#InTheMiddleOfChanges I wrote the comments below to share on LinkedIn. But I am sharing them as a blog post as well because the principles of navigating change and respect for those in the midst of change apply to so many areas of life.... If a job doesn’t fit, it is still a great organization and you are still an amazing professional and person. Professional growth and personal growth are rarely linear and are sometimes rife with unpredictable stops and starts. I have had seasons where I’ve stayed with the same organization for 5 to 15 years. But in my most recent 4 years, I have worked for 4 different organizations. I am learning that is not failure. It is simply what life demands and how growth looks sometimes. I left one of my most amazing work families (who still remain some of my closest friends) to try something I had never done before… only to find it was not a fit. During my father’s illness and death I completely stepped away from leadership roles for a season to give my self time to care, grieve, and heal. Next…. A brief season back on the frontlines of healthcare reminded me why I was drawn into the fields of Healthcare Quality and Patient Safety in the first place. I have a unique gift for seeing what needs to be changed in healthcare and for bringing people together to make those changes. And now I am ready to use that gift again. I share my story to challenge all of us to not be hard on ourselves during times of change and transition. Also…. If you are a recruiter or other hiring leader, I challenge you not to quickly toss a resume or CV aside if you see frequent role changes or a short length of stay in a position. Sometimes, knowing when it is time to go shows more professional excellence than staying. #BlogPost #respect #ProfessionalGrowth #seasons #failure #life #growth #frontlines #healthcare #Quality #PatientSafety #gift #challenge #AllOfUs #hardOnOurselves #change #transition #recruiter #hiring #leader #resume #CV #RoleChanges #LengthOfStay #ProfessionalExcellence {Source: RagamuffinOasis.com}
How many times a day are you hard on yourself It’s something I do regularly , but I’m probably more aware of doing it now than I used to be This week has floored me with an awful virus 🦠 hubby kindly shared with me Every week I set out my plans /tasks for the week ahead & with this virus that hasn’t happened So I start the blame game on myself I’ve had an awful cough which has kept me awake most nights , leading to low energy and tiredness & feeling irritable My get up and go had got up and gone this week I suffer with asthma and which has been controlled so well down to one inhaler the last 12 months , but this virus meant that I’ve had to go back on my other one My inner critic saw that because I was back on that inhaler it was a set back that I was causing myself because I got myself poorly 😷 Everything at work was getting to me that wouldn’t normally & the biscuit 🍪 tin had been opened when I told myself I would have more control over that from this week instead of eating my emotions my inner critic was bursting to get out , with more negativity to myself , but I knew I couldn’t let him & after some journalling and reflecting this really isn’t down to me 🧠 Our brains are wired for survival, not happiness. That means we’re programmed to be on the lookout for problems. When we’re too hard on ourselves, it’s often our brain’s misguided attempt to protect us from potential failure. 💭 Here’s the twist: being overly critical can sabotage our success. It can lead to stress, burnout, and ironically, the very failure we’re trying to avoid. It was about time I reframed my thinking 🤔 So I started going to bed earlier , so I got more hours than normal after a few hours being disturbed from coughing I informed myself so what your on the extra inhaler that inhaler has made your chest a lot calmer today & easier to breath without straining your chest , it’s a minor set back but bigger result Lets boost the immune system to fight 🥊 off this virus 🦠 Meals with lots of veggies 🥒, water 💦, vats of 🍯 and 🍋 ……see below for more 👇
I think we all have been there … we want to@look a certain way. We are putting the effort in #workingout #eatinghealthy #sleepinggood #lessstress … but we aren’t where we think we should be We can be our worst critic #hardonourselves #doubtourselves …. Keep at it and #bepatient #onedayatatime #everyworkoutcounts #fitnessmotivation #fitnessjourney #fitness #fitnessgoals #weighttraining #diet #womenwholift #menwholift #buildingmuscle #cardio #hitt #core #leanmuscle #resistencetraining #sweat #workoutmotivation #workoutroutine #investinyourself #investinyourhealth #makeitcount #burncalories
