I’ve been laying in the dark for sometime now hoping I could sleep through the next 32 hours. I’ll never forget how I woke up Sunday morning May 15th, 2022 and the nurses told me Lillian Rose was doing great!! Fast forward to dinner time and I was craving Italian which is rare because I am a fairly healthy eater (yes even while pregnant). My father brought food up from the Brooke House which was delicious and from then on everything was down hill. I felt cold. And they put blankets on me and they had me walk. I felt dizzy and they told me to keep walking. Then I felt sick and suddenly I knew something had changed. I was rushed into a new room and that’s when the nightmare began! Multiple people came into this new room that looked like it should belong on a horror movie. They said the three words no mother or parent ever wants to hear, “There’s no heartbeat.” I thought they were joking. Like are you kidding me?! She was just here! She was healthy!! I remember telling them to check again!! But I lost my Lillian Rose. 💔 . May 16th 8:26am I delivered Lillian Rose 🩰 She had the cutest feet and the longest toes She had the tiniest hands and the longest nails. She had a button nose that I know I could’ve kissed for years to come. She had strong legs just like me. My fit baby 😭 . I don’t share this to torture myself. But rather all my love for my beautiful girl is bottled up inside of me with no where to go. This…. This is all I have left. I don’t want what happened to Lillian Rose to EVER happen to another baby or family ever again. 💯 This onesie, I gave to her Papa and she never got to see the day to wear it. Along with many other items that now sit in the corner of my closet. I pray no one ever has to experience grief or trauma like this because it’s been life altering. To my darling daughter 🌹you changed my world. You’re the greatest love I’ve ever known and my greatest heartbreak all wrapped into one. 💔 You are the reason I am here and I’ll never stop talking about you or sharing our story . 💯 Signing off, Mama J
Trauma influences how we feel about our bodies. Find ways to reconnect to the body. It's gone through a lot and deserves being paid attention to. We must address fears of reconnecting to the body. Many survivors learn to disconnect from their bodies as a way to not experience the hurt. Many have found that writing a letter to the body has been helpful. How has the body disappointed you? Failed you? AND how has the body protected you? Helped you heal? Experienced pleasure? Etc.
2 years ago today the most exciting things were happening in my life. I was picking out balloon arches for my baby shower 💖. I couldn’t decide between dark pink or rose gold. And in a matter of 10 days my whole world was flipped upside down and stolen from me. Lillian Rose 🌹 I promise to ALWAYS fight for YOU. You may be gone from this world but you’re NEVER gone from my heart and soul. You are my my everlasting love. 🩰
Today is International Bereaved Mother’s Day. Although any bereaved mother does not need a specific date to remind her of the unimaginable loss that goes with an out of order death. The body doesn’t distinguish between the types of loss, the emotions, the physical response are experienced as exactly the same as any other person grieving. The heart knows though that life endings are not usually experienced in this way, the mother is meant to age and pass on long before her offspring. I honour the Mother’s in my life and beyond who have suffered through the premature farewell of her stillborn baby, baby or child. I sit with you in your grief today, and always and my heart shatters alongside yours in resonance and understanding. May you let the tears fall, allow the emotions to flow through your body however they need and may the memories of the joyful moments shine through as a softening and may you feel the energy, the spirit, the soul essence of your baby/child holding you now and always. Big big cuddles from me to you 💛🦋
From the chapter ‘Tell the truth and learn to lament’ in @sarahbessey’s book “Field Notes for the Wilderness” : “If we don’t deal with our trauma or our sadness or our anges it begins to deal with us. If we don’t allow ourselves to feel our feelings, they have a habit of peeking around the corners our lives, breaking in at unexpected moments. Trauma or disruption or betrayal manifests differently for each of us rage, anger, self-harm, self-neglect, frenzy, numbing, posturing, spiritual bypassing... Or in that particular instance, nightmares.” - #griefquotes #fieldnotesforthewilderness #sarahbesseyquotes #traumaandgrief #pregnancyloss #learninglament
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Healing does not mean forgetting. It means remembering with more love (for your parts) than with pain. When we talk about healing, it's about acknowledging the pain and the experiences that caused it, but it's also about embracing the wounded parts of the self with compassion and understanding.💜
