite her upbringing in a community steeped in faith, Rosana’s experience with church rituals and teachings left her feeling disconnected and disillusioned. The rigid standards imposed by the Mormon culture clashed with Rosana’s innate sense of self, leading to a profound internal struggle and a desperate quest for liberation. Against the backdrop of financial strain and familial discord, Rosana’s journey was fraught with emotional turmoil and abuse, highlighting the devastating impact of religious indoctrination on individual well-being. Through introspection and resilience, Rosana ultimately found the courage to break free from the shackles of Mormonism, reclaiming her autonomy and charting a path toward healing and self-discovery. Her story underscores the importance of fostering open dialogue, empathy, and mental health awareness within religious communities, offering hope and inspiration to those navigating similar struggles. “It seemed unacceptable if you or your family doubted any beliefs or weren’t fitting the Mormon mold… I was constantly told who I was supposed to be in this life, how I was supposed to act and feel and that never aligned with my soul. I was told to date a certain way, to get married a specific way to a specific type of person and I was supposed to make babies. I felt pressure to conform to church standards and believe things that I didn’t care about.” – Rosanna This is a spotlight on a profile shared at wasmormon.org. These are just the highlights, so please find the full story at https://wasmormon.org/profile/rosanna1818/. There are stories of Mormon faith journeys contributed by hundreds of users like you. Come check them out and consider sharing your own story at wasmormon.org! #iwasamormon #Mormon #lds #church #faithtransition #deconstruction #ldschurch #religion #faith #ldsquotes #conformity #mormonism #mentalhealth #talk #dysfunctionalfamily #doubt #whyileft #exmormon #exmo #exlds #emotionalabuse #togetherforever #exmormonbecause
THIS TUESDAY the Faith Tutor's Newsletter has an AMAZING OFFER for summer! If you haven't signed up for the newsletter, NOW it a great time. (It is super easy!) Invite those friends who are looking for ways to expand their faith at home. (Hint: Those who have or work with young children may like this offer best!) https://forms.gle/mzAWEHcQqU8GXSo47 #faithtutors #Love #progressivefaith #faithtutors #everydayfaith #inspiration #ccdoc #progressivefamilies #religioustrauma #deconstructingfaith #faithtransition #christianity #learnyourbible #godisgood #godislove #christianeducation #youthministry #youthpastor #ministry #solopastor #smallchurchpastor #christianeducation #childrenpastor #faithformation
Our first Sunday at church was overwhelming. I was shocked to find that instead of a new take on Mormonism, Mormonism in Australia; a different culture on the other side of the planet, was even more hard set on conformity and assimilation to Utah Mormonism than I'd experienced in Georgia. I was devastated. It felt like I had stepped back in time. Back to late 80’s/early 90’s Mormonism. It didn't feel like it had evolved even into the Mormonism I found myself at crisis with. I was uncomfortable almost the entire time. The same scratchy walls. The talks. The suits. Yes! Even the suits were something out of the 90’s, it was the wildest thing. I felt suffocated. Wanted to crawl right out of my skin. The sister missionaries were very persistent. Kept inviting themselves over to a house we didn't own even when I told them I was not sure about it. I remember feeling very suspicious that our family had called ahead of us and prepared the ward for our arrival… that's a whole thing in Mormonism! There was ONE breath of fresh air. One single person I felt like I could connect with that day. The woman teaching the Relief Society lesson. She wore pants and cool Oxford shoes and had an adult special needs daughter who spoke through an iPad. They had a special bond and I found their affection for each other absolutely endearing. She got my contact information and we ended up meeting for hot cocoa one day. (Remember, July is the dead of winter in Australia.) She met me at a spot close to our housesit and walked in with a gorgeous bouquet of flowers. If I'm honest, there was a moment of panic reader. For a second there it started to feel a little more like a date than it did a “visiting teacher” scenario. She was overwhelmingly kind and generous and in all fairness cheers to her for looking out for someone SO far from home. It's fully possible she is just THAT kind! I don't recall how but we did find ourselves talking about struggles with the church and she was encouraging me to stick with it so I have always been suspicious that she had been asked by our family to befriend us and support us and help keep us anchored in the church. I mean. She gets an A for effort.
