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Some people apologize because they are genuinely remorseful and care about how their actions impacted on others. Others apologize after being initially denying any wrongdoing, only because being outed has negative consequences for them. IYKYK Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #narcissisticbehavior #gaslighting

Marriage does not come in a one size fits all. I see so many couples who've entered their relationships with an 'expectation' based on what they've heard society, parents, or the aunty next door tell them. The meaning of marriage has changed and continues to change every day. Make your relationship your own. Have yourself and your partner give the relationship an identity of its own. #relationships #marriage #couple #couplestherapy #psychology #clinicalpsychology #clinpsych #browncommunity #proudtobebrown #brownpsychologist #mentalhealth #southafrica #fyp

We can never grow by labeling others as being toxic. However, when we are honest about our own toxic traits, we can begin to improve ourselves. Our toxic traits may have served us at some point in time, but as we know better, we can do better and strive towards healthier relationships with ourselves & others. Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #toxictraits #selfreflection #shadowwork

If you ever wonder why someone cannot just leave a toxic relationship, here are some of the most common reasons. We often advice others to just leave, but it isn’t that easy to leave a relationship that one has invested so much of time, money & energy in. Some choose what’s familiar (even if it’s unhealthy) over the unknown. The best thing that we can do to support someone in a toxic relationship is to be there for them, to listen, to offer a safe space and to help build their confidence so that they can make decisions that are better for them. This might sometimes mean facilitating that they get professional help so that they can make decisions that are best for them. Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #narcissisticabuse #toxicrelationships #domesticviolence

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While someone might not be responsible for their trauma or stress, they are always responsible for their actions. We are all responsible for taking steps to heal from our trauma. Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #traumabonds #toxicrelationships

Generosity and generativity lifts our spirits and restores our faith in humanity and harmony. With so much being tested right now, it’s important to remember how far kindness can really go. But can we afford to give to others when it feels like our own cups are empty? I explore the answer to this question in my latest blog “On Generosity and Generativity: Sources of Happiness” which you can read on my website (link in bio). Here’s a small excerpt: I agree that one must have boundaries and not over-extend ourselves, but sometimes it’s the fear of not having enough (scarcity mindset) and our desire for more (thank you, capitalism) that keeps us from building social connections through generosity.   We also forget that we receive constantly. The planet provides so much for us, beyond air, water, and food. There is so much beauty all around us which we take for granted. We receive from our ancestors; our DNA carries the lessons they have learned. We often expect generosity from others, whether it’s receiving something tangible or more abstract, like second chances, patience, understanding and forgiveness. Generosity is good for us, especially when we are the ones being generous, as it helps us find meaning and a sense of purpose and reduces stress and depression. *** Read more (link in bio) I’m a clinical psychologist helping people like you feel empowered about their mental health. To learn more, follow along @dr.ammarakhalid for free resources and see link in bio. (Disclaimer: IG is not therapy. Information may not apply to everyone) _____________________ #riapsych #generosity #generativity #kindnessmatters #kindnessquotes #shareknowledge #abundancementality #southasian #mentorshipmatters #millenialwomen #relationshipexpert #healthyrelationships #drammarakhalid #blogpost #clinicalpsychologist #chicagotherapist #brownpsychologist #chicagopsychologist #pakistanitherapist #southasiantherapists #generationalhealing #findcompassion #findhappiness #begenerous #mondaymotivations #bekindtoothers #bekindtooneanother

Do you recognize this pattern? I guess nobody wants to upset the good moments, especially if they are few are far between, but if we don’t repair after conflict, you can be sure that it will rear its head again. Moving forward without resolution means that the same issue will arise in different forms until it can no longer be ignored. Sadly, this also means that we can feel really disillusioned by then, or no longer feel hopeful that things will ever get better. Get into a habit of processing conflict yourself and then having repair conversations where you learn from what went wrong, take appropriate accountability and commit to doing better. Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #relationshiptips #relationshipadvice #relationshipexpert #toxicrelationships #conflictresolution #communicationskills

One of the saddest things I hear in therapy is when someone says that their partner just left and they cannot make sense of it… …and later reveal that the partner had been asking to go to therapy for years. Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #relationshiptips #relationshipadvice #relationshipexpert #couplestherapy

