#thursdates #fundates #weekdays #athome #mykids #toronto #soloparent #divorce #belike #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats @ikeacanada @ikea #meatballs #trufflefries #salmon It's been a bit of a #metime day - something I find a lot of comfort in nowadays. There are so many things and people I've loved and missed over the years, and it's taken so much heartache and care for us to find solace in the voices, videos, texts, messages and hugs from our friends and family. The joy we feel from all of these, and our cozy home full of music and chaos, has really helped get us through the last hurdles of this split, and other issues close to our hearts. Adjusting to the pace of life needed to keep up with two teens amidst a divorce has been one of the hardest things to figure out. I've been low at times, upset and disappointed at others; and so have they. We've all had to learn how to lead a new life, but in many ways, being a threesome feels familiar to us, albeit with very different emotional needs to before. Our nights are filled with school chatter, TV, various online shenanigans and music - we're loving time together again with a childlike fascination for all the things we've missed, and it's heartening to see my kids rise up from bitterness to become the happy kiddos they are! 🥰☺️ In sadness and loss we found love beyond what we knew we had, hidden in our past, our passions and each other. Every single day, I am thankful to have my life back; and to be able to enjoy a cup of coffee in the warm spring sun! ☕☀️🥰🫶 🎹 #piano #music #ketchup #heintzman 🎵 #classic @wearemkto #mkto ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#wednesdates #fundates #weekdays #athome #mykids #toronto #soloparent #divorce #belike #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats It's been another chaotic day, with kids, furries and paperwork flying about! We had a day in, handling some of the filings due in June, which will hopefully bring us closer to finalizing the divorce and gaining some stability over finances. Some days are more challenging than others, but we've had sooo much love to help us through them all!!! 🐈🐕🥰😘 It has been a long, hard 18 months to reach closure of an abusive and controlling 18 year marriage. I still think back to both good and bad times, and wonder about the choices I made. I wish I had made better ones that would have kept my kids and I in better circumstances than the present. I still cry happy tears thinking of all the love we've received, and how much we love being a part of the chaos of home with a few special loved ones back in Singapore too!! I am ever grateful that when I most needed it, I had a group of family and friends ready to help comfort and support us. Thank you for listening, advising and inspiring our wildest passions; we are blessed, indeed!! 🫶 #friends #family #thankful 🎹 #music #piano #lizzy @bechstein.official @ketchup #heintzman @hongspianoservice @babygrandpianos @original.roland 🎵 #uptowngirl @billyjoel ✒️ #poetry #poems 📝 Heart of Glass I watched as the light pierced its way through An incandescent shimmer over its edges Beckoning to the delectable contents within Red with the vibrance of ripened fruit Glistening with promises I watched as it slipped from my grasp Tipping itself in a final bow before the inevitable shatter A masterpiece of hue and hubris What once was whole now beyond repair Only pieces of broken glass to collect I watched as I carefully picked up the shards Oblivious to the damp upon my fingertips They left marks on keys as they tickled ivory The blood faded to rusty stains barely worth a notice Sorrows from a weary past left in a tune I watched as it trickled to nothing And then I played on. ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#tuesdates #fundates #weekdays #athome #mykids #soloparent #divorce #toronto #belike #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats It's definitely getting warmer as we head decidedly into spring weather!! We're so lucky to be starting our third year in our gorgeous new home country #canada 🇨🇦 #wethenorth 🍁, with all our comforts around us, both indoors and outdoors! 🐈🐕🌷🌿🍃☀️ We tried some #dumplings from @tanuki.restaurant ... #delish and for a great #pickleball cause!! We really loved the #chillioil too!! 🌶️🥟🤤😍 It's been a hard day - legal issues have been difficult to deal with, and I can only guess that our unwanted visitor this afternoon was from my ex-husband's lawyer, Oren Weinberg, or related... Annelise Do Rio. Our circumstances and situation to date are fairly clear to my kids and I, and we're in agreement that their father has treated them with neglect and abandonment, both during marriage, and worse still after the split. He has continued to abuse his position by taking control of finances, and telling my children lies about me while concealing much about himself. boulbyweinbergllp @milosevicassociates I do wish there had been more honesty in our relationship; I have been left with questions that I will never have answers to. While I wonder about many statements he made concerning finances and his infidelity, my focus has been, and will always be, for the well-being and best interests of my kids. I hope that we'll reach an outcome soon, and we'll be able to finally close the chapter on the past! 🫶☺️ 🎹 #music #piano #lizzy @bechstein.official @hongspianoservice 🎵 #basketcase @greenday ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#mondates #fundates #weekdays #mykids #athome #soloparent #divorce #toronto #belike #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats #outandabout #chillinlikeavillain The big wain had a day off school, so we enjoyed a #momandson #date at @thevillagegrocer and our local mall! It was a gorgeous spring day out, and the wee wain and I soaked up the sun on our daily afternoon walks we've come to love so much! There was a bit more cleaning than usual today, with the pets having their own bit of fun in our glamping basement though...🐈🐕🤦🏻♀️🤣 We're working towards a June case conference, where I'll hopefully be able to finalise the divorce and move on to the financial aspects of the split; it's an important issue we've been trying to reach some cooperation on with my ex-husband, so that I'm able to continue supporting the needs of my kids and gain access to what should rightfully be mine. It's upsetting that my trust in him, and joint financial arrangements, should end so bitterly, with him apportioning almost all our savings to himself, and offering no reply other than to make financial claims from me for his own legal fees and "child support", but I hope to reach some resolution on those in due course as well! Till then, we're cautiously setting some bigger, longer goals for ourselves in our new home #canada 🇨🇦 #wethenorth 🍁and hopefully planning a trip back to our #friends and #family back in our #foreverhome #singapore 🇸🇬 soon!! ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#sundates #fundates #weekends #athome #mykids #toronto #soloparent #divorce #belike #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats @converse #sneakers #happyhour @stellaartoisca @stellaartois We've had a break from the stresses and discussions over past events today, and indulged in some cooking, music and furry fun together! More deadlines are looming, and it's a blessing and comfort to have our home full of food smells and laughter again as I await progress on our divorce and hopefully, freedom, from the man who tormented and controlled us for so many years. I even found time for a bubble bath (finally!!!) 🛁 😝☺️!! It's wonderful to enjoy life again... all the long walks, bad singing, annoying phone calls, banter and shenanigans with my kids like we used to! 🥰👩❤️👨💃 🎹 #music #piano #ketchup #heintzman @babygrandpianos @original.roland 🎵 #materialgirl @madonna 🎵 #nobodylikeu @4.town #turningred @disneyplus 🎵 #catchysong @dillonfrancis @tpain @thatgirllaylay ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#saturdates #weekends #fundates #toronto #soloparent #divorce #mykids #athome #outandabout #belike #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats I had a really fun #metime afternoon yesterday, shooting some pool on a #solodate - the first time after nearly two years!🎱 We took some time out to visit @paperpipitshop and @cafelandwercanada today, and had a really great time at both spots! The bookstore has wonderful naturally crafted toys and art supplies too, and we managed a walk through the weekend market before having a delish brunch at the flagship @cafelandwercanada (must go back and try the shakshuka!!!) 