All eyes here for April mosaic + April musings ❤️ Honestly, what a busy birthday month it had been 😭 So much to do, so much to think about, so much to keep my focus on! It was easy to be hard on these 30 days but hard to take it easy! But that's when we get to be easy right, when it is difficult? So, somehow stole these simple moments from the power packed days which were physically and mentally quite exhausting! As the song says, "Chahat ke do pal bhi mil jaye, duniya me yeh bhi kam hai kya?" ( Even if you could get a few moments of love, it's enough! ❣️) So, have a look at the simple moments of our complicated life (which ofcourse we only enjoy complicating) 1. A slice of my hometown topped with golden hour 2. A cup of ice cream flavored with Alphonso, because it's SUMMER!!! 3. That tiny bitter gourd and its curls 4. The usual sunset with an unusual cloudy dinosaur 🦕 5. Those better-late-than-never blossoms 🌸 6. The summer sky dressed up like autumn's 7. The mandatory refreshment after EOD with loved one ❤️ Bdw, did it rhyme? I think it did, a little bit. But is it important? Anyways, just leave it. The intention was to be present enough to notice these, capture these and appreciate these moments. That is done undoubtedly! With my honest inability to share the exact thoughts in my mind and heart, after these mentally heavy month, which became bearable with the special Alphonso treat 🍨 and the freshness of lime and evrything that is in these pictures and evrything that is not. May your May be kind to you ❣️ because the heat of summer is already not the same! Yours truly, @asoulneversold [April dump, a soul never sold, a soul never sold quotes, soul quotes, April mosaic, April musings, Alphonso, birthday month, it's summer, blossoms, sunset, simple moments, hometown, golden hour] #asoulneversold #asoulneversoldquotes #asns #ujjwaloraon #aprilmosaic #aprilmusings #mosaic #alphonso #freshlime #heatofsummer #refreshment #summersky #picturequotes #picturepoetry #aprildump
...and the lights inside are eventually dimmed, so that you can enjoy the best experience. Well, to be sure, window seats are hyped for real. Because imagine watching the sky waking up with all possible colors that is not just a ring like rainbow, but the whole sky painted in the same vibrance. Imagine, a morning like this where you wake up not on the top a hill or mountain, but amidst the clouds, thousands of feet above. Who else could best accompany you in this lifetime memorable moment, than the person you love most, sitting with you! 💕 God has a surprising way to surprise us, and that is surprisingly adorable. A few months back, we planned a whole trip just to see something similar to this from the top of a hill. But God had different plans that day. Trekking to the top of the hill we just got to see some extreme weather - dense fog, so much that with the fast blowing wind it rained on us. We saw something quite opposite to remember for life. Nevertheless, the journey was an unique one that one would think twice before doing twice. Not an easy one, in other words. But they rightly say, God never closes a door without opening a new window for you! In this case, He literally opened the best window for the view once missed! Not from the hill top or mountain peak, but from thousands of feet above the world, right somewhere amidst the clouds to look at this mesmerizing winterline! Sitting cozy in our seats, consumed the entire show. Stay tuned to watch that spectacular sunrise after this as the story is to be continued... Yours truly, @asoulneversold [A soul never sold, soul quotes, a soul never sold quotes, winterline, spectacular sunrise, sunrise from flight, sunrise from the sky, sunrise from above, sunrise from plane, picture quotes, sunrise view] #asns #asoulneversold #asoulneversoldquotes #soulquotes #ujjwaloraon #winterline #spectacularsunrise #sunrise #tobecontinued #mobilephoto #sunrisefromflight #sunrisefromthesky #sunrisefromabove #sunrisefromplane #picturequotes #sunriseview
This post starts with a conclusion, but don't worry, the summary is still at the end, and the story, as usual, is always in the middle! We always have this doubt seeing people saying the similar things on the internet- Choose happiness or choose pain? Which one to choose first? How can you choose to be happy when the world inside you is crumbling down? Isn't it like telling the sleepy not to sleep? But this post still said choose happiness like everyone else says. Then what's the difference? My dear, that is the difference. The first slide is the conclusion, the last slide is the summary, and in between, like everything, is the real story. Read it slowly. Real slowly. Choose pain, choose the difficulty to sit with your emotions, choose the uncomfortable conversations you need to have with yourself. Then only you know your pain from all the perspectives. No blame games. Pure responsibility, and no delegation here, okay? Because nobody else can do this for you! Process the pain, well enough that you do not make the pain your identity, that you learn to separate your 'self' from your 'emotions', that you learn to 'think' detached from the 'feelings'. Not to choose the immediate comfort, the immediate pleasure that comes from being completely ignorant, avoidant and indifferent to everything, everyone and emotions. But to address the shadow inside. To learn how to switch on that light all by yourself. To learn to navigate through your own heart. Then only you become the real boss. The one whose emotions are not easy to manipulate. The one whose words and actions are aligned irrespective of time, place and situations. Because you can empower your present vibrations to create your future versions, my dear, and the energy you live within your body is the energy you receive outside yourself. So, feed your present 🎁 with habits and actions that are healthy, not just for your current reality but also for the rainbows of your future 🌈 Yours truly, @asoulneversold [asoulneversold, a soul never sold, choose happiness, real insights, the good quote, life quotes, life lessons, energy, vibrations, self growth, personal growth, self healing, healing process]
Tons of personal growth videos & audios, piles of self-help books, and the uncountable reels on social media, all of which kept saying, "you should do this", "you should do it like this", "3 signs of a happy person", etc., you consumed them all, with all of your heart. You remember every word, every theory, every idea, and everything said in those content, yet you felt insecure, felt jealous, felt uncomfortable seeing others happy their way! Somehow, you could not find that no man's land between the boundaries of "what you want" and "what they do". While the answer was simple, if you liked what they did, then you could've done it your way (coming out of excuses of not doing the same)! But what you wanted, might have been something else. Your insecurity might have always tried to impose your ways on others, otherwise you could never like people having their ways, people following their faith, people loving their one precious life! What you wanted might have been to make people act like you, talk like you, think like you and do everything like you. You might have never come out of yourself to embrace differences, let alone like them! You only felt comfortable in the "my way or the high way", after all the "good content" you consumed. But the world is not your home. So, to live in a society we need to find that no man's land between "mine" and "their". As much as you need to preserve your individuality, that much you need the differences, need everyone else. The wild might have one king, but that's only in human-created stories. They still live in harmony, knowing individual differences are essential for the benefit of the mass! We live in a human society, but fail to be that human our entire life! We just enjoy finding and making duplicates of our own self! Let's understand the power in differences! Yours truly, @asoulneversold #asoulneversold #asoulneversoldquotes #soulquotes #ujjwaloraon #powerindifferences #individualdifferences #humansociety #goodcontent #actlikeyou #thinklikeyou #talklikeyou #dolikeyou #mywayorthehighway #yourinsecurities #feltinsecure #3signs #signsofahappyperson #selfhelpbooks #youshoulddothis #explorepagequotes #thoughts
They say, never say never again, So am I allowed to say it like this? Am I allowed to say that I'd always like to be excited about the window seats 🪟 and the sea waves 🌊 No matter how many times I've enjoyed them! I'd always like to be excited about clicking pictures of people 🫂 and sceneries I love 💕 No matter how many photos I already have! I'd always like to be playfully mature, 🤭💃 No matter how hard life tries to take my childhood away from me! I'd always like to carry those essence which Make me feel more like myself, No matter how many known and unknown crowds Feel like home to me! I'd always love to act in a way, that people intriguingly ask, "Haven't you seen that before?" "Is it the first time you're witnessing this?" "Why do you feel like showing it to your family?" "Don't you have this in your place?" ...etc. What's the need of that maturity which allows you to enjoy only the "first time" things with excitements? What's the need of that maturity that tries to pull down the excitement of a child's heart? What's the need of that maturity if it does not allow you to laugh loudly, see clearly, enjoy fully and embrace heartily? Sure, let the world be mature that way. But I'd always love to keep that playfulness, & those excitements alive that make life real lively ❤️ Keep the love for life alive 💙🫂 or life-love as I frequently mention in my book A Soul Never Sold 📖 The link is in my bio, grab the book and feel life more subtly 💕 Yours truly, @asoulneversold #asns #asoulneversold #asoulneversoldquotes #ujjwaloraon #lifelove #lifelovers #lifelover #loveforlife #neversayneveragain #playfully #maturity #firsttime #excitements #windowseats #seawaves #clickpictures #picturequotes #childhood #knowncrowd #knownunknown #crowd #feellikehome #picturepoetry #naturepicturesofinstagram #quotesimages #soulquotes #liketobe #excitedaboutlife
