It’s been a very productive week and we’ve had some very encouraging progress with the device reduction programme. On Thursday @bbcnews Amy Garcia & I were at a school in Wakefield for week two of a device reduction programme. We have found some interesting results which I’ll document properly but I’ve shared some findings on my other posts. I found it really interesting that these young students were worried about their younger siblings, about gen alpha and the impact on them. This is reassuring because it means that they will hopefully implement changes as they mature. I was invited to join a group of doctors and health professionals who work with children who are recognising problems with device use in children. Together we will aim to come up with ways of proactively addressing these issues at all levels. Given that research is still evolving in this area, I will be reflecting and documenting some of the observations and insights gained through my work in the area. I hope this knowledge can be used to establish and understand how best to manage the problems faced. #screentime #devicereduction #noscreens #nodevices #boundaries #emotionallypresent #healthydevicehabits #screentimeforkids #psychologist #psychotherapist
Waiting on the subway. #pompomny #emotionallypresent #physicallydistant #streetphotographer #nyphotographer #nyc #mta #nycsubway #streetphotography #bw #blackandwhite #streets_unseen #allaboutphotopotw #mainemedia #nycphoto
Finding the right moment for a walk. #pompomny #emotionallypresent #physicallydistant #nyarchitecture #publicart #streetphotography #sculpture #nyphotographer #lifeframer #architecture #metopera #nyc #opera #meetopera #newyork #nyphoto #outandabout #streetphotographer #nyarchitecture
#TheHighline is one of my fav places to put the invisible cape on, and #observe. #pompomny #emotionallypresent #physicallydistant #streetphotographer #nyphotographer #highlinenyc #publicart #graffiti #streetphotography #graffitiart #artinstallation
Here are more words from a coaching client who recently joined me for a free consultation. I share them gratefully with this client's full permission. These words show you how much can change in your parenting and fathering when you connect with the right kind of support. 🔑 "Jennifer’s insights into self-expression and the fight or flight response were invaluable. By shedding light on these patterns, she empowered me to challenge my ‘default ways of operating’ and explore alternative ways of coping with stress and conflict" 🔑 To book a free consultation to see how fathering could be easier for you: https://calendly.com/jennifercawleytherapy/emotional-intelligence-for-dads Or for a Toolbook to help with you manage your triggers, DM me 'TOOLS' and I'll send it your way. #mensmentalhealth #fathercoaching #emotionalintelligence #relationships #dads #fathering #emotionallypresent #fatherwound #paternalabsence #positivemasculinity #fatherwound
I’m really excited to have created the Disconnect to Reconnect campaign with Leeds Council School Wellbeing Team, @helen_lord_1980, @amygarciaofficialuk and @bbclooknorth. The week will be taking place in Leeds primary schools later this month and will involve actively encouraging students to focus on disconnecting from their devices and focussing on connecting with those around us. We are all becoming far too disconnected and it’s having serious implications for our physical and mental health. I’ll be going along to one of the schools participating to get feedback from the students and the school to share first hand their experiences of smart devices and how they found their device-free time. It will also be filmed by BBC Look North to share with their viewers so look out for more details! You can find out more about the week on our website - https://nophonesathome.com/disconnect-to-reconnect-week/ #SmartDevices #PhoneFree #lowscreen #ChildDevelopment #ChildrenAndSmartDevices #nodevices #emotionallypresent #interpersonalskills #TeensandScreens #Psychologist #Psychotherapist #CIC #ScreenAwareness #SmartDevices #schools
'Why do they hate me?' This is a question fathers often ask themselves about their children. And when I say 'hate', I’m talking the hot hate of an 18 month old as they chuck a toy at your head or sink their teeth into your shoulder. The awkward hate of a tweenager as they try out those words for the first time, and the icey hate of a teen as they shut you out of their world. Here’s the psych ed behind the hate of really small kids: As a father, non-birthing partner or secondary caregiver, you are evolutionarily more dispensable. Sorry to be blunt, but that’s how a tiny mind whose only preoccupation is survival sees it. This makes you the first (but certainly not last) person that your small child transfers all their big unmanageable feelings onto. The stakes are lower with you. You get all of the bad press so that your partner stays peachy, usually that’s the mum, primary caregiver or birthing partner. And in the case of really small babes, because they still see themselves as part of the mother/birthing partner/primary caregiver, that means they’re peachy too. It’s a psychological detox and you’re the dustbin. It’s an emotional playground and you’re the monkey bars. But hate is healthy. It is an essential part of development as children test their emotional makeup and relational machinery. But it might not feel healthy to you. And it’s not really what you signed up for. Plus it can push your buttons making you question your worth, your love, your place in the family. This is where it helps you to remember that you are just as essential in the family dynamic and for now, this may be how it looks for you. You can make it easier on yourself by digging into support. Here are 3 ways you can get that with me: 🎯 sign up for a 50-min free consultation: https://calendly.com/jennifercawleytherapy/emotional-intelligence-for-dads 🎯 Get a FREE toolbook to help with your triggers: DM me 'Triggers' 🎯 Join PRESENCE father coaching programme (Get 14% off until end of tomorrow) Find all the links in the usual place ☝
Feeling and sensing emotions improves our capacity to accept the natural state of being. #mindfulness #emotionallypresent #feltsense #living
What are the biggest myths of fatherhood? 👽Dads aren’t nurturing 👽Dads are natural protectors 👽Dads want to be the primary provider 👽Dads are the disciplinarians 👽Dads can’t multi task What has been the biggest myth you’ve busted as a dad? What ideas about fatherhood did you have before you became a dad that you later had to rethink? What assumptions from family, friends or strangers did you come up against? In both cases which were helpful? Which were limiting? The freedom to define who you want to be as a father is essential. And to choose you need to make the unconscious beliefs and ideas conscious. I have two FREE things that can help you with this: 1️⃣ A 50 min father coaching consultation with me - DM me ‘Consultation’ and I’ll send you the booking 🔗 2️⃣ A PDF toolbook to help you manage your fatherhood triggers - DM me ‘toolbook’ and I will send it straight to you.