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Grief doesn’t really end, but it can soften as we move through its waves & layers. When we’re working on our healing, over time we can feel that there are seemingly endless layers. And sometimes, due to that, we may become hopeless or exhausted. We may wonder what’s wrong with us.😞 We “westerners” live in cultures that tend to view things in such a linear fashion- yet life is a cycle, and it is also cycles within cycles. There are no endings and no beginnings, essentially. I realize this can seem maddening, or hard to grasp, especially around the subject of grief and healing. But maybe, there’s another perspective. If we let ourselves consider that our very lives (and deaths) are a part of that sacred, unending circle, we may feel less afraid or resistant to peel back the layers -and to keep going- in what I know can feel like an endless quest for relief or resolve. What’s true is that we can keep coming to new levels of self-awareness and healing, to new heights of empowerment, compassion, and love.🙏🏼 And then, we are better equipped when we dip down again into the darker places, or fall into despair. Because the highs & lows of life will continue… As I often say, please remember to take rest when you need to. Check in with your body, emotional self, your mind, your energy. Developing deeper awareness around these components of ourselves helps us to notice & nourish each one, and to come toward feeling more whole. You may never be able to go back and change what’s happened in the past, but you have an option of how to navigate the never ending waves of joy & sorrow that are life.🙏🏼 You ARE in the cycles of your healing, grieving, growing, undoing & becoming. Keep going. 💜~a.rae #griefandhealing #healingtrauma #sacredcycles #circleoflifeanddeath #oruboros #infinitebeings #healingpath #presentwithitall #arae #araetheempath #empathsrising #embodiedempaths #dontgiveup #wecanheal #keepgoing #suicideawarness #mentalhealthmatters #holistichealing #mindbodysoul #somaticawareness #restwhenyouneedit #peelinglayers #wavesofgrief #traumaandgrief #griefandloss #sensitivesouls #honoringthejourney #tenderhearted #healingyourtrauma #loveandloss
I went to see the Lion King, the musical, last Saturday with my mum. This was my second trip, 10 years later. I know the story by hand. I memorised every line of the book as a child. I’ve always loved the story but it wasn’t until a few days ago when it hit me. I realised a huge difference in my perception of the show since losing my husband. It is an incredibly well produced story of grief and the consequences of unprocessed loss, the shadow of guilt and the war at which we are on the journey of grief. The main take away message is that not addressing your loss only prolongs and intensifies the suffering. As Freud used to say: “Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come out later in uglier ways.” We live in a society that is permanently afraid to feel the loss, to grief and mourn. The show definitely deserves a chapter in my book! Another fruitful experience that helped me process my loss. #CopingWithLoss #grief #GriefJourney #grieving #GrievingTogether #griefquotes #griefsupport #griefandloss #griefisajourney #griefwork #griefhealing #griefislove #guidetoaferlife #HealingAfterLoss #lifeafterloss #lifeandloss #loss #LossAndLove #MovingThroughGrief #psychologyofgrief #SupportInGrief #therapyforwidows #traumaandgrief #traumaticloss #UnderstandingGuilt #widowhood #WidowPsychologist #youngwidows #youngwidowsclub
Grief - interestingly - can lower our self-esteem for several reasons: 1. When people don’t surround us in support and/or even turn their backs on us because they don’t know what to say or do with our grief wounds - it can make us blame ourselves that we feel “alone” and devastated at the same time. 💡 2. Losing a partner or family member or friend that made you feel safe, seen and understood can make you feel confusion and isolation - which can lead to lower feelings about your self and your orientation to the world around you. 💡 3. Sometimes when people are uncomfortable with our pain/losses - they say “just move on” or “enough time has passed” or “get over it” when, in reality, what we need is their support and not their judgment. This can lead to feeling like a burden, which also lowers our self-esteem.💡 Journal Prompt: In what ways is your pain around loss impacting your self-esteem and why? How can you begin to differentiate between other people’s unsupportive behaviors and your own self-value? ❤️ #griefsupport #griefrecovery #griefrecoverymethod #traumaandloss #traumaandgrief #griefcounseling #griefcoach
Holidays can be so hard for so many reasons. If this Christmas brings grief, trauma, loneliness, or a complexity of emotions, We see you ❤️ #vista #vistapcc #northcantonohiousa #northcantontherapy #ohiotherapy #ohiousa #northcanton #ohioprivatepractice #suicidepreventionawareness #kidsmentalhealthawareness #collegementalhealth #emdrtherapy #traumaandgrief #holidayloneliness #mentalhealthhelp #grieffortheholidays #sickfortheholidays #workingtheholidays
When grief and trauma collide, your world crumbles. The beliefs that you once had about yourself, others, and the world around you are shattered. It takes a moment to even realize what in the world happened.Once you realize the bomb that exploded in your life really happened, you have to rebuild your whole world! There is grief in all trauma, and trauma can make reactions to grief exponential because the body always remembers. Sometimes, you feel as if you are going “crazy”, but friend, you may be having a normal reaction to that which was lost and/or the harm done to you. If you are struggling with intense reactions after a loss, it could be helpful to talk with a grief counselor who coach who understands how trauma rewires the brain and affects your body’s nervous system. There are treatments that can help to restore safety and sanity within yourself. Reach out to someone today! #grief #loss #griefandloss #traumaandgrief #sufferingisoptional #thebodyremembers #thebodykeepsthescore #givepainwords #townsendcui #certifiedgriefeducator #hnormanwright #experiencinggrief #griefwork #griefjourney #griefsupport #griefandlosssupport #graceingrief #intenseemotions #griefintrauma #notttaumainallgrief #davidkessler #ritaschulte #youwillgetthroughthis #shattered #feelingit #dailyencouragement #delightedbygrace
