THE NICE CAPTION: Don't let Impostor Syndrome prevent you from engaging in activities that could lead to your success. THE VIOLENT CAPTION: Your Impostor Syndrome is showing. You should get that checked out. Also, it sounds like you spend a lot of time thinking about why you won't be successful. How's that working out for you? 🤔🧐✌🏿🚶🏿♂️ #gobegreat #balance #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #irrationalbeliefs #distortedthinking #makeitmakesense #explainyourself #getyourmindright #silenceyourinnerbully #chooseyourownadventure #options #choices #decisions
Your mind can create your reality! Faulty thinking can cause you to exist in a reality that wasn't designed for you. If others see something good in you that you don't see in yourself, use that as an opportunity for reflection to see what you may be missing. A great question is to ask yourself, "What information are others using to arrive at the conclusion they do?" Bonus Question: "What is different about the information I am using to assess myself?" Extra Credit: "Why am I choosing to use the information I am using?" #gobegreat #GoBeGreat‼️ #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #irrationalbeliefs #distortedthinking #makingstuffup #whereistheevidence #lieswetellourselves #worstpossibleoutcome #perceptionofself #selfperception #perceptiondysmorphia #perfectionism #perfectvsgood #radicalacceptanceofself
Shoutout to @dr_kayjaylmft for gifting my journal! I'm always appreciative of the support and hope that the person who received it is closer to silencing their Inner Bully. The Acknowledgment Journal was created to help people who struggle with Impostor Syndrome. Its title, “Acknowledgment Journal”, is an allusion to the goal of the activities contained within, that is, to get people to acknowledge the good that they do on a more consistent basis. It is my hope that after completing this journal people will have decreased the frequency, intensity, and duration of the times they feel like a fraud, and that they are able to find alignment with the parts of themselves that are responsible for their success. #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #irrationalbeliefs #distortedthinking #acknowlegmentjournal #acknowledgeyourwins #acknowledgethegood #accomplishments #celebrateyourself #beproudofyourself
High Achievers often feel as though they are behind because they've set an arbitrary timeline on how quickly they are supposed to achieve goals. They usually distress themselves and feel like they are failing. I try to get them to focus on the "what" and not the "how" of their accomplishments. That is, getting them to assess their performance based on WHAT they did and not HOW they did it. That way, the finish line is the win, not how quickly you got there or if you stumbled before you reached it. This sort of objectivity helps you feel good about what you do on a daily basis! #overnightsuccess #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #irrationalbeliefs #distortedthinking #makeitmakesense #highachievers #goalsetting #goalfocused #goals #radicalacceptanceofself
Why not?!! Being the “best” version of yourself is cool, looking to be the “highest” version is also a noble pursuit. But (to me) that can fall into self-judgey thoughts: if I’m not doing my BEST I veer into thinking I’m bad/wrong. Not doing “enough”. And my inner bully does not need more ammunition!! #innerbully Another option: ✨ Be Your Favorite Version of Yourself ✨ Life is a journey of self-discovery, growth, and transformation. Embrace every moment and strive to be your favorite version of YOU! Celebrate your unique qualities, pursue your passions, and live authentically. Remember, the only person you need to impress is yourself. 💖 Here’s to loving who we are and who we’re becoming. Let’s make each day a step closer to our favorite version of ourselves. 🌟 #SelfLove #PersonalGrowth #BeYou #AuthenticLiving
Go beyond his meanness, what's underneath? Is it fear? When you find an underlying feeling that is masked with these poisonous words, FEEL IT COMPLETELY, let it consume you from head to toes, dive deep and I promise you - everything will dissolve like it never existed 💕. It's scary and hard, I know. If you need help with it, that's what I do. You can DM me.
