🌟My momentum has been when I was able to have a conversation with myself about my infertility. ❓️I asked myself the question that has bothered me the most since the beginning of my journey. "How do you feel about your mother?" Then, I continued six more questions without following logical thinking but going deeper to understand what exactly bothered me. This allowed me to discover a part of me that I had never had a chance to meet until then. The deepest inside I found a girl who was afraid of becoming like her own mother, who I've been estranged from for 15 years. It's been hard to start, but once decided to face it, it's been such an amazing experience. When I met her(my eight-years-old self), I felt my brain and gut awakening physically. At that specific moment, I realized my brain and my gut already had the answer of my fertility. After that experience, I understood that I had to take action. 🤰Then I got pregnant naturally four months later. So if you were told UNEXPLAINED INFERTILITY I recommend you have a deep conversation with yourself so you'll find the reason for your infertility. If you want, I can send you a workbook about how I found the reason for my infertility. You'll also find an exercise to discover the reason for your infertility. 📩Send me a DM so I can send you the ebook❤️ I know that being told UNEXPLAINED INFERTILTIY is so painful. And if you're over 35, it gets even worse. Probably, you begin your journey with anxiety. But during my TTC journey, I've learned that I have the power to do miracles by connecting with myself because I KNEW THE RIGHT SOLUTION FOR ME. (I was thinking of adoption at that time) I believe that you also know the right thing for you. You just need to find it out and take action. Sending you a lot of love and Baby Dust For You. #ttc #ttcsupport #ttcabroad #pregnancyabroad #abroad #liveabroad #ttcloneliness #ttcsisters #infertility #fertility #ttcover35 #ttcjourney #ivf #ttcanxiety #fertilityanxiety #ttctribe #unexplainedinfertility #motherless #motherlessdaughters #motherwound #motherwoundhealing #estranged #estrangeddaughter
Last chance to register for our free online live workshop – Ending Patterns. If you are a spiritual woman, having outgrown your family and being challenged by your relationships with them, unable to fully embrace your purpose and create the Life that you dream of. This workshop is for you. We will go through a wonderful tool that has been taught to me by the Center for Thriving Relationships, mapping out our most common pattern, be it behavioral or communication, with a family member, partner or even friend or coworker. Whoever it is that is most challenging to you today. So, are you ready to put a stop to these repetitive cycles in your Life and set yourself free on a new path towards the Life of your Dreams? Register through the link in my bio and I will see you tomorrow, Wednesday, May 15th, 1pm PST. Cannot wait! #spiritualawakening #spiritualgrowth #spiritualjourney #spiritualgrowthjourney #spiritualguidance #spiritualwoman #soulpurposeguidance #familyissues #familyproblems #breakingthecycle #itstopswithme #estrangement #estranged #estrangedadultchildren #estrangeddaughter #togetherestranged #standalone #betterlove #blacksheep #codependentnomore #healthylove #limitingbeliefs #soulpurpose #lifepurpose #purposedriven #highestself #higherconsciousness
When I wrote #daughtersoftheoccupation with an #estranged mother and daughter, I never imagined being in this situation. #happymothersday to those with difficult #relationships #collage #estrangeddaughter by #shellysanders
Will never get easier. The Lord is my only strength. #stopparentalalienation #alienatedmother #alienatedparent #estrangeddaughter
I remember the day I put words on what I was meant to be. It all started by reading @iamsahararose book "Discover your Dharma-A Vedic Guide to finding your Purpose" and then doing her 21 day course and then going to her Coaching School, the @highestselfinstitute It hit me there and it was so powerful, I just couldn't Not share with the world. I was raised as an engineer. Getting "downloads" or "intuitive hits" were never a thing that I was taught to hear, receive and least of all, follow. But when you do open the door to just asking the question. There is no way you don't get an answer. And when you do find what really makes you feel alive. There is no stopping you. Everything makes sense in that state. Everything is so easy. So normal. And so so so nourishing and fulfilling. Unfortunately it definitely doesn't last. It does take practice to be in touch with your intuition and highest self most of the time. And as an empath having been raised in a family that didn't and still doesn't understand emotions, energies, spirituality,.... it's been hard to find My voice and trust it. I usually use astrology to have an idea of what's coming next. But it often ends up being a confirmation of my past choices. Showing me that I almost had no choice in my decisions making, I was just born to be who I am becoming. And that feels so good. Receiving the confirmation that I know what my intuition tells me. And that I am brave enough to follow it. Even if it means losing the people that should be loving me - my family. I wish you to be curious. So open minded you can ask the questions. Receive the answers with no expectations. And find your bliss. So that your walls become doors. No matter what your family thinks or wants. I wish you to find your people that will participate in how normal your bliss feels. And add to the goodness. Yes!!!!! So much love to you!!!!! #standalone #togetherestranged #breakingthecycle #betterlove #blacksheep #estrangement #estranged #estrangedadultchildren #estrangeddaughter #familyissues #familyproblems #itstopswithme
