UPCOMING GROUUUPPPPPPSSSSS!!!!‼️‼️‼️ Virtual! You can be in any state! I can also offer a very low sliding scale! Reach out if interested :) #grouptherapy #chronicillness #estrangedadultchildren #estranged #PTSD #therapy #chronicillness #chronicpain #longcovid #queerwomen #supportgroup
◾DEMENTIA PORTRAITZ, PART.38. 🔊🔊 'Run Away, Turn Away (Crying to your Soul)' RAW-UNCENSORED.🔛 @raw.connectionz ✔ Alex RAW April 30 • 2024 • #dad #motivation #rawconnectionz #dutchmade🇳🇱 #generations #fatherandson #mindset #mindfullife #storytelling #lifeenergy #memories #family #mantelzorg #father #dementia #dementie #dementiaportrait #thenetherlands #positiveenergy #prayer #god #likefatherlikeson #gettingolder #oldbeforeidie #estranged #livealifeyouwillremember #lente #dementiezorg #nothingelsematters #papa
Did your narcissistic parent get worse as you became an adult? #Narcissisticmother #daughtersofnarcissisticmothers #adultchildrenofnarcissists #raisedbynarcissists #scapegoat #goldenchild #blacksheepofthefamily #estranged #motherwound #cyclebreakers #dysfunctionalfamily #narcissisticabuserecovery
Art is an amazing way to experience history, culture and self expression. 🎨 One of our favourite places for museums and galleries is London, (we love the National Portrait Gallery!) If you're an art lover, you could study @imperialcollege with a rent-free #HomeAtUniversity and make the most of everything that London has to offer! #EducationIsForEveryone- Find out more about a free #HomeAtUniversity and how to apply through the link in our bio, applications close on 14th June! #CareExperienced #Estranged #University #Accommodation #Student #UniLife #Home #Societies #Hobbies #Art #Artist #London #Museums #Galleries
. . C P Cavafy was born like today, April 29, 1863 in Alexandria and died also like today, on April 29, 1933 and also in Alexandria. In the 1970s, the Artist translated a selection of Cavafy poetry from English to Arabic, publishing that translation along with an introduction two decades later in his publication: “Cavafy: An Alexandrian Poet”. This was followed by an Artist’s Book - The Cavafy Suite - a limited edition of 10 that includes 10 prints and Arabic translation of 4 poems: The City, An Old Man, Horses of Achilles and Prayer. _____________________ Image: ©️Ahmed Morsi. MoMA collection @themuseumofmodernart British Museum collection @britishmuseum _____________________ #ahmedmorsi #Art #Painting #Printmaking #Drawing #Poetry #ModernArt #ContemporaryArt #VisualArt #Artist #Critic #Poet #Surrealism #Symbolism #Figurative #mythology #Egypt #Alexandria #home #cairo #moma #britishmuseum #mediterranean #estranged #Diaspora #Exile #studio #cavafy #artistbook
A Ship’s Sails by: Sookie Morrison #poem #poetry #poetsofinstagram #poetrycommunity #writings #writingcommunity #writersofinstagram #disillusion #estranged #therapy #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters
When the parent is curious, caring, and connected, I bring the adult children into sessions. We look at the dynamics that created the disconnection. Whether that’s a parent being grandiose and treating the child without care, or a parent not protecting them, or taking out their feelings on the child, or demanding the child over functions without care of the child’s needs. etc. I support them to express their struggles in a healthy way - focused on what they feel and need for repair. I support the parent to regulate, and then validate and care for their experience. Then together we work on the skills that build secure attachment - so they can hold space for each other, treat each other as worthy, honour each other in communication and be proactive in growing the relationship together. This isn’t easy work. It takes a lot of strength and vulnerability. And it’s utterly worth it. Doing this healing work is the biggest gift we can give to our children and ourselves. It’s transformative - when we have a close, deep and nourishing relationship with our family, the rest of our lives thrive. When we give and receive more love, we are healthier, wealthier, happier, and more creative. If you’re a parent and want to repair ways you failed with your kids and weave love into parts of them that have hurt - it’ll be an honour to support you in the healing journey. Please pop the word INFO below, and I’ll share the details for 2 hour sessions so we can deeply make a difference to your family. #restoringlove #attachment #therapy #parenting #family #healing #breakthecycle #abuse #emotionalabuse #estrangement #estranged #trauma #traumahealing #childhoodtrauma #parenting #toxicparenting #toxic #selfhelp #selfhealing #gentleparenting