When someone openly shares their experience with trauma and grief, we've all received a gift from them. Meghan Riordan Jarvis is a clinical psychotherapist and her memoir, END OF THE HOUR, is out today! Meghan details her journey of suddenly losing her mom and not only the trauma and grief she experienced, but what it looked like to recognize she needed next level care. Published by Zibby Books, Meghan's memoir is real...she gives us an inside look into what receiving treatment looks like and the incredible people who are also seeking help but how they open their arms to help each other at the same time. I certainly cried while reading this one and can't express my gratitude enough to Meghan for sharing of herself so openly and beautifully. I learned a lot about next level care, as well as about myself while reading END OF THE HOUR. This book is a great read about trauma and grief, but also about motherhood. If you've ever questioned what kind of mom you are or if you're doing a good enough job...please know that you are. You're doing a great job! Thank you for Meghan for being such a beautiful human being and sharing yourself with us! #michelleglogovac #themlgcollective #mysimplifiedlife #meghanriordanjarvis #endofthehour #zibbybooks #zibbymedia #memoir #nonfiction #traumaandgrief #booklaunch #authorpodcast #bookstagrammers #booktok #bookstagram #authorgram #podgram
🌟 SUNDAY SPOTLIGHT 🌟 Jenna has worked at a national youth crisis hotline, inpatient pediatric stabilization unit, Headstart and Early Headstart program, and a community mental health agency seeing clients in the office and school-based, as well as telehealth. Jenna works often with children, teenagers, and adults working through past traumas, processing grief, struggling with relational or family dynamics, experiencing anxiety, depression, self-harm, or suicidal thoughts, and loves to incorporate play, art, and sandtray into therapy when the client is interested. In her free time, you can catch Jenna watching true crime tv shows, reading a good book, or traveling the country to see family and friends. Check out our bio 👉🏽 for more information on Jenna or any of our other therapists and to schedule today 📅 💠FOLLOW FOR MENTAL HEALTH TIPS EVERY WEDNESDAY AND THURSDAY 💠 #vista #vistapcc #northcantonohiousa #northcantontherapy #ohiotherapy #ohiousa #northcanton #ohioprivatepractice #kidsmentalhealthawareness #emdrtherapyohio #sandtraytherapy #playtherapyworks #traumaandgrief #griefprocessing #teentherapy #teentrauma #somaticexperiencing #somaticexperiencinginternational
Here are a few more pictures that the Tedx team shared. Another shout-out to @tedxcapemay for making this dream a reality! #tedx #tedtalks #mentalhealthcounseling #childrensmentalhealth #sandtray #sandtraytherapy #playtherapy #traumaandgrief #expressivrtherapy #sandtherapy #ideasworthspreading @tabby_biddle
Grief does not occur only in death. Grief is produced by any siginificant loss in our lives. We live in a culture that does not understand and appears uncomfortable with the grieving process, making it more difficult for the hurting to appropriately grieve. We even refer to the process as “disordered” if it goes beyond a preconceived timeframe. Let’s be clear, grief never ends. It changes. We learn to adapt to our losses and move forward in life. Those who held such a deep place on our hearts will forever be missed thus forever grieved. The hopes, dreams, experiences and relationship we lose are grieved. While joyful new opportunities may fill our hearts and souls, the past are not forgotten. They become stepping stones to new places on our lives helping us grow wisdom, faith, and perseverance. Grief is complex, confusing, sacred, beautiful, and unique. May we meet those who grief with compassion, kindness, and without judgement. #griefcare #griefcounselor #griefsupport #mentalhealth #grieftherapist #griefeducator #traumaandgrief
Swipe for how bleary the day is! And a MONDAY, no less. Blerg. Then my whiny gratitude face 😂 My client brought me coffee, which I immediately take as a reward for my vulnerable text 😂😂😂 I love my clients and I love what I do 💖 . . #traumasurvivor #traumarecovery #traumarecoverycoaching #traumarecoverycoach #traumaandgrief #griefrecoveryspecialist #griefrecoverycoach #griefrecovery #mapyourhealingjourney #mapyourhealing
Have you heard of traumatic grief? A traumatic death can lead to traumatic grief, which means that the person who experienced the loss will need more time and support to come to terms with what happened. Understanding traumatic grief is important because it allows people who have lost a being they love in a traumatic death to better understand their experience, and seek support accordingly. I experienced traumatic grief with a few animals of mine, but not every one, even though I consider them all my children. Traumatic grief is nothing to be ashamed of. And if you have lost a being in your life to a traumatic death, I am so sorry for your loss and what you continue to go through. #grief #griefjourney #grieving #traumaticgrief #griefcoach #griefcoaching #traumaandgrief #traumaandgriefcoaching #traumaandgriefsupport #petdeath #petloss #petlosssupport #animalgrief #animalgriefisreal #animalgriefsupport #animalgriefcoach #petgrief #petgriefsupport #petgriefcoach