If you are an adult daughter feeling stressed or stuck in your relationship with your family, craving clarity, freedom and peace. A life that everybody seems to have but you. Not waiting for the perfect moment may seem impossible. You may just be wishing for a divine intervention. Because you are so tired. Of fighting. Of protecting yourself. Of justifying yourself. Of staying afloat. My dear, I hear you. And what IS a perfect moment anyway???? Well, this one ☺️ What would you say if you could have someone walk you through how to turn your life around? Teach you how and where to focus your energy so the little energy that you have left is put to good use and bring you 10x better results than the past months or years? What if we could bring back energy in your body, peace in your mind and actually attract healthy, genuine Love in your Life? It all starts with you choosing yourself. And you can do that now. Join us on our free online workshop part of the workshop series "A Path from Estrangement to Fulfillment". Registration link in my bio. Your Life can change faster than you think. Come join us 🤸🌟💖 #standalone #togetherestranged #breakingthecycle #betterlove #blacksheep #estrangement #estranged #estrangedadultchildren #estrangeddaughter #familyissues #familyproblems #itstopswithme
👕👖🧺🧦 I'm in my late twenties, and I still hear my mother's voice in my ear about the way I folded socks as a child while helping her with laundry. Her tone was of irritation and annoyance, and her dramatic gestures to actively "right" my "wrong" still replay like an old film reel in my head. It was the first and last time I folded laundry with my mother. I bring this up for 2 reasons: 1) why on earth does it matter which way a child folds socks? Doesn't it matter more that they're interested in learning regardless? Why would you criticize and shame a child for something so miniscule and minute? 2) why am I still holding onto my mother's baggage? Just because she was a soldier and had to follow strict regimes on every little thing—yes, including how her clothes were folded—doesn't mean I am a soldier and have to follow those rules. I've lived without my folks since I was 17, it's time to release this weight, shame, and projection that was forced upon me as a child. I'm free now to make my own decisions on my own accord without you. And that includes how I fold MY family's laundry. . . . #mom #mother #mama #nocontact #estrangeddaughter #generationalcurses #breakinggenerationalcurses #momthoughts #mamathoughts #narcissistic #narcissist #daughtersofnarcissisticmothers #daughterofasoldier #soldiersdaughter #narcissisticmother #laundry #socks #mamadonedifferently
It’s been six months beautiful daughter of mine. I have no idea where you went, or why. #estrangeddaughter #estrangedadultchildren #estranged #grief
Being conditioned not to trust yourself is so hard to overcome. It’s a struggle I see in so many of the women I work with. The complex emotions that come from growing up in a dysfunctional family system. Estrangement was the last resort. A measure you took for your survival. And a painful piece of your journey. And there is healing, light, love, and peace on the other side. Keep showing up for you 🤍 @youthemother
Well that is all the big chapter birthdays gone from childhood 😭 it's only the adult ones left. I can't believe I have a 21 year old. Have a fanatic day @shelbynorman.x miss you and that smile so much, more than you will ever know 💗🥰 #allgrownupnow❤️ #estrangeddaughter #missingyou #motherslove #unconditinallove❤️
What makes you tick? Is that belief your own or did someone once tell you it was expected that you fall in line with it? What or who drives you to consider another’s perspective to be right or wrong? What did you learn about curiosity growing up? Were you allowed to challenge those in positions of authority (teachers, doctors, parents, elders of any kind, etc.)? Becoming curious about the drivers of our thoughts and behaviors is one way to grow and evolve as a human being. It’s also a way to consider another way, another option. In other words, a way to become unstuck. www.TheEstrangedHeart.com Email: [email protected] #theestrangedheart #theestrangedheartpodcast #estrangement #nocontact #lowcontact #estrangedparentsandadultchildren #estrangedfamily #estrangedadultchildren #estrangeddaughter #getcurious #estrangedmothers #estrangedmomsupport #estrangedmomcoach
Life goes on, whether we are estranged, whether we suffer from childhood abuse, whether we are in the process of healing, or whether we consider ourselves healed. The best thing we can do for ourselves is to take action steps to get into recovery. This will look different for different survivors, depending on the type and degree of abuse. My fervent hope is that we all become the best we can be. #abusivechildhood #abusivemother #childhoodtrauma #emotionalabuse #emotionaltrauma #emotionalabusesurvivor #childabusesurvivors #childabusesurvivor #estrangeddaughter #emotionaltraumarecovery
When I started my recovery from child abuse, I was advised by those who were experienced in recovery to take baby steps toward my recovery goals. I did not have to be perfect in my strides toward improvement and accomplishments. I just needed to get started, even if it was in a small way. That was a relief to me then and something I continue to remind myself about when I embark on new endeavors as an adult. Progress, not perfection. #abusivechildhood #abusivemother #childhoodtrauma #emotionalabuse #emotionaltrauma #emotionalabusesurvivor #estrangeddaughter #childabusesurvivors #childabusesurvivor
Let's be kind to ourselves. We're all we got! #abusivechildhood #abusivemother #childhoodtrauma #emotionalabuse #emotionaltrauma #emotionalabusesurvivor #estrangeddaughter #childabusesurvivors #childabusesurvivor
As a survivor of child abuse, I support children's advocacy organizations whose mission is to prevent child abuse and decrease its devastating impact on children, their families, and their communities. Do you participate in children's advocacy and mental health organizations or provide support? I would love to hear how you do it. #abusivechildhood #abusivemother #childhoodtrauma #emotionalabuse #emotionaltrauma #emotionalabusesurvivor #estrangeddaughter #childabusesurvivors #childabusesurvivor