Are you too hard on yourself?🤔 When it comes to self-criticism, we are often our own harshest critics. We tend to be hard on ourselves, focusing on our flaws and shortcomings rather than our strengths and accomplishments. However, shifting our perspective and trying a kinder approach can significantly impact our mental health and well-being. Instead of beating yourself up over mistakes or perceived failures, try to reframe your inner dialogue with self-compassionate language. By acknowledging and accepting your imperfections, you can develop greater self-awareness and self-love. So next time you feel yourself slipping into self-doubt, take a deep breath and say, "It's okay, nobody's perfect, and I am doing the best I can." It may be difficult at first, but self-kindness can become an empowering habit with practice. I encourage you to try it!! . . . . #beinghardonyourself #harshestcritic #hardonourselves #shiftingperspective #focusonstrenghts #focusonstrenght #focusonaccomplishments #focusonaccomplishing #focusonaccomplishment #focusonaccomplishmentsnotfaults #focusonstrenghtnotweaknesses #selfworthfirstselfworthiseverything #selfcompassionate #selfcompassionatejourney #acceptimperfections #acceptimperfection #greaterselfawareness #greaterselflove #selfdoubtbegone #selfdoubthelp #teacherofselflove #iluvmemovement #selflovecoachingforwomen #selfworthcoachingforwomen #selfcarecoachingforwomen #theiluvme
Have you been hard on yourself about money? Do you stress over it? Do you blame yourself for your debt or feel ashamed about it? #youarenotalone #Forgiveyourself #timetoheal #timetochange #letsgrowtogether #healing #growing #determinedtowin #hardonourselves #hardworkers #debtfreegoals #onestepatatime #faultornotatfault #timetotakeaction #weareheretosupport #thefutureisyours #prosperity
I’m not saying it’s a healthy narrative, but I think most physios would admit to thinking this every so often- especially if you’re a new grad. When you’re caring for patients, you can’t just turn your brain off and leave work at work. It can be all consuming- thinking about a patient that maybe isn’t doing so well… wondering why they didn’t respond to your treatment as well as another patient… You can start to question your own methods. Start to think it’s solely your fault as their therapist that they are not improving. When really we often need to give ourselves a break- and a reality check. A patient’s recovery and response to treatment depends SO much on MULTIPLE factors- most of which are a) out of your control and b) happening OUTside of the clinic. Things like: - your patient’s beliefs - your patient’s past experiences with physio/ health care - your patient’s learning style - their activities & lifestyle habits - their diet/ nutrition/ hydration - their support system/ social life - their work - their stress levels/ other things going on in their life - their motivation to put in the work and get better - their beliefs on movement and exercise - their values - trust - their beliefs regarding pain - their family history- have they watched someone else close to them have a bad experience? - ETC! We as physios have to remind ourselves that we are only ONE person and one piece to a much bigger puzzle. Seeing us 1x/week sometimes just isn’t going to cut it. There’s no MAGIC treatment we are missing, no ONE thing we can do to solve all of our patient’s problems. We have to remind ourselves that we are merely a COACH. We can’t MAKE patient’s do exercises, or control ALL of the other factors that can AND WILL be affecting their recovery. Most Physios are Type A, perfectionists. We don’t like not knowing and not being able to fix all the things. We tend to blame ourselves and not give ourselves enough credit. We are merely a COACH. It is up to the patient what actions they take to own their own recovery. #yycphysio #hardonourselves #calgaryphysio #indepthphysio #npm2023 @albertaphysio @physiotherapycanada @daniwestpt #wearecoaches