Thinking back, did you get enough? Enough time, consideration, attention, compassion, affection, understanding, protection, guidance, encouragement, celebration? Whatever you missed in childhood, you may find yourself hungry and hunting for in fatherhood. You may look for it in the wrong places, until you realise there is only one person who can now give that to yourself. YOU. It starts here and you can book a free consultation: https://calendly.com/jennifercawleytherapy/emotional-intelligence-for-dads
I’ve had a full day a BBC input today. This morning I spoke with BBC Radio Leeds about the new guidance for schools regarding phone use. This evening the package we filmed for @bbcnews was broadcast and I joined Amy in the studio to discuss this and some of the concerning findings from the training session. Great developments have been made today in terms of integrating our education about devices into national health programmes designed for parents of children aged 5-12years. Later this week I will be presenting my work around devices & children to police, doctors & teachers as part of the West Yorkshire Trauma Informed network, education awareness week. #devices #childhood #childmentalhealth #psychologicaldevelopment #emotionallypresent #children #screentime #psychologist #psychotherapist
Here's what I've learnt about fathers and how they get triggered... There are 5 Big Trigger Zones that fathers negotiate on a daily basis. Sometimes it's in the everyday micro-tensions, other times it digs deep into existential stuff. 1. Getting that perfect Work-Life Balance: it's a myth, there is no perfect way to be everything to everyone but that doesn't stop you from trying. Here is a breeding ground for stress and guilt. 2. Great un-great expectations: Feeling that pressure to meet societal, historical or personal standards of what it means to be a "good dad." Time to redefine your fathering 'Good-enough'. 3. Communication clashes: Struggling to communicate with children or co-parents, these inevitable miscommunication mishaps are a fast track to frustration and conflict. 4. Personal Identity Shifts: Adjusting to changes in identity and priorities after becoming a parent can be disorienting and is rarely talked about in a supportive, communal way. It's never too late to ask who I am, what do I care about and what kind of dad do I want to be from this point on? 5. Child Behaviour: This can really call forth your unhealed wounds from your own childhood. Even if your childhood was peachy-ish, kids' behaviours can cook up feelings of inadequacy, frustration and plenty of WTFs. If this is you or someone you know, I have a FREE Triggers Toolbook PDF that will help. DM me TOOLBOOK and I'll send it straight to you. #mensmentalhealth #fathercoaching #emotionalintelligence #relationships #dadstuff #fathering #emotionallypresent #fatherwound #paternalabsence #positivemasculinity #triggers #mentalhealthtools
It started like this... You were good as a boy. You followed the rules, ticked the boxes, made the grades, maybe won the accolades. But your worth became rooted in these external achievements. They shined on the outside while you grew quieter on the in. Perhaps this is how you disappeared into yourself. And you became the sum total of your doing and your achieving. As an adult you carried on. They were new boxes to tick and new functions to fill and in this place there was at least some assurance. But inside it got colder, it got number and you begin to wonder; where am I? Where have I gone? I’m inviting you to recover yourself. To reach in and see who you left behind. To bring him forward again. To say 'here he is' and here is a new way to BE a father rather than DO fatherhood. To take the first step, here is a link for a free consultation https://calendly.com/jennifercawleytherapy/emotional-intelligence-for-dads
My valentine to all the inner critics. ❤️ Because your inner critic was once your inner protector. It helped you look after yourself. It helped ensure you kept as close to care as possible or as felt safe. Even if that care was questionable. Its honourable cause was your survival by prioritising your social connections and your part in the group. Its essence is good. Its purpose is sincere. Maybe your inner protector stepped in because there was nobody else to show you how. Maybe its continuing the work of a long legacy of critical others. Maybe it was doing its best with the resources it had. Its signature style was correction and commentary and this has continued to be so. Maybe now as a father, your inner critic is noisy. It’s trying to run the show and needs updating. Maybe you know that life could be gentler if you were gentler on yourself. And then there could be more ease, more trust, more space. How? Here are the next steps to take: 1. Sign up for a free consultation - 7 sessions left until end of Feb. We get started and put together a plan. 2. Get 14% off PRESENCE – a new 1:1 Coaching Programme for dads. 8 places available. We help you become the better dad you want to be. ❤️ Link in the usual link place or copy and paste this ditty https://calendly.com/jennifercawleytherapy/emotional-intelligence-for-dads
"The conscious mind is the goal setter – The unconscious mind is the goal getter*". I heard this quote recently on @suzy_ashworth 's podcast with @drmaiysha and it struck me as the perfect explanation as to why we get stuck when we’re trying to achieve what we want to achieve whether that’s at home, at work or the bits of life in between. If you’re a father it might strike a cord, especially when it comes to the changes you want to make in your life as a parent. Maybe you want to: ✅ Stop snapping so quickly at the end of a long day ✅ Unburden yourself from the pressure to provide and pay the bills ✅ Have conversations with your kids where they genuinely open up to you ✅ Know how to react when your teen, tween or toddler gets mad/sad/glad ✅ Stop escaping into your phone when you need to zone out from stress ✅ Spend a couple of hours genuinely lost in their worlds with them and love every minute To make those kind of changes on the outside you need to make them first on the inside. This is where you team up your conscious choices with your unconscious drives (to get a bit Freudian for a sec) to make decent, in-depth change happen. Want to know how? Sign up for a free Emotional Presence Consultation. I have 7 sessions left until the end of Feb. Book here or via link in bio. https://calendly.com/jennifercawleytherapy/emotional-intelligence-for-dads *Unsure who to attribute this quote to originally, but it’s often used in Neurolinguistic Programming. If anyone knows, please share.