I keep moving forward at all costs. Moving toward the objective, keeping my eye on the ball. Acknowledge your past, reclaim your control from the abusive situation, and seek support, whether therapy or a support group. Learn to love your inner child and your adult self. You can do it! #abusivechildhood #abusivemother #childhoodtrauma #emotionalabuse #emotionaltrauma #emotionalabusesurvivor #estrangeddaughter #childabusesurvivors #childabusesurvivor
As long as we are holding onto the unhealthy relationship, it's really difficult to have space for and be able to embrace a new, healthy one. Sometimes we spend so much time focused on the past that we neglect to see the changes in the present and a hope for the future.❤️ www.TheEstrangedHeart.com Email: [email protected] #theestrangedheart #theestrangedheartpodcast #estrangement #estrangedmom #estrangedadultchild #estrangementcoach #estrangeddaughter #estrangedson #letgotoembrace #changeisgood
More often than not, my mother would give me the silent treatment the next morning while fixing my breakfast, as she slammed items down on the counter. She was obviously still mad from the previous day, but she refused to speak to me. It is such juvenile behavior and only served to increase the distance between us. I promised myself I would not engage in that behavior as an adult. And I don't. Did your Mom give you the silent treatment as a child or adolescent? How did it make you feel? Comments welcome! #abusivechildhood #abusivemother #childhoodtrauma #emotionalabuse #emotionaltrauma #emotionalabusesurvivor #estrangeddaughter #childabusesurvivors #childabusesurvivor
I'm grateful to wake up every morning. I'm grateful to be pain-free. I'm grateful to be in good health. I'm grateful to love and be loved by a partner in this life. I'm grateful to have close friends. I'm grateful to have survived child abuse. I'm grateful for all the healing programs I've participated in. I'm grateful to be in continuous recovery. I'm grateful to learn new things every day. I'm grateful to be able to do the things I love. I'm grateful to live in a democracy. I'm grateful to be sober and free of nicotine. I'm grateful someone took my keys away when I was drunk in my 20s. I'm grateful my brain is functioning normally. What are you grateful for? #abusivechildhood #abusivemother #childhoodtrauma #emotionalabuse #emotionaltrauma #emotionalabusesurvivor #estrangeddaughter #childabusesurvivors #childabusesurvivor
Get therapy. Get clean & sober. Be honest. Be the best you can be. Do it right. Do it for yourself. #abusivechildhood #abusivemother #childhoodtrauma #emotionalabuse #emotionaltrauma #emotionalabusesurvivor #estrangeddaughter #childabusesurvivors #childabusesurvivor
I have great, good, so-so, and bad days. That's life. Some days, I'm in a sour little mood all day long! On other days, it's up, down, and all around. It's never consistently one mood or another for days on end. As a long-term survivor of child abuse and substance abuse, it's unrealistic to think that you should be happy, happy all the time. Whatever is going on for you, it will pass. As a survivor, what has been your experience? Feel free to describe it in the comments. #abusivechildhood #abusivemother #childhoodtrauma #emotionalabuse #emotionaltrauma #emotionalabusesurvivor #estrangeddaughter #childabusesurvivors #childabusesurvivor
Years ago, I took a women's self-defense class where we learned to fend off a male perpetrator. Given my trauma background, the face-to-face combat triggered my fears. But I stayed with it and practiced the moves. This instilled a sense of confidence. Be brave. #abusivechildhood #abusivemother #childhoodtrauma #emotionalabuse #emotionaltrauma #emotionalabusesurvivor #childabusesurvivors #childabusesurvivor #estrangeddaughter #childabusesurvivors #childabusesurvivor
There's hope for your future. Lots of it! But you must do the work to be the best version of yourself. No one says this is easy or quick, but you will get there by putting one foot in front of the other with intention and a plan, one day at a time. Over time, your abusive past will gradually recede, like the ebb of the tide, into the background. #abusivechildhood #abusivemother #childhoodtrauma #emotionalabuse #emotionaltrauma #emotionalabusesurvivor #childabusesurvivors #childabusesurvivor #estrangeddaughter #childabusesurvivors #childabusesurvivo
It is written that you should honour your father and your mother. That’s ok, as far as it goes, but if they’ve spent most of your life working out their stuff by negatively dumping on you, then breaking free emotionally whilst developing compassion for the complicated people they were is absolutely fine!!!! 👣 👣 👣 👣 #wemaketheroadbywalking . . . . . Tags by @withhashtag • #childhoodtrauma #emotionalabuse #emotionalabusesurvivor #emotionaltrauma #estrangeddaughter #innerchildhealing #innerself #innerselflove #toxicfamily #dysfunctionalfamily #highlysensitiveperson #highsensitivity #narcissist #traumasurvivor #abusiverelationships #healing #mentalhealthawareness #motherwound #narcawareness
My mother was an excellent seamstress and a perfectionist. However, as an instructor, her patience was limited. I dreaded looking at complex diagrams in sewing instructions because I was not experienced enough to interpret them correctly. When she could not understand why I couldn't make sense of it, the misery began. It was like trying to figure out the answer to a math problem for which I didn't have a clue. I felt helpless. This scene always ended with me weeping in frustration. Given our mutual frustration, I was always better off having someone else teach me. Did you have a perfectionist mother with little patience for instructing you? #abusivechildhood #abusivemother #childhoodtrauma #emotionalabuse #emotionaltrauma #emotionalabusesurvivor #estrangeddaughter #childabusesurvivors #childabusesurvivor