I’m not saying it’s a healthy narrative, but I think most physios would admit to thinking this every so often- especially if you’re a new grad. When you’re caring for patients, you can’t just turn your brain off and leave work at work. It can be all consuming- thinking about a patient that maybe isn’t doing so well… wondering why they didn’t respond to your treatment as well as another patient… You can start to question your own methods. Start to think it’s solely your fault as their therapist that they are not improving. When really we often need to give ourselves a break- and a reality check. A patient’s recovery and response to treatment depends SO much on MULTIPLE factors- most of which are a) out of your control and b) happening OUTside of the clinic. Things like: - your patient’s beliefs - your patient’s past experiences with physio/ health care - your patient’s learning style - their activities & lifestyle habits - their diet/ nutrition/ hydration - their support system/ social life - their work - their stress levels/ other things going on in their life - their motivation to put in the work and get better - their beliefs on movement and exercise - their values - trust - their beliefs regarding pain - their family history- have they watched someone else close to them have a bad experience? - ETC! We as physios have to remind ourselves that we are only ONE person and one piece to a much bigger puzzle. Seeing us 1x/week sometimes just isn’t going to cut it. There’s no MAGIC treatment we are missing, no ONE thing we can do to solve all of our patient’s problems. We have to remind ourselves that we are merely a COACH. We can’t MAKE patient’s do exercises, or control ALL of the other factors that can AND WILL be affecting their recovery. Most Physios are Type A, perfectionists. We don’t like not knowing and not being able to fix all the things. We tend to blame ourselves and not give ourselves enough credit. We are merely a COACH. It is up to the patient what actions they take to own their own recovery. #yycphysio #hardonourselves #calgaryphysio #indepthphysio #npm2023 @albertaphysio @physiotherapycanada @daniwestpt #wearecoaches
As humans, we are increasingly expected to be perfect. The pressure this creates isn’t good for our health, and managing this stress isn’t something many of us do very well. Remember to show your fellow humans some grace, forgiveness, and patience when mistakes happen. Read the new blog post for a bit more on the subject. Link in bio. #health #wellness #stress #stressmanagement #perfect #perfection #hardonourselves #hardonothers #forgiveness #grace #understanding #mistakes
Often we are very hard on ourselves, but I'll ask for you to audit your current season so you can give yourself grace! Are you in a season of blooming? #wednesdaywisdom #wisdom #wednesday #season #becoming #blooming #gracious #everevolving #self #audit #bekind #currentseason #hardonourselves #giveyourselfgrace #boakman #poetry #wisewords
When you look in the mirror what do you see, what do you say in your mind? Pay attention to this, because you are telling yourself what to see & believe to then feel. Instead of pointing out everything you don’t like, negative aspects of yourself & beating yourself up for not achieving this or eating that. Change your view Point out all the great things about you. What wonderful aspects make YOU! What are you grateful for.. ✨Your arms that allow you to give the best hugs ✨Your smile that you share with everyone that’s feels like love ✨Your legs that take you on your walks everyday ✨Your eyes that allow to see all the beauty around you ✨Your ears that allow you to listen others, sounds of nature & beautiful music It’s time to change what you see when you look at yourself. This takes daily practice trust me it’s a constant flip. But just like anything the new habit will become your normal & so worth it. What you think about yourself you believe & you then feel. So when we see & point out all the things we don’t love, this will take your day down a negative path. Feeling crappy, unmotivated & disappointed in yourself. Let’s change that now because you deserve better!! You deserve to feel happy, positive, gratitude & full of love for yourself. 💕Name one thing you are grateful for about yourself & something positive you see. I’ll start, my smile I love smiling it’s a real gift to be able to share love with strangers with a smile. If you know me well you know I smile all day long Now your turn 🤗 … #whatdoyousee #lookinthemirror #changewhatyousee #whatyoubelieve #hardonourselves #negatives #gratefulfor #grateful #changehowyouseeyourself #believe #seeyourbeauty #seewhatyoulove #smile #sharelove #mirror #nlpcoach #nlpmasterpractioner #nlptips #wellnesscanada #wellnesscoach #emotionalcoach #emotionalwellness #lifecoachtips #seeyourself #seewhatsgreat #gratitude #loveyourself #loveyou