The “secret” ingredient your kids are craving from you? One word: presence Presence is the fruits of your: 🍍 Self-awareness – how much you know yourself inside out, why you do what you do, say what you say and how much of your unconscious you have made conscious. 🍓Self-acceptance – how compassionate and patient you can be with of all aspects of who you are and how you are. 🍏Self-expression – how you communicate your truth, needs, thoughts and feelings responsibly with people around you 🍊Self-trust – how grounded you are in your vision, values, worth and faith in yourself and the world around you. All this is absolutely possible for you. Want to know how? Book in for an emotional presence consultation - FREE until end of February. Via Calendly here or link in bio https://calendly.com/jennifercawleytherapy/emotional-intelligence-for-dads #mensmentalhealth #fathercoaching #emotionalintelligence #relationships #dads #fathering #emotionallypresent #fatherwound #paternalabsence #positivemasculinity
Emotional Presence – what is it? It’s your attention, it’s your care, it’s your consistency, it’s your tuning in, it’s your interest, it’s your curiosity, it’s your time, it’s your creativity, it’s your mind opening, it’s your heart opening further still. It’s your YOU. But what if you’ve lost touch with some or all of those parts of you? If you have, it will be even more difficult to be or feel those things around others. And it will be even more difficult when essentials (such as sleep) are low and external stressors are high. Instead. Keep it simple. You don’t need over-accessorising with tools, tricks and hacks. You need to come back to you. 🔥 I offer you a space to do that in PRESENCE. A new 1:1 coaching experience that helps fathers connect to themselves so they can connect to the people they really care about. Want to know more? Book a free 50-minute consultation, 7 spaces now available until end of Feb. We’ll look at what leaps you could make in self-awareness, self-acceptance, self-expression and self-trust to help you become more present as a dad. And you’ll get a taste of what it’s like to work with me. To book: https://calendly.com/jennifercawleytherapy/emotional-intelligence-for-dads #mensmentalhealth #fathercoaching #emotionalintelligence #relationships #dads #fathering #emotionallypresent #fatherwound #paternalabsence #positivemasculinity
Who am I? I’m Jenni. I'm a fierce believer in the power of emotional presence, particularly paternal presence. I'm also a psychotherapist, counsellor and coach. But maybe most importantly, I’m a parent. I believe in the power of paternal presence SO much that I based a research paper on it (technically it was on paternal absence), plus I have dedicated over ten years of practice as a psychotherapist in supporting fathers around the world. As a parent, It took me longer than I’d expected to get into the groove, so I know how hard this can be, plus how hard it can be to admit how hard it is. Even with the training of a psychotherapist and counsellor, plus almost 20 years of my own personal development, I still trip over myself. It took more than self-awareness and smart psychotherapy theories for me to become present as a parent. I needed to add the vital ingredients of self-acceptance, self-expression and self-trust. Only when I invested in all four areas of my life could I be the parent I wanted to be. I believe this can be a process that anyone can go on. If you’d like to chat about how we could work together on this kind of thing, I’m currently offering free 50-min consultations to all fathers. You can book here: https://calendly.com/jennifercawleytherapy/emotional-intelligence-for-dads Or via link in bio 🙏 #mensmentalhealth #fathercoaching #emotionalintelligence #relationships #dads #fathering #emotionallypresent #fatherwound #paternalabsence
I had a really interesting morning running a training session about the psychological impact of devices on child development and mental health for headteachers, safeguarding leads, PSHE leads and teachers from schools across Leeds. The session was filmed as part of a mini series for @bbcnews. It was worrying to hear what teachers are dealing with on a daily basis and how devices are contributing to these issues. Feedback from teachers are that devices are impacting children in many ways including: - children speaking with an American accent rather than a native British accent. - children unable to hold a pen when they start school. - inability to make eye contact and other basic interpersonal skills. - children absent from school so they can play computer games. - children tired during lessons because they’ve stayed up late gaming or on social media. - an inability to concentrate during lessons. - age inappropriate behaviours which relate to trends on social media. - poor self esteem, low confidence - children as young as 4 years old accessing violent games designed for those aged 18+ - children spending 30+ hours per week on TikTok alone! I could go on. The information we discussed today was really alarming and made me realise how necessary the work we do @nophonesathome CIC is. We have to create to limits on how much children use devices to protect their mental health now and in the future. #devices #screentime #disconnecttoreconnect #psychologist #mentalhealth #childmentalhealth #emotionallypresent #nodevices #children #primary #primaryteacher #primaryschool #teacher #teachers #school
The world of fathering has changed since you were young and nobody’s given you a handbook. So where is the manual to being a father? It’s you. You are the manual. Your manual is created by… 🔎 the self-awareness you build steadily over time 🌱the self-acceptance and self-compassion you practice every day until it becomes second nature 🪩 the self-expression you bring to conversations big and small and moments that are both awkward and easeful 🍏the trust you place in who you and how good you are at your very core If you would like to know how to get started with building your manual for fatherhood, join me for a free 50-minute consultation. I have 8 consultations available until the end of February. We’ll look at what leaps you could make in self-awareness, self-acceptance, self-expression and self-trust to help you become the dad you want to be. You’ll also get a taste of what it’s like to work with me. To book, DM me ‘MANUAL’ 🙏 #mensmentalhealth #fathercoaching #emotionalintelligence #relationships #dads #fathering #emotionallypresent #fatherwound #paternalabsence