Has it ever happened to you that someone you knew just stopped talking to you or changed their behavior with no conversation or explanation? Not only is it disillusioning, but it also takes a lot of energy to speculate about someone’s change in behavior. But here’s the thing… someone who is worth keeping in your life will clarify misunderstandings. Someone worth keeping in your life will ask your side of the story. Someone worth keeping in your life will think for themselves before believing something negative that’s said about you. We have two options if this ever happens. 1. Approach the person by focusing on facts (not feelings or thoughts) about their behavior and ask what it is about. How maturely they answer will tell you a lot about whether the relationship is worth having in your life. 2. Sometimes the logical option is to be honest to yourself about that qualities that are important in your friendships. Do you have time, space and energy for relationships that are not based on mutual respect, open communication, emotional maturity and honesty. Have you ever been in such a situation? What are your thoughts? Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #relationshipexpert #toxicrelationships #toxicfriendships

The reviews are in! I was thrilled to receive such positive feedback from my workshop “Who’s REALLY in the Room: Family Systems Approach to Individual Work” for @spring.advisory I love presenting to other professionals and engaging in stimulating discussions on how having multiple people in the room can be tricky to navigate. My workshop demonstrates how to overcome both therapist AND client anxiety around bringing in members, and explore creating a safe and boundaried environment for the system. There will be another opportunity to attend on May 17th from 10am-1pm CST via Zoom (see link in bio). If you’re interested in having me speak at your next event, workshop, presentation or conference, please get in touch via DM or email me at [email protected] I’m a clinical psychologist helping people like you feel empowered about their mental health. To learn more, follow along @dr.ammarakhalid for free resources and see link in bio. (Disclaimer: IG is not therapy. Information may not apply to everyone) 📸 @ashleysummersphotography 🪮+💄@bohoglamextensions 👚 @tiltedlotus _______________________ #5stars #5starreviews #pakistanitherapist #southasiantherapist #familytherapy #5starreview #clientreviews #browngirlmagic #drammarakhalid #femaleleadership #bipoctherapist #therapistofcolor #riapsych #psychologistsofinstagram #clinicalpsychologist #pakistanipsychologist #brownpsychologist #chicagopsychologist #chicagotherapist #relationshipexpert #psychotherapistsofig #familytherapist #psychologyworkshop #counselingpsychology #psyd #socialworkers #arttherapist #nbcc #trainings #workshops

This week leading up to Mother’s Day is a difficult one for many. I’ve chosen to touch on an aspect that isn’t spoken about as much publicly, perhaps due to fear of being judged and misunderstood. However, it’s an issue that comes up almost daily on my therapy couch. The Mother Wound can result from unresolved trauma passed through generations. How we parent is often affected by how we were parented, if we are not mindful. As adults, our healing journey requires giving to ourselves what we most needed as children 💜 Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #motherwound #abandonmentwound #childhoodtrauma #reparenting

Can you apologize sincerely when you are wrong or when someone tells you that you hurt them? Can you take accountability for your actions and commit to making things right? If not, there’s a good explanation… It’s very likely that you grew up in a home where you were never apologized to when you were wronged, or never witnessed healthy conflict resolution and repair. It’s never too late to break the cycle. Our parents did the best that they were capable of, but we can do better. Their ceiling must be our floor. Be the parent that you needed when growing up 🫶🏻 Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #breakthecycle #cyclebreaker #childhoodtrauma

If you find yourself tip-toeing around your partner, avoiding certain topics, over-apologizing or doing everything that you can to avoid conflict, then you are very likely walking on eggshells. Walking on eggshells is an indicator that you are in toxic, unsafe relationship. Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #relationshiptips #relationshipadvice #walkingoneggshells

Healing is hard. But you know what’s harder? Not healing! Until we heal from our old wounds, there is a risk of harm to our health and our relationships. Until we heal, old patterns get repeated and we remain stuck in some areas of our lives. Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #healingjourney #childhoodtrauma #intergenerationaltrauma

We can learn a lot about ourselves from how we respond in such situations too 🫶🏻 It’s never too late to act in accordance with our most prized values. Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist

Yes, relationships take work, but what we mean by work is: - considering the other’s perspective - regulating our emotions - communicating with clarity & respect - both partners willingness to compromise when needed - resolving conflict respectfully - considering how your actions impact on your partner. What would you add to this list? Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #relationshiptips #relationshipadvice #relationshipexpert #toxicrelationships #reciprocity

The most valuable asset is a calm mind. If a decision can wait, give yourself the time and space to process your emotions, consider the outcome that you hope for and weigh the pros and cons of your options. When we feel regulated, we can decide whether to respond to something, how to respond to it and when to respond to it. Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #responddontreact #emotionregulation #relationshiptips #relationshipadvice #relationshipexpert

Are second chances owed or should they be earned? Slide 6 should read ‘…if it IS more draining’. Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #secondchance #forgiveness

It can feel lonely when support is not forthcoming when we most need it. While we may feel unsupported, it’s not always because people don’t care - sometimes people don’t know how to be supportive in certain situations. Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #healingjourney #support #emotionalsupport

I feel I'm on a journey, both personally and professionally (the two can rarely be separated as a counselling psychologist). No idea where the path will take me. But I'm hoping to learn and unlearn, dismantle and unfurl. As part of this process I'm recognising that through so many of my own experiences personally and professionally (through my educational path, training and more), I'm both the colonised and the coloniser. How can I not be. The inner work starts with me. #southasianpsychologist #southasianwomenempowerment #southasianexperience #southasiantherapists #psychologyofwomen #consciousness_rising #womenstherapist #womenspsychologist #psychologistsofinstagram #indianpsychologists #brownwomenmatter #browntherapist #browntherapists #brownpsychologist #decolonisingpsychology #decolonizingtherapy #decolonizingpsychology #collectivetrauma #colonisationofthemind #clinicalpsychology #counsellingpsychologists #counsellingpsychologist #womensmentalhealthmatters #desipsychologist #southasianmentalhealthissues #southasianfamilies #southasiantherapy #bamementalhealthmatters #innerworkisdeepwork #examinedlife

When we lose a loved one, a part of us often dies at the same time ❤️‍🩹 Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #griefjourney #griefwork #healingfromgrief

So after I shared my experience of psychological therapy with a non-culturally informed Psychologist in the NHS, I received a few DM's from women who come from a variety of cultural backgrounds. I'm interested in putting the question out there and asking you what your experiences were of accessing psychological therapy with a therapist/psychologist who did not represent your cultural and racial background. What was this process like? What were the difficulties in the therapy journey? Did you feel able to ask if you could see a therapist from a similar cultural background to you? Was there room for conversations around culture, race, oppression, privilege or intergenerational trauma? How did it feel to talk about your cultural story and experiences under the white gaze? There might even have been some positive experiences, what were they? I'm keen to hear experiences from women from all ethnic minority backgrounds. If you don't wish to comment in this post (which I totally understand), then please DM me your thoughts and experiences privately. I'm hoping, with your permission, to then share your experiences here on Instagram (anonymity will be protected. Your name and instagram details will not be mentioned in the post). Please share this post widely! If it falls flat on its face then that's the way the cookie crumbles! But at least I would have tried to get this conversation going! #southasianwomen #southasianwomenempowerment #southasianpsychologist #southasianmentalhealthawareness #bamementalhealthmatters #bamewomen #bamementalhealth #bamemothers #desiwomen #woctherapy #wocmentalhealth #ethnicminoritywomen #hinduwomen #muslimwomenpsychology #indianpsychologists #woctherapist #londonpsychologist #britishasianmentalhealth #britishasianwomen #southasiantherapist #southasianexperience #desimentalhealth #southasiantherapists #southasiantherapy #blackwomenintherapy #brownwomenmatter #brownwomenslivesmatter #brownpsychologist #minoritymentalhealthmatters #mixedracewomen

Our thoughts shape our reality; so take care of your thoughts. Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #cbt #cognitivebehavioraltherapy #thoughtsarenotfacts #cognitivedistortions