Going within and 'doing the work' is scary. It can be difficult and super uncomfortable. It brings up emotions that we would rather not feel or maybe that we have never felt before because we've gotten so good at shoving them down. This is why finding healthy support is so important. Being held in a safe space, safe way allows us to lower the defenses, feel the feeling(s) and allow them to move THROUGH us rather than getting stuck within. I commend any human being who shows up with their BIG BRAVE and commits to stopping unhealthy cycles by looking within (no pointing the finger elsewhere) and processing the pain in an effort to heal it. www.TheEstrangedHeart.com Email: [email protected] #theestrangedheart #theestrangedheartpodcast #estrangement #estrangedmom #estrangementcoach #familyestrangement #estrangeddaughter #estrangedson #reconciliationcoach #reconciliation #familyestrangementcoach #dothework
In my 20s, I decided that I did not want to have kids with my husband because I was afraid I would repeat my mother's verbal and emotional abuse patterns with my own kids. I worried that I would not be successful in trying to do it differently from my Mom since our personalities were similar. I figured the only way to ensure that the abuse did not become intergenerational was to break the branch of the family tree and not have kids. In making this decision, I could not divorce myself from my upbringing. At the time, I did not trust myself to do it differently. Did you use the same logic? #abusivechildhood #abusivemother #childhoodtrauma #emotionalabuse #emotionaltrauma #emotionalabusesurvivor #estrangeddaughter #childabusesurvivors #childabusesurvivor
Our memories, both good, bad, and in between, make us who we are in total. The lessons that were the most painful are the ones we recall most vividly. They are the ones that presented us with the greatest opportunities for personal growth and development. #innerchildhealing #abusivechildhood #abusivemother #childhoodtrauma #emotionalabuse #emotionaltrauma #emotionalabusesurvivor #estrangeddaughter #posttraumaticgrowth
This mom has been a client and support group member. As her coach and teacher/mentor, I've watched her have many aha moments, get unstuck from grief and begin her transformation. While she's not yet reconciled, she is growing as a human being and finds it easier to face each day. Interested in experiencing what she has? Curious about how you might be supported either through 1:1 coaching or through support groups, please reach out. www.TheEstrangedHeart.com Email: [email protected] #theestrangedheart #theestrangedheartpodcast #estrangement #estrangedmom #estrangedadultchild #estrangeddaughter #estrangementcoach #estrangementcoachformoms #reconciliation #innergrowth #transformation #support
What's beneath the surface? Deeply sincere curiosity moves us toward heart-centered care and away from shame and judgment. www.TheEstrangedHeart.com Email: [email protected] #theestrangedheart #theestrangedheartpodcast #estrangement #estrangedmom #estrangementcoach #estrangedmomcoach #getcurious #reduceshame #estrangedadultchild #estrangeddaughter #estrangedson #reconciliation #reconciliationcoach
January 1 is a day of hopeful vision for new beginnings. New relationships, new places, and new experiences. Last year is gone. Be courageous and bold. Starting today, work toward a goal that you've written down. Say it out loud! Begin anew in the fresh new year. Make a plan to achieve your goal and then implement the plan. Work the plan one day at a time. Ultimately, you will get there. As the Chinese proverb reminds us: "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step." #innerchildhealing #abusivechildhood #abusivemother #childhoodtrauma #emotionalabuse #emotionaltrauma #emotionalabusesurvivor #estrangeddaughter #posttraumaticgrowth
In the world of estrangement ... celebrate endings? Perhaps a word I might use would be 'honor'. Honor the endings for they bring you to a new place ... an invitation for a new beginning. Wishing you a year of wholeheartedness, peace and ease. May you move into your new beginnings from within your heart.💗 www.TheEstrangedHeart.com Email: [email protected] #theestrangedheart #theestrangedheartpodcast #estrangement #estrangedmom #estrangedadultchild #honor #estrangedmomcoach #estrangementcoach #reconciliation #reconciliationcoach #estrangeadultchildren #estrangeddaughter #estrangedson #newbeginnings #celebrateendings
I could not control my unloving mother, only myself and my reaction to her. This understanding also applies to all relationships. In the bigger picture, I can only play the hand I'm dealt. I do my best to live with the courage to be myself and to express myself according to my values. #abusivemother #childhoodtrauma #emotionalabusesurvivor #estrangeddaughter #childabusesurvivors #childabusesurvivor #emotionalabuse #emotionaltrauma #abusivechildhood
i stopped talking to you because you don’t listen 12.28.23 #reasonswhy #holidaysarehard #estrangeddaughter #estrangedadultchildren #estrangedbychoice #choicesarenotmistakes #decisionsmade #iamnotmyfamily #healingreligioustrauma #religioustraumatherapy #cptsdrecovery #cptsdsurvivor #poetrytherapy #poetress
Don't waste time comparing yourself to others. If you keep the focus on yourself, where it belongs, you'll do much better. #childabusesurvivors #abusivemother #childhoodtrauma #emotionalabusesurvivor #estrangeddaughter #childabusesurvivors #childabusesurvivor #emotionalabuse #emotionaltrauma
Resentments silently eat away at the holder, doing more damage to the holder than the offender. Unresolved resentment in a loving relationship can lead to a deterioration of the partnership. Please do not ignore it! Address the resentment with your partner, parent, sibling, or friend and work toward a mutual resolution. #abusivemother #childhoodtrauma #emotionalabusesurvivor #estrangeddaughter #childabusesurvivors #childabusesurvivor #emotionalabuse #emotionaltrauma
Enjoy the day with friends, family, or with yourself. #childabusesurvivors #childabusesurvivor #emotionalabusesurvivor #abusivemother #childhoodtrauma #emotionalabuse #emotionaltrauma #abusivechildhood #estrangeddaughter #abusivemother #innerself #innerselflove #innerchildhealing