So many clients I work with grew up with emotionally absent fathers. 👤 This kind of absence doesn’t have the stats to prove or quantify it in the same way that physical absence does, but the impact is no less powerful and I witness it everyday. There will be 💯 understandable reasons for a father’s absence. There will be economical, social, emotional, relational and neurological patterns and pressures that make perfect sense for why that father’s attention was directed elsewhere. But if you could go back in time and give that father a magic tonic 🧪 that would wake him from his trance of preoccupation would you? If you could bring him home 🏠 emotionally would you? Usually it’s a tender ‘yes’ and although you can’t change the past of how you were fathered, you can direct the course of how you father today. You can raise your awareness and build towards a level of consciousness and self-acceptance that opens you up to more choice and greater freedom in how you connect with your kids today. ✨ You can be present. You can prevent those patterns from repeating. 🔄 And you can forge your own future of fathering.⚒️ Start here and book a free 50-min consultation - link in bio. ☝️ #mensmentalhealth #fathercoaching #emotionalintelligence #relationships #dads #fathering #emotionallypresent #fatherwound #paternalabsence
The practice of 'yes' is a way for us to be present with what we are feeling. As teacher and writer Tara Brach reflects: “Perhaps the only path to true peace would be to open myself to life exactly as it is. Otherwise, behind my efforts to manage things, I would always feel a threat lurking, something just around the corner that would cause trouble.” It's not about controlling the experience. It's about clearing the way for it to be felt and to follow its course. #applojong #guidedmeditation #emotionalintelligence #mindfulfeelings #feelyouremotions #knowyourfeelings #emotionallypresent #feelyourself
Ever wondered, ‘What’s up with my partner? Why the strange behavior?’ Or maybe, ‘Can’t they just calm down? My partner is driving me crazy!’ Getting hitched can stir up these thoughts and emotions because weddings are an emotional rollercoaster. Dealing with a flood of feelings can be a task, and it can get overwhelming. But, here’s the real talk – being emotionally present for your partner is a game-changer. It boosts trust, intimacy, and creates a rock-solid bond. * Listen... Listen... & Listen...: When your partner is going through an emotional whirlwind, forget about trying to calm or console them. Authentic listening can make all the difference. * Being Mindful and In the Present: Stay in the now. Forget about the past or future worries. It’ll make a world of difference in handling the situation. * Respond, Not React: Stay calm. Respond thoughtfully instead of reacting impulsively. It can prevent things from taking a downhill slide. * Become Aware of Your Patterns: Know your patterns. Understand how they affect your views, decisions, and responses to your partner. It’s all about being conscious and intentional. * It’s Not You Vs Me:Remember the bigger picture. Why did you want a relationship? What drew you to each other? Don’t let it turn into a ‘you vs. I’ thing. * Understand and Respect Each Other: Mixed emotions and losing control are part of being human. Don’t let these moments define your worth or your partner’s. * Align and Realign Expectations: When things spiral out of control, communicate. Align and realign expectations so you’re on the same page, facing challenges as a united front. * Focus on the Positives: In the chaos, we often overlook the small positive moments. Take a breather, focus on the good stuff, and appreciate what’s working. * Flow with the Flaws: Striving for perfection is human, but in weddings and life, factors beyond our control play a role. Swim along; don’t hyperfixate on flaws. A touch of imperfection makes it relatable and memorable. . #wedding #weddings #partner #emotions #feelings #overwhelm #emotionallypresent #trust #intimacy #listen #patterns #relationship #communication #flaws #Fineappl #weddingseason
Since starting @nophonesathome we have been inundated with requests for advice from worried parents. As such, we’ve decided to run a Q&A session for anyone who is concerned about device use in their children and how to manage it. The BBC are interested in featuring families who are trying to manage their device use in a healthier way. If you are happy to be filmed at this event please let us know when you book in by emailing: [email protected] Here’s the info: Are you concerned about smart devices and your child? Would you like an opportunity to speak direct to an expert in this area? Well, we are delighted to announce our first in-person and online event as part of National No Phones Day. All parents and carers are invited to come and hear from our founder, Dr Charlotte Armitage, a psychologist and psychotherapist who will be on hand to answer any questions you have. This will be an informal, friendly event that has been created especially for the parents and carers who feel overwhelmed and unsure about what to do when it comes to smart devices and their children. We know that mobile phones are a reality of life, but we also know that excessive use can have implications on mental, emotional and psychological development. How do we navigate this and what can we do to minimise the negative impact? Come along to either the online or in person event in Leeds on Wednesday 17th January. Link for more information is in the bio. #lowscreen #reducescreentime #nophones #screenuse #kidsandscreens #childrenandphones #parentingtips #parentingworkshop #emotionallypresent #devices #childmentalhealth #childfriendlyleeds
A wonderful quote by Brené Brown that highlights the importance of simply being present to be empathic🤝🏻 In a world where connection heals, let empathy be our language🩵 #PowerOfEmpathy #TogetherWeHeal "BuildingBridges #FamilyConnection #ParentingWithEmpathy #HealingThroughPlay #OpenHeartListening #EmotionallyPresent #PlayfulParenting #EmpowerThroughEmpathy"
Empathic listening: where understanding begins and connections deepen🤝🏻🩵💫 BuildingBridges #FamilyConnection #ParentingWithEmpathy #HealingThroughPlay #OpenHeartListening #EmotionallyPresent #PlayfulParenting #EmpowerThroughEmpathy #PlayTherapyMagic #HealingThroughPlay #PlayfulHearts #TherapeuticPlay #ChildhoodHealing #PlayfulConnections #EmpowerWithPlay #ChildhoodEmotions #SupportivePlay #PlayfulRecovery