KNOW YOUR WORTH! Don't let Impostor Syndrome or your Inner Bully get you to minimize, diminish, or downplay your talent. It's dangerous to wait for other people to validate something you should already know about yourself! #knowthyself #knowyourworth #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #irrationalbeliefs #distortedthinking #confidencecoach #confidence #gobegreat #luxury #luxuryitem #topshelf #couture #bespoke
Self-compassion shows up in more than just one way… Did you know self-compassion is a key part of positive parenting? When we learn to show ourselves love and kindness we are also modeling for our little ones that mirror what we do. Next time you are being tough on yourself, remember someone may be watching you…will you show up with kindness instead? #someoneswatchingme #mirror #bethechange #bekind #bekindtoyourself #compassion #kindnessmatters #courage #standup #innerbully #mindsetshift #novamindset
🗣️This is the most important conversation we will ever have: The way that we talk to ourselves is probably one of the most important conversations we will always have throughout our lives. 🗣️Anytime you have an argument with yourself anytime you have a frustration with yourself anytime you have worry some thoughts about the future guilt thoughts and conversations with yourself about your past and your past 🗣️Decisions just remember that is a conversation with yourself make sure that it is not a little bully #MentalHealth #InnerBully #mentalhealthawareness Esta es la conversación más importante que tendremos en toda la vida: La forma en que hablamos con nosotros mismos es probablemente una de las conversaciones más importantes que siempre tendremos a lo largo de nuestras vidas. 🗣️Cada vez que tienes una discusión contigo mismo, cada vez que tienes una frustración contigo mismo, cada vez que te preocupas, algunos pensamientos sobre los futuros pensamientos de culpa y conversaciones contigo mismo sobre tu pasado y tu pasado 🗣️Decisiones, solo recuerda que es una conversación contigo mismo, asegúrate de que no sea un poco matón
The pathological critic is a term defined by psychologist Eugene Sagan as the negative inner voice that attacks and judges you. It blames you for things that go wrong, keeps an album of your failures, exaggerates your weaknesses, and sets impossible standards of perfection. (Credit: Self Esteem by Matthew McKay and Patrick Fanning). My inner critic has been super loud lately. It happens when depression is around the corner. And my bully sure is mean. It takes a lot of active work to quiet her down. Practicing self compassion, positive affirmations, and other healthy tools like exercise and proper sleep. Oh and listening to my incredibly supportive spouse. When it comes down to it, the bully is a liar. And liars can’t be trusted. #innercritic #innerbully #selfcompassion #positiveaffirmations #selfesteem #bipolar #bipolar2 #depression
Perfection can not be the standard‼️ If you have a tendency to default to perfection, it might be helpful for you to learn to scale your assessment of your performance. Do this by asking the following question: HOW FAR FROM PERFECTION CAN YOUR PERFORMANCE DEVIATE BEFORE IT IS NO LONGER CONSIDERED TO BE GOOD? #defaultingtoperfection #perfectvsgood #perfectionism #definitionoffailure #definitionofsuccess #feelinglikeafraud #fearoffailure #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #irrationalbeliefs #distortedthinking
When you find it difficult to trust yourself, you should ask the following questions: 1. Do I routinely get bad outcomes from the decisions I've made? 2. Do other people come to me to help them make decisions? 3. How do I respond when a decision hasn't been the most ideal? 4. Do I not trust myself, or am I trying to control the outcome I get? 5. Is it possible for me to CONTROL outcomes? (This is a trick question) 6. Is there someone better than myself to make decisions about my life? 7. If you have made poor decisions, are they in the area where you are currently making a decision? #decisions #decisionmaking #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #irrationalbeliefs #distortedthinking #makeitmakesense #getyourmindright #getcurious #knowthyself #awareness #lieswetellourselves #trustyourself #yougotthis #control
One of the beliefs that people struggling with Impostor Syndrome have is that good things are a signal that something bad is about to happen. I often ask, "Is this how the universe operates, that it gives you something good and then takes something away?" The response is frequently no, and then we get into a discussion about fear and lack, and perception of self and shame. The goal is to get them to connect some dots between how they see themselves and their fear of good things happening to them, especially in a forward facing or public scenario. Specifically, their self-perception prevents them from believing they deserve good outcomes or are capable of achieving them. Lean into the good. Pleasant and unpleasant events occur within the parameters of life and are not always a sign of something more nefarious on the horizon. #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #irrationalbeliefs #distortedthinking #makingstuffup #whereistheevidence #lieswetellourselves #worstpossibleoutcome #perceptionofself #selfperception #perceptiondysmorphia #fearoftheunknown #embracethegood #gobegreat #radicalacceptanceofself #radicalselfacceptance
#innerbully #innerbullies #innercritic #utra #juliacameron #artishealing #mosaic #artslb #journaling #safespots #playnicelbc