Are you hard on yourself about getting organized? . Don't be. Seriously! We are way to hard on ourselves, we sometimes even criticize, and judge ourselves much harder than our family or friends. Yes, things do get out of place, and we let things become out of hand. . Decluttering and organizing does take time and can be hard work. Please do not beat yourself up. It will all get done, stay focused on what's ahead, not on where you have been. It will all get done in time, I promise. . . #tiptuesday #Tuesday #gettingorganized #hardonourselves #judge #criticize #thingsoutofplace #outofhand #decluttering #organizing #stayfocused #taketime #professionalorganizer #homeorganizer #dsdeclutrr #newcleanlife
This can be a toughy.... We can all be so hard on ourselves. The thing is.... Its a Journey and Its NOT 1 size fits all. But how nice is it when you walking that journey with someone who has been there and done that, holds your hand and supports you? Les do this ! #letsdothis #toughy #hardonourselves #not1sizefitsall #supportonline #expertadvice #anon #onlinemastery #lifehacks
We can be so hard on ourselves. Sometimes our own judgements on ourselves keep us from attending class. I do my best in creating a judgement free and healing space for us to practice. As our bodies, minds, and lives twist and turn our practice changes. It's never a linear path. One thing that is for sure, we are always glad we came to class. #itsneveralinearpath #hardonourselves #ourownjudgments #sanfording #yogaretreats #yoga #meditation #hotyoga #bikramyoga #bikramyogalife #bikramhotyoga #relaxation #doyoga #doyogawithme #health #wellness #sanford365 #sanfordfl #ilovesanford #supportsanfordfl #sanfordstrong #smallbusinessowner #enlightenment #bethebestyou #doyou #inspiration #peace @Sanford365
Ouch! These might sting a bit today. Remember, we are all undergoing our own process. The world has been talking lots of kindness to others, but it starts with yourself. Be kind to YOU! You are worthy. #HeartTimes #HardTimes #heARTstrategies #heARTpractice #heARTchampions #CreativeWellness #ExpressiveArts #CreativeCounselling #Counselling #WellnessCoaching #ExpressiveArtsCanada #TransformationTuesday #ThemeOfTheDay #Things #IWishIKnew #Sooner #PeoplePleasing #CutOff #AskForHelp #Availability #HardOnOurselves #MyWorth #NotMyResponsibility #Victoria #Vancouver #Kelowna #Canada ❤️⏰
Words to live by: 💖 I owe myself the love that I so freely give to others. 💖 . . Looking at pictures from my latest photoshoot, I still get caught being so critical about myself. Then I remind myself that this is my own fitness journey and that I am in it because I enjoy it and because I want to be the best version of ME! . . Hat serie by: 📸: @light.shadow.photo 💄: @iam.shivakay 🎩: @henrihenri.ca
We are a baseball family, there is no two ways around it! It’s in our blood and the competitive nature is REAL!! I’m proud that we have instilled hard work and dedication in our boys, but this boy right here, he gets on that field and he puts the weight of the world on his shoulders! Nobody is harder on him than he is and I struggle with the fact that I know he gets that from me! Maybe it’s time we both loosened up a bit and learned to not sweat the small stuff! Easier said than done though, am I right?? #baseball #crushedit #triple #hardonourselves #learningtoletgo #health #family
🧡💙 Good morning 💙🧡 We are soooo hard on ourselves with the way things go in life and happen!! But remember we LEARN from all of it ❤️ We are HERE & NOW with the power to change your thoughts and with these positive thoughts AMAZING things can SHIFT your LIFE MAKE YOUR DAY BETTER & YOUR FUTURE 💯 #goodmorning #hardonourselves #Welearn #Shift #thoughts #positivethinking #Amazing #Betterdays #Betterfuture #haveagoodday ❣️
Believing you can do something is often the biggest obstacle you face when going after your goals.😞 Self-belief can be so powerful that it affects the relationships we have, the actions we take, the careers we pursue and ultimately what we do or do not accomplish. Here are 6 Ways to increase your self belief:😃 1. Affirm yourself - reinforce your belief in you. 2. Face your fears – overcoming even small fears will give you a big boost. 3. Address your inner critic – we are harder on ourselves than anyone else. 4. Take care of yourself - physical and emotional care can go a long way. 5. Be prepared to win – go in with a plan instead of winging it. 6. Cut off negative people- those who make you feel bad and bring you down need to go.