I tend to work with the parent first - to get them to a heart centred place where they can understand themselves, have empathy, and respond in a healthy way. We address the behaviours they feel haven’t been healthy. This way they’re able to own their behaviour, apologise and share how they wished they’d been when their children come to therapy. This takes getting out of blaming or shaming the children, and recognising they are the responsible parent. When they can see their children with kindness and a willingness to repair, I welcome the children in. Sometimes a parent will say they’re ready to engage therapeutically with the child before they truly are. If the parent is reactive in a session, they need more trauma healing and skill development. Otherwise their treatment of the children sends the adult right back into their survival patterns - whether that’s defending the parent, fawning, fighting, freezing, flight, funny or flopping. It’s a delicate balance of confronting a parent, and empowering the child to share their experience in a healthy way. I’m super proud of parents who’re willing to do this work. It takes deep courage and strength to notice where they’re failing and be willing to face themselves, and treat their children in the way they wished to be treated. This isn’t about blaming the parents. Many things got in the way when they were a child - having a carer with addiction issues, mental health issues, who passed away, abusive tendencies… This leads the parent to not having fundamental skills to create a safe, loving, connected home. Attachment therapy isn’t about blame. While we do confront behaviours that are toxic, we teach the skills to improve to those who’re open to becoming the best parent they can be. When the parent is ready to repair… we bring in the children. #restoringlove #attachment #therapy #parenting #family #healing #breakthecycle #abuse #emotionalabuse #estrangement #estranged #trauma #traumahealing #childhoodtrauma #parenting #toxicparenting #toxic #selfhelp #selfhealing #gentleparenting
Do you fear going to therapy with a parent because of how the therapist may respond? Too often a therapist protects the parent from facing the impact of the behaviour so the adult child feels unmet and uncared for once again. That’s certainly how I felt when I went to therapy with my mother. The therapist judged me for sharing my hurt, anger, and pain - rather than supporting my mother to repair and grow the skills to be healthy. A therapist needs to advocate for the child. Terry Real shares that often therapists have too much empathy, and not enough gumption to address dynamics that aren’t healthy. When I do attachment therapy with a family, part of my role is facing the dynamics that are dysfunctional . Why? If someone doesn’t know how they’re criticising, repressing, shaming, talking down, silencing, mocking… they can’t change. So we address how the parent is behaving - so they become aware, and know what needs to be addressed. In Attachment Family Focused Therapy I deeply listen to both child and parent to understand the dynamics that are causing the disconnection. Go to part 2 to hear how I work with the parent first… to get them ready to take responsibility. hashtag #restoringlove hashtag #attachment hashtag #therapy hashtag #parenting hashtag #family hashtag #healing hashtag #breakthecycle hashtag #abuse hashtag #emotionalabuse hashtag #estrangement hashtag #estranged hashtag #trauma hashtag #traumahealing hashtag #childhoodtrauma hashtag #parenting hashtag #toxicparenting hashtag #toxic hashtag #selfhelp hashtag #selfhealing hashtag #gentleparenting
Fancy studying at one of the best universities in the UK? Fancy free accommodation as well? 🤭 The Unite Foundation Scholarship offers care-experienced and estranged students a free #HomeAtUniversity for three years, with no bills to pay, and a place to call home over the summer. That means you can focus on your studies and life with fewer worries about money or finding accommodation over the holidays, ✨ 🔗 Head to the link in our bio to find out more, who can apply and where you could study! *QS ranks Imperial College London, University of Bristol, Kings College London, University of Edinburgh, and University College London within the Top 10 in the UK, all of which have a partnership with the Unite Foundation Scholarship. #CareExperienced #Estranged #Students #University #Education #Uni #UniLife #Students #StudentLife #House #Home #RentFree #HomeAtUniversity #Scholarship #Funding #Support #ThisIsUsAtUni #UniteFoundation
Amazing time on set with @skyvaux !!!!!😝🩵🎥 #funtimes #estranged #vibing
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What would your choice be if YOU were put in this situation? #freeyourself #estrangement #toxicrelationships #emotionalabuse #toxicity #toxicbehavior #estranged #cutthemoff #nocontactwithsociopaths #healingpath #boundaries #adultchildrenofnarcissists #narcissisticabuse #borderlinemom #bpdawareness #estrange #abusivemom #npd #narcissisticabuserecoverycoach #narcissisticmothers #estrangedfamily #estrangementawareness #traumaticchildhood #codependencynomore #codependency #codependencyrecovery #butshesyourmother #butshesabusive #whatwouldyoudo #whatwouldyouchoose
. . . . . • #divorcinganarcissist #dollartreefinds #domesticabuse #drama #drive #driver #drzpsychologist #emotionalabuserecovery #emotionaldamage #emotionalflashbacks #emotionalhealing #emotionalhealth #emotionalneeds #england #envy #estranged #ethical #ethicalhacker #ethicalhackers #ethicalhacking #facebookrecoverv #facebooksupport #facebooksupportgroup #facts #fb #fbhack #feelingbroken #forexrecommendation #foryou #founderpowerfulnext