Come, Follow Me with FAIR – Mosiah 18–24 – @comefollowmeautumn | "They Were Just Dancing" "This post will probably not be a popular one, at least in terms of the world, but it’s definitely an important one. One of the stories we read about this week is painful and tragic. Mosiah 20:1 Now there was a place in Shemlon where the daughters of the Lamanites did gather themselves together to sing, and to dance, and to make themselves merry. While these daughters were dancing and enjoying themselves, the wicked priests of King Noah abducted 24 of them and married them. This actually snowballs into a battle where a lot of people die because the Lamanites blame Limhi’s people for taking their daughters. Now, we have no idea what the scriptures mean by singing, dancing, and making merry. I had dance parties with my girlfriends all the time when I was young. We know that when Laman and Lemuel were making merry, they were sinning, but we don’t know if that’s actually what they were trying to imply right here. I’m not going to assume that these girls were doing anything wrong, but I’m still going to use the story to teach a principle."... .."Which leads me to what I want to teach today." You can continue reading on FAIR's blog at FAIRlatterdaysaints.org #thechurchofjesuschristoflatterdaysaints #lds #faithfulanswers #mormon #comefollowme #ldschurch #churchofjesuschrist #fairmormon #ldsfair #latterdaysaints #sharegoodness #faith #prolds #cfm #jesusisthechrist #mormons #homecenteredchurchsupported #fairlatterdaysaints #bookofmormon #comefollowmestudy #comefollowmebookofmormon #comefollowme2024 #churchresources #cfmresources #faithtransition #scripturestudy #ldscomefollowme
One of the foundational pieces of Faith Tutors, is the reality that in life we need to have "reboot" moments. It is part of keeping it "real". After lots of energy getting the first steps of Faith Tutors started, the rest of life caught up with me the past few weeks. (Two jobs, two kids, one husband, one dog, and the moment when all your library books come off the "hold" list will do that!) The resources, however, are still ready at any time. https://www.progressivefaithathome.org/lessonguide #faithtutors #Love #progressivefaith #faithtutors #everydayfaith #inspiration #ccdoc #progressivefamilies #religioustrauma #deconstructingfaith #faithtransition #christianity #learnyourbible #godisgood #godislove #christianeducation #youthministry #youthpastor #ministry #solopastor #smallchurchpastor #christianeducation #childrenpastor #faithformation #realfaith #keepitreal #rebootfaith
Here are three things I believe it takes to have a great mixed faith marriage. 1. time 2. attention 3. personal development (inner work, emotional intelligence, emotional maturation - which takes time and attention!) Our society is not set up to make this easy. Our time and attention are at a premium these days. Here is a snap shot of our lives - I am guessing they are similar to yours. Both of us work. We have four kids. We are remodeling our house. We have large extended families. Add on top of that church commitments and responsibilities. Every now and then I have to pause and take a little audit on my life to make sure I am taking care of these three things. I try not to use this to beat myself up or feel overwhelmed but to gather information. Time - This will look different for different seasons and may even change on a week to week basis. Here is what I ask myself: Do I have dedicated time for my marriage each week/month? Why or why not? Am I spending time (a lot or a little) to nurture my relationship? Is it enough? What is enough? Attention - How do you use that time I have set aside? How do I use the little interactions that come up - passing in the hall? cleaning up after dinner? Going to Costco? Little things can add up to big things. Personal Development - (inner work, emotional intelligence, emotional maturation). Am I developing me? Nurturing me? Growing me? Am I feelings my emotions? Am I taking the time and resources to take care of my marriage (and by definition me)? Ready to make some changes? Let's talk. #mixedfaithmarriage #mormonmixedfaithmarriage #faithtransition #faithcrisis #cojcolds #mormon #mormonism #thechurchofjesuschristoflatterdaysaints #churchofjesuschristoflatterdaysaints #lds #coaching #marriage #relationship #exmo #deconstruct #exmormon
Because brainspotting has given my eyes on my backside 👁️ This method of healing has taught me how to trust my intuition. It has helped me uncover & release traumas (cue Mormon religious trauma 🤣) that I didn’t realize were taking such a toll on my brain and body. I can recognize red flags in relationships quicker and am able to walk away from environments that are damaging to my nervous system. I am more present and centered. I have a sense of calm. Brainspotting has allowed me to see more clearly, even when I am not looking ✨ Brainspotting therapy has been transformative for myself personally and so many I work with. From releasing trauma, to targeting anxiety to enhancing creativity, Brainspotting supports the nervous system in many ways. Reach out if you want to learn more 🫶 . . . Please remember that social media is not a replacement for treatment by a medical professional. This content is created for education and entertainment purposes only. . . . #mentalhealth #healing #traumawork #brainspotting #religioustrauma #postmormon #exmo #exmormon #movement #hope #grief #gratitude #therapy #therapist #traumatherapy #somatichealing #utahtherapist #faithtransition #relationships #californiatherapist #utahtherapist
At a training I attended several years ago, I introduced myself to a Mormon coach and I let her know that I coach post-Mormons. When I boldly told her that leaving the church had been a good choice for me—without missing a beat—she looked me in the eye and said, “I believe you.” 🪑 I almost fell off my chair. I had no idea how powerful those three words could be. "I believe you" was what I least expected to hear and what I had never allowed myself to hope for. I still tear up when I think about it. 👉 This was the moment I realized that "I believe you" is one of the statements post-Mormons really want to hear from family and friends. "I believe you" can feel better than "I love you." Why? 👉 Because, in Mormonism, love is a commandment.. Mormons are supposed to "love you." ❗But no one at church teaches Mormons to "believe" those who leave the church. When an active/faithful Mormon believes a post-Mormon, they are demonstrating that they don't know what's right or best for another person. That's authentic humility, not the type of humility taught in LDS lesson books. Authentic humility opens the door to meaningful, emotionally safe relationships. And, in my experience, it's beautiful to witness. ❓️ What's your experience?