ONE NIGHT WITH YAEL STONE // Set & filmed on the Coal Coast, the new six-part series 𝘖𝘯𝘦 𝘕𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 tells the story of three women whose bond was all destroyed by the traumatic events of one night. Featuring an exceptional ensemble cast, including Bulli actor Yael Stone, Jodie Whittaker, Nicole De Silva and Kat Stewart, 𝘖𝘯𝘦 𝘕𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 is a harrowing tale of friendship, impacted by trauma and grief, fact and fiction. We spoke to Yael about the series, and the perks of working close to home. To read the full story visit the #linkinbio and head over to our website 🙌 Images : @lisatomasetti . . #onenight #onenightwithyaelstone #yaelstone #paramountplus #paramountplusau #anitastheatre #anitastheatrethirroul #openingnight #sixpartseries #traumaandgrief #factandfiction #lovewhereyoulive #insidetheillawarra #callingtheillawarrahome #coalcoastbingo #dharawalcountry #hineighbour #issue21 #springedition #illawarra #coalcoast #coalcoastmag
I was told to pick one ☝🏼 victory a day. Today that victory was dinner. I cooked for the first time in over two weeks. And it was GOOD. Not just tasty 😋, but also good for the soul. • One day at a time. One victory at a time. I’m going to make it • • • • • • #smallvictory #onedayatatime❤️ #onevictoryatatime #healingjourney #traumaandgrief
You have been through a lot. Go easy on yourself today. You deserve support. 🫶🫶🩵
Overly identifying with a diagnosis or a trauma or loss or self-sabotaging pattern can very much be a result of attempting to heal through taking too much responsibility for painful realities. Those things are important to understand and grow from; But too much of something - even if it is an attempt to heal; can also hold your recovery back or serve to recreate past hurts rather than move forward from them. Personal accountability matters, but this includes personally owning our ANAZING and healthy patterns too! What positive patterns are you proud of in your life today? ⭐️⭐️✅
🌟 SUNDAY SPOTLIGHT 🌟 Jenna Humphries, M.A., LPCC is still accepting new clients 🙌🏻 Jenna has worked at a national youth crisis hotline, inpatient pediatric stabilization unit, Headstart and Early Headstart program, and a community mental health agency seeing clients in the office and school-based, as well as telehealth. Jenna works often with children, teenagers, and adults working through past traumas, processing grief, struggling with relational or family dynamics, experiencing anxiety, depression, self-harm, or suicidal thoughts, and loves to incorporate play, art, and sandtray into therapy when the client is interested. In her free time, you can catch Jenna watching true crime tv shows, reading a good book, or traveling the country to see family and friends. Check out our bio 👉🏽 for more information on Jenna or any of our other therapists and to schedule today 📅 💠FOLLOW FOR MENTAL HEALTH TIPS EVERY WEDNESDAY AND THURSDAY 💠 #vista #vistapcc #northcantonohiousa #northcantontherapy #ohiotherapy #ohiousa #northcanton #ohioprivatepractice #kidsmentalhealthawareness #emdrtherapyohio #sandtraytherapy #playtherapyworks #traumaandgrief #griefprocessing #teentherapy #teentrauma
Today’s post from our FREE learn, grow, heal FACEBOoK group. “Self- protection is real! The fear of trusting yourself again is also real! Who struggles with this? 🙋♀️ How do you manage? ⁉️ What are you doing in your recovery to address old relationship patterns that no longer serve you?!🤩 For anyone seeking additional tools on how to evolve your relationship patterns )in all areas of your life; including with self and friends and at work); Comment or DM me to learn more about our self-guided recovery program for those in ADVANCED trauma, grief and relationship recovery! 👏⭐️” And for more free tips, videos and tools to aid in your recovery, let me know and I can invite you to the free group. 👏
PATIENCE: Meet Perry Como. I named him that because of my late Grandmother who was such a huge fan - she even had a pin up photo of him on her wall in her 70’s! 👵 Jendi gifted me this cactus about 2.5 years ago when we were just friends. And until now, he never once bloomed… Until the other day that is. We never thought anything of him for not blooming that was negative in any way - just that he was the way he was - small and 🌸 -less. And even in that state, Perry Como was good enough as he was. There was no monitoring or watching or hoping he would one day bloom. 🌵 🌵🌸 There was no keeping track or hyper focus on his state of being - just consistent sunlight and occasional watering and calling him by his “given” name!⭐️ Then one day, out of the blue, when nobody saw it coming, he decided to show out and full-throttle bloom!🌸🌸🌸🌸 What does this remind us of? No change is fast. No personal evolution is quick. I’ve always said to clients for decades - trust me - change is like a slow and low interest savings account: invest a tiny bit here, more at other times, and don’t watch it or monitor it. Keep your head down for grounding and your mind open for changing - and one day over a loooong period of time, you wake up on any given Tuesday and find out that you have WAY more than you ever could have imagined.💡💡💡 Just for today, remember this: 🧐 IF you are willing to do the hard work that is required to go about truly changing AND you are willing to do it consistently and persistently for a very long time - without constant monitoring of if it’s happening NOW or fast enough; AND to do so no matter if you feel like it or not - ONE DAYout of nowhere - you see subtle changes… You say something a bit softer, you see something a bit clearer, and; if you stick around to work on yourself long enough, one day, you just might get to see yourself totally bloom.🌵🌵🌸❤️ I’ve got one spot open for my intensive learn. grow. heal recovery program starting in September. Reach out to learn more.