A few weeks ago, my daughter and I were talking about how badly people treat themselves. She told me that if we talked to others the way we talked to ourselves, we would be arrested, which is frighteningly true if you think about it. We all have our inner critic – a voice inside our head that judges and chastises us. I was bullied extensively as a teenager, which affected my mental health as an adult and the way I see myself today. My inner critic took over from the bullies and, at times, is quite vicious and extremely spiteful. I have tried all kinds of methods over the years to silence this inner bully, but nothing seemed to work for more than a few days at a time. My daughter suggested that the next time I heard that bullying voice, I had to imagine that it was talking to my 16-year-old niece. Would I say such terrible things to someone I loved? Would I call her names? Would I put her down and call her a waste of space? No, of course I wouldn’t. I’m still trying to get the hang of this, but I’m getting better at calling the bully out. So, try and be kinder to yourself. To quote best-selling author Anita Moorjani, “We are all beautiful magnificent beings. Let’s live like it.” #anxiety #depression #ptsd #safespace #sanctuary #haven #retreat #nobulliesallowed #selfcare #selfhelp #bekindtoyourself #innercritic #innerbully
“When we can’t say no, we put up with things we shouldn’t, we resist saying things we should, and we participate in situations we should avoid. We are powerless.” - Salee Reese, LCSW https://saleereese.com #SaleeReese #selflove #selfhelp #selfcare #personaldevelopment #TranscendYourInnerBully #innercritic #positivethinking #boundaries #trauma #traumarecovery #traumahealing #innerbully #selfcarejourney #healing #overcome #positivethoughts #positivetransformation #transformation #newlife #positiveselftalk #lifelessons #lifeskills #selfimprovement #change #changeyourmindset #powerful #quote #quoteoftheday #greatergood
It really only serves to distress you unnecessarily! Either you can do something about the future and should go do that which will change its outcome, or you can't do anything about the future and should accept that what's going to happen will happen and there isn't anything you can do about it. Also, most of you aren't worried about the best things in life happening and how amazing an experience will be...just so we're clear we are talking about worrying about the worst case scenario or unfavorable outcomes. #worryless #concern #worry #fearoftheunknown #lowfrustrationtolerance #fearoffailure #feelthefearanddoitanyway #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #irrationalbeliefs #distortedthinking #makingstuffup #anxiety #overthinking #confirmationbias #thinkrationally #thinkingerrors
It's also about not making yourself unhappy by unnecessarily distressing yourself. #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #irrationalbeliefs #distortedthinking #makingstuffup #whereistheevidence #lieswetellourselves #worstpossibleoutcome
“If you are tormented by guilt and an inner bully and have trouble forgiving yourself, receiving love and praise, believing you’re wonderful, then this book is for you. ” - Salee Reese, LCSW, excerpt from Transcend Your Inner Bully. https://saleereese.com #SaleeReese #selflove #selfhelp #selfcare #personaldevelopment #TranscendYourInnerBully #innercritic #positivethinking #boundaries #trauma #traumarecovery #traumahealing #innerbully #selfcarejourney #healing #overcome #positivethoughts #positivetransformation #transformation #newlife #positiveselftalk #lifelessons #lifeskills #selfimprovement #change #changeyourmindset
Had a wonderful time at the CAMFT Annual Conference this weekend. I got to present to therapists about Impostor Syndrome and got to reestablish some old connections and make some new ones as well. I've done a lot of speaking, and this was definitely a unique experience. I don't get to present to therapists often, so I am always excited to see what the response will be from my colleagues about the work I do. They were connected to it, even got an applause mid-presentation which has never happened before 🙏🏿🙌🏿💪🏿. I am looking forward to more of this in my future 🚀🚀🚀. #camftconference #speaker #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #silenceyourinnerbully #acknowlegmentjournal #therapistsofinstagram #presenter #speakerseries #lmft #lcsw #lax #marriott
Time to settle your inner critic with our upcoming speaker! 🌿 Meet Theresa Byrne, the award-winning mindset specialist whose TED Talk on “The Dangers of Your Inner Bully” has over 500k views! 🎤 As a former professional martial artist and self-defense expert, Theresa empowers individuals to break free from self-criticism and achieve success in any endeavor. 💪 Don't miss her insights on mastering your inner dialogue and unlocking your full potential! Reserve your spot in our FREE online summit today. DM me to sign up! #MindsetSpecialist #InnerBully SelfEmpowerment #EmotionalDetox #MentalDetox #SelfLove
I'm presenting at the CAMFT Conference tomorrow and got the following email. There are 134 clinicians signed up to have me teach them how to treat Impostor Syndrome 💪🏿🙌🏿🚀🔥! "Hi Stevon Lewis, As we get closer to the CAMFT Annual Conference, we'd like to advise that your session, Identifying and Treating Impostor Syndrome will be taking place on Friday, May 3, 8:00am - 10:00am PST in the Imperial Ballroom Suite C. Currently, 134 attendees have registered to participate in this session. Any venue changes will be communicated beforehand. Have an amazing day!" #itslit #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #silenceyourinnerbully #acknowlegmentjournal #camft #camftconference #speaker #keynotespeaker #workshop #weup #weon
Behind the scenes with @itswhitneywood for her podcast Wisdom and Wellness with Whit. #podcastsofinstagram #podcaster #podcasts #chronicpain #selfcompassion #selflove #radicalacceptanceofself #radicalselfacceptance #speaker #speakerseries #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #wellness #chronicpain