I'm completely immersed in this book by @decolonizingtherapy . It's like an awakening and confirmation of all the many thoughts I had about the psychological therapy structures that we have set up. These thoughts had little room for conversation. My training ground was one which aligned itself to practices which are colonially rooted. There was little room for me to have a voice. When I'm reading parts of this book I'm finding myself screaming "yes! I always wondered this! Why couldn't I talk about this!?" I guess we need safety in the culture of psychology, psychotherapy and mental health field in order to have these moving, meaningful and hopefully, growth oriented conversations. I'm excited to see where my decolonial psychology practice takes me. I'm not going to lie, this is a heavy read. But so important. In summary, so far, this book is fire 🔥🔥🔥 Thank you Jennifer Mulan (@decolonizingtherapy ) for writing his book. Thank you for sharing that you have also questioned the colonial structures and roots of psychological therapy. #decolonizingtherapy #decolonisingtherapy #decolonizingpsychology #decolonisingtherapy #southasianpsychologist #southasiantherapists #uksouthasian #bamementalhealthmatter #southasianwomenempowerment #southasianwomenshealth #southasianwomensmentalhealth #londonpsychologist #britishasianwomen #womensmentalhealth #crossculturalpsychology #culturalidentity #culturaltrauma #intergenerationaltrauma #transgenerationaltrauma #historicaltrauma #historicaltraumahealing #antioppressivetherapy #culturalconsultant #culturallysensitivetherapy #cultureandmentalhealth #psychologistsofinstagram #browntherapist #brownpsychologist #brownwomenmatter #browngirlreading

Ever wondered why people lie? Here are six possible reasons… Whatever the reason, honesty is always the best policy 💜 Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #relationshiptips #relationshipadvice #honestyisthebestpolicy #lies #psychologyoflies

I’m not sure who needs to hear this, but you are allowed to take space… Never underestimate the power in taking space before responding. Stepping away to regulate our emotions and process thoughts before responding is a sign of emotional intelligence. Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #relationshiptips #relationshipadvice #relationshipexpert #toxicrelationships #takespace #pause #practicethepause #emotionregulation

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There are times that we want to be heard so badly, yet the way in which we speak makes it difficult for the other to truly listen. Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #relationshiptips #relationshipadvice #relationshipexpert #toxicrelationships #communicationskills

It’s often easier to find fault with the other, without pausing to consider our role in the conflict. Relationships are healthier when we take accountability first, and then ask our partner for what are like from them. Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #relationshiptips #relationshipadvice #relationshipexpert #toxicrelationships #nagging #maritalconflict

Trust, respect, open communication & inclusivity are some of the key features of psychological safety at work. What would you add to the list? Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #workplacewellness #workplacewellbeing #corporatementalhealth #mentalhealthatwork #psychologicalsafety

Imagine an iceberg image. The emotional experiences, such as guilt, shame, fear, depression, anger/rage, and/or identity issues, are what can be seen. But beneath can be the experience of having internalised the need to be the rescuing and repairing South Asian daughter. #southasianwomen #southasianwomenempowerment #southasianparents #southasianculturepost #brownwomenmatter #brownmothers #browndaughters #patriarchalsociety #southasianfamilies #desimums #desimomsbelike #desifamilies #southasianexperience #psychologyofwomen #crossculturalpsychology #southasianpsychologist #browntherapist #southasiantherapist #indianpsychologists #brownpsychologist #feministtherapist #southasianfeminist #brownfeminist #indianfeminists #motherdaughterrelationships #intersectionalfeminism #psychologistsofinstagram #badbetis #indianpatriarchy

The absence of arguments is not necessarily a sign of a healthy relationship. Sometimes the absence of arguments is an indication of conflict avoidance. Conflict is also not necessarily destructive. Conflict is inevitable - it’s HOW we go about resolving it that matters. Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #relationshiptips #relationshipadvice #relationshipexpert #toxicrelationships

Relationship reminders from a couples therapist. Which one resonates most with you? Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #relationshiptips #relationshipadvice #relationshipexpert #toxicrelationships #reciprocity

A defining aspect of trustworthiness is consistency. It’s a major red flag when someone behaves differently & treats you differently depending on who is around. Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #relationshiptips #relationshipadvice #relationshipexpert #toxicrelationships #trustissues #toxicfriends #toxicfriendships

It’s quite normal to be curious about the lives of celebrities. I’ll be the first to admit that I look forward to red carpet looks (and maybe guessing what aesthetic treatments a celebrity has had). However, there’s a point at which interest & curiosity can turn into unhealthy obsession. These are my views on why interest in celebrity lives & relationships can become so fascinating, bordering on obsession…. Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #celebgossip #hollywoodgossip #bollywoodgossip #conspiracytheories