😉🤤 It's been a stressful and chaotic week of calls and tough chats - we've had lawyers, school support staff and friends reaching out to help us navigate the final stages of the divorce (hopefully!!). It's been a traumatic and difficult 18 months since my ex-husband left, and we're still figuring our way through the aftermath and the fragments he left behind. In many ways, our marriage was broken long before we called it quits, but it's been disappointing to have it further crumbled by post-split actions. For myself, there's been a lot of heartache trying to work out an amicable divorce while balancing the need for accountability and honesty about the events that led up to, and after his decision to leave in the way that he did. It's still jarring to remember what it was like last year, but I'm glad we made it! 😝 My kids and I have worked hard to recover the trust and communication we once had - there have been many points in time where I wondered whether I'd be able to rebuild the life we had before any of the drama started. It's taken long nights on the sofa, lots of tears, plenty of eating, music, our furries, and more love and faith than I ever could have hoped for, but we're stronger now as a trio, and I am grateful for our village of #friends and #family supporting us and cheering us on in our new home #canada #wethenorth 🇨🇦🍁🥰🫶😘 ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#thursdates #fundates #weekdays #athome #mykids #toronto #canada #soloparent #divorce #belike #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #spring It was a wonderful evening showcasing the young, talented musicians at the big wain's Symphony Night yesterday! Thank you to teachers @yrdsb_vuong and Ms Alexander for their dedication, and the music students at @alexmackhs for an incredible performance!!! 🎶🤩 (I was in tears for parts of it!!) We've been enjoying long walks out together, chatting about our favourite books and movies, and soaking up some of the beautiful spring weather! It's truly an amazing thing to see the changes around us everyday - there always seems to be something new sprouting up or making its presence heard, with critters popping out to entice Shelbs in the yard! (waiting on the raccoons to start showing up! 🦝😝) It's been precious time for all of us, especially being able to talk about the things that have happened leading up to, and since the split. It's been healing to us to finally understand the miscommunication and deception that led to misunderstandings and tension in our home, and I'm grateful as always to my kids for being open, honest and forthcoming with me about their thoughts and feelings on what's transpired. Being able to be at home with them has always been my hope, and ultimately one of the main reasons for our move here. While I'm not sure that will continue to be the case, given the circumstances, I am blessed to have every moment I can with them! #sahm 🥰🫶 🎹 #music #piano #lizzy @bechstein.official @hongspianoservice 🎵 @thewanted #weownthenight ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#wednesdates #fundates #weekdays #athome #mykids #soloparent #divorce #toronto #belike #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats We have a concert tonight! The big wain is performing with his school symphony band, so it's a rare night out for us! 🎶 🤩 It's been amazing watching my kids grow and prosper despite our personal struggles, and I've loved their motivation in seeking hobbies, keeping up with school, and learning about our new home country #canada #wethenorth 🇨🇦🍁🫶. They've far surpassed my french skills (they were mediocre at best 😅🤣) and they've shown a maturity and sense of responsibility I couldn't be more proud of! 🥰 It's been a couple of busy days with lawyer calls, and hard discussions about child arrangements and finances. Till now, we've seen nothing by way of cooperation or healthy/helpful communication during this transition, and it's been a very disappointing reality check for all of us as we continue to see my ex-husband and his family for what they truly represent. Hopefully, we'll reach some clarity in June, when I expect him to reply to his history of abuse, his transfer of almost all our joint funds, and his callous neglect and abandonment; I can only hope that he considers the best interests of my kids, and respects their wishes not to be contacted or visited until some balance is found in our family circumstances. Till then, I'm grateful as always for the love and support of our family and friends, and staying happy indulging in our loves and new life while figuring it all out!! 😝😉🫶🥰😘 🎹 #music #piano #lizzy @bechstein.official @hongspianoservice 🎵 #memyselfandi @g_eazy @beberexha 🎵 #livinonaprayer @bonjovi ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#tuesdates #fundates #weekdays #mykids #athome #toronto #soloparent #divorce #belike #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats We had a quick trip out to the mall yesterday for some concert-worthy shoes for the big wain, and some new #books for the wee one! They're growing up SO fast, both mentally and physically, and it's hard keeping up with them on the best of days! I'm grateful to have the means to encourage their new interests, especially with music, arts and reading! Legal matters drag on as well, and I'm glad to have music and #friends to turn to when things get a little rough and stressful! 🫶🥰 🎹 #music #piano @bechstein.official @hongspianoservice @korgofficial #digitalpiano 🎵 #rockefellerskank @officialfatboyslim ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#sundates #fundates #weekends #athome #mykids #soloparent #divorce #toronto #belike #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats #salmon #beefsoup #meatballs #rosti We've been cozying up in the kitchen and family room a lot more together these days, especially on rainy days like today...☔🌧️...and we love our cuddly stuffed toys and furries (one of em had a time-out for chewing up my @googlepixel #earbuds ... No prizes for guessing who... 🐶🤦🏻♀️🤯)...🤣🥰🫶 My back barely survived a string of all- nighters on the sofa with the wains but these late night chats have been really good for discovering more about my two teens and their changing tastes in things, and their views on all sorts of subjects! Hopefully it'll be a restful week with some badly needed catch-up sleep, and progress on some of the legal fronts soon!🤞 🫶 🎹 #music #piano #lizzy @bechstein.official @hongspianoservice 🎵 #dontlookbackinanger @oasis 🎵 #teenagedirtbag @weezer ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#fridates #tgif #weekdays #fundates #athome #mykids #toronto #soloparent #divorce #belike #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats It's been a week of really fun and insightful chats with my kids - most of it has been hilarious quips and mini-debates on matters close to their teen hearts (defending tiktok and YT seems to be the current favourite...🤣), but we've had time to explore things that have been hard to talk about before this. There's been much revealed while rehashing what happened during their father's most abusive period, and it's been sobering to learn what transpired from my kids' perspective. I wish I'd known earlier, and that they hadn't had to grapple with so many conflicted feelings while figuring out which parent was telling the truth. We're all relieved to be able to talk about it now - there were many months where we felt isolated and lost while figuring out how to be our own new family in Canada, away from everything we love that's familiar to us back in #singapore 🇸🇬. We've got a bunch of titles on our reading list to get into, but we're heading into the city this weekend...(oh boy...😝🤣) so hopefully we'll manage lots of reading and tv time after that! #yay #weekendishere 😝☺️🫶 🎹 #piano #music #lizzy @bechstein.official @hongspianoservice 🎵 #buddyholly @weezer 🎵 #everyday Buddy Holly 🎵 #whenyousaynothingatall @rokeating ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#thursdates #fundates #weekdays #athome #mykids #soloparent #divorce #toronto #belike #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats #aboutlastnight 🎹 #music #piano #lizzy @bechstein.official @hongspianoservice 🎵 #bulletwithbutterflywings @smashingpumpkins 📚 #books #bookstagram 📖 #shadowandbone 📖 #shakespeare 📖 #magisterium ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#tuesdates #weekdays #fundates #athome #inmyneighbourhood #mykids #soloparent #divorce #belike #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats #springishere #banchan #drunkenchicken #toronto It's been a relaxing Tuesday with books, cooking and walks out and about as we try to figure out Canadian weather! 😝 It's been windy, sunny, rainy and cold all in one day, and we're grateful for our furries and a cozy abode to call home. It's been a break off new tunes on the piano today, but I'm so lucky to have my precious brownies to play our old favourite tunes on! 🥰🎹 The wee wain is rereading the #landofstories by @chriscolfer while I'm rereading an old classic, #lordoftheflies (I was intrigued to learn that William Golding wrote and published it, his first novel, while he resided in Salisbury, England...a town I spent my early years in!). We're looking forward to reading some rickriordan series together after we're done! Other than our home life, there hasn't been much progress in the investigation of the PE teacher who molested me, or my ex-husband. While our patience and tolerance has been tested this past weekend, I'm proud of my kids for toughing it out these past 18 months and digging into hard truths about their childhood to reach the decisions they have had to make. Their stance remains clear, as does my support for their best interests and wishes, and we are all the better for the future ahead. 