Stop robbing yourself of happiness today by worrying about tomorrow or being fixated on the unpleasantness of the past. #choosejoy #choosehappiness #joyful #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #distortedthinking #focusonthegood #celebrateyourself #beproudofyourself #celebrateyourwins #selflove #beyourownfan #radicalacceptanceofself
Frustration Tolerance measures the ability you have to deal with unpleasantness. A Low-Frustration Tolerance suggests that when unpleasantness happens, you tend to avoid at all costs. It's as though your definition of success has a requirement that it must be easy or simple, AND if it isn't simple or easy, then it is a reflection on you about your abilities to be successful. Don't assess your worth based on what isn't going according to plan. #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #irrationalbeliefs #distortedthinking #makeitmakesense #lowfrustrationtolerance #defaultingtoperfection #perfectvsgood #perfectionism #perceptionofself #selfperception #perceptiondysmorphia #radicalacceptanceofself #radicalselfacceptance
This is getting out of hand, LOL. Possibility DOES NOT equal probability! In other words, just because you can think of it doesn't mean it will happen. #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #irrationalbeliefs #distortedthinking #makingstuffup #whereistheevidence #lieswetellourselves #worstpossibleoutcome #worryless #feelinglikeafraud
YOU'RE WELCOME!!! I looked at this and realized it wasn't accurate based on how you behave. So I took it upon myself and fixed it to better represent how you operate in life. No need to thank me, I am following my purpose 😉😎🤣. Seriously though, success isn't about being perfect, the best, or knowing it all. If that were true, no one would be successful. #successmindset #successful #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #irrationalbeliefs #distortedthinking #makingstuffup #whereistheevidence #lieswetellourselves #youchooseviolence #itsnotmeitsyou #ichooselogic #ichooseviolence #mredgesnatcher #mredgegiver #gobegreat #perfectvsgood #perfectionism
The takeaway is that you have to practice: - Receiving compliments - Acknowledging the good - Challenging negative thoughts - Celebrating your wins - Acknowledging your wins - Silencing your Inner Bully - Radical Acceptance of Self - Noticing the good - Recognizing progress I could keep going, but you get the idea. You continue to feel like a fraud and aren't actively working on connecting to the good you do on a consistent basis! If you struggle doing any of the above, tap the link in my bio for ways to get better at this. #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #silenceyourinnerbully #acknowlegmentjournal #acknowledgeyourwins #compliments #celebrateyourwins #celebrateyourself #beproudofyourself #bebalanced #radicalacceptanceofself
PROGRESS IS PROGRESS!!! All too often, high achievers struggle to acknowledge small gains as worthwhile and wonder why they never feel as though they've done anything significant or of importance. Impostor Syndrome causes you to worry about not being as good as you are, and as a response, you engage in behavior that doesn't allow you to be satisfied with where you are and constantly pushing to hide imagined deficits. The goal is to recognize that progress is progress and it doesn't need to be characterized as small or little. Moving forward is moving forward, full stop! There are a lot of steps that have to occur in order to get to a goal. To me, that means all of those steps on the way to the goal have value. You should treat them as such! #allwinsmatter #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #distortedthinking #focusonthegood #celebrateyourself #beproudofyourself #celebrateyourwins #winning #smallwins #bigwin #bigwins #acknowledgeyourwins #accomplishments #success #definitionoffailure
Just because you can see your imperfections, that doesn't mean you aren't still amazing at what you do! Here's the rub, the stuff that didn't go as you envisioned or didn't work out as planned actually helped in getting you to be as talented as you are 😮👀... Impostor Syndrome will have you believing that what your imperfection is a deficit and not a strength! Learn to embrace imperfection as a necessary element to achieving success and greatness. If this sounds like you, go click the link in my bio to listen to my podcast, get my journal/workbook, or reach out to me so that you don't have to continue living like this. #impostorism #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #silenceyourinnerbully #acknowlegmentjournal #acknowledgeyourwins #accomplishments #success #definitionoffailure #defaultingtonegativity #defaultingtoperfection #perfectvsgood #perfectionism #perceptionofself #selfperception #perceptiondysmorphia #gobegreat
I see you! Keep pushing 💪🏿🙌🏿🙏🏿🚀‼️ Links to my journal, podcast, or to work with me are in my bio if you need a little extra support. #pushthrough #breakthrough #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #irrationalbeliefs #distortedthinking #negativethoughts #vexking #gobegreat
I'm going to keep telling you that you need to be balanced in your assessment of yourself. Continuing to pay more attention to where improvement can be obtained and not also looking at what's going well creates a feeling that you aren't doing enough or aren't good enough. I'm NOT saying that you shouldn't look at areas of improvement, I am saying you should BE FAIR! I guess you can ignore this and continue to be miserable 🤷🏿♂️✌🏿🚶🏿♂️... #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #distortedthinking #focusonthegood #negativeselftalk #bebalanced #sameenergy #befair #benicetoyourself #stopbeatingyourselfup #duolingo