I had a partner who was in denial about who he was when he was depressed. I understand that depression can alter your personality quite drastically. When we first met, he told me a lot about himself that turned out not to be true when his depression got really bad. But, he was too ashamed of who he was to show himself to me. He avoided telling me when he got triggered and became more distant rather than opening up to me. He lied about how he felt about me partly because he didn't have the energy to deal with the situation and partly because he was ashamed of his vulnerability. I noticed that he was becoming more distant, but he said that it just had to do with his depression. He lied to himself about how his feelings for me were changing because he felt ashamed. As a result, in addition to lying to me, he ghosted me more and more until I broke it off. So often, trauma and fear get in the way of connection. I think honesty and communication are the only way to be in a healthy relationship if trauma comes up. Even then, it's hard. . . . . . . #cptsd #conplextrauma #complexptsd #rejection #reject #abandoned #abandonment #abandonmenttrauma #estranged #narcissisticparent #narcissist #narcissticabuse #narcissiticabusesurvivor #alone #chronicillness #chronicpain #emotionalflashbacks #coping #suicide #regulatednervoussystem #nervoussystem #nervoussystemregulation #identity #gaslighting #trauma #healingjourney #healing
Ugh. I know. But we've got to FEEL OUR FEELINGS. So many of us spend SO. MUCH. TIME doing everything we can to avoid those feelings. We work too hard, we drink too much, we avoid avoid avoid. But those feelings are gonna come back so it's time to learn how to COPE with them. A great way to learn how to do that? Therapy. It's not easy, I know. I used to call my best friend on the way home from seeing my counselor and she'd say, "How'd it go?" and I'd say, "Well, I just paid her to watch me cry again." But eventually through the tears, I learned how to be happy. And how to be sad. And how to be angry. And how to BE. And boy howdy is it better over here.
Calling all wild swimmers! You could study @universityofbristol and join their wild swimming society🏊♂️ , all with a rent-free #HomeAtUniversity! One of the best parts of uni life is the chance to explore all of your interests and hobbies, and do more of the things that make you, you. Find out more about how you could have year round accommodation with no worries about rent or bills through the link in our bio, applications close on 14th June. #EducationIsForEveryone #UniteFoundationScholarship #CareExperienced #Estranged #University #Accommodation #Home #Housing #Hobbies #Societies #Bristol #UniLife #Student #StudentLife
Aumente o som 🔊 🌊 @gunsnroses . . . . . #gunsnroses #estranged #rock #andlife #lol
#pressplay▶️: #ppmcelebritieswholink: #estranged husband of #porshawilliams, #simonguobadia, & #jeanniemai’s estranged husband #jeezy, spotted spending some time together at the #golfcourse.
Just in case anyone needed this reminder today! #Narcissisticmother #daughtersofnarcissisticmothers #adultchildrenofnarcissists #raisedbynarcissists #traumahealing #scapegoat #blacksheepofthefamily #blacksheep #estranged #motherwound #cyclebreakers #dysfunctionalfamily #narcissisticabuserecovery #toxicfamily
✨ These are just 5 of our 29 partner universities around the UK where you can get a free #HomeAtUniversity for 3 years ✨ 🔗 Head to the link in our bio to find out where else you can study! @lifeatkings @bathspauni @ljmu @theuniversityofsheffield @leedsbeckett #CareExperienced #Estranged #Students #University #Education #Uni #UniLife #Students #StudentLife #House #Home #RentFree #HomeAtUniversity #Scholarship #Funding #Support #ThisIsUsAtUni #UniteFoundation
❤️🔥Fisicamente en la universidad, pero yo deberia estar haciendo musica 🖤 #LivierG #fotos #fotoscringe #aesthetic #urbano #alternativegirl #alternative #grungestyle #grunge #style #xdxdxd #xd #cringe #universidad #university #artista #gunsnroses #estranged #maestra #school #inspiration #fotosaesthestics #fotostumblr #aesthetic #tumblr #fotosquedanpena #estilo #mexico #glowup #guadalajara #hey
Reevaluating what intimacy for me looks and feels like. Because I didn’t grow up with much demonstrated intimacy, I would often opt for pain & neglect instead. I think back to when my body was more abled & how much I wanted to be choked, slapped and spanked during smeggs. I wanted to close my eyes, to be bit, and marked, to feel something because internally I was so numb. Now that I feel so much all the time (including chronic pain), my needs have evolved; I want tenderness and eye contact, to be held and cared for; for reciprocity & effort. Not to k!nk shame anyone of course; I think that k!nks are fluid & they often communicate to us what we’re missing & craving. And I associated connection with pain, so when I connected with people I thought pain was a vital part of