Contrary to popular belief, I realised this after watching few deep movies about life and listening to some healers. Honestly, it has been a lightbulb moment! We are never taught how to pray or how prayers work. It's possible that very few people know the secrets of prayers. I never did. Neither did I know nor I ever felt the necessity to pray. I always used to think, God knows everything what I need, then why do I need to pray? This has been my constant childhood thought. Once I started consuming some good books, movies and video content, I came across so many people who would talk about the art of praying so fondly. How wonderful is that, I thought, when I heard it for the first time. Prayers don't change our circumstances. They change us. This single thought can give goosebumps multiple times. Remember in a movie, Morgan Freeman said something similar? I don't remember the exact words but will share the essence here. Basically he was trying to say that if we pray to have more patience, God does not give us more patience overnight. He tests us through situations that can build a version of us with more patience. We have been thinking of prayers as wish granting factories created by God. Oh, so childish and innocent of us💙 So, remember, next time when you pray, be ready for some internal changes also. I hope, this perception on prayers could make you a little more courageous and confident. More on this, as I learn and grow with you all ❣️ Please follow @asoulneversold for more unique thoughts, lines, quotes on life, ideas, life quotes to live by & perspectives. (lifequotestoliveby, lifelessons, prayers, how to pray, how prayers work, art of praying) #asoulneversold #asoulneversoldquotes #asns #ujjwaloraon #lifequotestoliveby #lifelessons #prayers #howtopray #howprayerswork #artofpraying #quotesonlife #uniquethoughts #uniquelines #uniqueideas #uniqueperspectives #explorequotespages #amazonbooksindia #amazonbook #poetrybook #prosebooks #indianauthor #morganfreemanquotes #moviesaboutlife #deepmovies #healers #lightworkers #perception #exploretoexpress
March Moments🧡💚💛💙🤍🖤 I know, I am running a little late, or a bit too late, but does that count? I mean who's deciding the speed though? Are you? Not me, atleast. Then, why bother? As long as it's getting done beautifully & leaving sweet memorable marks,don't think the speed matters! So, after much break, here I am, to fulfill the unsaid promises to you all With a little touch of imagination, trying to enhance the complete reality With a little fragment of my gallery, trying to explain the complete story... Well, that's what Mother Nature does to me...words flow easily, and going with the flow becomes peaceful, fearlessly... 1. So, as I sat in an open air cafe(3 sides open), a little flower from the adjacent tree just fell into my green gravy! 🌼 2. As I let that beautiful view pass, thinking I saw it with my eyes & the crowd is too much to capture it, I still got the space to click it somehow & it didn't look any less beautiful!🪟 3. As I met this orange flower on the ground & tried to capture it, I found an unplanned twinning with my dupatta 🧡 4-9. As I roamed around new places, found random places giving real peace, random pick ups giving real joy, realized the existence of duality, watched two reflections of one sunset, & counted how many more dreams to live, 10. I still felt grateful for being able to count all these as lived ✅ But, the world was never all rainbows & unicorns right? While it might look all easy, intense efforts went behind each of these easy pictures. People often get jealous & insecure not because you post enough pictures but because they assume it is so easy for you! Assumptions are their choice. Yet, a gentle reminder that nothing beautiful ever came out of nothing. You gotta put something first. Mostly it's courage & choice. A gentle reminder that you're no one to decide what's easy & what's difficult. Do your work, let God do His work! A gentle reminder that all 'motivations' here also come from deep ORIGINAL realizations... Ofcourse, more original thoughts coming your way🌼 Thank you for being so patient with 🦋 Yours truly @asoulneversold P.S.:This song🎶 #asns
"Partner in crime" 😈 . . #LekhanKalaa #UjjwalOraon
पितृभूमि 💗 . . #LekhanKalaa #UjjwalOraon
If you have ever felt awkward not touching your phone as frequently as your other friends are touching, I hear you. If you have ever felt awkward going alone to a cafe or any place and sitting to enjoy your own company, I hear you. Remember, society finds a new thing every now and then and enjoys remaining addicted to it like a universal truth. Be it unnecessarily using your gadgets or be it being alone to appreciate your solitude, society enjoys make you doubt if you are okay when you don't follow the crowd. As if, if you don't follow the crowd that means you're either crazy or you are sad and lonely. But, please remember my friends, to follow your own self sometimes away from the crowd. Take hours, not moments to disengage. Take time to show your engagement in the world outside screens and then take time to engage with yourself also. As much as togetherness is necessary, solitude is equally important. Just like social media or modern gadgets, human company also needs some disengagements sometimes. Moral of the story, be brave to take a break! Break from everything. Break from everyone. Then, sometimes, break from yourself also. What a bliss! Isn't it? To disengage. Alone time is good. Follow @asoulneversold for more such real quotes and sayings! (a soul never sold, a soul never sold quotes, disengage, disengagement, social media, screen addiction, addicted to screen, addicted to company, human company, solitude is important, alone time is good, alone times, solitude, take a break, take a break from social media, take a break from work, take a break from scrolling, felt awkward, real quotes and sayings, modern gadgets, explore page quotes, explore quotes page) #asoulneversold #asoulneversoldquotes #ujjwaloraon #disengage #disengagement #socialmedia #screenaddiction #addictedtoscreen #addictedtocompany #humancompany #solitudequotes #solitude #alonetimeisgood #alonetimes #whatabliss #takeabreak #takeabreakfromsocialmedia #takeabreakfromwork #takeabreakfromscrolling #breakfromyourself #solitudeisimportant #feltawkward #goingto #realquotesandsayings #moderngadgets #explorepagequotes #explorequotespage
Tough love here, are you ready to read? While many people love the compatibility excuse, they forget compatibility is not there by default, two people put their efforts to make things compatible. So, sometimes when people choose to part ways they find compatibility as a reasonable excuse. The bright side of this excuse is the person never directly says that the other person is no longer in their heart, so might be the other person is saved from feeling "I'm not good enough". Rather, it sounds like, "we are not good together". That might be fair enough, but another perspective also argues that they might not be good together because only one person puts the effort to make it work. The other person feels love is a cozy home without any work. The other person feels love is all about romantic feelings and soft words exchange. The other person feels love should not be difficult, love should not be painful, love should not be consuming time or energy. It's not the people who are compatible, it's the emotional maturity that creates the difference. In healthy love, a person has the right to tell their partner when they are wrong and how they could do better. But in imaginary love, there is no right or wrong. In imaginary love, evrything is rosy and smooth-going. In imaginary love, you let the person repeat their mistakes, even at the cost of you getting hurt. The hurt which then piles up and becomes a source of permanent toxicity that can ruin years of togetherness. Yet, you never speak up! Communication, is important, no matter how much you endorse the idea of 'understanding silence'. Even that comes after years of communicating, be it the right way or the wrong way. People learn through mistakes. Nobody is born a perfect, compatible partner for anyone. Hence, no matter how much you endorse the ideas of 'choose peace over anything', know that when to NOT apply those social media quotes you blindly follow. Know that not every chaos demands a departure. Sometimes you have to be tough on yourself and face the facts. Running away is not the solution. Exaggerating your pain is not the solution. Sticking to the hurt is definitely not the solution.
Sorry to break your heart, but this is a fact that nobody tells you about! This is for those who've lived outside in a foreign land (I mean any land that's not your hometown), for those who've lived in a different culture, who've spoken in a language different than their mother tongue just after they wake up in the morning! Never easy right? Just a little cherry on the top, you've no known person beside you to help you adapt through those changes,those differences and those ways. Those who've left their families in search of something better, who've sacrificed their urges to meet friends whenever they feel low and even family at times when the times were not as easy.Those who tried to leave their cocoon and decide to be the butterfly no matter how much resilience it demands. Yes, to these people, I hear you. Because this world too dissolved in the romantic love never says much about friendships, except on some special days or worst days. Believe me, as you'd grow up & up enough to cross your tricky 25 years, you would realize more how important it's to have those old friends beside you who've seen you growing over the years & accepted you all through those years. Those who know about your life and happenings without you explaining much to them. You know why? Because you grew up with those sweet creatures. They know your innocence, your mischiefs and ofcourse your not-so-adorable mistakes. But they're ready to be by your side, at any time, without thinking twice. It's about staying away from those friends, crushing your ego to love the changes! The more time you'd spend with your romantic partner, despite the fact, that your partner might be your best friend, you cannot rule out the need for those friends, & frankly no partner can fill that need because there is a special feeling associated with every kind of relationship. You cannot replace one with another. While we are too busy romanticizing finding everything in one person, there's an emotional burden that will start to accumulate once you finish those first 5 honeymoon years of marriage. Believe me, it might hurt you now, but you will need your friends more than ever, even after your marriage.