🫶 🎹 #music #piano #lizzy @bechstein.official @hongspianoservice 🎵 #wakemeup @avicii ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#mondates #fundates #weekdays #athome #inmyneighbourhood #mykids #soloparent #divorce #belike #spring #springisintheair #daffodils 🌿🍃 #banchan #rice It's been a gorgeously sunny day with clear blue skies, and we're marvelling at the start of yet another Canadian Spring for us! This will be the second one on our own, and it's sobering and uplifting at the same time, thinking back on how different it was last year. The wounds aren't as raw anymore - my kids are able to open up about some of the hard things they've faced as #divorcedkids and what they hope the future holds, especially when it comes to their wishes about adjusting to a split family. The past 18 months have been difficult at the best of times, but it's brought us out of the very isolated world I lived while married, and connected us to colleagues, patients, old friends and new ones. Ever thankful as always for friends who have become family to us, and glad to have our chance at a fresh start!! 🥰☺️🫶 🎹 #music #piano #lizzy @bechstein.official @hongspianoservice 🎵 #trumpets @flipsydeofficial ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#fridates #tgif #fundates #weekdays #athome #mykids #soloparent #divorce #toronto #belike #pasta 🍝 #soup #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats It's been a long week, and we're looking forward to a lazy weekend of campouts with sleepovers on the sofa together ☺️. We've been lucky to enjoy a cozy family room more, and our furries have joined in on our @netflixca @amazonprime @disneyplus movie nights and exercise sessions (the wee wain is kicking my butt, the big wain is back into pickleball action and I'm struggling to keep up!🤣) 🎹 #music #piano #lizzy @bechstein.official @hongspianoservice 🎵 #karma @blackeyedpeas 🎵 #bad @vassy 🎵 #wedonttalkaboutbruno @disneyplus #encanto ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#thursdates #fundates #weekdays #athome #mykids #soloparent #divorce #belike #inmyneighbourhood #walks #schooldays #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats #steakbowl 🥩 🥣 #watercress #soup 🍲 🎹 #music #piano #lizzy @bechstein.official @hongspianoservice 🎵 #grenade @brunomars #trouble @taylorswift ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#tuesdates #weekdays #fundates #athome #mykids #soloparent #divorce #belike #walks #inmyneighbourhood #chillinglikeavillain @disneyplus #marypoppins #familyroom #familytime #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats #sunnydays 🌞 ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#sundates #fundates #weekends #athome #mykids #inmyneighbourhood #toronto #soloparent #divorce #belike #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats #konjac #soup #eggyolk #nomnom 🎹 #music #piano #lizzy @bechstein.official @hongspianoservice 🎵 #haidilao #haidilaodance 一笑江湖 (科目三) by Cindy Dong (note to self: must visit @haidilaohotpot_canada @haidilaohotpotca and see if the wains and I can catch the dance in person!!! 😝) ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#saturdates #weekends #fundates #aboutlastnight #athome #mykids #netflixandchill #musicroom #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats #exercise #restandrelax #wfh #weewain #bigwain #drwhofan It's the weekend again, and we have music mayhem and lots of couch time planned! We've been hard at work on legal matters this week, and my kids are slowly getting up to speed with the extent and severity of their father's actions. As much as I had wanted them to have him in their lives, it's become as apparent to them as it has to me, how harmful and negligent he has been. His family has helped encourage his behaviour, often making excuses for it, including his history of cheating on partners in their family home, domestic abuse and gambling/alcohol/drug issues and a complicated Asian matriarchal family framework that has kept him and his siblings far from any sense of true responsibility towards their own families or work. It'll be some time yet before things are finalised, and while he continues to shirk his duties and responsibilities, and deny any wrongdoing, my kids now know better, and they made their choice to stand with me, against abuse; especially when it comes from our own family. It hasn't been easy for them but they are more resolute than ever in what they want for their future! ☺️🫶 🎹 #piano #music #lizzy @bechstein.official @hongspianoservice 🎵 #someday @disneyplus #zombies performed by @megdonnelly @milomanheim ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#wednesdates #weekdays #fundates #athome #mykids #soloparent #divorce #toronto #meatballs #chickenrice #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats #exercise #muaythai 🎹 #music #piano #lizzy @bechstein.official @hongspianoservice 🎵 #shehatesme #puddleofmudd ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#tuesdates #weekdays #fundates #movienight #mykids #athome #soloparent #divorce #toronto #belike #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats #chillinglikeavillain #netflixandchill @netflixca #demonslayer #demonslayerkimetsunoyaiba @demon_slayer_offcial #anime #weewain #bigwain ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#tuesdates #fundates #weekdays #athome #inmyneighbourhood #mykids #soloparent #divorce #toronto #belike #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #weturntwo #birthdays #birthdates #asscats #catsofinstagram @onitsukatigerofficial #sneakerfever #plantlife #planttherapy ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#mondates #fundates #weekdays #eclipse #mykids #athome #soloparent #divorce #toronto #belike #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats #bigwain #photography Photo credit: @dontfollowme74738298465728 📸 😍🫶 ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#mondates #fundates #aboutlastnight #mornings #mykids #athome #toronto #soloparent #divorce #belike #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats #wainbakes #cupcakes @lego 🧁 It's a half-day of school today for the solar eclipse, and we're looking forward to another cozy day at home with the furries, and some fun home things to keep us occupied! The wee wain is enjoying her baking therapy, while the big wain modifies his four-year old Lego Technic/mindstorms contraption he brought all the way from Singapore. We're really lucky to have these hobbies to while away the time, and I hope that we can continue to enjoy our home and the things we love for many more years to come! 🎹 #piano #music #lizzy @bechstein.official @hongspianoservice 🎵 #beautifulmistakes @maroon5 @theestallion ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#sundates #fundates #weekends #mykids #athome #inmyneighbourhood #soloparent #divorce #toronto #belike #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats #singapore #myhome We had a relaxing weekend with fun in the sun! It's been a tough week despite the smiles, and I'm ever thankful for besties to support us through the most difficult parts of it... especially @mei_tengd and her girlies @laor3nnn @_lauren.ww_ @p00pluvrr and my sissypiggy @en.pilot and family Mr Blin, @lmrell @yim1815 and the close friends who have dropped us a text to check in on us @ninaevarghese @artz77ha @pranavc2 @nazrulnashi @supercruuz @srineshb @drashleyyuen @sugarandspies @marplai tayguantzu Elsontg shuyingchong edwincai and so many friends and of course @sunilsudheesan and family lawyers for staying the course with me through the fight and disappointments along the way! Feeling the heartache the last two weeks as we go through the process of renouncing our Singapore permanent residency. It feels surreal - both of my kids were born there, and it has been home to me for more years than any other country and given me so many precious memories. Even this is complicated now by a divorce and ridiculous demands and allegations put forth by @limkayhui and Oren Weinberg boulbyweinbergllp and Annelise Do Rio of @miloseviclawfirm (methinks a revision class in women's rights, legal ethics and principles, and evidence-based practice might be in order), but keeping faith that we will have financial security and equalisation of assets soon, despite their reluctance to reply on issues of child welfare and support. It's been a long and arduous journey, but as always, I'm grateful for having my kids choose to stay in Canada with me and find their own future. The path has often seemed bleak and dark, but I'm reminded everyday of what we have to be thankful for, and how much we have overcome already and I'm looking up to better tomorrows, with music and our furries to keep us warm and cozy in a better home! 🏡 🐶 😺👩❤️👨💃 🎹 #music #piano #lizzy @bechstein.official @hongspianoservice 🎵 #leanonme ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandl
#saturdates #fundates #weekends #playdates #mykids #friends #athome #soloparent #divorce #toronto #belike #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats It was a gorgeous sunny day, and we got some outdoor walk time with the flubby pup, without any mishaps! 😅 We had a few lil friends over for the afternoon and got to some music and time with the furries - a relaxing and restful start to our weekend! 🥰 📚 #bookstagram #books 📖 The Warrior Elite by Dick Couch is an old favourite I'm rereading! Never gets old reading about the sacrifices and determination it takes to make a Navy Seal warrior! 🫶 🎹 #music #piano #lizzy @bechstein.official @hongspianoservice (with some handbell 🔔 help from a few lil pals!!😝) 🎵 #secrets @tiesto #bad @vassy #imamess @beberexha ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#fridates #weekdays #tgif #athome #mykids #toronto #soloparent #divorce #belike #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats #exercise #assdog Had a near-miss with our flubby dog today when he slipped out the front door accidentally. I'm glad we made it back home with an unscathed doggy - I am also glad (or hoping...) no one took a photo of a not-so-happy, tired, cold, jacket-less person carrying a wet dog dripping in stinky mud, wrapped in a once-white jacket, who may have also been yelling: "SHELBY, YOU ****ER, COME BACK YOU ***HOLE DOG. DO NOT GET HIT BY A CAR...oh my gawd when i get my hands on you...you're gonna WISH you were hit by a car...wait...a day without shelbs be like...NO NO DO NOT GET HIT BY A CAR I'M SORRY FOR THINKING THAT...oh dayum... GET BACK HERE YOU ***K dog...") ...🐾🐾🐾...🐕...🐾🐾🐾🐾🐾....🏃 #imsorry #neighbours 🫣😅😂 Thankful to the kind peeps I met at our park, especially the angel 🪽👼who grabbed my phone and walked/ran after shelbs with me for a solid 30 min to catch a stray pup!!) 🎹 #piano #music #lizzy @bechstein.official @hongspianoservice 🎵 @groovearmada #myfriend @beberexha #imamess @vassy #bad ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#thursdates #fundates #weekdays #athome #mykids #soloparent #divorce #toronto #belike #snowydays #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats #chillinglikeavillain #exercise #muaythai #cookwithus #banchan #dumplings #eggplant 🍆 It's been a long lay-off from exercise, but I'm slowly trying to get the injured shoulder and knee to work better (age is NOT helping!! I really need to stop falling down so much but the assdog is NOT helping either!! 🐕😂). We're back into #drwho #obsession and I've been spending sleepless nights watching @netflixca docuseries (love the ones on the Ottoman Empire and Marco Polo!) 🎥🍿Meanwhile, we got another round of snow ❄️ and cold weather; perfect for cuddling up in front of the tv! (and falling asleep there...😝) ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#wednesdates #fundates #weekdays #sickdays #mykids #athome #soloparent #divorce #toronto #belike #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats #fight It's been a wet, cold start to April, but we're so thankful to have a cozy home to rest and recover on sick days like today with the wee one! It was snuggles and cuddles with the furries, and she got to witness what happens on a normal day at home (cleaning up pee puddles, non-stop feeding and cleaning, and breaking up a few fights are the usual! 🫣😂). We also found time to talk about things that have happened, and what my kids hope for in our new life here. It's been a transition; a move to a new country, a drastic change in our personal circumstances, and a shift from a full-time working position to being a #sahm has come with alot of challenges for all of us, and we've had to revisit the question of what we want our future to look like. Unfortunately @limkayhui and Oren Weinberg boulbyweinbergllp have made no indication that they intend to consider the best interests of my kids, but my children HAVE made their wishes clear, and I don't intend on letting them down. I have a right to access the money I earned during my career, and my children have a right to continue their lives in the home and country they love. They are capable of choosing right over wrong, and whether they want to speak to an irresponsible and neglectful father who abandoned them. I've loved each moment of being a mom and being able to be home with them has been a precious opportunity every step of the way. It's heartwarming to know that they remember what our solo life was like in #singapore 🇸🇬 and hope to keep it that way here in our new home #canada 🥰 🇨🇦 🎹 #music #piano #lizzy @bechstein.official @hongspianoservice 🎵 #betterplace @rachelplatten 🎵 #nowomannocry @fugeesworldwide ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#tuesdates #weekdays #fundates #athome #mykids #soloparent #divorce #toronto #belike #food #nomnom #dumplings #currychicken #salmon #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats #backtoschool It was a hard weekend of formalities and paperwork, with no resolution in sight to the financial and child custody issues that we've been battling for 18 months. As with all our difficult days, I'm glad to be home with my kids daily through this, and the simple pleasure of being able to gather together in our kitchen for cooking and meals is something we're thankful to enjoy! We got up to lots of @netflixca and #music on my beloved #lizzy @bechstein.official @hongspianoservice and caught up with friends and family over Easter weekend, and we are grateful as always for having these back in our lives! 🥰 It's back to school with a busy week of activities and homework for the kids, and more legal fun with the ex-husband and Oren Weinberg from boulbyweinbergllp but hopefully we'll finally see some progress (a PSA from my kids and I: if children don't live with you, why are you claiming child support? And if one party has almost all the family money in their name, shouldn't they have the responsibility of supporting children and dividing assets in a timely manner? 🤔) #familylaw 🤷 #wondering 🤦🏻♀️😂 ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#mondates #fundates #aprilfools #pranks #mykids #athome #soloparent #divorce #toronto #belike #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats #currychicken #weewainbakes Methinks it was a clever move to make April Fool's day a school holiday, since clearly one of us was keen on doing it right! The wee wain devoted some serious time and paper to make sure the big wain understands her obsession with all things #michaelsheen and #davidtennant but thankfully the pranks ended there (I hope...I think...🤞)...😝 🎹 #piano #music #lizzy @bechstein.official @hongspianoservice 🎵 #praiseyou @officialfatboyslim #bad @vassy ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#weekends #easter #goodfriday #fundates #mykids #athome #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats #divorce #soloparent #belike -Vincent van Gogh- “I always think that the best way to know God is to love many things.” “The heart of man is very much the sea, it has its storms, it has its tides and in its depths it has its pearls too” “The beginning is perhaps more difficult than anything else, but keep heart, it will turn out all right.” 🎨 It's been a cozy weekend at home with our furries, music and paperwork (ughs...😝)... The wee one and I have been catching up on some @netflixca @amazonprime and @disneyplus bingeing (we love Ponyo and all the Hayao Miyazaki @studioghibliinc productions!) while the big wain tackles the trumpet 🎺 Thank you to @sammioz for the doggydate and dinner catch-up! Glad to have friends #inmyneighbourhood up for food, drinks and chitchat...and thank you for being a listening ear to all our woes!! 🫶🤗😘 🎹 #music #piano #lizzy @bechstein.official @hongspianoservice 🎵 #americanpie #donmclean ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#wednesdates #fundates #weekdays #athome #mykids #toronto #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats #beefnoodlesoup #divorce #soloparent Pondering our next steps as we tackle this year's challenges, including the practical questions of our ongoing finances and how to best continue supporting my children's needs. Unfortunately after nearly 18 months of separation, my ex-husband has not contributed towards their daily expenses, and has retained sole control of almost all our marital assets, including my own career earnings. It's been frustrating to say the least, and @boulbyweinbergllp and their latest filing seeks child support payments from me ... 