that process. I definitely had to reevaluate the ways that I engage in intimacy. And the ways I felt repulsed by it when I finally did receive it; my body rejecting it even when I desperately wanted it so badly. Before, I would ask for pain because I didn’t know how to feel pain in my body, and now that my I feel pain in my body all time; I just want relief. I want gentleness. I want to feel seen, and for others to allow me to see them too. I will probably still ask to get my hair pulled once in a while but I know that I’m in a place where my needs and wants are much more well-rounded than wanting to be degraded all the time, and thinking that’s all I deserved. Wantonness and respect can coexist. We are not stagnant beings; our needs evolve and change as we do, and we can appreciate and grieve the parts of us that live in another chapter of time while welcoming in who we’re becoming. We can appreciate and still love who we were even if we don’t recognize those versions of ourselves anymore because we’re in a different place. #intimacy #grounding #chronicpain #memes #evolution #pain #grief #love #estranged #blacksheep #authenticity #compassion #honesty #anemiaproblems
You're in good company. ❤️🩹
Calling all care experienced and estranged students currently revising for exams. One of the students in the @all_of_us_uk community is organising Study Buddies, a laid-back, drop-in study group. They're meeting online on Friday 3rd May and you can pop in any time between 10-5pm to study alongside other care experienced and estranged students from across the UK. It's completely FREE and people who sign up get a free study pack in the post to support them with their revising/essay writing/(procrastinating?!). You can sign up via the link on screen, or via their link in bio. Once you've signed up, you'll receive the Teams link which you can join at any point during the day. Come along, say hello and they'll help you be productive. Extra perk: Everyone who joins in on the day will also be entered into a randomly selected prize draw to win a mystery surprise... #everydayimstudying #Estranged #CareExperienced #Study #University #Degree #Friends #Motivation
This is just one example of the many contradictions narcissistic parents don’t expect you to notice. Let’s ignore the childhood trauma, the fact that the brain is wired by that trauma, and the fact that one’s parents and upbringing have a major impact on how the life of being abused they didn’t choose turns out 🤔 One thing I’ve always been extremely happy about is the fact that I get to spend my adulthood healing from my childhood. I’m also so happy I was conditioned to be a people pleaser, a perfectionist, and a ball of anxiety while my brain was developing as a young child. It’s been so much fun unlearning this! (This was sarcasm in case it wasn’t obvious) All sarcasm aside, I am happy that I get to share my healing journey with fellow survivors of narcissistic abuse. But this happiness didn’t just come as a choice because my late narcissistic mother demanded that I just shut up and be happy lol. This happiness came from learning about my repressed emotions and how they were used against me, learning how to release those emotions in a safe and effective way, and that’s how space for happiness gets created. It takes work. It also takes having realistic expectations, for example: understanding that no emotion is permanent, happiness included, and a permanent state of bliss is a ridiculous unrealistic goal. If you're ready to take that first baby step on your healing journey, I created a new guide on how to thrive after narcissistic abuse - and it's free! 💬 Just drop the word 🔥THRIVE🔥 in the comments (or my DM's) and the link to download your free empowerment guide will be sent to your DM's! #Narcissisticmother #daughtersofnarcissisticmothers #adultchildrenofnarcissists #raisedbynarcissists #traumahealing #scapegoat #blacksheepofthefamily #estranged #motherwound #cyclebreakers #dysfunctionalfamily #narcissisticabuserecovery
Has this ever crossed your mind? Read it again, darling. Your needs are valid and worthy. Another person’s incapacity dies not render them invalid, too much. Please be gentle with you and seek fresh ways to be heard, seen, understood, validated, cared for, nurtured, soothed, nourished, held. You are thoroughly deserving. It can be so painful when the people we thought would be there just aren’t- it’s another wound in itself. Wishing you all the tenderness in this process. If you’re looking for 1:1 support, please know I’m here, or join my subscription community for group support. We all need other people. Sometimes it’s hard to find in our immediate circle. Big loving squeeze. Suz xx . . . . . . #yourneeds #yourneedsmatter #youmatter #knowyourworth #valueyourself #respectyourself #advocateforyourself #reachout #keepreaching #expressyourself #takeupspace #begentlewithyourself #bekindtoyourself #giveyourselfgrace #livingwithloss #griefjourney #estrangement #estranged #emotionalneeds #emotionalneglect #healingjourney #healyourself #healyourlife #emotionalhealing