The world enjoys asking, "What do you think about love?" and people keep forgetting the many million ways and places where it is carefully preserved. Recently, I watched a reel on Instagram where someone was saying, we want romantic partners who are synonymous to love for us, because we want a witness to our lives. Our lives which include the first blink in the morning to the last thoughts before falling asleep and everything in between and beyond. That is not a small time at all. We feel good to be seen, heard, attended, and all those verbs that mean to be loved in our own stupid ways. I think that's true somewhere. Then there are people who find love in witnessing strangers, from new places to new people, from the new sounds in the nature, to the new problems of finding home in those strangers, again, places and people both. There are people whose hearts would skip a beat when they listen to their favorite bird singing. There are people who will cry at the scenic beauty of a natural waterfall. There are people who find solace in the silence of the sunset. There are people, who, irrespective of having a partner or not, have found love in so many tiny treasures around them. People keep asking them, "don't you feel lonely?", and they smile. Because that's there perspective. Because they have experienced togetherness so they feel solitude is lonely. But, it is not. Those who have found company in the living and the non-living things, from the neighborhood dog and the dance of the leaves to their own footsteps, do not find loneliness there. They have found love where you think only loneliness can reside! 💕 Dear life lovers, let us celebrate those moments of love, which we generally overlook but they make our day special just like a loved one ❤️ @asoulneversold #asoulneversold #asoulneversoldquotes #ujjwaloraon #foundlove #feellonely #onlyloneliness #tinytreasures #havingapartner #findinglove #romanticpartners #thinkaboutlove #skipabeat #footsteps #neighborhooddog #danceoftheleaves #dontyou #solitude #momentsoflove #makeourdayspecial #makeourday #letuscelebrate #explorepagequotes #lifequotesoftheday #lifelove #lifelovers #longquotes #lifequotesoftheday
That is just to say, People who are so much in love with the nature, how much love do they actually carry? How much love do they carry, to pour into just another sunset, just another butterfly, just another day of sky full of white clouds, and just another mundane thing that only seems extraordinarily beautiful in their eyes only? Do you realize the depth of such love which can appreciate you on everyday, without requiring you to be special and without requiring you to make the other person feel special. You just be you & they just love you. Lately, I've started connecting more with Mother Nature. So much so, that sometimes my eyes become full of tears when I'm amidst the trees. The birds feel more like my companions and the flowers seem to be talking to me. I assume they talk to me about how gracefully they live their life, from being at the top of the branches to being fallen on the ground. How gracefully they embrace the inevitable. Might be because, I'm not yet that good to listen to their cries. So, I just figure out some happy notes played by Mother Nature. In the colors of the sunset, I feel how an effortless painter God is. How does he mix all these different shades in random proportions and make it look so breathtakingly beautiful on such a grand scale! I mean, wonder, how the colors spread across the sky. I mean, wonder, how elements that can't speak can still give you eternal happiness - the sunsets, the flowers, the green and yellow leaves, the butterfly, the sky. Then, I wonder, if we feel so much for these daily silent events, how much love could we pour into those sunshine in human form💓 Share your unique experiences with Mother Nature and let's talk about this silent love 💕 @asoulneversold #asoulneversold #asoulneversoldquotes #ujjwaloraon #mothernature #thesunsets #sunsetphotoshoot #sunsetloversofinstagram #lovemothernature #thebirds #theflowers #thebutterfly #theleaves #thesky #sunshine #paintergod #silentlove #youbeyou #youjustbeyou #theyloveyou #beingloved #canwelove #love #lovequotesdaily #photoquotes #quotesphotography #explorephoto #beautifulsunsetview #explorequotespages #explorepoetry #questionoftheday🤔
You know, on my way back home in the evening, I could hear a beautiful bird chirping but couldn't spot it around me. That chirping sound was such a happy vibration for me to hear. But at the same time I couldn't find the source. Then, I thought of looking above and found these 2 little birds. It came naturally to me that, sometimes you can't find happiness around yourself is because it's above you 🐦 (in the form of little birds and big branches of trees and many more, find yours 🔍) Dear Soul Family ❤️ after much exhaustion I wish to desperately declare February '24 is over!!! Yes. I thought January '24 was long, but then February came with its new found length, and guess what, I felt like every day was a week long! Just when I thought that might be just one last week is left, I found another week staring at me with big round eyes 👀 Now, I understand why February is better with 28 days. No, I mean seriously, you are already spending 31 days in December, then 31 days in January, and you need a break! Not kidding. So, to balance that 28 is a good number to have in February as per regular norms. Until this leap year thing comes like a scheduled meeting on our calendars. That makes a lot of sense to me, because we say 1 month = 30 days. We already spent a total of 2 extra days in Dec & Jan, so balancing is crucial in Feb. What do you think? 💬 🤔 I know I'm blabbering but my blabbering has a point. You can't deny that. Maybe you can, but you won't like to. Isn't it? Anyway, on @asoulneversold February is officially over. February did a wonderful job in adding some more color pallets to my gallery and here are some of them (Because ofcourse, I can't share 'em all here 🤓) Amidst all the similarities and differences, 💮🌼 Amidst all that is dead and alive, 🌿 Amidst all the closed and open windows, 🪟 Stealing the specials amidst the mundanes, 🚌 Stealing the morning rays 🌞 & The evening rays, 🌇 From scorching sun to soothing shades, 🌴🌲 To sipping the last few rays ☀️ February, that was all, now please go away 🥴 I will keep bringing more such life-love moments and poems and proses for you. Show some ❤️ by liking & sharing @asoulneversold posts✨
Parenthood - A Divine Responsibility, Not a Dominating Power! Spirituality - A Path of Life, Not a Misguiding Weapon!🌈 🌱 🌺 Imagine a gardener, who nurtures a seed into a blooming flower with love and care, not by exerting dominance. That's what parenthood is - a blessed responsibility to guide a soul, not an unquestionable authority to dominate. It's about fostering growth, not enforcing rules. Let me tell you the real story behind this photograph. When we first spotted this nest, the bird mom was protecting her birdies. Since all of us were excited to see those delicate babies, she didn't leave the nest for a second. Later one day, when I tried to caress the bird mom, and not the little birdies, the bird mom thought I'm attacking and she responded with her sharp beak's defence. In subsequent encounters, when there is no human around that nest, I often found the bird mom was out for food. Such is the delicate balance the nature maintains between the 'blessed' part and the 'responsibility' part. The nature knows when to set the babies free and let them learn on their own and when to protect them ❤️ Similarly, consider spirituality and religion as a compass, guiding us towards love, peace, and understanding. They are not undebatable weapons of mass misguidance, but enlightening paths that help us navigate life's journey. In essence, both parenthood and spirituality are about nurturing and guiding, not dominating and misguiding. Let's embrace these truths and spread positivity.🌼 If this resonates with you, double tap ❤️ and follow us for more ✍️ on life, parenthood, and spirituality. Let's grow together in understanding and love 💕 @asoulneversold
What keeps you alive, could be as tiny, mundane and insignificant and could be as special as you'd like to call them! There are situations and people in our lives who try to grab from us that little piece of heaven. People who try to overshadow our shine by making us go through troubles and trials. People who know the power of our dreams and try to teach us why we should not dream. People who were taught not to dream & they obeyed like a sincere kid! There are days which are difficult enough to afford a smile. Days when you only have questions without answers, we feel lost in this human crowd, so focussed on big things that we forget the little things. Yet, We all have our own things, that keep us alive. The kind of alive, when you don't just thrive, you live. You feel the breath, you feel the day, you feel the blessings touching you in the form of sunrays! That is still a failed attempt to express how things that make you feel alive, make you actually feel ✨ The best thing I read around this idea is you don't feel sad because you are doing so much. You feel sad because you are not doing what actually gives you joy. There are so many things in our daily lives, that come in small packets with abundant joy. For me, it is clicking pictures of surroundings, appreciating random people in my mind, writing random lines that strike when I am truly happy, and ofcourse doing meditation! I noticed, the days on which I add these little things in my habits have turned out to be more alive than other days. It's about a fraction of a second when you are so into that moment that you feel a flow state, might be, who knows! But, whichever state it is, it is a blessed state to be even for that little time. #questionoftheday What are your alive moments throughout the day? Share the joy in the comments below and let others know how you are taking care of yourself ❤️ @asoulneversold #asoulneversold #asoulneversoldquotes #ujjwaloraon #feelalive #feelaliveagain #thingsthatmakeyoufeelalive #clickingpictures #picturesofsunsets #appreciatingpeople #randompeople #doingmeditation #meditation #meditating #flowstate #flowstateofmind #blessedstate #explorepagequotes #givesyoujoy
From the masterpiece 💙 The Boy, the Mole, the Fox and the Horse by Charlie Mackesy 📖 Every booklover's dream is to touch the pages of this book and live the illustrations That too in a hardcover ✨ Not just the physical appearance, but also the lines are simple and profound enough to make you embrace this beauty, even after you finish reading. Isn't that the magic the best books do? It has been a wishlist for a long time to flip the pages of this book. I have seen so many people posting some strikingly real quotes from this book, and they seemed equally powerful. Even in bits and pieces this book is worthy. So, here are some of my favorites from the book, about Unlearning Reactions vs response Soft Love Self-belief Hard Love A hug Weakness Asking for help Which ones did you love the most from the above collection? Which are your favorites if you have already read this masterpiece by @charliemackesy Let us share our love for this book because this book deserves our timeless love 💕 P.S.: Being surrounded by people who share the love for books and such timeless wisdom is a wonderful blessing to count. Genuine gratitude for my colleague who let me have this masterpiece❤️ #asoulneversold #ASoulNeverSold #ujjwaloraon #theboy #themole #thefox #thehorse #theboythemolethefoxandthehorse #charliemackesy #charliemackesyartist #theboythefoxthemoleandthehorse #quotesbycharlie #illustrationby #booklovers #flipthepage #timelesslove #aboutlove #hardlove #softlove #deeplove #unlearning #askingforhelp #askingforhelpisnotaweakness #weaknesses #weaknessesbecomestrengths #ahug #reactionvsresponse #explorequotes_