During the 15-year absence from my mother's life, I separated from her emotionally, so that when I came back into her life, I did not need her approval or her permission to do, think, or feel anything. I had grown up. I was my own boss. #childabusesurvivors #childabusesurvivor #emotionalabusesurvivor #abusivemother #childhoodtrauma #emotionalabusesurvivor #estrangeddaughter #childabusesurvivors #childabusesurvivor #emotionalabuse #emotionaltrauma #abusivechildhood
In my adult years as a trauma survivor, I put myself back together by seeing therapists, participating in support groups, 12-step programs, and devouring self-help books. It all helped, but the critical piece was missing until I looked the tigress in the eye by confronting my mother in person. What worked the best for you? I invite you to share in the comments below. #childabusesurvivors #childabusesurvivor #emotionalabusesurvivor #abusivemother #childhoodtrauma #emotionalabusesurvivor #estrangeddaughter #childabusesurvivors #childabusesurvivor #emotionalabuse #emotionaltrauma #abusivechildhood
I agree with this listener. Those who share their story demonstrate BIG BRAVE. Thank you to this guest for her willingness to be a guest on the podcast. By sharing her story she is helping others to feel seen ... and that is such a beautiful & generous gift to give to others.❤️ If you'd like to share your story on the podcast, please email: [email protected] for consideration. www.TheEstrangedHeart.com #theestrangedheart #theestrangedheartpodcast #estrangement #BIGBRAVE #tellyourstorywithkindness #estrangedadultchild #estrangedparent #estrangedmom #estrangedadultchildren #estrangeddaughter #estrangementcoach
They don't have to understand it. They will never fully understand or relate to it because it was never their experience. After experiencing this disconnect one too many times in the past, I only discuss it now with survivors who have been there. #abusivechildhood #abusivemother #childhoodtrauma #emotionalabusesurvivor #estrangeddaughter #childabusesurvivors #childabusesurvivor #emotionalabuse #emotionaltrauma
Big mood lately. I couldn’t grasp this before, now I really can’t. #estrangement #estranged #estrangeddaughter #estrangementawareness #familydynamics #estrangedfamily #narcawareness #adultchildrenofemotionallyimmatureparents
Happy Birthday 🎂 #lovefromafar #infinity #unconditionallove #selfforgiveness #regret #heartbreak #imsosorry #2004 #sunshine #estrangeddaughter #estrangedadultchildren #mouring #loss #surrender #powerless #higherpower #faith #gratitude #hope
Starting with the second week in December, I used to sink into a black funk--a combination of depression and anger. It was a dark place. I did not relate to the images on television of family warmth and closeness. They only served to worsen my mood. I was estranged from my family. It was only after Christmas that the mood would lift. Did you experience this? Let me know in the comments below. #abusivemother #childhoodtrauma #emotionalabusesurvivor #estrangeddaughter #childabusesurvivors #childabusesurvivor #emotionalabuse #emotionaltrauma #abusivechildhood
This single action stayed with me for 50 years. My 6-year-old self never made sense of it. Decades later, as an older adult, I began to piece together the puzzle that was my mother. Did you experience physical abuse? Comments welcome. #abusivemother #childhoodtrauma #emotionalabusesurvivor #estrangeddaughter #childabusesurvivors #childabusesurvivor #emotionalabuse #emotionaltrauma #abusivechildhood
You do.💗 www.TheEstrangedHeart.com Email: [email protected] #theestrangedheart #theestrangedheartpodcast #estrangement #estrangedparentsandadultchildren #estrangedadultchildren #estrangedfamily #estrangeddaughter #estrangedson #estrangedmom #estrangementawareness #estrangementsupport
In this episode, Kreed shares an estranged adult daughter's story. What struck Kreed about this particular estrangement experience was the balancing act the estranged daughter was doing in an effort to help herself and her relationship with her parents while also trying to help her children to navigate their relationship with their grandparents. This adult daughter wants very much to have a relationship with her biological family and is saddened that she, the one who is working towards having healthy relationships with her biological family, is targeted as the "trouble child" because she recognizes the dysfunction of the family unit. This story also involves sibling estrangement as well. This episode drops today, Sunday, 12/10/2023 at 3pm PST and is available on all major podcast platforms as well as via the website: www.TheEstrangedHeart.com Email: [email protected] #theestrangedheart #theestrangedheartpodcast #estrangedparentandadultchildren #estrangedparent #estrangedadultchild #estrangeddaughter #estrangementcoach #estrangementcoachformoms #estrangedfamily #estrangedsiblings #estrangement #reconciliation #reconciliationcoach #practicethepause
disinheritance in an attempt to blame our poor relationship on me after decades of her mistreating me. With the receipt of the letter, my 15-year estrangement and emancipation from her began. I no longer cared about the money--at all. Did your mother threaten you with disinheritance, or did she do it? I'd love to hear about your experience in the comments below. #abusivechildhood #abusivemother #childhoodtrauma #emotionalabusesurvivor #emotionalabuse #estrangeddaughter #childabusesurvivors #childabusesurvivor
Starting in early childhood and throughout my teenage and young adult years, I was intermittently obsessed with my Mean Mother. Continually fixated on what she said and did, she drained my energy. Emotional detachment from her was always short-lived until the next blowout. Three weeks after college graduation, I rode a Greyhound bus from Seattle to the Pacific Ocean, living at the beach in Southern California. It was the Great Escape. #abusivemother #childhoodtrauma #emotionalabusesurvivor #estrangeddaughter #childabusesurvivors #childabusesurvivor #emotionalabuse #emotionaltrauma Did you have a Great Escape in your youth? Tell me in the comments below.