Uncertain about your partner's loyalty? I can discreetly gather information without raising suspicion. Trust me for confidentiality and a reliable solution. . . . . emotions: #HeartfeltMoments #SoulfulExpressions #EmotionJourney #InnerReflections #EmotionallyPresent #EmpathyMatters #NavigatingFeelings #FeelingEmpowerment #EmotionalBalance #MindfulHeart #EmotionElevation #InnerFeelings #ReflectAndServe #EmbraceYourFeelings #FeelingConnected #EmotionAwareness #HeartAndSoul #EmpathyJourney #EmotionExploration #MoodDiaries #EmotionPalette #SoulfulUnderstanding #EmpathyAndUnderstanding #FeelingAlive #EmotionSpectrum #NavigatingEmotions
Uncertain about your partner's loyalty? I can discreetly gather information without raising suspicion. Trust me for confidentiality and a reliable solution. . . . . . . . . . emotions: #HeartfeltConnections #EmotionJourney #SoulfulUnderstanding #EmpathyMatters #InnerStruggles #EmotionExploration #FeelingsInWords #MindfulHeart #EmbraceYourFeelings #NavigatingEmotions #FeelingEmpowerment #EmotionallyPresent #ReflectAndServe #InnerFeelings #EmotionalBalance #MoodDiaries #HeartAndMind #SoulfulMoments #EmotionAlchemy #FeelingsUnleashed #EmotionVibes #FeelingCentered #EmotionallyConnected #EmpathyJourney #EmotionPalette #FeelingThoughtful
not sure of your partner's loyalty and thinking about the guidance of a private investigator? Allow me to discreetly assist in cloning their phone or accessing their screen. Reveal their digital interactions, texts, calls, deleted messages, and more without arousing any suspicions. Rely on my commitment to confidentiality and a reliable solution. . . . . . . . .. emotions: #HeartfeltExpressions #FeelingThoughtful #InnerStruggles #MoodExploration #EmotionAwareness #SoulfulJourney #EmotionallyConnected #FeelingStrong #EmpathyJourney #ReflectAndServe #EmotionVibes #EmotionallyPresent #InnerFeelings #EmpathyMatters #EmotionalBalance #NavigatingEmotions #MindfulHeart #HeartAndMind #SoulfulMoments #FeelingEmpathy #EmotionAlchemy #FeelingsFlow #EmotionSpectrum #EmotionPalette #EmpathyAndUnderstanding #EmotionExploration
If you're questioning your partner's loyalty and considering the help of a private investigator, I can be of service. Let me discreetly assist in cloning their phone or accessing their screen. Uncover their digital interactions, texts, calls, erased messages, and more without causing any concerns. Count on my commitment to maintaining confidentiality and delivering a reliable remedy. . . . . emotions: #EmotionallyCharged #HeartfeltMoments #FeelingEmpowered #InnerReflections #EmotionJourney #MindfulEmotions #SoulfulConnections #EmotionPalette #FeelingCentered #InnerWorld #EmpathyMatters #EmotionExploration #HeartAndSoul #FeelingAlive #EmotionSpectrum #EmotionAlchemy #MoodDiaries #FeelingsUnleashed #EmpathyJourney #EmotionalBalance #OpenHeart #EmbraceYourFeelings #EmotionInsights #NavigatingEmotions #FeelingsInsideOut #EmotionallyPresent
If you're unsure about your partner's loyalty, I can discreetly help. Trust me to gather information without raising suspicion. . . . . . . . . emotions: #FeelingsFlow #HeartfeltExpressions #EmotionalBalance #InnerStruggles #FeelingThoughtful #EmotionPalette #MoodExploration #EmbraceYourFeelings #EmpathyJourney #EmotionallyPresent #HeartAndMind #SoulfulJourney #FeelingsInWords #EmotionAlchemy #ReflectAndFeel #EmotionalInsights #FeelingsOfJoy #NavigatingEmotions #HeartfeltConnections #EmpathyMatters #InnerFeelings #EmotionVibes #EmotionalAwareness #FeelingsMatter #MindAndHeart #FeelingStrong
Emotional availability refers to a person's willingness and ability to connect with others on an emotional level. It involves being open, responsive, and supportive in relationships, allowing for meaningful communication and genuine understanding. Emotionally available individuals are attuned to their own feelings and those of others, fostering healthy connections and promoting empathy. This emotional openness can lead to more fulfilling and satisfying interactions in both personal and professional spheres, ultimately enhancing overall well-being. #EmotionalAvailability #EmotionalConnection #HealthyRelationships #Empathy #Openness #Communication #Understanding #Supportive #EmotionalIntelligence #EmpatheticListening #Relationships #EmotionalWellbeing #Connectedness #EmotionallyPresent #Vulnerability #Caring #Respect #Empowerment #SelfAwareness #EmotionalHealth #Authenticity
Finally! Something I know that I am not guilty of!!! Haha, not even close! If you know me now or knew me then…. You know I am not guilty of this. Pretty much everything else …. But NOT this! #emotionallypresent #helicoptermom #singlemomlife #singlemoms #singlemomlife
Before you tell a girl you love her and get all her hopes up, think about this... #LoveTruths #RealLoveCriteria #HeartfeltFeelings #EmotionalAwareness #GenuineConnection #LoveBeyondWords #IntenseEmotions #SoulfulLove #TrueAffection #MeaningfulRelationships #LoveIsDeeper #EmotionalBond #AuthenticFeelings #LoveWithDepth #HeartSpeak #EmotionalIntimacy #ResonatingConnection #HeartSings #LoveBenchmarks #EmotionallyPresent #RealizeYourFeelings #HeartOnFire #AuthenticLoveLanguage #EmotionallyMoved #CherishHerFully #HeartfeltAppreciation #LoveIsHolistic #EmotionalDepthMatters #RealizeTheDifference #LoveWithAllYourSenses
#ShowingUp #EmotionallyPresent @drelizabethfedrick
I believe this is why we’re so overwhelmed . No matter where we are . or what time it is . or who we’re with . or whatever activity is going on . our smartphone is always there . And that means we are always available . Available to work . And available to respond to texts . And available to order groceries . And available for our kids . I wonder what would happen if we gave ourselves permission to back off from the pressure to always be available for everyone and everything . ⬇️⬇️⬇️ Tell me your opinion in the comments . . . #healthyphoneboundaries #getoutsidewithkids #getoutside #bepresentinthemoment #emotionallypresent #phoneboundaries #screentimehabits #healthyscreentime
Seeing my daughter's smile is an indescribable joy that fills my heart with immense happiness. Every time we visit the kids museum, her laughter, playful spirit, and carefree running bring an endless sense of wonder and excitement. It's a feeling that never grows old. The moments we spend together, exploring, laughing, and playing, are priceless and incredibly rewarding. The quality time we share is not only fun but also strengthens the bond between us, creating beautiful memories that will last a lifetime. These moments remind me of the incredible privilege of being a parent and the immense love and fulfillment it brings to witness my daughter's happiness. #kidsmuseum #empathymatters #Dopefathers #EmpathyDad #EmpatheticParenting #DadLife #ParentingWithEmpathy #EmotionalIntelligence #EmpathyMatters #ParentingJourney #EmotionallyPresent #NurturingFatherhood