A significant portion of your impostorism comes from you judging yourself more negatively than others. That is, your Inner Bully gets you to harshly critique any imperfection that may exist to cause you to disconnect from or worse, ignore any good that you're actively engaged in. In other words, you are seeing your imperfections as the big square, and the rest of the world sees them as the little square. This deficit in your perception is the reason why it's difficult for you to accept compliments, praise, recognition, awards, promotions, etc. You don't think you deserve those things because you've convinced yourself that it was erroneously given because the other person doesn't know enough about the "behind the scenes" of your life and if they did they too would agree you don't deserve them. Have you ever stopped to think that maybe they believe the good you do outshines any imperfections or that they don't hold you to a standard of perfection? If this is you, connect with me via the link in my bio so that you can get free from this behavior. #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #distortedthinking #focusonthegood #celebrateyourself #beproudofyourself #celebrateyourwins #selflove #beyourownfan #radicalacceptanceofself #perfectvsgood #perfectionism #perceptionofself #selfperception #perceptiondysmorphia
Kanye's belief in himself is beyond elite level status!!! I'm NOT saying people need to adopt or strive for this level of self-appreciation. 1. When you look in the mirror, what's the first thing you notice? 2. Is it positive or negative 🤔🧐👀? 3. How easily do you identify your strengths or what you do well? #selfworth #selfdoubt #selfperception #perceptiondysmorphia #perceptionofself #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #distortedthinking #focusonthegood #celebrateyourself #beproudofyourself #celebrateyourwins #selflove #beyourownfan #questionthatneedsanswers #qtna #qotd #kanye #kanyewest #ye #yeezy
This is an activity from my journal that helps you recognize that catastrophizing is an exercise in futility. That worst-case scenario, while POSSIBLE, isn't highly PROBABLE and wasting time and energy thinking about it isn't helpful. Especially if you're not going to spend a similar amount of time thinking about other outcomes that have a better chance of coming true. To purchase use the link in my bio. #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #silenceyourinnerbully #acknowlegmentjournal #bebalanced #sameenergy #workbook #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #defaultingtonegativity
People say, "Comparison is the thief of joy," but I believe NEGATIVE COMPARISON is the problem. Comparison is nothing more than observing how two or more things are alike. The problem arises when you downgrade your performance or accomplishments because it is different from someone else's. I don't know why you would diminish the quality of what you're doing because it's different. Probably the result of you listening to your Inner Bully, which I've continued to say is a bad idea. While we are engaging in this conversation about definitions, different means that two or more things are NOT the same. It doesn't mean one is objectively better than the other 👀🤔🧐😎✌🏿🚶🏿♂️. Impostor Syndrome is real!!! If you're struggling with silencing your Inner Bully, connect with me through the link in my bio. #comparison #different #difference #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #negativenarrative #whereistheevidence #lookforevidence #runyourownrace #stopcomparing #gobegreat #silenceyourinnerbully
Ever hear that nagging voice within? The one that tells you you’re not good enough or doing enough? 😒 On this week’s episode of the Electric Ideas podcast, I connect with Dr. Anna Marie Frank to unpack tons of gems from her book, “Stop Bullying Yourself.” 📖 Listen in to learn how to befriend your inner bully and stop holding yourself back. ⚡️ Electric Ideas is available on Apple, Spotify or wherever you enjoy streaming. Share below - what’s something that’s helped you speak with more kindness to yourself? ⬇️
I am excited to be speaking to therapists about how to identify and treat Impostor Syndrome. I don't get to do a lot of speaking with therapists on the topic in a forum like this, so it will be fun to teach them techniques and tools to better assess for Impostor Syndrome. #camft #camftconference #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #silenceyourinnerbully #speaker #keynotespeaker #panel #masterclass #therapistsofinstagram #presenter #speakerseries #lmft #lcsw #lax #marriott #blacktherapists #blackspeakersnetwork
I am beginning to be convinced that some of you are scared to be great. It's like you tell yourself you might not be able to maintain it forever even though you've never allowed it to happen. Why are you more worried about the bad possibility of a good thing than seeing how good something can be? Also, and I didn't want to point this out, but I need to, fearing not being good all the time and potentially "letting people down," or "disappointing people," is holding yourself to a standard of perfection 👀✌🏿🚶🏿♂️🤷🏿♂️. #standardofperfection #definitionofsuccess #success #definitionoffailure #defaultingtonegativity #defaultingtoperfection #perfectvsgood #perfectionism #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #lieswetellourselves #messages #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #irrationalbeliefs #distortedthinking #makingstuffup #whereistheevidence #friends #joey
My #innerbully is cute but sooo dramatic. 🙄😜 Inner work is absolutely worth it. We can flip the script on our inner bully and turn them into our trusted ally. ⭐️
Radical Acceptance of Self says you can find your own path to success that works for you even if no one else is doing it that way. Innovation comes out of necessity! Accept that you might be the person to discover a path to success that hasn't existed before 🙏🏿🙌🏿💪🏿🔥🚀. Don't allow your Inner Bully to convince you that you're incapable of this! #radicalacceptanceofself #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #irrationalbeliefs #distortedthinking #confidencecoach #confidence #gobegreat #runyourownrace