Have a beautiful skin, that radiates youth, health and prosperity. Be the one in the room, whose skin becomes a topic of great discussion! Maybe people dream to have an as flawless skin as yours. Enjoy those compliments and bathe in the glow of your own charisma. Do everything that you need to do to maintain your youth and radiance and glow! But, also make sure you have a few memories etched on the canvas of this body. Make sure you have a few scars from your childhood, the one you got while learning to ride bicycle for the first time, or the one you got while secretly escaping from home. Or might be the one you got while playing with your friends, or fighting with your childhood friends! Make sure, you have a few memories of the sunsets that the rains could not wipe out. Memories of the beaches, where you got a little bruise from the sharp edge of something in the sand. Memories of a few spots which cosmetics failed to conceal or remove! Memories of a day out with your family in the scorching sun, when you could have chosen to stay in the air conditioned room with no risk of sun damage! Memories of dreams bigger than your belief, that you kept doubting all night every night and your sleeplessness registered itself under your dreamy eyes. Your courage to dream big painted your eyes as a token of appreciation. Your strength congratulated your skin on getting those tokens! A lot to paint our skin. Isn't it? But we feel carrying memories is not worthy. We feel having marks, and spots those say something are matters of shame. What an irony! What a shame! I feel I will be more proud of the facts that I go out and live life and carry real memories. Someone once said, fishes in the aquarium were caged because they were beautiful! They never got the chance to freely swim in the river or ocean which is their inherent character! So, have a beautiful skin, but might be dying with a canvas painted with multiple colors is more beautiful ❤️ @asoulneversold #asoulneversold #ujjwaloraon #beautifulskin #beautifulskinforlife #beautifulskintoday #beautifulmemories #memoriesof #memoriesofsunset #sunsets #radiates #youth #health #flawlesskin #flawlessskincare #explore
Breaking the Cage of Perfection: Embrace the Marks of Your Dreams 🌟 We often find ourselves trapped in the birdcage of societal expectations, but remember, birds living in a cage believe flying is a sin. Dare to dream, dare to fly, and wear your marks with pride. They are not flaws, they are badges of honor. Here's to the dreamers who dare to be different, who dare to be themselves. In a world that often expects us to be spotless and pretty, it's easy to find ourselves trapped in the birdcage of societal expectations. The expectations of fair skin, plump skin, spotless skin and what not! But remember, they want you to focus on the external beauty so that you don't feel the need to focus on the internal aspects. Your thoughts. Your opinions. Your understanding. Your values. Your character. Your aspirations. Your wishes. Your choices. There's a never ending list inside you to explore. Know that those who have explored it outside their cages, outside their home only could have bruises, scars and memories etched on their skin. Those who stayed in the cage will always fit the societal definition of beauty! But they don't tell you that because it's difficult to tame a mind and heart like that. An aware mind. An aware heart. It's time to challenge the norm, to step out of our comfort zones and into the vast, unknown sky. It's time to dream bigger than society's restrictions, wider than the thoughts of our loved ones, and deeper than our sleepless nights. Yes, this journey will leave marks. You'll find dark circles under your eyes from sleepless nights spent chasing your dreams. But these are not flaws. They are badges of honor, proud proofs of the fact that you dared to dream. So here's to the dreamers, the ones who dare to be different, who dare to be themselves. Your marks are not flaws, they are badges of honor. Wear them with pride, for they are the testament of your courage to break free from the cage and soar high. If you can't leave your cage, then do not put those unrealistic expectations of beauty to the ones who are outside their cages! Who are struggling in the discomfort. Who are trying to learn in an unknown environment! Their minds are ❤️
January's whispers captured in frames – where sunsets embrace you with orange love, the moon peeks through, and flowers paint poetry in every petal fall. 🌅🌙✨ #JanuaryWhispers In the mosaic of memories from January, each snapshot holds a story, a piece of the heart's journey. 📸✨ The sun bid adieu in hues of warmth, the moon tiptoed through glass doors, and Bougainvillea bloomed, showering the world with its vibrant confetti. 🌺💖 Amidst the canvas of life, the arrival of pink blossoms 🌸 whispered promises of new beginnings, while random white flowers gracefully danced their way to the ground, leaving behind a gentle serenity. 🌼 🍃 And there, in a quiet moment, a tea glass cradled warmth against a beautiful backdrop, reminding us that even in simplicity, there's poetry. ☕🤍 Swipe through and feel the emotions painted in pixels – the joy, the calm, the fleeting beauty that January gifted us. 🌈💫 Share this mosaic with those who find solace in the language of snapshots, and let's create a gallery of shared moments. 📷💙 With that gentle essence, I am super glad to remind you that the book dates are near. The New Delhi World Book Fair is knocking at your door in this February. 📚📖📚📖📚📖📚📖📚📖📚📖📚📖📚📖📚📖 Dates: 10 Feb - 18 Feb, '24 Book name: A Soul Never Sold Author: Sutrishna Sen Hall no: 5 Stall no: F-05 Venue: Pragati Maidan, New Delhi 📖📚📖📚📖📚📖📚📖📚📖📚📖📚📖📚📖📚 #asoulneversold #ujjwaloraon #januarymosaic #january4 #january #february #bougainvillea #sunsets #moonpeep #peeping #fallenflower #pinkblossom #blossoms #teaglass #artery #gallery #photosofjanuary #january24 #february24 #explorephoto #poetryphoto #worldbookfair #ndwbf #poetryphotography #EmbracingMemories #JanuarySnapshots #HeartfeltFrames
Men who truly have our heart ❤️: Our Everyday Heroes 💙🌟" 🌟 Hey InstaFam, gather 'round! 🌈 Just had to share a little love for the incredible men who hold a piece of my heart, or any random girl's heart. 💖 Swipe left to meet my everyday heroes – the ones who define true manhood with every thoughtful act. 💪👨🚒 🤝 "So, like Emerson once said, 'What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.' These guys? They're the ones with hearts so big, kindness is their superpower. No capes, just pure goodness." 💙 💼 "Remember Gandhi's words? 'The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.' Well, these gentlemen live by that. Selflessness is their language, and they weave trust and loyalty into the very fabric of life." 🤗💙 Tag the guys who've proven that chivalry isn't dead and goodness still reigns. 🏆✨ Save this post for those special men whom you want to read it in front of you and watch them smiling with these thoughts of thankfulness 💓 and tag someone whose heart radiates warmth like these fellas do. 💖 Let's celebrate the "Men who truly have my heart ❤️" in the coziest way possible. This post is a shoutout to the gents who sprinkle compassion without expecting a thing in return. 🌟🙌 Those who prove it with their gentle gestures that they are truly gentlemen 🥺 Those who do not try to defame you because you were humanely kind to them. Those who do not even imagine to misuse the goddess within you. Those men, who stay loyal to one for entire life. Those men, who make promises like movie heroes and keep promises like real heroes. Y'all have my heart ❤️ and a lot of girls' Thank you for being the example of the real men and keeping the chivalry alive in an era that enjoys misinterpreting equality and feminism. Thank you for knowing the balance. Thank you for knowing and showing love. Thank you for understanding values above all 💓 🚀 Spread the love! Share this post and let's create a ripple of gratitude together. Here's to the unsung heroes who make life a little brighter every day. 💙🌍 #asoulneversold #ujjwaloraon #MyEverydayHeroes #HeartFullOfGratitude #RealMenRealHer
Unlocking Wisdom- Journey's End in 'Siddhartha' 🌟 📚 Take this transcendental journey with Siddhartha as we unveil the profound essence of the final pages. 🌌 Swipe through to discover the timeless wisdom that awaits in Herman Hesse's masterpiece. ✨ "You've already learned this from the water too, that it is good to strive downwards, to sink, to seek depth" Likewise, there are so many lessons to learn from the river. Nature is undoubtedly the loudest teacher ❣️ "In the river, Siddhartha saw eternity flowing, and the sacred word 'Om' echoed in his soul. A dance of stars reflected in water – each ripple a tale of enlightenment." 🌊💫 🌈 Each highlighted line is a key to enlightenment – tag a fellow seeker and let the journey begin together! 🚀✨ Save this post for daily doses of inspiration. 🤔 Did Siddhartha's quest resonate with you? Dive deeper into the exploration of the soul in my book, "A Soul Never Sold." 📖 But in a much lighter way. In a way that depth feels friendly. In a way that sinking feels like being saved! 💫 Let its pages guide you through the rollercoaster of self-discovery, experience your emotions on every page 📄 Take home a message that will continue to echo in your heart ❤️ 🚀 Ready for more thought-provoking content? Hit that follow button, share with your bookish pals, and let's build a community of wisdom seekers! 📚🌟 POLL: Let me know in the poll below if you already READ the book Siddhartha by Herman Hesse! Also, my book, A Soul Never Sold is coming back at the World Book Fair New Delhi '24. Yes, this year also, with the collaborative efforts of @thebookoholics Mark your dates: Feb 10, '24 - Feb 18, '24 Venue: Pragati Maidan But if you can't visit, then fret not! The book is available on Amazon, Flipkart and Snapdeal worldwide! Also, you might get some deals now on Snapdeal (for Indian readers) What are you waiting for? Go grab the deal and let the book do the magic ✨ #asoulneversold #ujjwaloraon #lekhankalaa #sidhhartha #hermanhesse #hermanhessequote #SiddharthaWisdom #BookishJourney #ASoulNeverSold #EnlightenmentQuest #enlightenedminds #journeyofsouls #riverlessons #wisdomseekers #selfdiscoveryquotes
🦋 ✨ A Soul Never Sold : Words for Your Grey Matter🦋✨ Talking about the book A Soul Never Sold and everything you are looking for about this book. Quick facts: 💡Not mere imaginary lines, but thought-provoking compositions, that make you wonder 🤔 😌 Compositions that leave you with a sense of calm, as if you found the answers! 🥺 Words that make you feel like someone is listening you, & understanding your deep emotions ⭐ Rated ~ 4.57 across Amazon, Goodreads and Instagram 📚 Participation of 2 times at the World Book Fair, New Delhi (year '23 & this year again) ✍️ A Soul Never Sold is a book of prose and poetry, with 78 compositions and 100 pages ❓ If you want to know the reason behind this book, then it is there in the back cover. This book is here to make you fall in love with life, not just romanticizing the love-life! When I say life, it means all your emotions, including shame and guilt, the nature around you, including the thunderstorms, the events in life, including death, and the portal to another world - your dreams. Yes, the compositions cover it all. No hiding! Pure, vulnerability. No sugarcoating, absolute reality. That's what people are loving about this book❤️ But that's just the first section. There's more. Hold on! This book has 3 sections - Emotional Estates (talked above under ❓) - Reflective Realms - Divine Domains The 2nd section is all about thoughts during meditation, experiences during meditation and questions about meditation. It's about the reflections that come during meditation, when we don't look for anything, don't run after anything, but thoughts come tiptoeing to our mind. Unique. Real. Difficult to express, but I tried. The 3rd section is about God and devotion. Some utter stupid questions and some deep realisations. Some sweet relationship with the invisible and some harsh doubts. I know you have them too. So, I hear you. Maybe they're the atheistic thoughts in a believer! Because we're not pure black and white, right? We are gray characters! 🤔 If you still wonder, you're not into prose or poetry, you can check the similar reviews shared above. 💰 Price is minimal. I leave📖 to you. Explore❤️ #asoulneversold
Urvashi take it easy!! 😌 . . #LekhanKalaa #UjjwalOraon