We rarely acknowledge how being raised in different families, with different experiences, values & norms impact on us in adult relationships. A large part of who we are is shaped by these experiences. When two people come together, it’s natural to expect some conflict if there isn’t insight into our different backgrounds and histories. Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #relationshiptips #relationshipadvice #relationshipexpert #toxicrelationships

Can you guess the most common reason that couples see me for therapy? Of all the reasons that couples seek help, infidelity tops the list. While the partner who is responsible for the betrayal may downplay their behavior, emotional affairs can be deeply damaging. It takes accountability and willingness to put in the hard work to heal from infidelity. Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #relationshiptips #relationshipadvice #relationshipexpert #toxicrelationships #emotionalinfidelity #emotionalaffair #infidelity

We sometimes get disappointed at a persons behaviour, but upon reflection, we may realize that their behavior is not surprising given how they usually conduct themselves. Don’t expect people to act as you would! Expect them to act consistently with how they usually do. Expecting others to behave as you would in a situation, is a recipe for disappointment. Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #relationshiptips #relationshipadvice #relationshipexpert #toxicrelationships

Celebrating 15 years in practice 🎉 As I blow out these candles, I reflect on the countless stories of resilience, healing, growth & transformation that I’ve been blessed to be a part of. I’m so grateful for the opportunity to help you find calm amidst the chaos, weather difficult storms, navigate labyrinths of self growth and witness the most inspiring stories of hope & transformation. Thank you to every one of you who has played a role in this journey of mine…it is because of you that I am able to show up as I do 🫶🏻 📸 @elanaschilz 💄 @miss_makeup_sa . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #relationshiptips #relationshipadvice #psychologistlife #relationshipexpert #mentalhealthexpert

A message for the givers, the caretakers, the nurturers ❤️ Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #relationshiptips #relationshipadvice #relationshipexpert #toxicrelationships #reciprocity #toxicfriendships

Connecting in little ways, especially in times of conflict can help us create the closeness and emotional safety to navigate difficult issues. All couples argue, but the ones who put effort into connecting are more likely to reach more positive outcomes. Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #relationshiptips #relationshipadvice #relationshipexpert #toxicrelationships

I know I sound like a broken record, but I’ll never get tired of stressing this point. The person who hurt you cannot help you to heal. You do not need an apology, an explanation or closure in order to heal. Would it be nice? Absolutely! But putting our healing in the hands of someone who wronged us will never lead to the outcome we hope for. It always makes more sense to focus on regulating our emotions, practising self compassion, learning from the experience and being realistic about what we can expect from others. The more we reflect within, the less we need external answers & validation. Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #relationshiptips #relationshipadvice #relationshipexpert #toxicrelationships #healingjourney #healingfromtrauma

Often, what lies beneath the surface of a ‘petty argument’ is a much deeper issue that we have failed to address. Instead of brushing an issue off as petty, be curious about what it may be a reflection of. Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #relationshiptips #relationshipadvice #relationshipexpert #toxicrelationships #couplesconflict #conflictresolution

The reviews are in! I was honored to receive such positive feedback for my workshop “Multicultural Competence: Unpacking Diversity in Clinical Practice” for Spring Advisory. I love presenting to other professionals and engaging in stimulating discussions about how we can strive to be anti-racist/homophobic/ableist/etc in our work. My workshop demonstrates how to weave multiculturalism and diversity into ALL aspects of your clinical practice using self-reflection and an internal locus of responsibility. There will be another opportunity to attend on May 3rd from 10am-1pm CST via Zoom (see link in bio). If you’re interested in having me speak at your next event, workshop, presentation or conference, please get in touch via DM or email me at [email protected] I’m a clinical psychologist helping people like you feel empowered about their mental health. To learn more, follow along @dr.ammarakhalid for free resources and see link in bio. Sending you love and light 💕 (Disclaimer: IG is not therapy. Information may not apply to everyone) _______________________ #dei #pakistanitherapist #southasiantherapist #minorityownedbusiness #womenownedbusiness #clientreviews #browngirlmagic #psyd #millenialwomen #drammarakhalid #presenters #bipoctherapist #therapistofcolor #riapsych #psychologistsofinstagram #clinicalpsychologist #pakistanipsychologist #womenofcolor #southasianpsychologist #brownpsychologist #chicagopsychologist #chicagotherapist #relationshipexpert #psychotherapistsofig