Reposted @stevonlewismft LANGUAGE MATTERS‼️ The adjectives you choose to describe yourself, your accomplishments, and what you're currently doing are important! If your language minimizes, diminishes, reduces, ignores, or rejects the good you are doing, then your brain will believe that narrative is to be true, even when the reality you are experiencing is in opposition to that narrative. I would suggest that you be aware of and intentional about your language because your brain doesn't know the difference! #languagematters #language #linguistics #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #silenceyourinnerbully #challengingnegativethoughts #irrationalbeliefs #distortedthinking #fear #fearoffailure #feelthefearanddoitanyway #fearoftheunknown #selfdoubt #lieswetellourselves
LANGUAGE MATTERS‼️ The adjectives you choose to describe yourself, your accomplishments, and what you're currently doing are important! If your language minimizes, diminishes, reduces, ignores, or rejects the good you are doing, then your brain will believe that narrative is to be true, even when the reality you are experiencing is in opposition to that narrative. I would suggest that you be aware of and intentional about your language because your brain doesn't know the difference! #languagematters #language #linguistics #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #silenceyourinnerbully #challengingnegativethoughts #irrationalbeliefs #distortedthinking #fear #fearoffailure #feelthefearanddoitanyway #fearoftheunknown #selfdoubt #lieswetellourselves
Reposted @stevonlewismft RADICAL ACCEPTANCE OF SELF‼️ Radical Acceptance of Self says that you can be happy and proud of what you do as you are actively working to become a better version of yourself. The goal is to learn to accept imperfection as part of you while not allowing yourself to be defined by it!!! Your definition of success CAN NOT be one that is based on perfection. Otherwise, you risk having an existence where most of what you do isn't considered successful or noteworthy. #radicalacceptanceofself #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #irrationalbeliefs #distortedthinking #perceptionofself #selfperception #perceptiondysmorphia #perfectionism #perfectvsgood #success #definitionoffailure #definitionofsuccess #feelinglikeafraud
RADICAL ACCEPTANCE OF SELF‼️ Radical Acceptance of Self says that you can be happy and proud of what you do as you are actively working to become a better version of yourself. The goal is to learn to accept imperfection as part of you while not allowing yourself to be defined by it!!! Your definition of success CAN NOT be one that is based on perfection. Otherwise, you risk having an existence where most of what you do isn't considered successful or noteworthy. #radicalacceptanceofself #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #irrationalbeliefs #distortedthinking #perceptionofself #selfperception #perceptiondysmorphia #perfectionism #perfectvsgood #success #definitionoffailure #definitionofsuccess #feelinglikeafraud
If you are a person who looks back on your past favorably, but when you were living in that moment, you were dissatisfied with how your life was, you might struggle with recognizing good when it's happening to you! Don't allow your tendency to Default to Perfection to cloud your vision of the quality of what you do and what you're putting out into the world. PERFECTION CANNOT BE THE STANDARD‼️ #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #irrationalbeliefs #distortedthinking #radicalacceptanceofself #defaultingtoperfection #defaultingtonegativity #noticethegood #acknowledgeyourwins #accomplishments #acknowledgethegood
Are your affirmations getting bullied by your inner mean girl? We've all been there. You're diligently repeating your affirmations, striving for that confidence boost or positive mindset shift, when suddenly...BAM! A skeptical voice pops in, critiquing your every word. This, my friend, is your inner critic – the judge, the bully, or maybe even your own personal Regina George. This voice thrives on negativity and can be a major roadblock to truly believing and embodying your affirmations. But here's the good news: you can overcome it 💪🏼! The first step is simply recognizing its presence. Pay attention to those counter-arguments that arise when you say your affirmations. Is it a snarky "Yeah, right" or a dismissive "Who are you kidding?" Once you've identified this voice, here are some ways to move past it: 🤫 Acknowledge it without judgment. It's there, it's a loud part of you (for now!), but you don't have to give it the mic anymore. 🗣️Talk back! Instead of letting it control the narrative, counter its negativity with a kind and firm response. "Thanks for sharing, but I choose to believe in myself." ✍🏼 Reframe your affirmations. Maybe the wording isn't quite resonating with you. Craft them in a way that feels more authentic and believable. Remember, self-compassion is key! Be gentle with yourself throughout this process. Building self-belief takes time and practice. What are your best tips for silencing the inner critic and making your affirmations truly powerful? Share them in the comments! 👇🏼 #affirmationsdaily #positiveprogramming #innerbully #reginageorge #selfcritical #selfacceptance #personalgrowthtips #selfcompassion
I see a lot of you defending the narrative you've adopted about yourself not having what it takes! Despite evidence to the contrary, you continue to ignore and deny your talent and abilities to support the story you tell yourself instead of updating the story to be more consistent with the reality of who you are! I guess this is how you stand on business 👀🤔🧐🤷🏿♂️🤦🏿♂️✌🏿🚶🏿♂️ #standingonbusiness #standonbusiness #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #irrationalbeliefs #distortedthinking #makeitmakesense #getyourmindright #getcurious #knowthyself #awareness #lieswetellourselves #youchooseviolence