Stop comparing a and start loving. Why are we so hard on ourselves, yet so much easier on others? No one is perfect and we shouldn’t expect that from ourselves. #selflove #midwife #midlife #hardonourselves #bekind #beyourownbestfriend
I am worthy. I was born worthy. I am worthy exactly how I am. Sometimes I forget, get lost in the doubt, overthink myself into feeling shitty + guilty! . Why are we so hard on ourselves? My energies have been low for a beat, I didn’t do as much as I should have/could have + I forgive myself. Forgive myself for giving myself a hard time. . I’m worthy of it all - Resting. Going to bed early. Being. Playing more. All. Of. It. . . . . . . . . . . #worthy #worthymom #capable #resting #lawofattraction #momhood #momlife #sleepy #energetics #energeticmom #newmom #toddlermom #realtalk #momtalk #hardonourselves #innertalk #powerfulwomen
Working 6 days a week means I spend 6 days a week mom shaming myself for not being around and missing their sass. It takes about 10 minutes into my one full day "just being a mom" to remind me how crazy I am. They fight all day, they don't sleep all night, they whine more than they talk, and I love every wild and crazy second watching their personalities develop. The most quiet I heard them all day was when the turkeys joined us while we were skating on the creek this evening. This was short lived because naturally they needed to gobble at the turkeys like their dad 🤣 #momshaming #hardonourselves #givegrace #momday #busymom #workingmom #crazy #turkey #iceskating #creek #winterfun #gobblegobble #welcometotheshitshow #raisingwild
Full disclaimer this is a #mentalhealth #awareness #rant It is #exam season Which often leads to #sleeplessnights tossing and turning trying to #delete all the temporary files in our brains before we can #sleep. I am running on about 2 hours which lead to breaking some cardinal rules for myself: #1 #wasting #money on #ubereats you know this burger and poutine was 35$ with tip! #2 eating #junkfood mental health, physical health and anxiety are largelly tied to what we eat, I have made so much progress i do not like to slip All of that being said. Opportunity cost wins, I was too tired to cook food, too tired to drive comfortably and too hungry to care otherwise. My point? What does any of that matter at the end of the day? I got a large amount of food, eating it filled a hole i was incapable of filling myself and it made me feel good. It is ok to slip up on your rules once in a while, we need to #stop being so #hardOnOurselves and #forgive ourselves. #endrant. Also a heads up to #investors reading this but doordash goes public tomorrow if you care, I don't.