Honest Confession! I genuinely did not know this book could be my voice in so many unspeakable ways. Because I always had so many questions in my mind, so many against the norm doubts and so many what ifs. And guess what, I had them for so many years since childhood. But one day randomly scrolling through Instagram I found a reel by @naval where Sir Naval Ravikant was telling about this book and how he often prefers to go back to this book. I was instantly clear that I should get this book!( Book lovers might relate it to be some impulsive decision🤭) Anyway, I already decided I'm gonna buy this. I sent the reel to my bookish friend @what.jo.reads To my surprise,although I shouldn't have been but she had already read this book and I asked her the link for the same. Upon receiving the link, I instantly purchased the book and was super excited to dive into something that I know nothing of, other than maybe Lord Buddha(which also was not completely correct tbh). And, let me tell you, how much I loved its practicality and its spirituality. How much I loved the pure human thoughts and the awakened thoughts. How much I could relate to the not-so-good questions and the relevant answers. That's why I am sharing this with you all. I would highly recommend reading these lines by yourself, when you are completely immersed in this book and the thoughts, like to immerse in love. Will share some more such thoughts and lines from the book in coming post. Till then save this Post & Follow @asoulneversold for more ❤️ #asoulneversold #ujjwaloraon #siddhartha #thebook #awakening #spiriuality #spiritualityawakening #spiritualquotess #quotestoponder #quotestoliveby #practicalquestion #relevant #bookcover #bookstagram #worthyof #worthhype #readreadread #readingspiritualbooks #spiritualbooks #quotebooks #bookquotes #quotesfrombooks #explorepagebooks #explorebooks #explorequotes #indieauthorsofig
Here, we are talking about the most common reasons why men tend to avoid their mother wound, which includes tendency to not admit that they are carrying mother wound. The most common 4 reasons are: 1. Emotional conditioning at home which is generally common in most households 2. Fear & dilemma resulting from the emotional conditioning 3. Social conditioning that has been there for a long time so they find it difficult to talk about the imperfections in mom 4. Using wound as a drive for their professional decisions and achievements There are some well-known consequences of such habits which include, but not limited to: 1. Lack of healthy commitment to women outside home 2. Finding fault in the partner/spouse for not getting along with mom's tantrums or mom's perspectives about life and daily activities in general, which could further lead to broken relationships just to make mom happy and prove himself to be a sincere son 3. The never ending cycle of wound & trauma that runs in the family without ever getting solved because nobody takes any action or decision to take responsibility and change it. So, busting these myths and conditionings that 1. Protecting your mom =× (does not mean) validating all her emotions You can protect your mom and yet tell her when she can change her perspective 2. Mom causing pain =× you are not respecting her Know that moms are also flawed and imperfect like all other humans. They don't get a manual for motherhood. So, mistakes make them more human and if you admit that, you respect her humanity more. 3. If you admit the truth of the wound =× you are questioning the whole of her motherhood Admitting the wound does not nullify the other good things mom has done. It only means acknowledging the wound and nothing more than that. 4. Mom's pain being real =× you've to carry it forward As much as mom's situations and stories are real, the wound is real for you. There is absolutely no greatness in justifying mom's pain by carrying that wounded emotional energy as some prized possession. Heal and choose some healthy energy to use as a drive for your achievements. #healyourself @asoulneversold #asoulneversold #ujjwaloraon #mom
In a world full of dominating human emotions, we still sometime fail to experience, and express a lot of our feelings. We become silent when we are sad. We stop sharing things when we are angry. We stop socializing when we feel hurt by someone, ...and this list can go on. But what I want to say is, we do not express that emotions the way it wants to get expressed! Why? Fear of judgement Fear of abandonment Fear of our own self! And ofcourse our trauma based thinking! But, we do feel the same pain and that too with a greater heaviness when someone else goes through the same pain. How? Imagine connecting to a piece of poetry because you have felt that emotion before. Imagine laughing at a joke because you have experienced that situation. Imagine feeling that heaviness in your chest because you have suppressed something that someone else is now openly saying! So,here my intention is to feel that pain what a guy goes through who has mother wound. A guy who knows that he is carrying trauma and he cannot share it with anyone. A guy who has respectful feelings for his mother but also some unvisited pain in his heart. Imagine your friend has written this poem and kept it in his diary secretly. How would that make you feel as a friend? Deeply hurt right? The emotions that you feel after reading this piece is the exact reason why I am discussing about healing trauma or healing mother wound to be specific. Sometime we don't know the damage we are carrying until we see how wholeness looks like. Let this machine made emotional piece be a reason why you'd love to address your mother wound! Be a friend to yourself first. Be a honest one. The world can wait until you become your best self man! So please choose healing. This choice is yours. @asoulneversold #asoulneversold #ujjwaloraon #motherwound #healingtrauma #damage #chatgpt3 #chatgptpoetry #machinemade #humanemotions #express #silence #fearofjudgement #fearofabandonment #fearofself #deeplyhurt #beafriend #honestfriend #becomeyourbest #becomeyourbestself #chatgptpoems #explorepageindia #exploreindia #explorepagequotes #explorepoetry #indieauthorsofig #worldbookfair #quotebooks
You are and will always be your first love. #FirstLove . ________________________________________ . Follow me on : Facebook - लेखन कला (Lekhan Kalaa) Instagram - @LekhanKalaa #LekhanKalaa #UjjwalOraon ★
I feel you observe every little thing. #Observe . ________________________________________ . Follow me on : Facebook - लेखन कला (Lekhan Kalaa) Instagram - @LekhanKalaa #LekhanKalaa #UjjwalOraon ★
We have been discussing MOTHER WOUND for a while now! We are specifically focussing on the mother wound of guys with reasons, symptoms,and healing mechanisms. You are not alone in this. Most people might go through the similar wound. There is NO SHAME in having mother wound & There is NO DISRESPECT to mother for acknowledging that. Yes, our mothers tried their best. But the best might not be the healthiest always. The best might not be the much needed love. Since they were also wounded, it is highly likely that they shared a love from a place of wound. Then, add to that the sense of responsibilities, realities and life's struggles that everyone goes through. So, a perfect childhood and perfect motherhood is only a rare phenomenon. Please don't feel bad for not having a healthy childhood. Even moms are not born moms. They learn it with the birth of their child. Often, with the introduction of so much of responsibilities and duties after embracing motherhood, they lose the track of their own progress as an individual. It's a very difficult process to be responsible for TWO INDIVIDUAL'S GROWTH AT THE SAME TIME. So, forgive your moms for the emotional, psychological and healthier love languages that she could not provide. Then, acknowledge the fact that you are your responsibility too. Your growth is your responsibility. Yes, you couldn't take care of that in childhood, but once you grow up, you can very well take care of it and change the narrative. Remember, change is the only constant. If you continue carrying the wound, you will definitely hurt everyone who loves you in one or another way. If you heal, you change the narrative of your story and all the stories that go along with you. In this post, we talked about some of the striking realities that people miss to realise. They often think emotionally and avoid changes. Paying respect to mom IS NOT EQUAL TO carrying the wound lifetime. Label. Acknowledge. Learn. Heal. Love. @asoulneversold #asoulneversold #ujjwaloraon #motherwound #guys #label #acknowledge #learn #heal #love #changethenarrartive #changeistheonlyconstant #change #responsibility #motherhood #childhood #healthychildhood #respect
Trapped in tunnel of mortal bodies. #Immortal . ________________________________________ . Follow me on : Facebook - लेखन कला (Lekhan Kalaa) Instagram - @LekhanKalaa #LekhanKalaa #UjjwalOraon ★
8 traits to find in an adult raised by a critical mother! This post discusses it all, with reasons of these traits mentioned in our last post. 1. Accomodating: People pleasers, because they had to be parent pleasers 2. Fears taking up challenging tasks/people: Because they fear failures, which again comes from the criticism they faced during childhood after failures 3. Genuinely sensitive to criticism: Because they were criticized so much that they practiced putting a wall up as a defence mechanism to protect themselves from the harsh criticisms. 4. Low self confidence and self worth issues: Because their independence was never encouraged so they don't know how it feels like to take responsibility of their mistakes and also their good things, they lack confidence and always fears if they'd end up doing something wrong that would make the mom extremely angry! After which they had always felt worthless and felt they should never trust their intuitions or take their own decisions. 5. Overly apologetic: Because mom overreacted to every little different thing they did, they are always fear- trapped or in a emotional jail. They had to be sorry in order to make mom happy. Also this same thing can cause them to never accept their mistakes when they grow up and make mistakes within friendships or relationships. 6. Self-demanding & self-critical: Because no matter what good they did or how good they did it, their parents were never fully satisfied. Also they always pointed to the negatives despite all good things in place. This makes them expect a lot more from themselves and feels satisfied only after professional achievements. Also, in relationships they always focus on the negative aspects of their partners no matter how good their positives are! 7.Difficulty to accept praises: They only got conditional affection ( check out the last post for the 3As as bargaining chips) 8. Perfectionist: Leaving this to you to figure out more about! 📖✨✨✨Book link in Bio✨✨✨📖 @asoulneversold #asoulneversold #ujjwaloraon #criticalmother #criticalparenting #traits #adult #raisedby #peoplepleaser #parentpleaser #pleaser #comfortzone #shell #risk #fears #challenging #sensitive
Let's know about these parenting practices which have been very common in most of ours childhood, but these were not healthy. They caused more harm than good and we somehow normalised them out of our respect for the elders. But this is a gentle reminder to end that cycle there. Lets not repeat these for the future generations. This post is aimed at identifying those attitudes and heal ourselves. Be it any childhood trauma or mother wound, we need to identify, label and heal those painful emotions. That is the only way to grow 🪴 ⚠️ Parents do not encourage your independence: No matter wherever you are in the world, in any human society, and in any culture, know that these 2 things need your honesty and powerful opinions to happen. - The profession you choose - The person you choose as your life partner Sometimes, parents say things that go deeper than they could ever imagine. Few such statements we have shared earlier, like "you can't earn money with your art, choose some other profession that pays.", etc. Other times, parents allow you to have your choice of profession, but when it comes to marriage, they always make you feel that you alone cannot make that decision as good as them. It comes from very small things in childhood also, like they don't allow you to help them, because you might break things or cannot do it as good as them. This is not love, or protection. This is lack of trust in the kid, which makes the child feel he can never be independent in his thoughts, opinions, and actions. He feels suffocated in the cages of permissions! ⚠️Parents always point to your negative aspects: No matter how good you do, parents always point out the little mistakes you did on the way. We also discussed "critical parenting" which is similar. They always set the bar so high that you feel drained but still cannot make them satisfied with your actions. This is an unhealthy way of control and making others feel powerless over any relationship or situation. We also discussed how critical parenting is different than a healthy negative feedback! You can check out our last post. ...continued in the comments.... @asoulneversold #asoulneversold