Always on my mind 💔💕 these leis were one of our art projects #ohana #family #lovemyfamily #wontgiveup #estranged
"As a kid, I was fascinated with the occult, and being raised in a fairly non-religious home, it was something which was not repressed by my parents, although my dad would often describe me as 'most peculiar’!”—David J, born April 24, 1957 (Image: The Sunset Strip) #davidj #taurus #birthdays #bauhaus #belalugosisdead #darkentries #spirit #shesinparties #telegramsam #loveandrockets #soalive #ballofconfusion #illbeyourchauffeur #thedaythatdavidbowiedied #onglass #estranged #astrology
Anyone else hate mushrooms!? With a rent free #HomeAtUniversity, you could learn to cook, experiment with new recipes and even join a food society to meet other students who love/hate the same foods as you! Bring your whole self to uni on the Unite Foundation Scholarship, applications close on 14th June, you can find out more through the link in our bio 🏠 #EducationIsForEveryone #CareExperienced #Estranged #Home #Housing #Student #Accommodation #Rent #University #Education
Move-in day 🎉 It’s always a highlight to move a young person into supported It’s always a highlight to move a young person into supported lodgings! 🥳 This young person was living alone in a three-bedroom house having recently, and unexpectedly, lost their mum 💔 With the property belonging to the council and the pressures of trying to live alone and study the young person was desperately in need of a safe, warm, supportive place to call home 🏡 This change has come just in time for them to start revising for a-levels and, hopefully, achieve their dream of going to university in September 🎓 This move was made slightly unusual given the young person owned a dog which called for some pre-acquaintance sessions with the family pets 🐕🦺 However, we’re delighted that both the young person and the dog have settled in excellently! 🙌 #youngpeople #host #hosting #cambridge #cambridgeshire #supportedlodgings #whatleavingcareshouldbe #readytolaunch #makeadifference #spareroom #roomtospare #students #estranged #estrangement
Estranged since 1987 🖤🎸🎩 #slash #blackandwhite #rock #gibson #estranged
A rent-free #HomeAtUniversity- that means accommodation and bills covered for up to 3 years at university. If you or someone you know is under 25, care experienced or estranged and studying your first undergraduate degree- you could apply for the Unite Foundation Scholarship. Head to the link in our bio for all further info and share this with as many people as you can today! #UniteFoundation #CareExperienced #Estranged #Accommodation #University #Rent #UniLife #Scholarship #Housing #ThisIsUsAtUni
Estranged lamp 🪔 #lamps #lamp #estranged #interior #interiordesign #handwork #homedecor #homelamp #accessories #wood #woodlamp #instagram #like #workfromhome #light #sea #lighlamp #lightfromsea #tøpart
The Unite Foundation Scholarship is so much more than accommodation. ✨ Whilst accommodation is the main factor of the scholarship which allows a number of estranged and care-experienced students to go to university by providing a free #HomeAtUniversity for three years, the scholarship is so much more than that! For Josh, not only was it a way to connect with others with similar experiences, but he was able to go to parliament to help advocate for care leavers and their ability to pursue higher education. You can listen to the whole of Josh's episode by searching "This Is Us podcast" over on Spotify, Apple Podcasts or Google Podcasts or you can head to the link in our bio. 🔗 #CareExperienced #Estranged #Students #University #Education #Uni #UniLife #Students #StudentLife #House #Home #RentFree #HomeAtUniversity #Scholarship #Funding #Support #ThisIsUsAtUni #UniteFoundation
#dreams #delusion #reality #harsh #heartbreak #estranged #bond #memories #siblings
Welcome to Study Buddies, our laid-back, drop-in study group. We're meeting online on Friday 3rd May and you can pop in any time between 10-5pm to study alongside other care experienced and estranged students from across the UK. It's completely free and people who sign up get a free study pack in the post to support them with their revising/essay writing/(procrastinating?!). Come join us on the 3rd in a supportive environment to help you knuckle down and get that work done! You can sign up via the link in our bio. Once you've signed up, you'll receive the Teams link which you can join at any point during the day. Come along, say hello and we'll help you be productive. Extra perk: Everyone who joins in on the day itself will also be entered into a randomly selected prize draw to win a mystery surprise... #EveryDayI'mStudying #Estranged #CareExperienced #Study #University #Degree #Friends #Motivation
Despite being set in a college in the USA, The Sex Lives Of College Girls gets a lot of things about university life right. 🎓 From the complexities of moving in with strangers to the uni/work/social life balance and even navigating university whilst being on a scholarship! Kimberly, one of the main characters received financial aid through a scholarship to help her have a #HomeAtUniversity and continue her studies! ✨ If you haven't watched it, I'd recommend it for an easy binge-worthy watch! 📺 #CareExperienced #Estranged #Students #University #Education #Uni #UniLife #Students #StudentLife #House #Home #RentFree #Scholarship #Funding #Support #ThisIsUsAtUni #UniteFoundation