Reposted @stevonlewismft And you wonder why you never feel connected to your success or proud of what you're doing in the moment! You've literally ignored all the good that is happening along the way 🤷🏿♂️✌🏿🚶🏿♂️🤔🧐👀 #stopandsmelltheroses #stopandsmelltheflowers #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #irrationalbeliefs #distortedthinking #makeitmakesense #getyourmindright #celebrateyourwins #celebrateyourself #beproudofyourself #bebalanced
And you wonder why you never feel connected to your success or proud of what you're doing in the moment! You've literally ignored all the good that is happening along the way 🤷🏿♂️✌🏿🚶🏿♂️🤔🧐👀 #stopandsmelltheroses #stopandsmelltheflowers #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #irrationalbeliefs #distortedthinking #makeitmakesense #getyourmindright #celebrateyourwins #celebrateyourself #beproudofyourself #bebalanced
Don't operate in such a way that you diminish the value of the journey on your way to the goal! #journey #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #irrationalbeliefs #distortedthinking #makeitmakesense #explainyourself #radicalacceptanceofself #alignment #criticalinnervoice #confidencecoach #confidence #gobegreat #time #timing #runyourownrace
What do other people NOT know about you that makes them have a more favorable view of you than you have of yourself? #questionthatneedsanswers #qtna #qotd #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #irrationalbeliefs #distortedthinking #makeitmakesense #explainyourself #radicalacceptanceofself #perceptionofself #selfperception #perceptiondysmorphia #defaultingtonegativity
I'll keep asking the question until I get an answer: What is the benefit of worrying about things that haven't happened or have little to no chance of happening? Real question because you do it a lot so it must have value and I just don't recognize it! #worryless #worstcasescenario #worstpossibleoutcome #balance #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #irrationalbeliefs #distortedthinking #makingstuffup #anxiety #overthinking
It's important for you to gain awareness of your thinking so that you can correct it to something that is appropriate for and consistent with what you are truly putting out in the world. Also, if you give me a 🎙 I'm going to start talking LOL. Shoutout to @itsaaronbernard for putting on a quality event that creates a space to talk about mental wellness and for putting together a panel that really complimented each other. @sirstyle and @skyhblack did their thing!!! Thank you, @melissadumaz, for capturing the video #witw #whatinthewellness #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #irrationalbeliefs #distortedthinking #makeitmakesense #getyourmindright #getcurious #knowthyself #awareness
It really is a numbers game! If you fixate on the imperfections and what could be improved and ignore what's going well and where growth has happened, how will you ever feel connected to your success or the good that you do? Please show me how that math works out in the end 🤔🧐 #mathaintmathing #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #irrationalbeliefs #distortedthinking #makeitmakesense #explainyourself #radicalacceptanceofself #alignment #criticalinnervoice #confidencecoach #compliments #criticism #praise
There should be some investigation or assessment of your thoughts to determine that they are valid and rational. Your brain is creative and really good at making up stories about your behavior and the behavior of others, and it gets you to believe them by attaching a strong feeling to them. Your job is to be aware of this and engage in conversation with yourself about your thinking (metacognitive process). It might sound something like this: If a close friend came to thinking the way I am, would I immediately accept it, or would I ask questions to get more understanding? As an example, your friend comes to you and says, "I suck at everything I do!" Do you immediately agree, or would you ask that friend more about why they think that...🤔🧐 #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #irrationalbeliefs #distortedthinking #thinkrationally #thinkingerrors #metacognition #thoughtpatterns #thoughts #feelings #behavior #sameenergy
Not knowing and never being able to learn are two separate things! Stop allowing your Inner Bully to trick you into believing a lack of knowledge means you have an inability to acquire new knowledge! #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #irrationalbeliefs #distortedthinking #lieswetellourselves #messages #metacognition #metamessage #getyourmindright
For all those people that be in their feelings about me making sense when I'm telling you about your thinking, which doesn't make sense... It seems the issue is not mine to attend to... 🤣🤷🏿♂️✌🏿🚶🏿♂️😎 #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #irrationalbeliefs #distortedthinking #makeitmakesense #explainyourself #makingstuffup #lookforevidence #mredgesnatcher #ichooseviolence #youchooseviolence #lieswetellourselves #messages #metacognition #metamessage #getyourmindright
Your mind is very powerful and can create limitations that are inconsistent with the data the world is giving you. Frequently, those limitations aren't helpful in getting you to live a life that is appropriate for your talents and abilities. That's why I'm focused on helping people have healthy conversations about the relationship they have with themselves! 😎😎😎 #realitycheck #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #irrationalbeliefs #distortedthinking #makingstuffup #lookforevidence #mredgesnatcher #ichooseviolence #youchooseviolence #anxiety #confirmationbias #thinkrationally #thinkingerrors