(iii) Critical mother & critical parenting What is that? The type of parenting where parents are ⚠️- overly critical about their children's behavior, thoughts and actions ⚠️- always unsatisfied about their accomplishments and achievements ⚠️- hardly or never praise them for their achievements ⚠️- stay neutral to people praising their children How is it different from a healthy negative feedback? ❓- the type of -ve feedback they give ❓- the emotions they express Healthy negative feedback involves: 🌱- Constructive criticism which is centred on children's growth and learning 🌱- There is the emotional backing with feelings of concern and help to grow in a better way But, critical parents in their approach uses ⚠️- belittling or blaming words and emotions ⚠️- harsh comments that deeply impact the child's emotions ⚠️- make him feel worthy of nothing, not even parental love ⚠️- make him feel never enough because his parents are never satisfied Hope that makes the differences clear and loud. This type of parenting leads to the birth of mother wound in the children. Also, their continuous criticism and blaming the child creates a hostile environment at home for the child to have a healthy emotional growth and badly impacts the family dynamics. Therefore, it's not just the child who is getting criticized, but the whole family is getting affected by such behaviors. As we have been discussing the mother wound for some time now, if you would like to know about the (i) & (ii) please check the last slide of this post and have a sneek peek in my profile! (i) Absent Mother --> how her absence causes mother wound (ii) Controlling Mother --> how her behavior causes mother wound @asoulneversold #asoulneversold #ujjwaloraon #motherwound #criticalparenting #critical #criticalmother #criticizing #criticize #overlycritical #unsatisfied #unworthy #parentallove #accomplishment #achievements #emotions #feedback #negative #negativefeedback #belittling #blaming #wound #absentmother #absence #controllingmother #controlling #explorepageindia #explorepage #explorehealing #healing
Enmeshment: Very common in Indian households ! What is enmeshment? In our last post on this series, we have talked about how controlling mother uses helicopter parenting and generally raises a male child who is narcissistic similar her, or has no individuality, has no sense of self, and has no independent decision making abilities in emotional matters. All these inabilities are because his mom injects a belief that he is just an extension of his mom. He has no individual existence. He should be always saying yes to his mom because she gave birth to him and she raised him. All other reasons are mentioned in earlier posts if you wish to understand the details. These behaviors happen as a result of enmeshment. Since the boy child develops no individuality, he remains entangled with his mom, for his existence. A certain amount of codependency is healthy and might be required for social and emotional satisfaction. But such moms fail to provide the child the necessary space, freedom and opportunities to grow where he can take his own decisions confidently and own them, where he can take responsibility of his mistakes and changes them. That healthy balance is missing. In such cases, the remedies are 💯 Always seek for counseling from professionals. Share the stories. Talk about it. Go to family therapy. Just like you go to doctors when you are physically ill. 💯 Learn to apply boundaries. Learn to say NO. 💯 YOUR HEALING, YOUR RESPONSIBILITY. READ IT IN GOLDEN FILTER. NOBODY IS RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR HEALING. In case you miss the above parts, I repeat, YOUR HEALING, YOUR RESPONSIBILITY. @asoulneversold #asoulneversold #ujjwaloraon #enmeshment #enmeshed #enmeshmenttrauma #enmeshedrelationships #enmeshedrelationship #individuality #senseofself #decisionmaking #emotionaldecisions #helicopterparenting #parentingmalechild #parenting #controllingmother #narcissistic #narcissist #codependence #entangled #healthy #yourhealing #yourresponsibility #healing #responsibility #counseling #familytherapy #explorepage #exploreindia
7 moments from the 11th month! Ask me how I write poetry. I will say, "I don't." You'll say, "Oh, you don't wanna share" I will say, "I do". You'll say, "Then don't beat about the bush" I will still say, "I don't". What I will mean is I don't write poetry, I find it, In all these beautiful captures And in the monotonous moments. I find it, In everyday conversations And in the special mentions. I find it, In the invisible song of nature, And the timeless scenery it flaunts. I don't write. I just find it. I attach my name And you say I write it,- Poetry, And I will say, You can also write it, If you wish to see How special it is to witness the monotonous, The monotonous that holds a touch of constant, A home for known comfort In our changing and unpredictable lives! @asoulneversold #asoulneversold #ujjwaloraon #poetry #poetrygram #poetryislife #poetrycommunity #moments #captures #constant #unpredictable #findit #finditliveit #writeit #monotonous #special #scenery #naturephotography #naturelover #objectphotography #exploreindia #explorepage #exploremore #explorepoetry #poetrypage #poetrypages #poetrypageofficial
If you ever get a chance to write a new life, would you write it with fear and insecurities or courage and awareness? Imagine, being a parent you are doing that! Would you like to continue the same tale as written by your parents or would you love to write something better and different? Imagine, being a parent you are doing that! Would you like to tie your kids to the same old concepts of silence = respect, expression = disrespect, discussion = argument etc or would you want to see them in a new light of freedom and right to live? Imagine, being a parent you are doing that! Yes, imagine both. Imagine how you felt all that done to you. Imagine how your kid would feel if you continue the loop. Heal yourself in order to build a secure relationship with your kids. Parenting is not an easy task and there is no shame in learning it consciously. Dialogues in your house are the foundation on which your kids build their truth. What you teach them as possible and justified becomes their sacred truths. These are some of the dialogues in the post which are very common, very casually said but damages thought processes for lifetime! Life is not a deterministic situation. Life is mostly probabilistic. ***Let the probabilities of your kid's life work, and do not silence it with your proven mathematics!*** 💯Comment down what other such comments are passed on while we grow up!💯 @asoulneversold #asoulneversold #ujjwaloraon #probabilistic #deterministic #sacredtruths #parenting #learning #expression #respect #disrespect #silence #healyourself #fear #insecurities #discussion #argument #beingaparent #oldconcepts #comment #commentdown #comments
Disclaimer: SOME POWERFUL REVEALATIONS !!! As promised, here is the part #2 of the controlling mother and passive father parenting and its ill effects on the boy child. In the last post, we discussed how the boy fails to develop his individuality and boundaries and sense of self with integrity. Well, these are NOT SMALL THINGS. If you look at an entire life, these are some powerful lessons that everybody has to embody sooner or later. But the controlling mother, mostly being narcissistic, fails to understand that her son IS NOT SUPPOSED TO LIVE LIKE AN EXTENSION OF HER. She fails to understand that she is feeding her own ego at the cost of her son's emotional, social and psychological development. Again, these are not small characteristics that can be overlooked. These are fundamental and massive things that take years to learn. But what is more worse? ⚠️ He develops a love-hate relationship with his mom where he loves the parts of mom which makes him feel special. But also, he hates the parts of mom that controls him, makes him do things he doesn't like and lose his freedom. ⚠️ He subsconsciouly decides NOT TO LET HIMSELF CONTROLLED BY ANOTHER WOMAN. That's where he fails to understand healthy love and possessive love. This may ruin his future relationships outside home terribly. ⚠️ Yet at the same time he stays monogamous to his mom because of the things she had done for his upbringing. He feels only mom is doing everything right and using this 'upbringing' logic he could justify everything mom does in an unacceptable way. He gets to live a painful example of marriage in front of his eyes daily. He develops all the false notions about it. Controlling mothers and passive fathers - the damage caused to a boy child is beyond easy understanding. If you find yourself in such a dynamics, know when to take charge of your actions, opinions and decisions. So far, we discussed a lot on controlling mother and lifelong detrimental effect on the child. Discussing more about boy children because that is not openly talked on the internet. To know more about this dynamics, please visit my page @asoulneversold #asoulneversold
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"Either men will learn to live like brothers, or they will die like beasts." #MaxLerner . . #LekhanKalaa #UjjwalOraon
Helicopter Parenting! We don't see helicopters on an everyday basis, until and unless there is an emergency or there is some unusual situation. Similarly, helicopter parenting is the type of parenting where the controlling mother (can also be a controlling father), always feels she needs to jump in to the situation to rescue her child. Let's take the example of a son, since we are talking about that in this series. The mother exercising helicopter parenting, thinks ❌ Her son is NOT capable of doing things alone ❌ Her son LACKS decision making abilities ❌ Her son CANNOT enjoy freedom because freedom would spoil him. He might get derailed from 'correct path'. ❌ Her son CANNOT think for himself Rather, by always jumping into the situation, she feeds this idea that ✅ Always depending on mom is good ✅ Running away from difficult situations is correct, rather than facing it ✅ If mom says something, then even if it is morally or emotionally not healthy, but he is correct to follow mom blindly ✅ Asking and obeying mom's decisions on every aspect of life is being a sincere son! Let me tell you, IT IS NOT. ALL OF THESE ARE NOT HEALTHY FOR AN INDIVIDUAL TO SURVIVE! What is healthy is 💯 Being emotionally and mentally capable to take your own decisions and actually own it 💯 Being brave in the face of difficulties, handling them, & learning from them 💯 Trusting yourself that it is your life and you have the freedom to choose your opinions! Remember, it is a child's right to ❣️ Enjoy freedom (autonomy) ❣️Enjoy confidence (comes from repeated self-dependence) ❣️ Feeling related to his family & NOT PLEASE HIS FAMILY TO BE A PART OF THE FAMILY Parent yourself well to ⚠️KNOW THE HEALTHY LOVE & RESPECT ⚠️ You cannot grow up and be an individual if you always need to be controlled by others. In this case, your mom! @asoulneversold #asoulneversold #ujjwaloraon #helicopter #parenting #helicopterparenting #parent #parentyourself