I’m Here Now !!! This goes out to my soon to be 17 year old estranged son ! First off , You are Loved & You are wanted !!! I know I wasn’t around while you were growing up ! And you didn’t deserve to be deserted ! And I know I hurt your mama real bad , and for that I am truly sorry ! 😢 I had some growing up to do of my own ! I hope you can find it in your heart to truly forgive me and meet me for the first time . I believe I am NOT the same man from all the stories you have heard . That version of me was immature and reckless ! I have changed , but don’t take my word for it . Please come and see for yourself ! Give me a chance to prove you right about me ! PLEASE 🙏 #Noah #OneJustChris #WeAreOne #TogetherWeRise #Estranged #Father #Reunite #ImHereNow
For my workshop, “Navigating Fractured Relationships with Difficult Parents” next week on April 27th, it’s important to understand some of the basic assumptions of my work. Knowing these will help you know if the workshop aligns with your values. ✨ I am not advocating for you to go no contact with your parent, nor am I encouraging people to move towards forgiveness and reconciliation. ✨ Every parent-adult child relationship is unique and complex. Your parent is not all good or all bad. ✨ There is no one “right way” to have a relationship with your parent. The many different choices are equally valid. Only you can know what’s right. ✨ You don’t owe your parent your time, money, or details of your life. It’s okay if you choose not to have a relationship with them. It’s a valuable, affirming, and actionable workshop. If you want to join us on Sunday, go to the link in my bio! You don’t have to figure this out on your own. #estranged #emotionallyimmatureparents #setboundaries #cptsdsupport #adultchildrenofnarcissists #nocontact
@miamitherapist_ gets it ❤️ #estranged #estrangement #toxicfamily #nocontact #cuttingties #toxicparents
Today, I celebrate having written the 70,000th word of my forthcoming #book, #ThePowerofParting. The words on this page are from Chapter 8: Debunking the Myths; Reclaiming Our Lives. As I approach the finish line (May 1st due date—yikes!), I become ever more grateful to my editor @mhowry01, my agent @toddhshuster, my #chosenfamily, & dozens of survivors & experts—all of whom helped me assemble those 70k words 🙏📖🙏 #nocontact #estranged #TPOP
It was my birthday recently. I told some of my friends that my birthday is so important to me this year because last year I was very close to committing suicide. Living was torture and I didn't want to live the rest of my life if it was always going to be like that. I told myself that if my life didn't improve in the next five years, I would do it. My birthday, especially, always seemed to be cursed. I never had people to spend it with who actually seemed to care about me or whom I had an authentic relationship with and bad things seemed to happen around my birthday. My last birthday, I spent with a stranger in a hospital in a foreign country. I was so cut off from my family and friends that nobody called me. I was severely depressed and anxious on top of my cptsd. I was burned out by social anxiety and ate cake by myself at the end of the day. I wanted to die. This past year I have put so much effort into finding genuine friendships/relationships. And I chose to spend my birthday with the family I have a better relationship with now. However, of the friends with whom I shared the importance of my birthday and discussed birthday celebrations, some just didn't care to send me a message on my birthday or ask whether my celebration plans had been made concrete. Instead, they talked to me about what they would rather do on that day. It isn't a betrayal or anything, but given my history of surviving child abuse, what I shared with my friends about my mental health, how I've been there for them in their times of illness, and how close I thought we were, it hurts to be dismissed like that. . . . . . . . #cptsd #conplextrauma #complexptsd #rejection #reject #abandoned #abandonment #abandonmenttrauma #estranged #narcissisticparent #narcissist #narcissticabuse #narcissiticabusesurvivor #alone #chronicillness #chronicpain #emotionalflashbacks #coping #suicide #regulatednervoussystem #nervoussystem #nervoussystemregulation #identity #gaslighting #trauma #healingjourney #healing
A new blog post is up https://rb.gy/3a8vv2 #GriefJourney #DeathAwareness #DyingWithDignity #Dying #ReflectionsOnTheFinalFarewell #DeathWorkers #Death #CopingWithLoss #DeathandDying #Hospice #CelebrationofLife #DeathEducation #GriefSupport #TerminalIllness #GoodDeath #LossAndHealing #FinalFarewell #EndOfLifePlanning #HonoringTheDead #LegacyBuilding #DeathDoula #EndOfLifeCare #MourningProcess #Estranged #EOLCare #Grieving #Funeral #PalliativeCare #DeathPositive #EndOfLife