I came up with the term "Perception Dysmorphia" to label the inability people who struggle with Impostor Syndrome have in being able to see their good! One of the hallmarks of Impostor Syndrome is the difficulty one has in connecting to their success. The underlying issue is that they don't see themselves the way others see them. Therefore, it becomes almost impossible for them to reconcile how good things could happen to them. As a result, they diminish, dismiss, or explain away any success as a means of distancing themselves from it because they don't believe they deserve it. It's like, "If people only knew..." were a person, that person would be someone with Impostor Syndrome 👀😬. The hard part about decreasing someone's impostorism is getting them to let go of the belief that they aren't as good as everyone else believes them to be. That's because their Inner Bully (which should have a name by now) has been so convincing it's hard for them to hear any other "voice." #perceptiondysmorphia #selfperception #perceptionofself #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #impostorism #innercritic #innerbully #innerdialogue #falsenarrative #irrationalbeliefs #negativeselftalk #negativenarrative #knowthyself #trustyourself #highachievers #success #dopeaf #mondaymotivation #psychoeducation #truthbomb
If you aren't engaging in this behavior, please explain why in the comments! I got time today 😤! #questionthatneedsanswers #qtna #qotd #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #irrationalbeliefs #distortedthinking #makeitmakesense #explainyourself #why #questionoftheday #igottimetoday #icanwait #weareherenow #ichooselogic #ichooseviolence
Do you ever think of what could go right or is thinking specifically to be used to distress oneself? Asking because I don't understand...🤷🏿♂️✌🏿🚶🏿♂️ #makeitmakesense #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #irrationalbeliefs #distortedthinking #makingstuffup #questionthatneedsanswers #qtna #qotd #anxiety #worstcasescenario #worstpossibleoutcome #worryless
Sometimes the biggest bully is the voice inside your own head. At some point we've all felt captive to the internal voice that trembles with doubt, fear, and is terrified to change. That voice aims to keep you in a state of anxiety and worry, not because it feels good, but because it's familiar and as far as your subconscious is concerned, familiar is safer than the unfamiliar. It takes courage to confront that negative nelly and make bold choices. A float tank is an exceptional environment for confronting your inner bully. It's a safe and comfortable place to open up a conversation with the deeper parts of you. You can directly address the scared child inside of you. Ask it why it feels this way. Tell your younger self, the more vulnerable you, that you are SAFE and LOVED. Practice FORGIVENESS to your negative nelly and GRATITUDE for for keeping you safe, but you'll be making the decisions from now on. #pinkshirtday #antibullying #bekind #pinkshirt #beafriendnotabully #stopbullying #stopbulling #benicetoyourself #selflove #selfkindness #innerbully
Sometimes, we all have a voice inside (our inner bully) that tries to shrink our confidence. Remember, your true self is unique and worthy of connection, and sharing it authentically allows for deeper bonds. I have a self-paced course created to help you learn my most effective strategies for managing inner bully, “Cultivating A Healthier Relationship With Your Anxiety” and “Fire Your Inner Bully and Reawaken Your Inner Brilliance” - teaches you these techniques in less than 1 hour. Link in bio or DM me. #innerbully #wednesdaywisdom #wednesdayquotes #lifecoachforwomen #lifecoachingtips #lifecoachinghappiness #anxietysupport #anxietyawareness #anxietytips #mentalhealthsupport #psychotherapist #marincounty
Here's a collection of statements I've made in the past that you still haven't listened to. #ichooselogic #ichooseviolence #youchooseviolence #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #irrationalbeliefs #distortedthinking #makeitmakesense #explainyourself #makingstuffup #questionthatneedsanswers
DO NOT PICK UP‼️ Also, let's stop calling negative thinking, overthinking as though you're just out here thinking too much. Because if we're honest, you aren't thinking too much about good things happening...👀✌🏿🚶🏿♂️ #happymonday #impostorsyndrome #impostorphenomenon #impostersyndrome #innerbully #innercritic #innerdialogue #negativenarrative #irrationalbeliefs #distortedthinking #makeitmakesense #explainyourself #makingstuffup
Stand up to your inner bully. We're used to hearing that we need to stand up to bullies. But what if the bully is your inner bully? What if the abuse is coming from your inner critic? @Kristen Neff's research shows that most of us are significantly harsher on ourselves than we are on other people. A few years ago, I got to study Compassion Focussed Therapy with Dr Paul Gilbert. I learnt first-hand the importance of inner compassion to help manage our tricky human brains. Compassionate self-protection isn't just essential for preventing external harm but also internal harm. If you've ever found yourself saying: "I'm a f*cking idiot!" "I'm f*cking useless!" "I'm not f*cking good enough!" Can I offer you this experiment to replace the F word with this 4 stage question instead. Is what I'm saying to myself: F = Friendly? U = Useful? C = Calm? K = Kind? Thanks to @Mark Williamson from @Action For Happiness for that great pattern interrupt. How can you be your own compassionate friend? Hopefully this helps you to extend the kindness to yourself that you're so ready to give to others. F.U.C.K your inner bully!