"Cultural Context of the Book of Mormon" by Brant Gardner at the 2001 FAIR Conference. Watch one of our presentations from the past. Transcript included. #thechurchofjesuschristoflatterdaysaints #bookofmormon #bom #mormon #mormons #fairlatterdaysaints #fairmormon #fairlds #faith #christian #josephsmith #lds #latterdaysaints #churchhistory #ldsprophet #mormonprophet #prolds #faithtransition #evidenceofbookofmormon
May is Mental Health Awareness month. 🩷 How are you holding up? I have found as time goes on things don't actually get easier, but it's possible to get better at handling the hard. Learning how to manage the change and stress in life is an ongoing process. We are all here just trying to figure it out. If you need extra support, someone to be in your corner or a confidential safe space, therapy is great! I'm taking new clients Mon/Tues with morning/afternoon spots open 💕 Telehealth available with an office space coming next month! #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealth #mentalillness #depressionrelief #anxiety #anxietyawareness #traumarecovery #truama #faithcrisis #faithtrauma #faithtransition #postpartum #perinatalmentalhealth #relationships #grief #loss
I've got a home study course for you. It's packed full of the the tools and teachings needed to have a successful mixed faith marriage. It's based on cognitive work and emotional processing. Which means - it works and is sustainable long term. You can do it on your own time and at your own pace. The best feature is that you have lifetime access and can come back and refresh and fine tune a concept or teaching at any time. This means if something comes up next month or next year or in three years, I've got you covered. You can share your access to the course with your spouse. In fact, I WANT you to share your login credentials with your spouse so they can benefit from the course too! https://brookeboothcoaching.com/group/ #mixedfaithmarriage #mormonmixedfaithmarriage #faithtransition #faithcrisis #cojcolds #mormon #mormonism #thechurchofjesuschristoflatterdaysaints #churchofjesuschristoflatterdaysaints #lds #coaching #marriage #relationship #exmo #deconstruct #exmormon
Facebook Meta tells me it is World Baking Day! So... let's celebrate with a little biblical knowledge. While bread may not be good for our waistline... bread matters in the Bible! Bread is used to describe the kin-dom of heaven. It is used to describe Jesus. It is used to feed people in the wilderness. There are festivals for bread. Bread matters! Parable of Leaven: Matthew 13:33 Festival of Bread: Exodus 12:15 Jesus is the bread of life: John 6:35 Manna from Heaven: Exodus 16:14-15 #faithtutors #Love #progressivefaith #faithtutors #everydayfaith #inspiration #ccdoc #progressivefamilies #religioustrauma #deconstructingfaith #faithtransition #christianity #learnyourbible #godisgood #godislove #christianeducation #youthministry #youthpastor #ministry #solopastor #smallchurchpastor #christianeducation #childrenpastor #faithformation #ilovebread #internationalbakingday
I genuinely believe and have witnessed this to be true for so many I work with. Often I notice it is difficult to address trauma when we continue to be immersed in the environment that is inflicting the pain. It feels too unsafe for the nervous system to go there so sometimes leaving the harmful environment is the first step for the healing process to begin. What I want anyone struggling with Mormonism to know- it is okay if you need to step away to take care of yourself 🫶 . . . Please remember that social media is not a replacement for treatment by a medical professional. This content is created for education and entertainment purposes only. . . . #mentalhealth #healing #traumawork #brainspotting #religioustrauma #postmormon #exmo #exmormon #movement #hope #grief #gratitude #therapy #therapist #traumatherapy #somatichealing #utahtherapist #faithtransition #relationships #californiatherapist #utahtherapist
Religious doctrine not adding up? Maybe it is time to consider something different. We do not proselytize anyone in an effort to change their faith. We do, however, invite all who are seeking to, come and see what God can do in their lives in Community of Christ. If you are a transitioning or former Latter-day Saint, we invite you to consider the Restoration anew. Before you leave the Restoration, or faith altogether, please consider our offer of sanctuary. We invite you to experience the peace and meaning that Community of Christ can bring to your life. Latter-day Seekers Ministry introduces #CommunityofChrist to those with a LDS background. We seek dialogue with all people, but do not proselytize. For those happy in their faith, we are happy for you. Check out the “LATTER DAY SEEKERS MINISTRY” page of our #TopekaCofChrist website for #LatterdaySeekers Ministry resources. https://www.topekacommunityofchrist.com/latter-day-seekers.html #FaithTransition #FaithCrisis #FaithJourney #FaithDeconstruction #FaithOverFear #FaithCommunity #FaithInspired #FaithFamily #FindingFaith #FaithOnline #FaithWorks #FaithBased #FaithQuestions #LostFaith #LatterdaySeekers #CofChrist