Hello my friends! I'm gonna get a little bit vulnerable here and say... I'm freaking exhausted. I am a busy body, but the last few months have been a whirlwind of things going on personally, both great and not so much so. 2020 has dealt all of us one blow after another.😔 Plus, I don't know about the men out there, but as a woman I know how hard we are on ourselves, how easily it is to judge when we aren’t perfect. We can say the most brutal of things to ourselves, things we would destroy someone else for if they ever said them to those we love. 💯☠ That's why next week, I'm actually attending an online "time out for women" to re-center and refocus on myself the way that I know I should be doing... and I would love to do it with a friend. Are there any ladies out there looking for a better way to love themselves, gain more confidence, have more joy...or just looking for a community of women to connect with & gain support from? I'd love to do this together. 🥰
I love this Choice Map created by Marilee Adams and the Inquiry Institute Inc. My clients love it (and learn to live it) too. It serves as a great visual for how we can approach our situations with either a learner/growth mindset or a judger mindset and the results we get based on which path, or approach, we choose. In my meeting with a client today I had this thought about one way we benefit from judging ourselves and why it may be hard to stop judging ourselves. Judging, and being hard on ourselves, is one way we may have learned to motivate ourselves to succeed. It can therefore feel very scary to let go of judging or being hard on ourselves. The fear is: If I’m kinder to myself I might not not succeed! If this is the case, be kinder to yourself for judging and being hard on yourself 😊 and learn another, more effective, and healthier way to hold yourself accountable, motivate yourself and succeed. Adopt a learner/self-leadership mindset. Changing your questions, as illustrated on this map, can get you off to a good start. I can also teach you how to make this change Send me a PM if you’re interested in hearing more about how I can help you. #motivation #judgement #learner #growthmindset #choices #judgingourselves #beinghardonourselves #hardonourselves #stopjudging #bekind #bekindtoyourself #selfabuse
Just a little thought from today: . “Sometimes I feel as though I make things much harder for myself than they really need to be - then I remember that nothing in this life is easy & the greatest formation of character comes from breaking through what we find the most comfort in”.... . A thought that I feel can be applied to a great number of things - be that in our ways of thinking or the building of our character.... . Remembering that any amount of great change may be uncomfortable at times but so necessary in shaping who we aspire to become! . Keep going Fam, there’s always method to and within our madness! . ✌🏼- / Chantelle \ -✌🏼 -TheShadedGiraffe- -———-🌴🦒———- . #making #harder #hard #hardonyourself #hardonourselves #harsh #dontbesoharshonyourself #dontbetoohardonyourself #learning #growing #lessons #character #characterbuilding #comfort #comfortzones #aspire #aspirations #change #great #greatchange #changeisgreat #changetakestime #getuncomfortable #keepgoing #littlethings #littlethoughts #sharing
Negative self talk is something that a lot of us need to cut back on. Giving yourself a hard time if you make a small mistake or going over experiences or conversations in your head when you feel like you did the wrong thing is so easy to do. If this is a pattern you’ve noticed in yourself, you probably want to feel better about yourself. Thinking about the times when you’ve done well and times when you’ve achieved things and had positive conversations helps. Acknowledging mistakes is good and helps you to do better in the future, but only if you make plans to help yourself to succeed the next time. Be kinder to yourself, think about your skills, your achievements and your experience. If you didn’t know how to do something or how to answer a question in the past, find out how to do better in the future. Make a plan. That moves you from feelings of disappointment to feelings of hope. When we feel good about ourselves, it often helps us to be kinder to others too. Look after yourself. Mind yourself. Nourish yourself. #selfcompassion #selfcare #kindness #kindtomyself #nourish #compassion #care #positiveselftalk #negativeselftalk #hardonourselves #hardtime #mistake #conversation #experience #achievements #skills #negativepattern #teachtothrive