If your feelings towards your partner are more negative, and if you tend to view their actions more negatively, you may be stuck in negative sentiment override. This is never healthy, and not only does it lead to the deterioration of the relationship, but also to your individual feelings of disillusion. Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #relationshiptips #relationshipadvice #relationshipexpert #toxicrelationships #reciprocity #negativesentimentoverride

Couples in healthy relationships make an effort to treat their partners as a priority and are mindful of how their choices impact on their partner. What would tou add to this list? Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #relationshiptips #relationshipadvice #relationshipexpert #toxicrelationships #reciprocity #marriageadvice

Empathy is so much more than just words. Empathy without corresponding actions is meaningless. Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #relationshiptips #relationshipadvice #empathy #empathyquotes #empathymatters

Thoughts are not always facts! And because our emotions are a result of our thoughts about a situation, it matters that we fact-check our thoughts. How many times have we assigned explanations for things based on assumptions, only to later realize that we were wrong. One of the things that has improved my anxiety tremendously is checking whether my thoughts were based on facts or whether they were just stories I’ve been telling myself. I always ask: ‘How do I know this for sure?’ ‘Do I have all the facts?’ ‘What are the other possible explanations?’ Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #relationshiptips #relationshipadvice #cbt #cognitivebehavioraltherapy #thoughtsarenotfacts

I’m always grateful for conversations in which I can learn something new or a challenged to consider a different perspective. As long as we are alive, there are opportunities to learn & grow. The next time you feel tempted to defend your perspective, challenge yourself to listen instead. * *This post does not refer to situations of abuse, criminal behavior or gaslighting/manipulation.** Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #relationshiptips #relationshipadvice #relationshipexpert #toxicrelationships #emotionalmaturity #emotionalintelligence

Stop taking it personally when someone cannot provide the empathy that you need. In order for someone to even try to understand your feelings, they need to first be familiar with this every feelings in themselves. Those who are emotionally avoidant, may not be able to understand your emotions. People who create stories that are convenient for them (which doesn’t make them look negative) may be unable to acknowledge truths that don’t suit them. We sometimes enter losing battles by expecting something from someone that they are not willing or able to do. Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #relationshiptips #relationshipadvice #relationshipexpert #toxicrelationships #holdingspace #mentalhealthsupport

Guilt is not always a sign that you’ve done something wrong. It makes sense that you may feel guilty for prioritizing your self care, when you grew up in a home where you were expected to make decisions that benefited everyone. While it’s important to be considerate of others, it’s also important to make decisions that are good for our own mental health. Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #relationshiptips #relationshipadvice #relationshipexpert #toxicrelationships #intergenerationaltrauma #browntrauma #breakthecycle

To love someone is to truly see them; to remember the little things about them. Tag someone who remembers the little things about you 🫶🏻 Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #relationshiptips #relationshipadvice #relationshipexpert #toxicrelationships #reciprocity #lovelanguage

When we react defensively, we shut down any opportunity to improve our relationships. When someone says something that’s hard to hear, instead of reacting defensively, say ‘that was hard to hear; give me a moment to think about it’. Try to see the situation from the other’s perspective & reflect on whether there’s something that you need to take accountability for. While we may not be wholly responsible for something, there is often some part we can take responsibility for. Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #relationshiptips #relationshipadvice #relationshipexpert #toxicrelationships #defensiveness

I thrive on feedback to help me grow, but I never give weight to feedback from anyone who: - never has anything positive to say - is unkind - does not have superior knowledge on the topic - doesn’t have recommendations on how to improve - whose intention was to hurt instead of empower But I’m all ears when someone genuinely cares and offers helpful suggestions to improve. I used to debate from a young age and I always remember and English teacher who told me that I spoke too fast; and when I was in front speaking, she would signal me so I could become more aware of my pace and slow down. I’m forever grateful to such people I’ve met along the way who’ve helped me improve. Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #personalgrowthquotes #emotionalintelligencecoach #eq