🤷🤦🏻♀️ #ethics #familylaw As always, we're thankful to be together in our home through thick and thin. It's been a difficult divorce, on top of other personal challenges and truths we've faced. We've had so much love come our way at various points, and I am grateful everyday for family, friends and and fresh pairs of watchful eyes/listening ears just when we needed it most! 🫶🥰 🎹 #piano #music #lizzy @bechstein.official @hongspianoservice 🎵 @andygrammer #fresheyes ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#tuesdates #fundates #weekdays #athome #mykids #onesies #belike #soloparent #divorce #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats 🎹 #piano #music #lizzy @bechstein.official @hongspianoservice 🎵 #staywithme @samsmith ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#mondates #fundates #weekdays #athome #mykids #weekends #soloparent #divorce #toronto #belike #chillinglikeavillain #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats #kerokerokeroppi @sanrio #wainbakes We've all needed some peace and quiet, after a rather harassing week of legal shenanigans from my ex-husband and his lawyers at @boulbyweinbergllp who continue to avoid any meaningful conversations about the welfare of my kids. It was a restful weekend of baking, hanging out together and binge watching some of our favourite old cartoons and movies! The big wain has moved onto learning the clarinet, while the wee one continues her baking adventures with @lotusbiscoffcanada cupcakes 🧁😍 I'm glad for happy times with my kids, and even more grateful that they're moving on from a difficult and painful 18 months. It has taken a village of love and support to get us this far and though difficult days are ahead, we are thankful everyday for a home, our pets, our friends and a second chance at a real life of our own choosing 🫶😘 #thankful 🎹 #piano #music #lizzy @bechstein.official @hongspianoservice 🎵 #wedonttalkaboutbruno #kryptonite ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#fridates #weekdays #fundates #athome #mykids #snowydates #toronto #belike #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats #tgif #chillinglikeavillain @hunterboots It went from sunny blue spring weather, right back to snowy xmas weather, just like that!! We had a fun walk out in the powder snow ❄️ but it's always good being able to stay warm and cozy at home with our furries! We're looking forward to a quiet, restful weekend - recovering from some of the past weeks' stresses and some niggling fever/flu, so it's #netflixandchill for us! 😊🫶 🎹 #music #piano #lizzy @bechstein.official @hongspianoservice 🎵 #stay by #thehollies ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#tuesdates #fundates #weekdays #mykids #athome #toronto #soloparent #divorce #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #schoolstarts It was a tiring, fun and busy week of spring break (boy, am I glad the kids are back at school!! #thankyou teachers!!! 😉😝😂🫶😘). After a bout of warm spring weather, we're staying home cozy and warm while it snows outside today! ❄️ Our personal matters with a stagnant divorce continue - those days get harder and harder as time wears on, and it becomes more obvious how neglectful and difficult my ex-husband intends to be. My kids are much more understanding now though, and it helps all of us to discuss some of our past, and some of the choices made that led us to this. As always, I hope that my mistakes will not be ones they repeat, and talking about real-life family issues helps to get all of us through it! We've been missing #singapore 🇸🇬 heaps, and figuring out our own identities amidst the changes. As a Chinese kid born and raised in a western setting, before relocating as a teen to a melting pot of Southeast Asian influences, I loved so much of it but I didn't feel like I belonged anywhere, and was shy and introverted through much of my schooling and working life. Seeing my children stumble through similar cultural challenges reminds me of my own childhood, and I'm glad they have the opportunity to experience even more than I did, and find their own personalities in it all! 🥰🫶😊 🎹 #piano #music #lizzy @bechstein.official @hongspianoservice 🎵 #elvis #burninglove ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#weekends #fridates #saturdates #sundates #fundates #athome #mykids #comiccon #belike #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #reverse #oopsie #asscats #divorce #soloparent #toronto It's the end of our week of school holidays, and it's been an eventful one in more ways than one! ComicCon was such an experience; I've always wanted to go (now I can say: been there, done that, I hate crowds...😂). We got to meet @aaronreynolds (THANK YOU!!!) and get an autograph on his hilariously great book #effinbirds (I'm pretty sure @boulbyweinbergllp and team would concur with his quote... But....NAHHHHHH 😝😉😂✌️) It's been a full week of frustrating legal work. Through the rough days where I hit rock bottom, I'm ever thankful for friends I can lean on, who've offered me wisdom, advice, help in all forms, and most of all, love and faith. #thankyou for fishing me out of emotional rabbit holes just when I need it most. 🫶 When things get a little hairy, we turn to our good old favourites, cozy up together and watch some movies! We've loved rewatching Disney cartoons during #springbreak and catching @netflixca when time allows (The Gentleman, and Alexander: The Making of a God are highly recommended!!😉📺📽️🍿😍) 🎹 #piano #music #lizzy @bechstein.official @hongspianoservice 🎵 @disney @disneyplus #liloandstitch ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#thursdates #weekdays #fundates #athome #mykids #divorce #soloparent #toronto #holidays #belike #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #flubby #unionville #eatwithus #art #walks #gettingoutandabout @ugg @uggcanada #cucumbers 🥒😂😜 It's been a few days of legal work and we all needed a bit of a break, so it was a fun trip out to Unionville for lunch @ilpostinorestaurant (thank you Alex for making our meal such a great one!), hot drinks @oldfirehallconfectionery and a walk to soak in our favourite sights! Amongst the exhibits at the @varleyartgallery was an amazing piece representing the various natural and man-made impacts on the earth, along with this quote: "The human body is 80% water, so we are basically just cucumbers with anxiety" 🥒 ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#tuesdates #fundates #weekdays #mykids #athome #toronto #divorce #soloparent #belike #cookwithus #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #reverse #oopsie #asscats #drwho #goodomens #weewain #vinyls #music #oldiesbutgoodies @oasis @greenday @vassy 🎧 #bad 🫶 ✒️ #poetry #poems 📝 Life: A poem for my children Some things Once broken Cannot be fixed The scars are shown Inside and out But if repaired With care and love It can become beautiful again More than before ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#mondates #fundates #weekdays #athome #mykids #holidays #cookwithus #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #reverse #oopsie #asscats #divorce #soloparent #toronto #belike #tellyourstory #singapore It's been a couple of topsy turvy days of weather here - we had light snowfall yesterday and today it's back on track to #spring vibes! The same can be said of everything else happening in the last few days - my ex-husband has made a list of demands that have left me puzzled (insisting on contact and communication, paying his legal fees, paying him child support, refusing to pay any support or maintenance for my kids...), and we've been busy working on a reply. I've also received a disappointing update from @singaporepoliceforce - similar to previous updates. It answers none of my questions except one, and that happens to be the most important; why is so little being done to stop a predator? It's been more than a year of this, yet through it all, we're still staying happy, having fun together and working through the practicalities of life. I can't wait for all these things to come to an end, and I'm glad to have the finish line in clearer sight than it was last year! ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#sundates #fundates #weekends #holidays #mykids #athome #dressup #soloparent #divorce #toronto #belike #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats #cookwithus #chickenrice #tellyourstory @moonsoju.official #gardeninghumour 🍀😂🍹 🎹 #piano #music #lizzy @bechstein.official @hongspianoservice 🎵 #rise @jonasblue @jackandjack ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#saturdates #fundates #weekends #schoolsout #toronto #athome #inmyneighbourhood #mykids #belike @uggcanada #soloparent #divorce #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #puppup #oopsie #reverse #asscats #aboutlastnight #hairday #music #jamming #pizza 🍕 #petfood 🤯😵💫🐈🐕@qpetshopca @simplynourish #freezedried @catit @zeal @crumps @vitalessentials @purebites ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#thursdates #fundates #weekdays #athome #mykids #divorce #soloparent #toronto #belike #cookwithus #inmyneighbourhood #happyhour @sapporocanada #friedchicken 🍗 #supperdates #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats #happydays ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#thursdates #fundates #weekdays #athome #mykids #divorce #soloparent #toronto #belike #cookwithus #ssam #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats #tellyourstory #ittakesavillage #happydays It's been a really fun day amidst the chaos of divorce filings, lawyers and financial matters! Each day has brought different kinds of stress and emotions - some are harder than others. There are days when the past consumes me because of what we are still trying to finalise - an acrimonious divorce with an irresponsible and abusive man and his family, who still wants control and involvement despite our repeated insistence that he first shows accountability for his actions. Talking about what he's done has helped me to move past the disappointment and failure of our marriage; some of it is private and personal, but it still hurts that it happened. I'm lucky to have a village to lean on for those days, and they always manage to make a bad day good again! Through all the rubble of our once-broken family, we found old and new friends to make the days a little easier and happier. Though everyone is busy with their own lives, I'm always thankful for every message, hilarious late night text conversation and call when crazy lives and time zones have allowed it. Words can't express how much it means to reconnect with all my friends from all parts of my life. I've missed being in touch, and I'm so thankful for every single friend reaching out when I needed it most! #thankyou 🎹 #piano #lizzy #music @bechstein.official @hongspianoservice 🎵 #stay by The Hollies Everyday by Buddy Holly ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#wednesdates #weekdays #fundates #harddays #athome #mykids #toronto #canada #soloparent #divorce #recovery #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats #cookwithus #gochujang It was a cozy one at home on a cold spring day, and I spent the day at home with the furries and my favourite piano 🎹😍! On hard days like today, where I'm nearing the deadline to complete amendments to my divorce filing, and I discover that the teacher who took advantage of his position at #rafflesinstitution may still be actively engaging with students, it helps to have my kids by my side, our pets and music making our house a home, and friends to lend their support and a listening ear (and a shoulder to cry on sometimes!). It was a good day, but I hope tomorrow will be better! ☺️🫶😘 🎹 #piano #lizzy #music @bechstein.official @hongspianoservice 🎵 #heartandsoul @justin.looo ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#tuesdates #fundates #weekdays #athome #mykids #toronto #canada #belike #school #lunches #sandwiches #electiveday #cookwithus #gochujang #bimbimbap #drwho #tardis #weewain #obsessed #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats It's been another fun day for us, with school and activities keeping the kids entertained and busy! Meanwhile, we've had more conversations about our family's past, and especially that of my ex-husband and his own family. It has been disappointing, to say the least, that we have not received any form of ongoing financial support, responsible communication or practical assistance from any of them. In fact, both his sister, a consultant at Accenture Singapore, and his brother, were transferred large sums of our joint money without any discussion or consent from me. My kids understand that when my ex-husband was most abusive and dangerous, his family stood by and allowed him to continue. From a spoilt childhood to an adulthood marred by years of gas lighting behaviour and excuses for his worst mistakes, to reckless driving (speeding, drunk driving, having someone else take demerit points for his offences), there is every reason why my children cannot and will not be in his presence. @boulbyweinbergllp It has been a long and difficult journey for them living without their father and it is not what I had hoped for, but we have all reached the point where we are happy again, and none of us want to go back to an unhappy past. Till we receive final judgement on my divorce terms, we'll keep on standing up for our right to make our own choice about our lives and the people in it, and we'll keep counting our blessings for friends and family who have been right by our side, cheering us on and keeping us optimistic about the future ahead! It's going to be a night of @netflixca and sleep, hopefully! ☺️🛌 ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#tuesdates #fundates #weekdays #aboutlastnight #exercise #muaythai #boxing @fairtextrainingcenter @fairtexthailand #sohard 😂 #beer @corona #latenights #athome #mykids #toronto #canada #belike #school #lunches #sandwiches #electiveday The wee wain has a fun day of electives today, and she's really excited about doing some exciting activities outside of her normal curriculum! Both kids are in the International Baccalaureate program, and we're very fortunate to have a great public school system that offers a range of academic programs including IB. It's an engaging way of thinking about traditional subjects in a logical, practical framework; it's included hands-on teaching sessions like market days, United Nations week and lots of book-centric themes that have encouraged my stubborn kids to read a variety of fiction and non-fiction. We were really lucky to have wonderful teachers at our old school in Singapore #canadianinternationalschool 🥰, folks like @soominchung0123 @marciajanzen @rebecca.d53 @msclaudias_bento @crystalcombs and all the others!! #blessed Both have fantastic teachers here too, and they've been inspired to explore new and exciting possibilities in arts and music! We're so #thankful to everyone who has taken them under their wing over the years, and become personal friends to us! It's going to be a lovely sunny day today, perfect for a #restandrelax day!! 😉 ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons @lululemon
#mondates #fundates #weekdays #athome #mykids #toronto #canada 🇨🇦 #belike #cookwithus #soup #chickenkatsu #exercise #cardio #muaythai #boxing #tonight #selfdefence @fairtexthailand 🥊 #longlayoff #walks #spring #springiscoming #inmyneighbourhood ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#sundates #fundates #weekends #athome #mykids #divorce #soloparent #toronto #canada #singapore #belike #womenscharter #fair #challenge #throwdown #legal #action #muaythai #boxing #exercise #itsbeenawhile #mustfindgloves 🥊😂 It's been more than a year navigating a divorce, and despite our best efforts, my ex-husband has not replied nor made any move to contribute towards the daily needs of our kids. Asset division remains the key to us regaining our freedom and independence, and it's unfortunately an area that is taking a while to decide, along with his access/communication with the kids. @boulbyweinbergllp With the lack of cooperation or attempt to co-parent, even in the years we were married, much less during the difficult course of our split, chances of an amicable divorce are unlikely. I'm glad for this to move to Singapore courts, where Women's Charter gives me a fighting chance at having terms and division of assets judged on our individual contributions to our home and work life, and actions to date. It also gives me the chance to return for an update regarding the molest case, reported to my school #rafflesinstitution and #singaporepoliceforce in November 2022. I have not received any updates since Interpol recorded a video statement with me, and I made it clear; I want an investigation into the events to date, including the actions taken after it was made known to RI and authorities. Our lives will move on here in Canada regardless; and protecting the best interests of my kids and staying happy will always be my priority! ☺️🫶🤗 ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#saturdates #weekends #athome #mykids #supper #dinnerdates #toronto #soloparent #divorce #belike #cookwithus #nasilemak #soup #watercress #ladybug 🎥 @netflixca 🍿An American Conspiracy: The Octopus Murders This delves into the death of investigative journalist Danny Casolaro and his work into the world of political conspiracies involving multiple intelligence agencies, their operatives, shady individuals and US presidents. It runs along the same themes as the Snowden leak - and dates back to the inception of the CIA and FBI. Making references to the Iran-Contra incident, drug cartels and the sale of arms to rebel factions, it's a darker look into the infalliabilities of our government systems, and reminds me of my own struggles with protocols and investigations that lack full transparency. It's taken me a few watches to understand the links they draw, but it's a fascinating docuseries! 🤩 🎥 #hamilton @amazonprime 📚 #books #bookdump 📖 Good Omens - The TV Companion The wee wain has been waiting for this one!!! She's gotten us hooked on this show, and we're loving the peek into what each actor felt as they developed their characters. The insight into the show's production, with Neil Gaiman adding his quips, makes this book a really wonderful addition to our collection of Good Omens' books! 😍 ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#saturdates #weekends #athome #mykids #aboutlastnight #supper #mornings #toronto #soloparent #divorce #belike #raptors #gsw #thisweek #wethenorth @nba #canada #french with the wee wain well... She is MUCH better than I ever was, and she wrote up a presentation on one of her favourite shows, Good Omens @amazonprime ...I butchered it trying to read it out loud...😅😶🌫️🫣🤐🫡 (I am sorry to all my french teachers...they tried their best...I was an AWFUL french student CLEARLY 😅🤣) I also prolly need a new jersey soon, now that we're loyal Torontonians! #goraptors 🏀 🎹 #piano #lizzy #music @bechstein.official @hongspianoservice 🎵 #gimmegimmegimme #imamess #bad #medley @abba @davidguetta @beberexha @vassy ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