💞 Time out and Self care 💞 . One thing I realise I am not so good at is taking time out and recognising the things I have accomplished. My go to mode is focusing on what I haven't done - case in point is over the last few weeks where I have been 'sleeping in' till nearly 8 (lots of reasons and excuses as to why that is..), meaning I don't have time to do my usual miracle morning routine first thing, and it throws my day out. However, if I take a moment to consider things I recognise that I am still doing all the things I would usually do in that early morning, just at a different point in the day. Another one is the 30 days to healthy living program where the goal is to cut out toxins like caffeine, dairy, gluten, sugar and booze. I tell myself I've failed because I am still drinking wine and eating bread. But the fact is that I have been more conscious about what I consume over the past 11 days, and am consistently making healthier choices. I need to remember that everything is all about progress and not perfection. . So to celebrate these wins (and the fact I've recognised them) I treated myself (and Corey!) to a pamper sesh. Complete with foot bath with harmonising essential oils, a pink clay detox face mask, and a movie. No guilt, no worrying about what I should be doing, just enjoying a moment of reflection and a simple time out 💫 . Are you as hard on yourself? Or do you recognise when you've done a good job? . #selfcare #timeout #celebratethewins #gogetter #hardonourselves #progressnotperfection #reflection #goals #vision #pampersession #detoxmask #oilpulling #pinkclay #facemask #footspa #essentialoils #harmony #smellslikeRefreshers💞 #rescueandrenew #saltscrub
“Do as I say not as I do!” . . This kiddo is always watching mama, always doing what I do... down to how I fold my arms for the dinner prayer or do my planks and jump squats. I don’t always think I’m much of a mentor but she sure does and tries so hard to be just like me. . . . #praiseourselves #hardonourselves #momgig #doallthethings #shadow #mentor #doasido #teachingkids #teacheralways #onceateacheralwasysateacher #learningnewthingseveryday #firstponytail #girlmom #2yearoldfun #teachthemyoung
Self-love is a funny thing. It almost sounds selfish and vain. What is it really?? 🤔 Have you ever scrolled through older pics of yourself and wondered why you were so critical of yourself at the point in life? (Me 🙋🏼♀️ Just now! 🤦🏼♀️) I believe self love is taking care of and daily becoming the person God created you to be, from the inside out. When you feel your best mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually then you can be your best for everyone in your life. What are you doing today to practice self-love and be the best You?! ❤️ #hardonourselves #selflove #yourbestyou
Every one of us has vulnerabilities. We picturize situations upfront, both the visual aspect and the emotional side. We tend to adjust the visual aspect but can’t really take control of the emotions. Everything starts to crumble once the reality is slightly higher than the expectation. We get paranoid, wanting the person to stay a little longer. We are not sure if we need to let out our vulnerabilities upfront or show off the gold and glitter side of ours to make them stay. It really gets tricky, you might scare them with your vulnerabilities. Worse, get played by them. Just like Rob’s cheekbone, the physical aspect has healed. The injury on his arm, it sure will heal, but the scar would remain. The same goes with our emotion, they do get healed. It is we who keep them alive by revisiting through memory, keeping the wound afresh. We all need validation in this world. Give that compliment, The smile, The eye contact. They shall never seek validation from strangers. ‘Cos you, my man is the entire world to her. We are always hard on ourselves. But tell people they shouldn’t be. Someday, I hope we validate ourselves. #modernlove #nyc #nyctimes #validation #hardonourselves #situations #paranoid #life #emotions #relationships #vulnerabilities #compliment #heal #goeasy #love #feelings #scars #memories #amazonprimevideo #webseries
In my business it’s important to have a photo. I have really struggled with this. I am not comfortable behind the camera. I am afraid my nose looks to big or my “ eyes look dead” or expressionless. Bond took these of me the other day. Do I look to filtered, touched up? I’m 44, it is what it is. Should I just use my short hair photo? All comments welcome.. does anyone else struggle with putting your face out there? #firstworldproblems #hardonourselves #dontlovephotos #help
You don’t have to let that mistake define your day or week. Learn from your misstep, then move forward. 🤬 We all know mistakes are human—but still, we can be *so* hard on ourselves when we flub up. 🤷🏼♀️ Today, if you make a mistake, pause before spiraling into self-shame. Instead, think of what you can do *right now* to get back on track. Repeat to yourself: 'I've gotten through tough situations before, and I will again.' 🌪 #mymistakesdontdefineme #learnfrommistakes #learnfromyourmissteps #moveforward #mistakesarehuman #hardonourselves #pause #spiraling #selfshame #whatcanidorightnow #getbackontrack #ivegottenthroughworse #iwillgetthroughit #iwillagain