Grief is not always tied to “big” events. You might be experiencing “micro grief” and not even realize it. But no matter how big or small we perceive a situation to be, our body signals the same need to grieve. #griefwork #microgrief #everydaygrief #dealingwithdissapointment #acceptingchange #traumaandgrief #traumacoaching #feelingallthefeels #feeltoheal #mentalhealthcoaching #griefcoaching #irritabilityrelief
Did you know that grief experts, and psychologists, agree that there are some events in our lives that cause a trauma - even years later our bodies remember - even if our minds have seemingly, temporarily, forgotten the date. Anxiety, feeling sick in the stomach, sleeplessness, emotional, depressed, headaches- they can all be symptoms that our body presents us with as it remembers, and eventually our minds catch up - we remember what happened on a certain day, even years before, and it suddenly makes sense of why we’re feeling this way. This week, I have gone for a shower three nights in a row, and been overcome with the need to cry - seemingly out of nowhere. The shower is a great place to cry - the water seems to help release all of those tears. I have had many, many, shower cries. Wailed and slid to the floor, crying until my throat was hoarse, and my eyes puffed up. I haven’t done it for a little while though, and I couldn’t understand at first why I felt this way, this week. Then I had two slight anxiety attacks. Out of seemingly nowhere. And then I realised. This day, today, four years ago, was one of the horrible days in the lead up to what would be the worst day of my life. Today, four years ago, we had raced to Brisbane on the plane (about 1700km) in the hope that my darling husband would get the Immunotherapy we had been begging for, for over six months. When we got to the hospital, there had been a mixup and a bed wasn’t available for him straight away. We waited in the emergency reception - him laying in a cramped seat, head on my lap. This scared me so much - he would never lay down on a seat like that normally - it just brought home all over again how terribly sick he was. The terror must have shown on my face, as the ladies in reception came over to check on us a few times until a bed was found for him. I can still close my eyes, and feel how sick in the stomach I felt that day. It was our last chance for a treatment that would help. That day was four years ago today, but this week my body remembered it, well before my mind realised the date. We think trauma has lessened because time has passed, but I doubt it ever will 💔
Excited that the anthology, "I am Tamar-Come Out of Hiding" will be in women shelters, prisons, jails, mental facilities, and hospitals👑🌟👑 across the USA😊😊 Women need to be made whole😊 #soulcare #healing #traumaandgrief #traumahealing
When I witness bereaved parents talk about their baby, they energetically shift. They light up and want to talk about their child and what it was like being pregnant with them. The love is palpable and it is healing to give them the space to share. Say their name, ask what it was like carrying them, remember their baby. #childloss #bereavedparents #bereavedmother #bereavedfather #pregnancyloss #perinatalloss #miscarriage #stillbirth #infantloss #tfmr #grief #griefjourney #traumaandgrief #lifeafterloss
Parenting after loss is hard. After the loss of a child when there are living children, there are 2 things the parent must do: 1. Show that she is grieving. 2. Show that she is still living. The living child has not only lost a sibling, but oftentimes also temporarily loses their parent. It is the work of the parent to choose life after loss not only for herself, but for her child/children. #parentingafteloss #childloss #babyloss #pregnancyloss #bereaved #grief #griefjourney #bereavedmother #bereavedsupport #miscarriage #stillbirth #tfmr #perinatalloss #lifeafterloss #traumaandgrief
Memories from 2018⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #crettodiburri #albertoburri #cretto #crettodigibellina #gibellina #sicily #italy #landscapeartwork #monumentalartwork #labyrinthine #whiteconcrete #cracks #psycho-geography #beliceearthquake #spatialmemories #traumaandgrief #culturalmemory
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A new YouTube is up on my YouTube ! Link is in the bio! It’s a 25 min video to help all of you who are supporting children through a grief journey. You may be a teacher, a LSA, a mentor or you could be a family member who is also in grief yourself after having lost a precious person. This film is dedicated to the beautiful Anna F who has left behind so many who love her and are devastated at her passing away. I hope this helps all those children who loved her hugs and laughter and all those who never knew her but are struggling right now because someone they love has died. ❤️🩹❤️🩹 #traumarecovery #traumarecoveryfocused #traumaandgrief
I will never forget the moment I first saw my body in a full length mirror after birth trauma. I successfully avoided it for 2 months. I wouldn’t even look down at myself in the shower more than I had to. I felt like if I acknowledged the way the trauma ravaged my body, I would have to acknowledge the way it also ravaged my life. I would have to sit with the heaviness of what it meant to almost die during my child’s birth. And I wasn’t ready for that. But, one day in early September, I went to get my bridesmaid dress altered for my brother’s wedding, and without thinking I turned towards the mirror. I couldn’t understand the body staring back at me. It didn’t feel like mine. I couldn’t keep the tears from immediately falling. I cried for everything I had been through, everything my body had endured. I cried for all that I missed, for all that was done to my body without my say. I cried because I couldn’t understand how this had all happened, how I ended up here. I cried for me and I cried for Cal. I cried for the current me and the past me, both who didn’t see this coming. I cried with sadness and anger. I cried with gratitude. And I cried at the realization that this was only just the beginning. That look in the mirror was my first step toward the full reality of what happened and how different my life would become post birth trauma. Not recognizing yourself after birth trauma is something I’ve heard from this community time and time again. Yes, it can be the physical scars and marks, the representation of a fight your body has carried you through, but it’s also the rupture of the before and after trauma. The feeling that you will never be the same. And that feeling often shows up as we look in the mirror for the first time after trauma. The person looking back at us is not the same one who went into their pregnancy/birth/postpartum experience. Trauma is impossible to ignore whether you can “see” its impact or not. What was your experience with seeing yourself in the mirror for the first time after birth trauma? ⬇️