~Controlling Mother + Passive Father ~ This parenting story is of a controlling mother who is generally needy, narcissistic, always wants her way or she creates issues in the house, gives only crumbs of attention to her husband, very critical of everyone in the house, whether her sons or husband and stays emotionally unsatisfied! On the other hand, the passive father, as it says, remains inactive in most of the household works and parenting responsibilities. He does as the controlling mother says. He does not have any sense of self or boundaries. Hence, he rarely speaks up for himself or even the sons. He stays in the house emotionally disconnected from everyone. But what happens with the sons because of this combination in parenting? ⚠️ The son feels he loves his mom, and he can not see her sad, so the young boy takes up the adult responsibilities. ⚠️ He tries his best to please his mom and keep his mom happy because he tries to avoid any issues in the house or any uncomfortable or difficult situations in the house. Situations where his mom might need to change perspectives or be uncomfortable or be unconventional. ⚠️ The son, in order to please his mom, becomes like his mom emotionally. His definition of good and bad solely depends on his mom's approval. Like we discussed earlier, in front of his mom, he acts like that but behind her back, he even does guilty activities. We will expand on this later again. ⚠️ He spends less time with his dad or other male members or male friends and starts spending more time with females, including mom. ⚠️ ⚠️ ⚠️ Such sons never understand the meaning of "being yourself", "respecting your individuality", or "boundaries"! ⚠️ ❌ He does not know WHERE HE BEGINS & WHERE SHE ENDS. This creates an enormous gap in an individual's development. He acts like the clay that sets in the mould called mom. This is not respect. This is not love. This is pure lack of emotional, & psychological development. It does not only affect the childhood but also his adult outlook towards relationships and marriage. We will discuss that in part #2 of this post. @asoulneversold #asoulneversold #ujjwaloraon #controllingmother #passive #father #mom
--------Her (on slide #8) = Mom--------- Mother Line - An important underlying reason behind mother wound that we have been discussing for a while. Mother line is the line of ancestors from maternal side before us(or before the son or daughter who is experiencing mother wound) + the patriarchal messages, thought processes and patterns of dominance that were passed down across these generations. In today's post, we are highlighting these points: √ What is mother line √ Why do we need to understand the mother line √ Why do we need to heal the mother line √ How do we heal mother line √ The long-term effects of maintaining surface-level peace or respect Bonus: One great example of surface-level respect from a recent Indian movie, Rocky and Rani Kii Prem Kahani. Copyrights: All copyright for this movie clip is owned by the concerned authorities. Open and honest communication is key to any relationship. If our mothers were not treated properly in their childhood, if they were under-mothered, suppressed, asked to stay silent, not cause conflict in the house with individual opinions, never disagree with elders to show respect, chances are they could pass on the same to their kids. Chances are the kids would have mother wound. That's why it is our(the kids') prime responsibility to break the chain of this paternal oppression and unhealthy thoughts. Take stand for themselves and make themselves emotionally capable. Take their own decisions and share honest opinions. Participate in open conversations without any fear or shame. We cannot keep passing the same problems to future generations also. Be the chain breaker in your family ❤️ not the peacemaker! Mom's pain were real, but that is NOT your reality. Mom's situations were practical, but you do NOT have to experience the results of those. You learn. You choose. Choose to heal. Not to repeat. Do not be the victim of some past experiences. @asoulneversold #asoulneversold #ujjwaloraon #motherwound #motherline #maternal #paternal #patriarchy #breakthechain #peacemaker #heal #understand #conversations #decisions #opinions #rockyandrani #rockyandranikipremkahani #peace #respect
Our childhood experiences vs our adulthood behaviors in short! Read it thoroughly and digest it slowly. Last time we talked about attachment styles in adulthood, how we connect to people, how we respond and react to their behaviours on Oct 9th, 2023. In that post, we discussed some of the common traits of each 3 types of style. In this post, we are talking about the reasons. The reasons that lie on our childhood experiences. The reasons that cause such behaviours in our adulthood. Needless to say, these are eye-opening for me! I am sure, they will help you spot your attachment style as well. It's important to know that so much of how we think, how we respond and how we react in our relationships, not just romantic ones, depend a lot on our early days. How we saw relationships in our childhood. During that time we did not have enough reasoning, so we absorbed everything we saw and made those our basic truth. That's why it's important to spot those and change those patterns. Childhood --> Adulthood Anxious Avoidant --> Avoidant Dismissive Anxious Ambivalent --> Anxious Preoccupied Disorganised --> Fearful Avoidant Secure children => Secure adults No need to remember all these terms since they are for the categorisation. But understand your attachment style to help yourself in this regard! @asoulneversold #asoulneversold #ujjwaloraon #attachment #style #anxious #avoidantattachment #ambivalent #ambivalentattachment #disorganised #disorganisedattachment #secure #anxiousattachment #fearfulavoidant #fearfulavoidantattachment #anxiousavoidantattachment #childhood #adulthood
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MOMIPULATION = MOM + MANIPULATION TACTICS EXERCISED BY HER consciously or unawarely! Yes, it's a rare term but a regular situation. Most moms use this technique to get things done their way. Momipulation is the condition when the mom uses various manipulation tactics, including but not limited to gaslighting, ignoring, silencing guilting TO CONTROL HER STRONG DAUGHTER OR SON. These strong daughters or sons are emotionally mature and exercise that maturity actively. They know their boundaries and let others know about it. They stand up for themselves when their boundaries are violated. They have their opinions and perspectives which come from their own experiences and not what was taught to them, always. Their opinions might vary from their mom's but they do not feel guilty about it. They know well that disagreement is not disrespect. They are confident enough to ask for space if needed. They don't try to please their mom everytime in order to be a peacemaker in the house. That's why the wounded mom applies her techniques. She can do it aware of the fact or totally unaware, just to get things done/accepted her way. Either she tries to silence you, not allowing you to express yourself(silencing), or she makes you feel guilty for the things that she does improperly but can't change(guilting), or she makes you question your thoughts/beliefs with her few experiences(gaslighting) or she ignores your legit needs because you said/did something that she did not like (ignoring). In this post, we had discussed 3 such situations/examples but those are not all. If you find any relatability then know that you need to be strong, unapologetically strong. Though we can't heal our moms but we can label it as a wound that is making her act that way. Do not pity either. Just forgive her and heal yourself. KNOWING & LABELING THIS MAKES YOUR PEACE EASIER WITHOUT COMPROMISING ON YOUR INDIVIDUALITY! @asoulneversold #asoulneversold #momipulation #manipulation #mom #gaslighting #silencing #ignoring #guilting #peacemaker #wounded #strong #guilty #unapologetically #opinions #disrespect #disagreement #forgive #heal #selfhealers #ujjwaloraon
You're the future that I believe in I said I'd never change like the seasons But you came and you gave me a reason To become more, I was unsure . . #LekhanKalaa #UjjwalOraon
Dear men, please hear me out on this. Dear women who recently got into motherhood or planning to do so, here is WHAT NOT TO DO WITH YOUR CHILD. This post is specifically for the controlling mother and male child duo. Although mother wound was initially talked about daughters getting that wound through patriarchal systems of suppressed trauma, but male children are not spared. Yes, you heard it right. Male children are affected equally. Sometimes even more deeper than females are. Because, our BIG SOCIETAL LIE : MEN SHOULD NOT CRY. And the obedience with which men follow this, adds to their trauma. It doesn't help anyone. Not even themselves. Men can't talk about emotions to their male friends after growing up. They talk about finances, family, career, health problems but NOT EMOTIONS. So this post is trying to bring the reason to surface, other than the very popular lie we successfully fed into men's mind. Let's figure that out in this post. Controlling mother, just like an emotionally unavailable mother, does NOT VALIDATE the emotions expressed by the male child. The controlling mother also creates insecure attachment with him. A secure mother will always create a secure attachment with her children and similarly the controlling mother creates adult men who only likes things being done their way. But, here the focus is on the type of wound that is created because of the controlling mother. 1. Big little man mother wound 2. Tough guy mother wound 3. Abandoned one mother wound This post is trying to cover the very basics of these types of wounds. Some fundamental examples have been given for better understanding. A request to all adults: Please take your emotional responsibility and your parenting seriously. After a certain age, we need to find the right resources and parent ourselves for the rest of our lives. You are no exception. You cannot escape that. We cannot keep blaming the family situations and mom for whole our lives. These posts are intended to make you aware of your wound, the reasons, so that working on them becomes easy. We have discussed the insecure attachment in detail in our earlier post. Please read that for more clarity ✨
We left it here, "why does the mother act emotionally detached from her own child?". Here are 5 reasons for that. Reason #1 Mother's past trauma which remained unhealed/unresolved: Trust me, we as kid, can never understand what trauma made her do/say/act/think/teach us in a certain way. It's highly likely that such moms were abused or neglected in their childhood. Not having that emotional attachment in childhood can create a lifelong vacuum in individuals no matter how many relationships they enter. Reason #2 Mental health issues: Well, this is a hot topic nowadays but in her times, it was not. In our parents' times it was not. It's not that it didn't exist then. But it was never accepted that it existed no matter now much you try to deny it. This trauma might come from 😰Physical health issues 😑😠😖 Or even general anxiety, depression and other such problems 😞Not having anyone to counsel or guide them during such times only suppressed the issues but they kept growing inside! Never ever underestimate the power of a true friend even if you are married. Times when your husband couldn't be emotionally available for you, might need other genuine people in your circle who can help you with healthy advice. Reason #3 When the mother did not consciously plan for motherhood: In such cases, the mother's emotional reaction would mostly be irritated or feeling discontent. That's why for the healthy childhood of your baby, prior planning is always helpful. Also, motherhood should be a mom's decision jointly with the father. Motherhood is not about keeping everyone's opinions and making everyone happy, at the cost of yours and your child's happiness! Reason #4 The fundamental truths,or thoughts based on which our parents DECIDE something for us throughout our lives is an IMPORTANT FACTOR. Trust me, if we don't do the inner work ourselves, we often believe mom's TRAUMA = OUR TRUTH. BUT IT'S NOT 🚫 EXAMPLE: A parent who believes Discipline >>> Emotions Often follow an "authoritative/aloof approach" They end up raising children who BELIEVE EMOTIONS ARE INVALID. Reason #5 When the mom had no role models: It's more common for her to pass on her trauma as truth!