I remember the day I put words on what I was meant to be. It all started by reading @iamsahararose book "Discover your Dharma-A Vedic Guide to finding your Purpose" and then doing her 21 day course and then going to her Coaching School, the @highestselfinstitute It hit me there and it was so powerful, I just couldn't Not share with the world. I was raised as an engineer. Getting "downloads" or "intuitive hits" were never a thing that I was taught to hear, receive and least of all, follow. But when you do open the door to just asking the question. There is no way you don't get an answer. And when you do find what really makes you feel alive. There is no stopping you. Everything makes sense in that state. Everything is so easy. So normal. And so so so nourishing and fulfilling. Unfortunately it definitely doesn't last. It does take practice to be in touch with your intuition and highest self most of the time. And as an empath having been raised in a family that didn't and still doesn't understand emotions, energies, spirituality,.... it's been hard to find My voice and trust it. I usually use astrology to have an idea of what's coming next. But it often ends up being a confirmation of my past choices. Showing me that I almost had no choice in my decisions making, I was just born to be who I am becoming. And that feels so good. Receiving the confirmation that I know what my intuition tells me. And that I am brave enough to follow it. Even if it means losing the people that should be loving me - my family. I wish you to be curious. So open minded you can ask the questions. Receive the answers with no expectations. And find your bliss. So that your walls become doors. No matter what your family thinks or wants. I wish you to find your people that will participate in how normal your bliss feels. And add to the goodness. Yes!!!!! So much love to you!!!!! #standalone #togetherestranged #breakingthecycle #betterlove #blacksheep #estrangement #estranged #estrangedadultchildren #estrangeddaughter #familyissues #familyproblems #itstopswithme
If you know, you know. And I’m sorry if your grief (and all that’s changed) isn’t observed as it should be. Grieving the living is a unique experience with loss. It’s misunderstood. Often minimized. And definitely lonely. I’m here standing with you in the knowing. And I just want you to know I get it. And more than that - God gets it. He sees what’s happened. He knows. And He takes your sorrow seriously. It’s good and right to grieve - even when no one else seems to understand or get it. Take the time you need. This is hard. And I’m praying. ❤️ “You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book.” Ps. 56:8 (NLT) . . . #redeemed #hope #grief #griefjourney #griefsupport #healingjourney #jesus #jesussaves #godisgood #livinggrief #ambiguousgrief #anticipatorygrief #grievingtheliving #missingyou #specialneedsparenting #specialneeds #divorce #betrayed #rejected #estranged #sorrow #christian #christianblogger #christianwomen #depression #mentalhealthsupport
Absolutely agree with @patrickteahanofficial on this one! So many people say to me “but what if I’m the narcissist?” “What if it’s me that is toxic or difficult like my parents always say?” “What if I’m seeing all these toxic patterns but… it’s in my head?” In toxic family dynamics, the people pushing for change are NOT the ones who are toxic - the more that you are enmeshed in these cycles and the more that toxicity (and everyone’s compliance and silence in it) suits you. Scapegoats are made to feel like the problem, always. But you’re not. You were never the problem - you’re just the one unwilling to go along with this family behaviour. #toxicfamilymembers #toxicfamily #nocontact #estranged #estrangement #childhoodtrauma #scapegoat #narcissisticparent
Τόσο κοντα, μα τόσο μακρυά. . . . #faraway #close #estranged #alienation #humanity #dolls #hair #wig #bw #blackandwhitephotography
Even when you’re an adult, there is still that underlying expectation that your parent ought to love you. But that might not be true for you. You have realized that your parent’s affection is either twisted— expressed as control, intrusiveness, or infantilization, or missing altogether. This is not a reflection of any lack in you, but rather, their own limitations. Having a fractured relationship with your parent does not mean something about who you are as a person. Your worth is inherent, independent from how your parent might feel about you or the way they might treat you. You are lovable exactly as you are even if your parent will never be able to give that to you. If you want to better understand what is yours and what is not in your relationship with your parent, join me for the “Navigating Fractured Relationships with Difficult Parents” workshop on April 27th. You don’t have to figure this out on your own. #emotionallyimmatureparents #nocontact #estranged #adultchildrenofalcoholics #adultchildrenofnarcissists #cptsdrecovery #cptsdhealing