Practice the pause. Your nervous system and others will thank you.😉💗 www.TheEstrangedHeart.com #theestrangedheart #theestrangedheartpodcast #estrangementcoach #estrangementcoachformoms #estrangedparentandadultchildren #reconciliationcoach #estrangedadultchild #estrangedmom #estrangedfamily #estrangeddaughter #practicethepause #estrangedparent #pleaseandthankyou
We get what we're given, whether we like it or not. If we were wounded as children, then as adults, it's up to us to heal ourselves using the various resources at our disposal. Putting Humpty Dumpty back together again is not easy, and it's not fun, but the rewards are more than worth it! What do you think? I invite you to reply in the comments below. #abusivechildhood #abusivemother #childhoodtrauma #emotionalabusesurvivor #emotionalabuse #emotionaltrauma #estrangeddaughter #childabusesurvivors #childabusesurvivor
Our feelings and emotions (especially those from childhood wounds) guide our reactions. It is through recognition and then understanding followed by working through those emotions that enable us to respond rather than react. What feelings are you not comfortable with? What if you had unconditional support to help you to feel them and then move through them? How might your reactions turn into responses? www.TheEstrangedHeart.com #theestrangedheart #theestrangedheartpodcast #estranged #estrangement #estrangedadultchildren #estrangedparent #estrangedmom #estrangementcoach #reconciliation #reconciliationcoach #estrangedmother #estrangeddaughter #estrangedson #feelthefeelings #dontdoitalone
This support group member perfectly described what groups with The Estranged Heart are like. If you would like additional support and heart healing on your estrangement or reconciliation path, please reach out. You do not have to do this alone. www.TheEstrangedHeart.com #theestrangedheart #theestrangedheartpodcast #estranged #estrangement #estrangedadultchildren #estrangedparent #estrangedmom #estrangementcoach #reconciliation #reconciliationcoach #estrangedmother #estrangeddaughter #estrangedson #supportgroup #dontdoitalone
An estranged adult daughter shares her story. Episode drops today - Sunday, 12/3/2023 at 3pm PST. www.TheEstrangedHeart.com #theestrangedheart #theestrangedheartpodcast #estrangedparentandadultchildren #estrangedparent #estrangement #estrangedmom #estrangementcoach #estrangeddaughter #estrangementcoachformoms #hearttalk
In response to another complaint about my mother, my father advised me in high school to look the tiger in the eye. It was his way of suggesting that I discuss my issues directly with her instead of complaining to him. I wish I could have done that, but I was not mature enough. We might have bypassed many decades of hurt and eventual estrangement if I had done that then or later as a young adult. #abusivechildhood #abusivemother #childhoodtrauma #emotionalabusesurvivor #emotionalabuse #estrangeddaughter #childabusesurvivors #childabusesurvivor
So many of us try to force an outcome because that’s what we’ve been conditioned to do - getting what we want by force (by coercion, over giving, or otherwise controlling, etc.). It takes a lot of inner self-reflection to see that and a whole lot of humbleness to admit it. By learning how to let things be we are able to experience a sense of freedom and inner peace. And THAT is a beautiful gift to give to self AND others. Stop forcing and begin allowing things to be. When we release the need to control, forcing dissipates which then creates an opening for beautiful surprises.💗 www.TheEstrangedHeart.com #theestrangedheart #theestrangedheartpodcast #estrangedadultchild #estrangementcoach #estrangedmom #estrangement #bigbrave #estrangeddaughter #estrangedparentandadultchildren #estrangementcoachformoms #letitbe #forcingfails #estrangedparent
16 Days of Activism 2023. Let us be aware of GBV happening in and around us. Day 1 of 16 activated!!! #estrangeddaughter #16daysofactivism2023 #speaknow
This mom continues to share the journey she and her daughters are taking towards healthy relationships with one another. She continues to do her inner work and seeks her own mental and emotional support with those outside of her children. The transformation this mom and her daughters have taken on is nothing short of remarkable. I continue to be humbled being a witness to this sacred heart work. If you would like support to do your own inner work and reconcile with your child(rent) (if at all possible), please reach out. You do not have to do this alone. [email protected] www.TheEstrangedHeart.com #theestrangedheart #theestrangedheartpodcast #estranged #estrangement #estrangedadultchild #estrangedparentandadultchildren #estrangedmom #estrangeddaughter @estrangedson #estrangementcoach #bigbrave #courage #estrangedmother #estrangementcoachformoms
Dear Estranged Daughter, I know these days are complicated. I know these days are filled with messy emotions. I know these days are filled with an internal struggle between gratitude and grief. And I just want you to know… that’s ok. You shouldn’t have had to make these impossible choices. You shouldn’t be excluded from family gatherings. You shouldn’t have to sit out these memories. You deserve to have healthy relationships. You deserve healing. And you deserve a space to create the family you always dreamed of. Forever be thankful for your strength on this journey. Even when it doesn’t feel like it and even when it makes you angry. Be gentle with you today 🤍 @youthemother • • #youthemother #estrangement #estrangeddaughter #motherwound #fatherwound #cyclebreakers #cyclebreaker #healing #healingjourney #thanksgiving #holidays #familyholiday