Which symptoms could you connect to? In today's post, we are discussing about the negative effects on a child having emotionally absent mother. Remember,the very first thing we discussed under the reasons of mother wound was absence. Emotional absence is the second type of absence which causes deep wounds even if the mother was alive or present during the childhood. Generally, such kids can be identified by these traits in their adulthood. Please note, these traits are observed during the adulthood of the same kid. 1. Insecure attachment: No matter how many times we say, an insecure and emotionally unavailable mother generally raises an equally insecure child. This has to do with a detailed dynamics involving both parents which we'll discuss later. But since the child feels his/her needs/wants were not fulfilled, they develop a lack mindset. Nobody gets it all during childhood, but there are children whose basic emotional needs remain unfulfilled. They struggle to trust others after growing up and develop a deep fear of intimacy. Now, this pattern can be of 3 types. 1(i)Anxious Preoccupied Adult (ii) Avoidant Dismissive Adult (iii) Fearful Avoidant Adult You can check the specific traits mentioned in the post. 2. Emotional Dysregulation: The kid who didn't receive emotional support from home during growing years, finds it difficult to understand and regulate his/her own emotions. They become very uncomfortable with feeling their emotions. Hence,their bottled up emotions are mostly expressed by anger issues or sudden explosive tantrums. 3. Low self-esteem: Not receiving emotional affirmations from home leads to repeated negative self-talk in the adult. They don't feel good about themselves and suffer from low self-esteem. 4. Behavioral challenges: When kids can't discuss emotional events with their mothers, they start looking for that outside home. Maybe on social media, or other social circles where they adopt other people's definitions of fun,pleasure,pain etc and feel included. Feel belonged. Even if it involves unhealthy habits or guilty pleasures, they indulge in that. Examples are written above. They can go to any extent to gain that attention/validation
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Here we discuss the answer #2 of question #1 how was the motherhood during your childhood. In first answer, we have discussed about absence. The effect of physical and emotional absence was covered in that post. If you wish to get a detailed idea of that, please visit my profile. Here, we are talking about overbearing or controlling mother. The type of motherhood which involves exercising control over the child for nearly everything. The mother criticizes the child on most occasions and never appreciates. She does not let the kid enjoy himself. Rather, she herself mostly suffers from few narcissistic traits. The unhealthy type of narcissism in which the mother depends on the child for her validation and emotional fulfillment. She expects the child to follow her words almost every time. She raises hell if the child does not follow. Such mothers can manipulate the child to get their desired outcome. Due to this, the child always fears making trouble in his/her home and stays silent. The child says yes to mom's every word. Even the mothers give passive-aggressive silent treatment to the kids if her command is not followed. These kids always feel frustrated and fearful of their mothers. Eventually, they lose their ability to take their own decisions in life. They become very uncomfortable in leadership roles and have a hard time regulating their emotions properly. They only believe in keeping their mother happy and no one else in the world, to save a space in their home. But, away from parents, they commit to every sort of activities to feel that sense of space, peace and freedom. Even if that activity is unhealthy, they ignore the guilt that comes with committing mistakes. Because they have never seen anyone in front of them apologizing or taking responsibility of their emotions/actions. The narcissistic mom always blames the child for all her emotions. They never learn emotional responsibilities and responses. They suppress it. It is no wonder that such kids also develop the same traits as they see in their primary caregiver. They believe mom loves them, does so much for them then all these are also love. They believe abuse is love! @asoulneversold
Oh, and how blindly we BELIEVE IN THIS BLACK MAGIC right? Because, most often than not, they come from our own families! Tough pill to swallow but you can say the truth, FEAR NOT. Not just believe, but we give our all into making these magic real. You know. "This is my ultimate truth because my family says so. This is my reality because my .... experienced so". Pathetic. We forget we are just not the consequences of others' lives but we do have our own lives too! Where is that considered in these homely black magic spells? Just because it comes from the home we we were born and grew up, does not mean IT IS ALWAYS RIGHT. TRUTH BE TOLD. World's perilous black magic spells often remain disguised. Because we fail to recognise that how harmful they are for our NEW REALITY. How they block our BEAUTIFUL REALITY. We believe in them like some religious sayings. We follow them like blindfolded human beings. We keep passing them on to everyone we meet like a honorable responsibility. Painful. Pathetic. This much dedication we show to keep these kind of camouflaged black magic alive. Suppression, lies, chains of false respect, silence, lack of expression, lack of freedom, lack of communication, lack of basic rights, lack of the right to choose our own life, lack of the right to explore our own life and what not! We are afraid of the truth. We lived in lies and then ask others also to choose lies. Because lies are profitable in the short term. We are afraid of our own truth! But if you always point others for the pain you receive, you actually prove how weak your foundations are. Do not teach your kids this behavior of not taking responsibility of your feelings. Teach them to work on their weaknesses. Not curse others' strengths. Teach them to accept their faults. Not act victim to avoid confrontation. Are you also cultivating these spells in your home? Do a proper check how you communicate in your home! Sometimes, the witch is inside our head and we blame a whole other community outside! @asoulneversold
I do cultural walk, But my soul leashed into bars of the diversion How do I get back to my origin? Is this only the choice that can make? Or the proselytism is the only way!? . . #LekhanKalaa #UjjwalOraon
In this post we are discussing the Question #1 of our Mother Wound series. #1 How did the mother act during her kid's childhood? We have 2 points here: Absence and Disengagement. Absence: Physical absence- Absence can be physical absence, which is due to variety of reasons outside the control of the family. That can have a lasting impact on the child's innocence. Not having a mother during the very early childhood is a pain that remains in such cases. So, even though we cannot control that situation, we can learn how to heal that once we grow up, through proper help from professionals. Emotional absence- When that absence is more of mental/emotional, there remains a lot other reasons to understand. A physically present mother can be emotionally unavailable to the kid. In that case, a mother actually suffers from cold mother syndrome. A mom in this case rejects child's emotional experiences and emotional expressions. She might even reject her kid's real emotional experiences. She might not express sympathy to the kid also. All of these behaviours from the mom cause the child to feel unimportant and ignored even in the presence of the mother. It might create a deep mother wound in the kid even after growing up. Disengagement: When the mom does not show any interest in the kid's activities or worries or daily conversations, no matter how insignificant those are, the mom is said to be disengaged. The mom might feel difficulty expressing herself also. So she remains mostly silent during those conversations which involves kid's innocent expressions. This is another cause of mother wound in the child. After growing up, such kids stop expressing themselves in front of peers and spouse also. It takes a lot of understanding to heal that wound. But it is not impossible. Thus mother wound is not just about the pain the kid felt during childhood, but also how that kid shows up in future relationships. They feel they are like that but they are unable to get the real reason behind their own behaviour. But why does the mother act like that? We will discuss in next Wednesday's post. Please follow A Soul Never Sold @asoulneversold for more such insights and information!
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