I wrote this 5 years ago and it is still true: (the time that passed was adjusted for my own reference) Here is the post: - With love in my heart, I want to take a moment to wish everyone ease as Passover approaches (in every possible way). It may be a first without a beloved. It may be a 15th or a 20th. It may be a joyous occasion. It may be a struggle. It may be a wonder or a new beginning! I wish everyone a soft place to fall whether that is with others or within the sanctuary of one’s own sacred heart. This year marks my 21st year without my family of origin. It has been a mysterious, painful and mystical journey learning to live without them. However, one thing has always remained true and unyielding and it is this: My love for them. This year, as I honor Passover, I acknowledge yet again, that they have let me go. I thought letting go meant losing the people I loved. And that has never worked for me. I have come to see that letting go is a letting in. An allowing of things to be just as they are. And that nothing is ever lost when you are rooted in love. I acknowledge that this is the time of year we liberate ourselves from all that has held us back. I acknowledge that love should always be given and shared freely. Change is a miraculous event. Powerful. Humbling. Inspirational. And if we are lucky, contagious! This year, I acknowledge that I am here. I am resilient. I’m steady. And I’m finding some freedom. I hold you all in my strength. In my love. In my resilience. And in a deep place of honoring what you need. From and with love. 🕯✨🔯 Adding: May you keep loving, yielding, trusting in the sacred, the mystery and awe, and May you remain rooted in love and may you continue to let love in. #passover #lettingin #chagsameach #seder #practice #prayer #ritual #sacred #beloved #love #family #estranged #change #everythingchanges #healinghappens #acceptance #freedom #loving #forgiveness #letlovein #sharelove #loveloud #lovelarge #keeploving #rootedinlove #belove #iamlove #iloveyou #dedication #offering
Nawazuddin Siddiqui, his family members get clean chit in molestation case filed by his estranged wife https://tinyurl.com/25tv7p66 #bollywood #BollywoodNews #bollywoodactor #NawazuddinSiddiqui #familymembers #molestation #estranged
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Estrangement can make you feel that no one would miss you if you were gone. But the village that you have built that becomes a part of you does not forget one of their own. You belong. You deserve love. #friendship #familyestrangement #traumasurvivor #healingjourney #estranged
WOW! 100K downloads of the @unfollowing_mum podcast. When I set up this podcast the idea was that it would reach a few people who really needed it. To help others see that they are not the only ones who have struggled with or experienced a toxic family dynamic. That it’s ok to cut ties with a toxic parent and not everyone will say “but it’s your mum/dad”. That it’s ok to acknowledge and accept that you have experienced childhood trauma and that wasn’t your fault. That you CAN break the cycle. That you can let go of the guilt, shame and stigma that comes with being raised in a toxic environment and it really was “that bad”, you’re not “dramatic”. I didn’t anticipate that it would be the doorway to this huge community filled with support and kindness. The podcast has been heard in over 100 countries around the world. That’s crazy! It’s recommended by therapists, psychologists, doctors and health care professionals. With contributions from real people telling their stories; we’ve managed to make a difference and I will be forever grateful for that. ❤️ Here’s to the next 50 episodes! #podcast #selfhelppodcast #podcastersofig #healthpodcast #mentalhealthpodcast #mentalhealthpodcasts #mentalhealthovereverydamnthing #toxicfamily #childhoodtrauma #estrangement #estranged
"At first, I felt it would be temporary but as the years dragged by, neither of my siblings reached out to me." Tap the link in our profile to read more. #family #siblings #reallife #estranged
There is lots of support when it comes to higher education. Sometimes, we don't know we could be eligible for support. How do you know if you're estranged? We have collected information from the Scottish Funding Council (SFC) and supporting organisations to bring together different resources that could financially help you in higher education. Links updated in our Linktree! #SAAS #studentloans #SHEP #UCAS #highereducation #LIFTOFF #SFC #estranged #standalone
. . “Portrait of the Artist with a Broken Mirror” (1970), Foreigners Everywhere, Nucleo Storico, Gardini, @labiennale curated by @adrianopedrosa 🙏🏽. _____________________ Image: ©️Ahmed Morsi. Collection @barjeelart 🙏🏽 _____________________ #ahmedmorsi #adrianopedrosa #labiennale #biennalearte2024 #stranieriovunque #foreignerseverywhere #Painting #Printmaking #Drawing #Poetry #ModernArt #ContemporaryArt #VisualArt #Artist #Critic #Poet #Surrealism #Symbolism #Figurative #mythology #Egypt #alexandria #cairo #labiennale #mediterranean #estranged #Diaspora #exile #labiennaledivenezia #selfportrait #biennalearte