Happy 100th episode to The Estranged Heart podcast!🎉 In this episode, the third and final episode on the communication educational series, Kreed & AC discuss to reconcile or remain estranged and how to possibly communicate that. Episode drops at 3pm PST today, Sunday, 11/19/2023. The podcast is available on all major podcast platforms as well as via the website: www.TheEstrangedHeart.com #theestrangedheart #theestrangedheartpodcast #estrangedparent #estrangedmom #estrangedadultchildandparents #estrangementcoach #estrangementcoachformoms #estrangementcoachforadultchildren #estrangement #estrangeddaughter #estrangedson #estrangedmother #reconciliation #reconciliationcoach
It was my biological father's funeral this week 🙏 I realise attending the funeral wasn't my entitlement~ I wouldn't have been welcome 😕 It's weird being a 'DNA not parent expected' 🤔 It's made me question a lot of stuff though~ Everyone needs some kind of farewell 🤷🏻♀️ Closure 🤔 I feel troubled 🤦🏼♀️ . I am aware my grief is also about the loss of my dream where one day I hoped those that rejected my very existence would be brave enough to allow me into my father's life 💔 Now that is shattered 💥 I don't need to pursue an impossible dream now 🕊️ It's over 💞 RIP my absent father 💞 . I need to shake myself down and carry on 🤔 "Go back to where I came from " as I was told by .....it doesn't matter who by 💔🫣😭 Well 🤷🏻♀️ actually they may have a point ~ That's a plan 🤔 Because where I come from is all about unconditional love, respect and so much kindness 🤗 It's part of me 🤷🏻♀️ Nature and nurture 😉 It's part of my being 💞 It's my worth ✨ It's my PRIVILEGE 😊 . As Brene Brown says : "What separates privilege from entitlement is gratitude" . I am grateful for so much in my life right now ~ This has to be my focus ✨💫✨ . Stay grateful 💞 Show respect 💞 Be kind 💞 💞 Unconditional love 💞 . I have found comfort in journaling this little piece, I feel a bit more connected 💫 I hope it may help another DNA NPE 🙏 . . #dnanpe #thoughtsandreflections #dnaexperience #trusttheprocess #griefjourney #grief #npetrauma #npestories #iamworthy #keepitreal #authenticself #autumnsunshine #autumnreset #bebrave #bekind #bekindtoeachother #beautyinnature #selfcarematters #senseofbelonging #journaling #inthewoods #storiesweliveby #respectanddignity #unconditional #unconditionallove #estrangeddaughter #ancestrydna #brenebrownquotes #journalingformentalhealth #gratefulforlife
A deep and sacred lesson I learned through my estrangement and reconciliation experience was the importance of transmuting suffering into grace and compassion for self and others. I wanted mercy to be extended to me ... which came as soon as I extended it to the other.💗 www.TheEstrangedHeart.com #theestrangedheart #theestrangedheartpodcast #estrangedadultchildandparents #estrangedparent #estrangedmom #estrangement #estrangementcoachformoms #estrangementcoachforadultchildren #estrangeddaughter #estrangedson #mercy #transmutesuffering #estrangementcoach #reconciliationcoach #reconciliation
That inner work really is sacred heart work. This mom has been so dedicated to not only changing the relationship with her adult child but also with herself. This has resulted in her ability to navigate other challenging family relationships with more clarity, courage and compassion. What a beautiful example she is providing for her adult child! So proud of this mama!💗 www.TheEstrangedHeart.com #theestrangedheart #theestrangedheartpodcast #estrangedadultchildandparents #estrangedparent #estrangedmom #estrangement #estrangementcoachformoms #estrangementcoachforadultchildren #estrangedson #reconciliation #estrangeddaughter #reconciliationcoach #momsleadingtheway #compassion
Throughout my childhood, teen, and young adult years with my difficult mother, I did not understand her mean mother ways. I rejected both her and her bullying behavior. I viewed her as an adversary, someone against me and not on my side. I was wary of her. She was not an advisor, coach, or mentor as a parent. Instead, she was a critical commentator who broadcast my missteps and failures on the air weekly. She did not engage in loving encouragement, only in expressions of reproach. She was verbally, emotionally, and physically abusive. #abusivechildhood #abusivemother #childhoodtrauma #emotionalabuse #emotionaltrauma #emotionalabusesurvivor #estrangeddaughter
Remember, the decision is personal and varies for each individual. Holidays can be especially tough, and it's crucial to take care of your emotional well-being. If you need some guidance to navigate through this season, be sure to check out my free download, The Empty Chair: Navigating Estrangement during the Holidays. Sending you strength and love. 💖🌟 https://www.sally-harris.com/holidays #NavigatingEmotions #BoundariesAreBeautiful #holidayseason #LoveBeyondBoundaries #coachformoms #estrangeddaughter
Remember, each family's situation is unique. Evaluate your decision based on your individual circumstances. And if you're looking for more guidance, don't forget to grab my free download, The Empty Chair: Navigating Estrangement during the Holidays. Stay strong, moms. 💪❤️ https://www.sally-harris.com/holidays #estrangedadultchildren #freeguide #holidayseason #estrangeddaughter #estrangedson #SeasonOfGiving