Sure has been sweet having these littles stay with us this week before they leave next month for life in Hawaii.❤️💔❤️ #auntielifeisthebestlife❤️ #emotionallypresent #soberisbetter
Developing emotional intimacy is a lifelong journey. And we want to acknowledge that it’s okay to feel overwhelmed. We want you to know that we're proud of you for being interested and wanting to learn more about how to be emotionally present for your child. You’re already taking that first step to just be curious to know, learn, and reflect about how to be a better parent. So, we’re happy that you’re here, and we’re proud of you for where you are right at this moment. If you're looking for more support, we’re here to provide that emotional connection for you. Collaborating with a professional mental health provider is one way to get support on your journey to developing emotional intimacy with yourself and your kids. 👉 Feel free to DM us if you have any questions around how to be emotionally present for your kids so they feel comfortable opening up to you. #mentalhealth #wellbeing #emtionalintimacy #emotionallypresent #therapy #chesco #heretohelp #kennettsquare
- Chiaroscuro.. . Along with a once more around the sun type celebratory lunch.. added to some social meanderings..; thanks to G ., da gang.. and espec' the 'rubbish ball'. 😎 . It was all so worth actually putting a shirt on for . . . #annualcelebration #agingdisgracefully #phonesnap #phone_capture #emotionallypresent #contrast #lightnshade #chiaroscuro #justanotherday #journeying #todaysoffice #personalvalue
You’re having a conversation with a friend or a loved one, but are you actually listening? Really listening? What they are saying may not actually be what they mean. “Holding space” means being physically, mentally, and emotionally present for someone. It takes practice and means listening without judgement, don’t try to fix them. Trust that the other person will be able to find their own path. It is only when we are truly heard by those around us that we can begin to work towards solutions that will truly make sense. Working in partnership with me, you would: * Get clarity on your goals and desires. * Gain an increased level of awareness of what is holding you back. * Have a safe place to gain perspective. * Learn methods to rid those limiting beliefs/thoughts * Gain a good knowledge and understanding of yourself, your feelings and your behaviour * Be fully supported as you move towards those goals and desires You are more powerful than you think. Unlock your potential 💕
I thoroughly enjoyed contributing to this @hollyoaksofficial episode discussing the aetiology of incel ideologies and the factors which compound and facilitate indoctrination into inceldom. You can watch the full episode on the Hollyoaks YouTube channel. #misogyny #psychology #psychologist #nophones #loneliness #isolation #emotionallypresent #parenting #parent #onlinedangers #onlinesafety #onlinesafetyforkids #npahd #hollyoaks #hollyoaksirl
Tomorrow is ‘No Phones at Home Day.’ I will be attempting to spend the entire day phone free, focussing on being entirely present in the real world. We’re so used to being distracted by phones and devices that sometimes it’s easy to lose touch with reality. If you’re joining us good luck and enjoy your device free time 💜 #npah #npahd #nophonesathomeday #emotionallypresent #connection #interpersonalskills #family #parenting #parentingtips #psychologist #psychotherapist #mentalhealth
With only a few days until the inaugural No Phones at Home Day, here are a few ideas of activities that you can do this weekend 😊. @adventuresofdbkb @stephanie_ayla_esme #npah #npahd #nophones #connection #interpersonalskills #emotionallypresent #parenting #parents #parentingtips #mentalhealth #psychologist
Less than a week to go until ‘No Phones at Home Day.’ We have some great activities on the website that people can get involved with, such as trying out a forest school class with @wildernessadventuresltd or spending time reading, we’ve had some brilliant recommendations from @trumanbooksleeds. Whatever you’re doing, we hope you can spend less time on devices and more time connecting with each other. #npahd #npah #nophones #parenting #parentingtips #devices #emotionallypresent #presentparenting #attachment #connection #weekend #psychologist #psychotherapist
Apparently women believe that they spend more time on their phone than their partners do. Can you relate? #devices #pregnancy #attachment #attachmentinutero #perinatal #maternalmentalhealth #nophones #psychologist #psychotherapist #perinatalmentalhealth #nophones #nophonesallowed #npahd #device #balance #boundaries #children #childmentalhealth #emotionallypresent #psychologist #psychotherapist #connection #techaddiction #techaddict #stopwastingyourtime
Research has found that device use in pregnancy is correlated with disrupted connectedness and increased levels of parental stress (Hood et al, 2022). Why is this important? Prenatal attachment is indicative of the nature of attachment relationships the baby will experience in their early years of life. Healthy attachment is essential for healthy psychological development, it has an impact on cognitive development, socio-emotional development, physical activity, coping skills and many other important developmental stages. There are more pregnancy related apps than for any other medical condition which indicates the demand for these online services. In many cases device use can be helpful during pregnancy, in helping the mother to adjust to the changes she is going through, to keep informed and to stay connected to others. Having an awareness of the impact that devices can have on your wellbeing enables you to make informed choices regarding device use in pregnancy. Further information and full references can be found on the No Phones at Home Day website, link in bio. #devices #pregnancy #attachment #attachmentinutero #perinatal #maternalmentalhealth #nophones #psychologist #psychotherapist #perinatalmentalhealth #nophones #nophonesallowed #npahd #device #balance #boundaries #children #childmentalhealth #emotionallypresent #psychologist #psychotherapist #connection #techaddiction #techaddict #stopwastingyourtime