Anyone else? Inspired by #cillianmurphy 🫶🏻 . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #introvertproblems #introvertmemes #introvertstruggles #introvertthoughts

Tag a parent who needs this reminder 🫶🏻 Parenting is perhaps the toughest job on earth. I always remind parents that children do as you do; not as you say. What they observe is what they normalize. Be the person you’d like your child to grow into. Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #parentingteens #consciousparenting #mindfulparenting #parentingcoach

If you’re prone to avoiding conflict, this explanation may make sense to you. While addressing conflict may bring about discomfort, avoiding it means that healthy relationships are not possible. This does not apply to abusive relationships. Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #relationshiptips #relationshipadvice #relationshipexpert #toxicrelationships #childhoodtrauma #intergenerationaltrauma #conflictavoidance #conflictresolution

Sometimes we create our own unhappiness because of the stories that we tell ourselves about others’ behaviour. We sometimes take things personally that are not personal, or read too deeply into things - to our own detriment. Something that has helped my own anxiety, is challenging the stories I tell myself by questioning whether they are based on facts. I challenge myself to think of other explanations, rather than the story I created. Oh, I ran into that person again, by the way - and this time they chatted to me as they used to in the past. And I was so glad that I hadn’t wasted energy wondering whether someone said something negative about me or if they were upset with me 😅 I’m sharing this story as a reminder to you to notice your small victories, when we react to situations better than you did in the past. We are all a work in progress 🫶🏻 Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #cognitivedistortions #cbt #irrationalthoughts #personalization

Our growth and healing is not possible when we invest our energy into trying to understand the person who hurt us. Trying to make sense of their behaviour or labeling them with a diagnosis does nothing to help our healing. Our healing is possible when we can reflect on how we were impacted, practising self compassion, taking accountability (for any role we might have played in maintaining the problematic behavior), deciding that we deserve better and learning from the experience. It’s always more helpful to understand ourselves before we even think about understanding others. Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #relationshiptips #relationshipadvice #relationshipexpert #toxicrelationships

Let’s talk about betrayal trauma. Betrayal trauma can take different forms and can result from betrayal of not just romantic partners, but also friends, family, institutions and people that are meant to protect you in some way. Healing from betrayal is hard, but possible wheh you give yourself the space to feel, the compassion and patience to heal and the inner work to be able to trust again. Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #relationshiptips #relationshipadvice #relationshipexpert #toxicrelationships #infidelity #betrayaltrauma #betrayal #healingfromtrauma

We don’t often talk about the importance of understanding our partners family background and how this has impacted on how they relate as adults. Most couples come from different backgrounds and have had different behaviors, norms and communication styles normalized for them. No one way is better or superior. What matters is understanding how we have been influenced by what was normalized while we were growing up - and acknowledging that our partners too, have been influenced by their families of origin. Learning and understanding should lead us to collaborate on healthier ways of connecting as adults. Does this resonate for you? Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #relationshiptips #relationshipadvice #relationshipexpert #toxicrelationships #intergenerationaltrauma #maritalissues

Courage is so much more than being outwardly brave. Some lesser acknowledged aspects of courage include vulnerability and authenticity. Which one of these resonates the most? Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #couragequotes #havecourageandbekind

Whenever I witness defensiveness, I become curious about what happened in that person’s life that has led them to always have their ‘armor’ on. While it’s never pleasant to be on the receiving end of defensiveness, I always try to look through a compassionate lens to better understand the fears and insecurities of that person. We are all shaped by the events that we’ve encountered and overcome. We are all also capable of looking within, giving ourselves compassion and choosing healthier ways of communication. Disclaimer: Not all posts apply to all people or all situations. If it resonates, you are welcome to comment, like & share. NB.: social media posts are not a replacement for therapy & should not be used to inform a diagnosis. 𝘞𝘦 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘵𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘳𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘰𝘳𝘺, 𝘪𝘳𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘤 𝘰𝘳 𝘳𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘰𝘧 𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘯𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦. . . . . . . . . . #rakhibeekrum #psychologist _________________________________________ #durban #durbannorth #southafrica #umhlanga #psychologistsofinstagram #psychologistsouthafrica #therapistsofinstagram #mentalhealthsouthafrica #brownpsychologist #indianpsychologist #traumainformed #traumainformedtherapist #defensiveness #fourhorsemen