It's natural for us to try to bury trama and grief, thinking if we can just stop thinking about it, whatever it is won't hurt so much. But in reality, it's actually the opposite! When we choose to dig deep and face the hard emotions, that's when we usually reap the greatest clarity and healing. Do not be afraid to sit with the pain and to surrender to feeling every bit of it, because each time you make the choice to embrace your grief, your pain will gradually lessen its grip as spirit slowly melts it into the beauty that is enlightenment. ❤ © Christine Colyer - Writer #griefjourney #buriedtrauma #grief #traumaandgrief Photo by Denys Nevozhai on Studio
I am her mother and it is my greatest honour 💔 #babyloss #babylosscommunity #babylosscommunityuk #babylossjourney #babylossmamas #childloss #infantloss #neonatalloss #writingthroughgrief #griefjourney #griefandloss #griefwriter #lifeafterloss #traumaandgrief #ivf #ivfjourney #ivfloss #ivfbabyloss #rainbowbabyloss #ivfblogger #griefblogger
🌟 SUNDAY SPOTLIGHT 🌟 Jenna Humphries, M.A., LPCC will be starting here at Vista in early June. 🙌🏻 Jenna has worked at a national youth crisis hotline, inpatient pediatric stabilization unit, Headstart and Early Headstart program, and a community mental health agency seeing clients in the office and school-based, as well as telehealth. Jenna works often with children, teenagers, and adults working through past traumas, processing grief, struggling with relational or family dynamics, experiencing anxiety, depression, self-harm, or suicidal thoughts, and loves to incorporate play, art, and sandtray into therapy when the client is interested. In her free time, you can catch Jenna watching true crime tv shows, reading a good book, or traveling the country to see family and friends. Check out our bio 👉🏽 for more information on Jenna or any of our other therapists and to schedule today 📅 💠FOLLOW FOR MENTAL HEALTH TIPS EVERY WEDNESDAY AND THURSDAY 💠 #vista #vistapcc #northcantonohiousa #northcantontherapy #ohiotherapy #ohiousa #northcanton #ohioprivatepractice #kidsmentalhealthawareness #emdrtherapyohio #sandtraytherapy #playtherapyworks #traumaandgrief #griefprocessing #teentherapy #teentrauma
YYYEEEESSS 👏💖 I make no apologies, either. My story, my rules. . . #traumawriting #traumarecovery #traumasurvivor #traumahealing #traumaandgrief #griefprocess #griefrecovery #childhoodtraumasurvivor #mapyourhealingjourney #mapyourhealing
I took a week off from posting in order to really connect with my grief and I wanted to share with you some of my process. From one human being to another. . . . #griefjourney #lossofapet #griefandtrauma #traumaandgrief #somatichealing #neevousystemhealing #somaticexperiencing
Did you know that one of the many symptoms of grief/loss is absolute, total exhaustion?! Lots of loss requires lots of energy reserves to even process a new, possibly more painful reality. If you find yourself feeling more than just tired, but totally flatlined - you may be dealing with unresolved or even active grief. Be mindful of the highs and lows both physically and mentally associated with loss; as you want to keep an eye out for severe depression creeping in there too. Grief takes time to face and heal. But total exhaustion is one sign you may want to get some serious support for the losses you have to face.
Grief can birth a lot of disappointment. A lot. What you choose to do with this feeling can support your healing or further push you down a spiral of anger and resentments. Knowing what you need and asking for what you need are two skills necessary to help alleviate potential disappointment. If you are someone with unprocessed childhood trauma where there was neglect of any kind, grief can activate the energy of repressed needs very quickly. These repressed needs will surface as emotions and if you don’t have the self-resource to know what you need and/or the ability to speak your needs to safe, loving people, then this can create an entanglement of grief & trauma. The next best thing to do if you find this happening for yourself is to return to Center. Find regulation through healthy practices and if possible co-regulating with another safe enough person. If the grief is blue and the neglect trauma is red, there needs to be an untangling of energy before any processing. You have a right to feel disappointed that other people didn’t or don’t know how to show up for you. Your feelings are valid. You also have permission to take care of yourself, find ways to learn what you need, practice speaking your needs to safe enough people, and then approach the grief from a place of compassion not hurt. The grief isn’t trying to harm you. The neglect wasn’t your fault. Meeting yourself with grace and love is gentle and kind. 💚🖇🌹 #griefjourney #disappointment #traumaandgrief #griefsupport #griefquotes #gettingthroughit #griefislove #griefisajourney #letlovein
If you have endured substantial trauma in your life, you may struggle with an addiction to chaos, pain and dramatic swings in emotions as a result of your unresolved wounds. This is something that, in order to heal properly, must be addressed. Living in your past in the present is not serving you because: 1. It keeps you in a cycle of attracting and accepting more pain and abuse. 2. It only adds more trauma to the pain you already carry. 3. It continues to both create and validate a world view that you only deserve and only can exist in a state of traumatic stress. If this is you, you are not bad. You have not failed. You just need help learning to live in calm rather than chaos. 🤍🧡🌟
Last week in my young widow peer support space this topic came up. And yesterday I was listening to a podcast interview with David Kessler, and AGAIN it came up. One of the cruelest aspects of grief is that within the trauma and immense pain felt from our immediate loss, all of the past trauma and loss we experienced surfaces or resurfaces. So while we are drowning, it’s like a hand shoving us further into the swirling waters. Thanks for that, universe! It has been quite the process for me in different therapies. My focus has been scattered between survival, trauma work around my and my husband’s cancer journeys, grief work over the many losses including the most major one of my husband dying, and going back to childhood and early adulthood and understanding different trauma in new ways. As I have gotten my feet under me again I feel closer to the roots of it all, the sources of my chronic mistrust of my own body signals and the ways that has impacted me in every life domain. It is a lot! This is one of the many reasons grief work is slow and difficult. Sending love to all you grievers and self-healers as you do the difficult work to create a meaningful and peaceful life within the wreckage. ❤️ the deadheadwidow 💀🌹 #widow #widowlife #widowhood #widowsgrief #widowsinthewild #widowshelpingwidows #widowsofinstagram #trauma #traumarecovery #traumahealing #grief #griefjourney #griefawareness #griefhealing #traumaandgrief #griefandtrauma #somuchwork #sohardtoheal #itsworthit 💀🌹❤️