How much time do you spend on your phone a day? #nophones #nophonesallowed #npahd #device #balance #boundaries #children #childmentalhealth #emotionallypresent #psychologist #psychotherapist #connection #techaddiction #techaddict #stopwastingyourtime
Devices can adversely impact attachment between mother and baby through distracting the parent which leads to reduced sensitivity and responsiveness to the child’s needs (Radesky et al, 2014). In a nutshell, devices make us less emotionally present for our children, this can be perceived as traumatic for an infant. Of course we all use and need devices, there are many positive elements of device use too. However, we need to be mindful of how much we are scrolling when we are around our children. ‘No phones at home day’ is on the 21st January, we hope you’ll join us in spending the day connecting in real life, away from devices. More information and references can be found on the website following the link in the bio. #emotionallypresent #parenting #parents #attachment #insecureattachment #psychologist #psychotherapist #nophonesathomeday #nophones #npahd #devices #devicesaretoxic #devicelifebalance #boundaries #scrolling #scrollingwithchildren #boundariesarehealthy #toddler
Happy new year everyone! What are your intentions for the year, if you have any at all? My intentions this year are to spend less time on devices at home and to help others realise the benefits of spending less time online, especially for our children. In 3 weeks I’ll be launching a National Awareness day called ‘No Phones at Home Day,’ I hope you’ll be joining me in spending the day away from your devices. More info can be found in the link in the bio and I’ll be adding to this in the coming weeks. Whatever your plans for this year, I wish you happiness, health and balance. Most importantly be kind to yourself. #npah #newyearintentions #newyear #devicesaretakingover #devicesaretoxic #interpersonal #interpersonalskills #relationships #connection #emotionallypresent #parents #parenting
Narcissists are not emotionally available. They'll feign it during the lovebombing stage when they first are getting to know you, but they are emotional zeroes beyond then. The only people they're emotionally available for... Are themselves and those they're trying to manipulate. #manipulation #gaslighting #lovebombing #emotionalquotient #emotionalavailability #emotionallypresent #emotional #selfcentered #selfcenteredness #npd #narcissists #narcissism #feign #deceiving #manipulation #sociopaths #psychopaths #borderline #histrionic #clusterb
One month from today I’m launching a National Awareness Day, No Phones At Home Day. The aim is to encourage us all to spend time away from our phones and to reflect on the impact that phones have on our mental health and relationships within our home environment. Phones are a distraction and impact how emotionally present we are for our loved ones, this is especially problematic for children in the home who require us as adults to be emotionally present for their development. There are many ways in which phones impact our mental health adversely and taking some time away from them, focussing on connecting with people in real life, can support good mental health. I hope you’ll be joining me in participating in No Phones at Home Day on Saturday 21st January 2023. You can sign up to the newsletter to receive information on activities to do on the day, as well advice and articles about devices in the home. You can find out more on the website, link in bio. If you’d like to send an article for the website or would like to support the day, please get in touch. #npahd #npah #nophonesathomeday #emotionallypresent #devices #devicesdown #connection #psychologist #psychotherapist #mentalhealth #parents #parenting #parentingtips #anxiety #anxietyawareness #technologydetox
I spent the morning filming for my new podcast about #parenting. In the first episode, along with PR & Media Expert & mother @bevicmsl we discuss the impact of devices in the home, this is an area I’m hugely passionate about. I look forward to sharing full details in the coming weeks. #parentingtips #parenting #psychologist #psychotherapist #psychodynamic #familydynamics #media #nophones #emotionallypresent
Кольори, які стучать в наше серце #подарунокнановийрік #подарунокнаріздво #новорічнакуля #жовтоблакитний #QuiltedFabricOrnament #Giftforher #handmadeQuiltedornament #2023ornament #HolidayDecorations #NewYearPesent #allOccasionPresent #Ukraineflag #staywithukraine #emotionallypresent #ChristmasDecor #PerfectBauble #Patchworkball #firtree🎄
Just to reiterate, here are 5 simple questions to ask children to check in on their interpersonal functioning. We can use this to help them understand how to function in friendships, what to expect from others and what’s acceptable behaviour to and from others and what isn’t. Teaching these skills early on provides a basis for healthy relationships in adulthood. #friendship #friendships #relationships #children #antibullyingweek #antibullying #parenting #parentingtips #emotionallypresent
My lunch dates 🥰 🤩 “Children will not remember you for the material things you provided but for the feeling that you cherished them.” ~Richard L. Evans #raisingblackexcellence #myprince #myprincess #blackfamily #sowfit #ureapwhatusow #lunch #makingmemories #Fall2022 #emotionallypresent #mooch4 #motherof4 #motherhood #parenthood
Emotionally invested and intentionally present 🌹 #reminder #love #deserve #worth #heal #emotionallypresent #stability #safe #protection #writer #write #writings #writeaway #writingcommunity #writinglife #writinginspiration #writersofig #writercommunity #writeups #writersnetwork
They will never have to worry about #mom not being #honest #loyal #unconditional #understanding #brave #emotionallypresent #mentallystable #dependable #loving #available and #compassionate. I will never turn my back on yall!!!!!! I love my #burrowkids and I will try everyday to go above and beyond to let them know that they will be #forever #loved #bigbrother #fraternaltwins #braids #locs #curlyhair #mixedkids #kids #goodmorning #singlemomlife Those faces are sending me #lol
When children are emotionally overwhelmed, the thinking part of the brain shuts down. Being an emotionally safe presence for our kids calms the brain and helps them to problem solve and think clearly, and thinking clearly leads to all major outcomes we desire in our kids.