Due to the inability to reconcile “evil,” pain, and death with an all-loving god, people will often go to great lengths to keep the image they have of “God” good. To the point of making god the most talented contortionist, they twist and pull and bend their theology to make sense of what they see in the world; to make sense of what does not make sense. I was reminded recently of this tendency after reading a tragic post about a child who had been critically and horribly injured who was part of a family that identifies as Christians. Often in these situation, instead of acceptance and grief (which is hella hard, no doubt), there’s often an intense wave of faith that god will heal their child followed by prayer for a miracle and asking one’s community to pray. Finally, when the miracle sadly doesn’t occur, it’s time the contortionist act. “God has a plan.” “God knows, we just can’t see it.” We’ve all been there: the person who whispers to the mother who just lost her baby, “Well, God must have missed them too much and needed them back in heaven!” Or the friend who tells their neighbor, “I’m sure God has a plan,” when their spouse tragically dies from cancer. Or those who believe a terrible war and the killing of thousands of innocents can be justified by of an old story about the Holy Land and the side they believe their god to be on. Why can’t they just say to the mother, “I’m sorry for your loss,” and sit gently by her side, with her in her grief and acceptance? Why can’t they hold the friend’s hand as they walk through tragedy, without saying there’s a plan that ties everything up with a perfect bow? Because they have to keep god good. To imagine otherwise is too terrible and overwhelming to conceive. It’s too scary, too much. It threatens the foundation they’ve built everything on. To say, “I don’t know,” may be the brick moved that causes the whole tower to topple. And so the contortionist act continues, until god is so twisted up that they can no longer see straight, until they no longer resemble any likeness of good or love. (I want to make it clear I’m not judging those that have this need to defend their god’s goodness. I was there once too…)
#parentingbeyondbelief #parentingadvice #faithtransition #mixedfaithfamily #mixedfaithparenting
One reason emotions have a bad reputation and are considered problems is that unprocessed emotions can cause some ugly behavior. Here is a mixed faith marriage (MFM) example: You are feeling lonely and you complain to your spouse about their new post-Mormon friends or the time it takes to do their calling. It seems like anger or loneliness are the problem, but those are simply normal human emotions. Reacting to the anger and yelling is the problem. Learning how to feel and process emotions is an effective way to avoid behavior that is often the result of resisting an emotion. Resisting emotions looks like - Reacting- yelling, hitting, temper tantrum, passive aggressive Ignoring - hoping it goes away, judging emotions as bad Distract/numb- don't want to allow or feel emotions so we buffer, distract, numb with “over behavior” such as over eating, over shopping, over working, etc. Processing emotions looks like feeling the emotion(s) in your body and allowing it to be present without judgment, without criticism, without rushing. You FEEL the feeling. People who process their emotions do not lose their temper. Resisting emotions leads to the behavior we regret. What is the emotion you feel the most in your MFM? Are you resisting it? Can you take some time to feel it in your body? Where do you feel it? Is is moving or holding still? Does it have a texture? Does it have a shape? These questions are silly, I know. The purpose is to get you FEELING and ALLOWING your emotions and not resisting them. You may need to process an emotion if you are repeating any of the following behavior in your mixed faith marriage: -Sarcasm (more than is your norm) -Snarky comments or jabs at the other -Passive aggression -Silence or stonewalling -Excessive crying -Any behavior you don’t want and can’t seem to stop Listen to the podcast Mormon Mixed Faith Marriage Podcast for more details on emotional processing. #mixedfaithmarriage #mormonmixedfaithmarriage #faithtransition #faithcrisis #cojcolds #mormon #mormonism #thechurchofjesuschristoflatterdaysaints #churchofjesuschristoflatterdaysaints #lds #coaching #marriage #relationship #exmo #deconstruct #exmormon
Sending love and healing to anyone who needs it on their grief journey 🫶 . . . Please remember that social media is not a replacement for treatment by a medical professional. This content is created for education and entertainment purposes only. . . . #mentalhealth #healing #traumawork #brainspotting #religioustrauma #postmormon #exmo #exmormon #movement #hope #grief #gratitude #therapy #therapist #traumatherapy #somatichealing #utahtherapist #faithtransition #relationships #californiatherapist #utahtherapist