In this episode, Kreed & AC begin season 3 with the first of many educational series to come - the first topic being COMMUNICATION. Is there a way to communicate issues within a relationship that could prevent an estrangement from occurring? Is there a way to communicate the need to estrange (place distance between a parent and adult child) that can empower the self and eliminate the need to go silent? Episode airs tomorrow, Sunday, 11/5/2023 at 3pm PST and is available on all major podcast platforms. It can also be found via www.TheEstrangedHeart.com #theestrangedheart #theestrangedheartpodcast #estrangedadultchildandparents #estrangementcoach #estrangement #estrangementcoachformoms #estrangementcoachforadultchildren #estrangedmom #communication #estrangementprevention #estrangeddaughter #estrangedson #reconciliation #reconciliationcoach #estrangementcoach
In this episode, Kreed & AC begin season 3 with the first of many educational series to come - the first topic being COMMUNICATION. Is there a way to communicate issues within a relationship that could prevent an estrangement from occurring? Is there a way to communicate the need to estrange (place distance between a parent and adult child) that can empower the self and eliminate the need to go silent? Episode airs tomorrow, Sunday, 11/5/2023 at 3pm PST and is available on all major podcast platforms. It can also be found via www.TheEstrangedHeart.com #theestrangedheart #theestrangedheartpodcast #estrangedadultchildandparents #estrangementcoach #estrangement #estrangementcoachformoms #estrangementcoachforadultchildren #estrangedmom #communication #estrangementprevention #estrangeddaughter #estrangedson #reconciliation #reconciliationcoach #estrangementcoach
It's the weirdest feeling 🤷🏻♀️ Being a 'DNA not parent expected' with a different ethnicity 😔 I met him once 💗 Beautiful but complicated ☹️ A rollercoaster of emotions 💥 . I can't seem to get myself together since he passed away a few weeks back ~ I feel all rigid with big protective blocks all around 😕 Sad yet not sad 🤷🏻♀️ Lost yet not lost 🤷🏻♀️ The same but not the same 🤔 A mixture of emotions 💥 But I can't talk about it because I'm a secret 🫣 . The day we met was a special day 💫 People say , "You didnt know him....he rejected you......he doesn't care.....forget him " 😕 But it's not like that at all 😔 He was in his 80's when we met and he told me so much in such a short space of time ....... For the first time in my life everything fell into place ..... He gave me something that day~ I can't put it into words 💕 But I can feel it 💫✨ . Today I feel a need to let go of the sadness, shake it off, a time for change, remember my worth 🤔 Be brave 💯 . I need to go to the woods and see what nature is doing right now and just be kind to myself in a world where sometimes life is far from kind 💕 . "Goodbyes are only for those who love with their eyes. Because for those who love with heart and soul there is no such thing as separation.” ~ Rumi . . #dnanpe #thoughtsandreflections #dnaexperience #trusttheprocess #griefjourney #grief #npetrauma #npestories #iamworthy #keepitreal #autumndays #frenchiemummy #frenchiesofinstagram #dowhatyoucan #bekindtoeachother #bekindtoyourself #selfcarematters #senseofbelonging #wildandfree #inthewoods #energywork #healingvibes #perfectlyimperfect #storiesweliveby #respectanddignity #geneology #ancestrydna #rumiquotes #rainydays #estrangeddaughter
🌟 New Release: The Ultimate Guide to Holiday Peace 🌟 The holidays are a time of joy, celebration, and connection, but they can also bring challenges, especially for moms with estranged adult children. This season, don't let the weight of uncertainty rob you of your festive spirit. Introducing my FREE Interactive Guide tailored just for you! 💡 What's Inside? Deep-dive into strategies to navigate difficult decisions, from inviting your child over to choosing the perfect gift. Most importantly, this guide offers you the space to reflect, with self-reflective questions to help you determine what's best for you and your family. 🎄 Why You Need This? With the holidays around the corner, arm yourself with a toolkit designed to empower you, maintain your inner peace, and enable you to truly cherish the moments with your loved ones at home. ✨ Remember, every challenge is an opportunity for growth. Let this guide be your companion, helping you find clarity amidst the holiday hustle. 👉 Grab your FREE download now and embark on a journey of self-discovery and holiday joy! www.sally-harris.com/holidays #holidayseason #freeguide #estrangedfamily #estrangeddaughter #estrangedson #estrangedadultchildren
I spent my childhood, adolescence, and young adulthood resisting my Mother. I could not accept her verbal, emotional, or physical abuse. Further, I could not accept the person she was—even her positive attributes. Yes, she had some! Yet, all I could hear was the berating and her overly controlling and overly critical voice. I saw her as a big blob of black with no white or shades of gray. With that vision and no toolkit to use to deal with her, I remained locked in a series of unending battles. Before my introduction to 12-step programs, therapy, and self-help books, I had no clue how to deal with my obsession called Mom, which permeated my entire life. Know that your Mother will not change her behavior toward you unless she is motivated to do so. This means she will continue her hurtful ways. Accept it now. You cannot change her. You can only change your reaction to her. #innerchildhealing #abusivechildhood #abusivemother #childhoodtrauma #emotionalabuse #emotionaltrauma #traumamemoir #emotionalabusesurvivor #estrangeddaughter #estrangeddaughters