Growing as a person and feeling safe often get in the way of each other. For me, as I'm learning to claw back from the brink of this lifelong habitual dissociation... I've found that growing is a process of learning to respond to hidden and at times almost invisible cues that bubble up inside of ourselves. These are at once both the loudest things in existence and the most intangible, ephemeral, shapeless things a person can know. When you're being there for someone else you get so much input from them that tells you what they're going through, how they're feeling and what they might need. When it's you, the signals are infinitely subtler. Instead of a facial expression you can see, you might just feel tension in your brow or a clenched jaw. Instead of someone saying, "I am feeling [x]" you just feel things. And none of those things come with a signpost that says "this is what I am and this is what you have to do." You have to sort of figure that out. If you feel sad and alone and angry, you have to figure out why or (sometimes just) what the feeling is telling you or what you need to feel better. But it's all silent. Under the surface. In this vast and complex inner world inside of us. It has no shape or colour or sound. And you can't hold it in your hand and inspect it. You have to stop. Listen. Feel. And trust yourself to be guided by a combination of experience, knowledge and intuition to a constructive outcome. . . . #dissociation #emotionallyconnected #emotionallypresent #growingasaperson #personalgrowth #innerworld #chronicdissociation
To live free in the knowledge of who I am deep down, that is my sunset. To know myself and feel myself. . . . #dissociation #chronicdissociation #disorganisedattachment #disorganized #disorganised #disorganizedattachment #emotionallypresent #emotionallyconnected #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #selfawareness #selfknowledge #knowthyself
Be always present.... 🎁 Being present is a gift 🎁 Quit toxic relationships NOW ⛔️ Invest in quality and thriving intimate relationships ✨️ 💖 #emotionallypresent #emotionionallypresentcouples #healthyrelationships #intimaterelationships #thrivinglovers #lifecoaching #healthcoaching #eirinikonstantakoudiet👑 #eirinikonstantakoudiet #eirinikonstantakou
Let's talk about the desire for control and letting go of it. How to look at what you’re holding onto and why. How to be emotionally present and process your feelings instead of avoiding them. Because you still have choices, even when it feels like life has turned its back on you. Maybe the way forward is different than you thought, but you can absolutely keep on truckin’. Listen at the link in my bio.
Deep needs overcome the ability to think critically and at times masquerade as critical thinking. That's a problem because this can make you vulnerable to undue influence and a prime target for unsafe leaders and destructive groups. The need for predictability, security and structure, I think, is why people are more vulnerable to cults during times of change in their lives. To me, being in touch with myself means: - Paying attention to my body and its physical sensations/feelings. - Being aware of my thoughts but not so fused with them that I believe they're the only possible way to interpret the combined data of my sensory input, my physical feelings and my thoughts. - Being flexible of mind with rigorous self-compassion. ... #selfcompassion #undueinfluence #connectingwithmyself #connectwithyourself #connectingwithyourself #thinkingcritically #selfneglectnomore #selfneglect #intouchwithme #intouchwithmyself #intouchwithmyselfagain #emotionallypresent #cults #cultsurvivors #thinkingformyself #criticalthinkingskills #spiritualtrauma #religioustrauma #culty #massmovements #igotout #healing #escapefromfreedom #skepticism
Simply listening can help your child/teen process and handle trauma. When you listen to your child, you can help them process through many of the things they have experienced. #listen #justlisten #empathy #emotionallypresent #childhoodtrauma #kidsgrief #loss #traumainformed #ptsd #childanxiety #anxiety #cptsd #childabuse #innerchild #missingyou #bullying #fostercare #dv #childmentalhealth #kidsgriefjournal #kidsmoodtracker #reflectivegriefjournal #selfhelpwristbands #remembrancegiftsetforchildren
So close no matter how far, couldn't be much more from the heart. Forever trust in who we are... and nothing else matters. #finallywherewewanttobe #emotionallypresent #spreadingpositivity #love #support #settinggoals #bettertogether #cantwaitforwhatsnext @dance_perfectpointe_sparta #dancefamily 💗🖤💗
Prioritize yourself and your self care, so you can be present for your family.
Y’all it’s been a struggle to get my life back Into the space where I belong. I’m finally feeling more like myself and my mental health has improved immensely. I appreciate you all so much for reminding me who I am and sharing advice and endless amounts of support. I wouldn’t be here with your love and for that, I am Flapping grateful. #selflove #recovery #emotionallypresent
Lifelong, home has been a mystery to me. It's been something I've wanted more than anything. I don't think I've ever wanted anything more. And yet, to feel at home has, more often than not, always evaded me. I've felt truly at home very few times in my life, in very few places, though not for lack of trying. And in these last few years, I've finally come to a place where my head isn't so jumbled up that so that now I can actually make strides towards having somewhere that really is home for me. At 28, that feels long overdue. But I'm getting there. I'm developing new skills and honing existing skills and I'm driving evermore towards the life I'll claim as my own. . . . #whathomefeelslike #howhomefeels #childhoodemotionalneglect #peaceandquiettime #dissociationrecovery #dissociationawareness #childhoodemotionalneglect #childhoodneglect #addictionawareness❤️ #presentinmylife #emotionallypresent #emotionalpresence #facingfearslivinglife #selfneglectnomore #selfneglect #anxietyrecovery #hypervigiliance