🎹 #piano #music @bechstein.official #lizzy @hongspianoservice 🎵 Right kind of wrong from the OST #coyoteugly on @disney ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#thursdates #weekdays #fundates #athome #mykids #schooldays #soloparent #soloparenting #divorce #womenscharter #toronto #belike #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats #friends I had a restful Wednesday and finally got a night of uninterrupted sleep, without any of the horrible nightmares I've been having the last few days! Had a hilarious time catching up with some old friends from school and work who have stuck by me and supported me since our troubles started in 2022. It's been surreal - despite not knowing each other during our school days, I've found a best girlfriend and a group of very trusted friends who've accepted all my faults and life drama. I've also been lucky to reconnect with old friends from the past that I once thought lost to me - I love you guys so so much! 🫶 When my separation happened in November 2022, my ex-husband and his family claimed our joint account and assets for himself. My position, salary and eventual exit from the job I loved so much was determined by him, as the CEO, as well, and I struggle to comprehend how a career and life built together in trust can end in such turmoil and grief. My work at OneCare encompassed a great many roles and was one of the highlights of nearly 18 years in the Singapore healthcare system (together with my time at NUH!) and I miss my teams there so much! His divorce filings are fairly clear @boulbyweinbergllp ; he viewed me as an "employee" while everything during our marriage; our home, our work and our earnings, are now under his own name and control, and he has no plans to declare or divide that fairly. He wishes to divide our children any way he sees fit as well, despite having little part to play in their upbringing or any of their recent struggles with our family. I'm disappointed in the system in Canada and what it purports to do, but I have faith in Singapore, where our final divorce proceedings must take place, and I hope it reaches that stage soon so we can carry on rebuilding our lives! ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#wednesdates #weekdays #fundates #athome #mykids #toronto #divorce #soloparent #soloparenting #ptsd #molest #trauma #movingon #recovery #grateful #friends #thankgul #blessed It's been a year and a half since I first started having the onset of symptoms that led to my diagnosis of severe PTSD, and counselling, and my discharge from followup. I still have nightmares about the events towards the end of my marriage, and the things that forced a conclusion to nearly two decades together. I remember repeating a phrase that I still say to myself on tough days: #trusttheprocess My PTSD was the end result of choices that shouldn't have been made. Some were mine; I continue to bear the burden of them and I'll carry them with me all my life. Everyday, there are things I wish I could have done better, yet I'm glad that I had the chance and support to make 1 right choice for my kids; I stopped believing that things would get better when they clearly weren't, and it ended before anyone was seriously physically hurt. I still haven't found the justice I'd hoped for, from the molest that happened 25 years ago, or from my husband's assault, abuse and abandonment @boulbyweinbergllp 😤As my divorce wears on, so too do our resources and my optimism that this can be finalised quickly, but I've found peace to move on from the difficult days of endless crying and sleeplessness, and I'm glad that my kids are once again enjoying making the house a chaotic noisy mess, and openly discussing separation issues that matter to them with me. Trusting the process has come with a great deal of waiting; I'm grateful to the kind friends in the media, who gave me a chance to tell my side of the story, and I hope that I'll have a chance to defend that truth and see my journey come to the fair and just end I hope for. The emotional scars don't show, but they're there. They'll never go away completely, but I'm forever grateful that in our most challenging times when we felt most alone, there were friends and family ready to reach out from our past and present, to listen and help us move on to a better future. ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluand
#tuesdates #weekdays #fundates #rainydays #toronto #athome #mykids #belike #rainboots @uggs #weewain #walks #inmyneighbourhood #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats #cookwithus #bimbimbap #bahkutteh #chinese #soup #dumplings #gyoza The days have been filled with alot of eating (and not much exercising....note to self...sweater weather is nearly over and I can't hide the effects of winter eating for very much longer!🤣) but it's been great to have the kitchen as the heart of our home. As my kids grow up (in maturity and also quite literally!) they're learning skills that will hopefully leave them independent and confident to tackle the world, and it's been amazing to see them thrive under challenging circumstances. They're coming to terms with not having their father around, and learning more about past family events that they were once too young to comprehend. It was hard for them when he abandoned us, but it wasn't the first time, and part of understanding who he really is, and the values he has as a parent, involve them questioning what they thought they knew, and coming to the answers that he does not have the courage to give himself. He chose to leave over and over again, whether it was to gamble, drink, drive recklessly or emotionally manipulate and control me; he chose himself over them when things got tough, and they stood by me when he left us in shambles, and helped pick me up each and every time. @boulbyweinbergllp It's been a rainy day with occasional thunder ⚡ ⛈️ here, but Shelbs and I managed to catch a quick walk before the wet weather hit! He got really excited when the recycling truck came!🐕 (thank you for taking care of our neighborhood and keeping us green and ecofriendly ♻️! 🫶 I am lucky to have wise, brave and resilient kids and a warm, loving home of laughter, noise and furries! I know that with the help of our little village of friends and family, we'll keep on going, and my kids will keep doing me proud! 🥰 ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#tuesdates #weekdays #fundates #athome #mykids #mornings #schooldays #growingup #toronto #divorce #soloparent #soloparenting #cookwithus #breakfast #belike @netflixca #kimchi #banchan #koreanfood #happydays #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#sundates #fundates #weekends #mykids #athome #toronto #belike #inmyneighbourhood #cookwithus #eatwithus #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats #divorce #soloparent The past few weeks have been a blur of legal documents and reading through filings that have honestly left me stunned, saddened and in disbelief, and I continue to be thankful for friends who have let me cry and vent, and have let me lean on them in so many ways. 🤗🫶❤️ The man I once knew, married and had children with is someone I don't recognise anymore. In marriage, we accepted each other's strengths and weaknesses, and promised to support each other through good and bad times. Despite 18 years of holding true to those vows, he chose to walk out; nearly two years on, he is still choosing to leave a path of ruin and destruction in his wake, without any consideration for the needs or feeling of my children. I still have faith that justice will be fair, and we'll be able to move on from all of this soon, once the divorce and financial matters can finally be dealt with. It has been a long journey managing home, kids and worrying about the future, but...it'll be over soon! 