No matter how long it’s been, I always feel a bit raw around this time and on this day. According to “The Body Keeps Score” by Bessel van der Kolk, trauma is also stored in the body. There were also studies done on pregnant women who went through trauma during pregnancy and it turns out that those children were more susceptible to anxiety, depression, stress, etc. So that explains it all to me. People don’t realize how much of a blessing and a privilege it is to be able grieve and find closure with your loved ones who’ve passed. But it’s full circle for me, since half of my job is helping families with their closure. Although it can be emotionally exhausting, it’s also a privilege to be able to help people with their grief and closure so that, in turn, is helping me with mine. It’s funny how the universe always knows what you need. *Strangely enough, my best friend was also born on this day. So, it’s not a completely bad day. #iloveyoudad #traumaandgrief #inagardenofroses #in_a_garden_of_roses
I have always been in awe of the transformational potential of the grief journey. When we experience acute grief, a doorway opens to heal unresolved wounds. The deeper we heal, the deeper we can love ourselves and others. It is a phenomenon like no other. #griefjourney #pregnancyloss #babyloss #tfmr #stillbirth #miscarriage #infertility #traumaandgrief
I've been thinking a lot about the unresolved situations and relationships in my own life and letting them go. As a trauma survivor, I remember when the unresolved stuff made me feel unsettled and upset and desperate for closure. I became preoccupied with how I could resolve the latest loose ends. Life and love aren't like that. They are messy. My blog post, "Sharing Something Really Vulnerable" contains five questions that I asked myself about "The Thing," which is essentially one of these kinds of unresolved relationships (you can read it on mapyourhealing.com - blog). The questions I asked myself gave me insight and a direction to move forward, which is better than the endless spiral of emotion. . . #traumabrain #traumasurvivor #traumarecovery #traumaandgrief #ptsd #cptsd #relationships #emotions #feelings #emotionalintelligence #posttraumaticgrowth #unresolvedemotions #unresolvedfeelings #mapyourhealingjourney #mapyourhealing
Sometimes I feel bad for my husband because those of us (me) who work in trauma and grief just love DIFFERENTLY - these are the memes I sent him this morning 💖😂 Happy Valentine's Day, y'all 💖 . . #traumaandgrief #traumasurvivor #traumarecoverycoach #traumarecoverycoaching #griefrecoverycoach #griefrecoveryspecialist #valentinesmemes #darkhumor #mapyourhealingjourney #mapyourhealing
We have all seen by now the devastation that has happened in Turkey & Syria from the earthquake. As a community we want to support those who have been affected by this either directly or indirectly. This is a free session for anyone around the world who wants some support in managing grief and navigating their emotions 💛 Finding Inner Peace within the Chaos of Grief (Free online Zoom session) with @dhuha_awad Learning to accept, respect and honour your emotions and pain on a journey from grief to peace with the power of self-compassion and patience. Free registration: https://linktr.ee/coffeewithanexpat or link in bio @coffeewithanexpat In the difficult times of trauma and grief we tend to be drawn to the challenging cycle of denial, pain, anger, anxiety and fear. In such circumstance we are unable to give ourselves the most important components needed for coping: Compassion and Patience. Compassion to respect our emotions and give them the space needed to be expressed. Patience to give our emotions the time required to go through the process of grief with all its different stages: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and finally acceptance. Join us on Zoom: Wednesday 15th February at 7.45pm. In this session we will learn to focus on giving our emotions and feelings their necessary tools and choices to be able to peacefully reach our acceptance level from where we are back in alignment with our higher self. Remember, every challenge is a learning curve for a better version of you to emerge. Learn about Dhuha in the comments!
I love this 💖 Grief is relational, individual, and sacred. In our culture, grief is not practiced, much less acknowledged. It's up to us to remember that every hello has implied goodbyes, and to learn that you don't get trauma without grief. It's up to us to figure out how to learn to live with our losses, to reconcile sorrow with joy. This kind of work is intense and lonely. If you need a guide through your grief journey, I'm here (there's info in my bio, including how we can connect). Also I don't know who to credit for this graphic, lmk in the comments if you do 😍 . . #grief #traumaandgrief #griefrecoveryspecialist #griefprocess #griefrecovery #mapyourhealingjourney #mapyourhealing
I stood with my then-boyfriend-now-husband, waiting for the BART in San Francisco. We held hands. I leaned on him, resting my head on his arm. I felt warm and safe and like I didn't need to be - didn't want to be - anywhere else. I also felt confused and uncomfortable. "I'm feeling something," I said. "I don't know the name for it. I think it might be...happy?" Trauma survivors (like me) cut off emotions for their own survival. Plus, as humans, we are wired to the negative for our own survival. This double whammy makes it even more important to recognize and steep in the positive as it happens. As I worked through trauma recovery, I learned how to sense emotions, identify corresponding feelings, process it all, and express them in a responsible way. Even happiness, joy, contentment - the feelings that sometimes felt the most uncomfortable of all. Now this process happens mostly automatically and in short time periods. The evidence of doing The Work. If this resonates and you'd like to know more, there's a lot of info in my bio, including how we can connect. . . #traumabrain #traumarecovery #traumasurvivor #traumahealing #traumaandgrief #traumarecoverycoaching #traumarecoverycoach #griefrecoveryspecialist #griefrecovery #griefrecoverycoach #emotions #feelings #emotionalintelligence #feelingwheel #BigFeelings #TheWork