🤞 It's been a busy, but fun weekend! Hooked on the Korean food series on Banchan @netflix so we had ourselves a little cooking day with lots of veggies and attempting to stuff #ssam in one bite 😜. We've also been enjoying a bit of a David Tennant bingefest after watching him on repeat in #staged and #goodomens for the last few weeks, with a @bbc oldie, "Takin Over The Asylum" (and he was great hosting the BAFTAs too! 🏆) 🤩😍 Shelbs got his haircut, and he's feeling a little less large and menacing than before, but the #botak is awfully soft and cuddly now, and tangle-free! Thank you @qpets.hk for taking such good care of our pup pup!! 🎹 #music #piano @bechstein 🎵 #listentoyourheart ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#tgif #fridates #fundates #weekdays #athome #mykids #thankful #friends #singapore #snacks #sambal #chillitapiocachips #lunchdates #cny #claypotrice @thebigcasserole #toronto #canada #belike #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats After the stunning disappointment with new legal filings, it was a perfect end to the week meeting this lil cutie again for lunch!! She's a cuddly lil sweetie, and so much fun playing piano for!! 🎹🥰🤗 she even has an OBVIOUS favourite, #imamess by @beberexha (one of my faves too!!) Thanks @sugarandspies for the lunch date and treats from back home!! 😍😘 We're hoping to get some baking and cooking done this weekend, and Shelbs is headed for a shave too... gotta get him handsome for spring walks!! 🐕🫶😝 ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#tgif #fridates #tbt #aboutlastnight #weekdays #fundates #toronto #art #mykids #inmyneighbourhood #metime #shelby #shelbs #cutiemcpoopie #doggytreats #oopsie #reverse #asscats #divorce #soloparenting #belike #happyhour @sapporocanada @bbqchicken_richmondhill_on Having my own freedom after nearly two decades of having every action controlled by my ex-husband has been a life-changing experience. It has come with many doubts and times of introspection, and those are often when I miss having a partner to turn to for help or advice. I wonder about what my ex is thinking in asking me to pay him child support, when they're living with me, or is demanding for joint authority and contact time with them despite him trying to spend as little time and responsibility as possible while we lived together. I worried for him early on in our split, and how he would rectify the damage done and co-parent with me, but I was hugely disappointed at the lack of cooperation I received from him and his family. I've had moments where I've wondered whether I was doing the right thing for my kids, and how having their father abandon them would affect them. I've also had to look deeper into my parenting years, and dig up hard truths that have led our family to the situation we are in today, and how my choices to go with the flow, turn a blind eye or hide abuses from them have given them a false impression of who their father and his family really are, and what values they stand for, and what I as a mother and wife, condoned. I still spend time thinking about it, and what I can do better now that I'm on my own with them. In times like these, I've been lucky to have the support of very long-standing mentors and friends to teach and guide me, listen to me, argue with me, and most of all, trust me. I'm even luckier to have wonderful kids who have stood with me, battled their own imaginations and come out of this ordeal with more truth, alot of love and understanding, and the knowledge that we have a family of friends around us too that runs thicker than blood. #thankful #friends #family ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#wednesdates #weekdates #fundates #athome #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats #frenemies #dogvscat 🐕🐈 #cookwithus #pastadates @zojirushiamerica @zojirushi_official #bread #soloparenting #soloparent #divorce #belike #wfh #workwork #netflixandchill #montypython @netflixca #rest #needtosleep 😝 ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#wednesdates #fundates #weekdays #athome #mykids #soloparent #soloparenting #divorce #lawyers #familylaw #children #support #responsibility #ethics #principles #toronto #canada @boulbyweinbergllp #no #dotherightthing #professionalism #accountability @toronto.lawyers #legalassociation #misconduct Oren Weinberg and his team at @boulbyweinbergllp have put together a new filing for my ex-husband, asking that I pay his legal fees and I pay him child support, in addition to demanding that we disrupt our happy, peaceful and recovered lives to accomodate an abusive, neglectful father who abandoned his family and misappropriated funds. It's pretty simple @boulbyweinbergllp - same answer as the last one, and last year, and the day he walked out. #legal #harassment ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#tuesdates #weekdays #fundates #art #perspective #weewain #athome #mykids #toronto #belike #cookwithus #salad #sandwichdays #tortellini #sagebrownbutter #tacomeat #dinnerdates #soloparent #divorce #soloparenting #worthit #thankful for friends and support from the most unlikely and amazing places, and I'm humbled beyond words at having the chance to express myself and have so much care and love for us! #thankyou for every single call, text, message and prayer! 🤗🫶😘 The latest filing from my ex-husband and his lawyers continues to be disappointing but we're looking ahead to a better future! ☺️ As a parent of two teenagers, I'm lucky I get to spend time with them while they explore their independence, interests and expand their horizons. I have all the normal parent worries, but doing it alone means twice the work but twice the joy! I wouldn't have it any other way! I've had some of my own quiet time to think, reflect and try to rest. I've really enjoyed watching the @netflix production of #troy in Troy: Fall of a City. Spread out over a mini-series, it features a wonderful retelling of a favourite myth with the overtones of religion and tradition, almost as if to remind us that concepts of fate and destiny are entirely within our own choices, and that every faith and culture has their own higher power to guide them in making those choices. I really like this one over some of the previous movie versions! ☺️ 📝 #poetry A Battle Cry A harkened cry of caution fell on deafened ears muted by arrogance; Pain of sacrifice duly felt when he wielded the blade that spilled blood of his kin. But it did not stop his lust. Nay, it fuelled the flames of greed. Hungered by false loyalty or love; we know not. Perhaps tainted whispers in his mind called louder than trusted companions; he sailed forth to reclaim what was lost, never to know the cost of war till the end. For when dust is settled on the bodies of slain and the sun has set on heated pride, where is the prize for which he so sought? Victory as empty as the horse that won it; as he returned to empty home. ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons
#mondates #weekdays #fundates #familyday #holiday #athome #mykids #cookwithus #wainbakes #shelbs #shelby #cutiemcpoopie #oopsie #reverse #asscats #toronto #belike #wfh #financialliteracy has meant learning about basic household management while figuring out next steps to remain financially stable while we face more waiting and unnecessary hurdles. It has meant juggling expenditures without an income, atop managing daily home tasks and kids' needs. It has meant preparing myself for being financially independent despite not having the means to do so presently, and accepting the limitations that come with my career choice and most recent work experience. It has meant learning the intricacies of business, and teaching myself accounting and finance, and applying that to businesses I've helped manage, and our personal financial portfolio and investments. That ability was stripped from me the day my ex-husband cleaned out the joint accounts, took sole control of all funds and left us to manage on our own with whatever was left. Everyday, I wonder what my future holds. I have a wealth of experience to draw on from 19 years as a doctor, 11 years involved in business and an avid passion for learning about everything I come across. While I miss clinical practice and interaction with patients every single day, I found new challenges in administration and management, and working with a team of amazing people to bring positive change by focusing on our strengths while being honest and open about our weaknesses and shortcomings. For now, tomorrow is always with the aim of using life experiences to make things better for my kids, my family, and figuring out how to continue doing what I loved doing both at work AND at home. #wfh #workwork #workhardplayhard No matter how tough it is, my kids and I will eat, play and love together too! (I even got a special brekkie and a chocolate cake courtesy of the wee wain, while the big one handled his own meals today! And THEY CLEANED!!! 😱😝😍) 🎹 #music #lizzy @bechstein.official #piano 🎵 @officialaceofbase #isawthesign ❤️ #weirdheadphonelady #longhairdontcare #shortgirlscantjump #butwecanselfie #luluandlemons