This is a skill that almost exploded my brain when I first began to practice it. 🎉✨More than one thing can be true AT THE SAME TIME 🤯 As a trauma survivor, this can be tough to grasp and practice. Survival mode teaches us to look at things in black-and-white, no gray allowed. Survival mode teaches us one or the other, us vs them, right and wrong. (This is partly why I've steered away from the word "right" and have migrated to "wise.") More than one thought, feeling, perspective, truth, reality can be simultaneously true, FOR OTHERS AND INSIDE YOURSELF. Recognizing this truth is inherently compassionate, which we all need, especially for trauma and grief recovery. 🎉✨More than one thing can be true AT THE SAME TIME 🤯 When you start practicing this skill, it definitely gets easier. . . #traumabrain #survivalmode #traumasurvivor #traumarecovery #griefrecoveryspecialist #griefandloss #neuroplasticity #rewireyourbrain #mapyourhealingjourney #mapyourhealing #traumaandgrief #traumarecoverycoach
Anger is amazing 💖 Afraid of anger? I get that. Try approaching anger with, "I'm very curious about that" and see where it takes you. . Reposted from @drdoylesays . #traumasurvivor #traumahealing #traumarecovery #griefrecovery #traumaandgrief #mapyourhealingjourney #mapyourhealing #angerquotes
Grief is a natural experience to loss. Loss can look different for everyone and unique to each of us. # #griefsupport #grieftherapist #traumaandgrief
Having grieved doesn’t mean you don’t feel any more emotions about your loss. However, you will notice that your emotions are no longer as intense or overwhelming. You may still feel sad, but it’s a different kind of sadness. It’s a sadness with acceptance. The way to find HOPE on the other side, is going through the forest of grief. There is no way around grief than to go through it. The process of grieving is the process of healing. There may be some losses that are so painful that one can never make sense or find meaning in them. Yet this is where grief is such a mystery! As you go through the forest of grief, sometimes you may even feel lost, or as if you are going round in circles, feeling like you don’t see the end of the path or the light at the end of the tunnel. But as you just let the path of grief leads you through the forest, taking one step at a time, putting one foot in front of the other, you will find it will eventually lead you out of the forest to the other side where HOPE is! If you are in the process of grieving, don’t be discouraged even if it feels like it has been a long time. Do check out the 3 G Live sessions we did on "Grieving Well To Thrive" under the IGTV tab for more resources to support you in grieving. I hope this post assures you that as you stay on the path, Hope is waiting for you on the other side. Will you help us share this message of hope to someone who is walking through the forest of grief? With love, Pamela Koh (Founder of ThriveSg) #thrivesg #thrivesgtribe #thrivesignificantly #trauma #healing #traumaeducation #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealtheducation #traumahealing #healingtrauma #traumasupport #emotionalresilience #emotionalhealing #counselling #counseling #therapy #healing #hope #emotionalpain #grief #healing #healinggrief #traumaandgrief #losses #griefandloss #griefjourney #griefandtrauma #grieving #selfcare
While these tips may be helpful, some of us may find it difficult to grieve because of some unhelpful beliefs that we may hold with regards to grieving. If so, it would be important to identify what these beliefs may be and work at addressing them. Do check out our post & IGTV on “Debunking the Myths of Grieving” if you missed it. Be kind to yourself in seasons of grief because grief can sometimes involve feeling many vulnerable emotions, even complex and conflicted emotions. Having more compassion for ourselves will make it easier to connect with vulnerable emotions within us. Being kind to ourselves also means to give ourselves permission to go at a slower pace, to manage our schedule around a more limited capacity as the process of grieving can be emotionally draining. We need to be intentional to support ourselves by taking care of our needs by engaging in self-caring activities to refuel and recharge ourselves after grieving. Making sure that you take care of your physical health, eating & sleeping well is also important. For some of us, our faith in God or a higher power may bring us comfort and hope in times of grief. Our faiths may be a source of comfort and solace for us, helping us to make sense of and find meaning in our losses. If grieving alone gets overwhelming, reach out to a trusted friend or a counsellor to support you if you need. You don’t have to do this alone. Help is available. #thrivesg #thrivesgtribe #thrivesignificantly #trauma #healing #traumaeducation #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealtheducation #traumahealing #healingtrauma #traumasupport #emotionalresilience #emotionalhealing #counselling #counseling #therapy #healing #destigmatisementalhealth #emotionalpain #grief #healing #healinggrief #traumaandgrief #losses #griefandloss #griefjourney #griefandtrauma #grieving #selfcare
Hey Healers!! (Because we're all innate healers) We all grow at different times in our lives at different levels. Because we all experience things at different times in different ways. This isn't a race or a competition, we are not better than the next person. The universe sends us all lessons for us to learn from and sometimes we're ready to receive them and sometimes we need a little more time to process. Either way, we should still be proud of ourselves because we are better today than we were yesterday. Keep doing, keep going, keep growing, keep glowing and keep healing. .................................................................................. FOLLOW @la_curandera888 for more physical, mental, emotional and spiritual healing motivation and tips. CHECK OUT LINK IN BIO FOR FREE guided meditation, FREE essential oil recipe blends, journals and notebooks for your journey and my favorite healing tools. #determination #instamotivation #motivationmy #growthjourney #lifestyle #inspirationalquotes #blessingsinthelessons #inspire #motivationalthoughts #intuitivehealing #spiritualwellness #spiritualawakening #holistichealth #selfhealing #energyhealing #healingenergy #heal #forgiveness #universallove #traumaandgrief #theanticonversationjournal #keepgrowing🌱 #keepglowing #proudofus #peaceoverdrama #stayinyourlane
For the person who has suffered a traumatic loss, @a2zhealingtoolbox is the PERFECT gift this season. Takes the alphabet letter by letter offering the experience and activities that help us to heal from traumatic loss. #TraumaticLoss #Grief