It’s been a while since I’ve come across a photo of me that I actually kinda like that isn’t filtered to shit. Confidence has been at all all time low this year but this picture made me realise I’m not a total lost cause. See so many amazing women bigging each other up yet we’re all so quick to be hard on ourselves which is so sad isn’t it? We’re all in it together girls!!! #selfconfidence #struggles #we’realright #girls #hardonourselves #filter #falseadvertising #empower #women #friends #slimmingworld #slimmingworlduk #slimmingworldmotivaton #slimmingworldjourney #slimmingworlddiary #slimmingworldblogger #slimmingworldstruggles #weightloss #weightlossjourney #weightlossstuggles
Not tooooooooooo long ago Over two hours of pure #torture Four days of recovery #buildingcharacter , it’s called #meagainstme #youreyouronlycompetition I don’t think l even ran off a medium sized pizza. Sure helps putting #foodinperspective Why does everything #alwaysHAVEtobeyummy I recently came to understand that #foodis80percent #forreal Why go through #alltheshit Why do we keep making it so #hardonourselves #neverstoplearningandgrowing #nevertooold #stillgrowing #dadsquad #wisereveryday #6packat40 #onlygettingbetter #alwayssore #alwaysappreciative #forevergrateful🙏
ARE YOU BEING HARD ON YOURSELF? If you are let me know by adding a flower emoji in the comment area. I am going to have to say I am horribly guilty of doing this. Many times I know that I am really tough on myself but when I recognize it I try to reverse the negative self talk. So here are some of the things I do. 1. recognize I am being ridiculously hard on myself 2. stop the bad negative thoughts 3. think about if it is really all that important in the long term 4. will it be that important tomorrow or the next day 5. really is it just me that sees it as a problem 6. talk to someone about it and it will give you a realistic outlook So, let's all try to not be so hard on ourselves this week and see what happens. * * * * #hardonourselves #goals #happy #selfcare #restandrelax #girlbosslife #femaleentrepreneur #bossbabemindset #mindset #bekind #womeneur #successfulwomen #mortified #sunnierdays #notperfect #tryingtobeperfect #findbalance #businesscoach #coach #girlpreneur #bloggers #digitalmarketers #beyourownboss #success #businessconsultant #beingabetterperson #womensupportwomen #intrapreneur #socialmediamarketing #smallbusinessowners
⛔️Instagram vs Reality ⛔️ • • • OK. As stated yesterday, I’m going to keep getting vulnerable. Because social media often displays the good and he greats not so much the bad and the uglies. • THIS POST IS NOT FOR ATTENTION. I JUST WANT TO SHOWCASE HOW WE SEE OURSELVES VERSUS HOW THE PUBLIC SEES US. • First picture, most people see a gleaming bride with her flower girl. Smiling ear to ear on one of the happiest days of her life. • That’s partially true. But take a swipe to the left ➡️ to see how I see myself in this picture. And let me tell you, there haven’t been many days that we’re much harder for me then the day I got my wedding pictures. Because for every picture I was in I could tear it apart like this one 🙈 I’m not proud of it , or that I let my mind go there. • I’m working tirelessly and continuously to ❌STOP❌ the negative self talk and criticism. • I haven’t perfected it yet - BUT I’m getting there 💃🏻 • missing from the arrows because I’m #techchallenged is (flabby arms, dark circles around eyes, messy hair). • • #stopthenegativity #youareenough #brides #selftalk #flowergirls #hardonourselves #loveyourself #weddingdress #millenial #transformyourimage #sequence #allurebridal #betransparent #stopthestigma #iambeautiful #beyoutiful #weddingphotos
#hardonourselves #growthmindset #spiritualgrowth #mentalgrowth #mentalhealthawareness
Why are we always so hard on ourselves? Instead of just letting ourselves be who we are and stop striving for perfection. . . #positivemindset #postivequotes #positivevibes #positive #positivity #positivemind #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealth #mentalhealthrecovery #mentalhealthquotes #anxiety #anxietyquotes #anxietyquote #depressionquotes #insta #instahealth #instamentalhealth #powerofhope #hope #perfection #striving #hardonourselves
Mr. Jack had his 18 month check up yesterday. I left that appointment feeling like I'm a bad mom and have failed my child. I know the doctor didn't intentionally make me feel this way; it's all on me. I think we as mothers are so hard on ourselves. I know I am! I let that small blip in my day affect my whole attitude and my whole day. As I was putting Jack to sleep last night, which took way TOO long because he had a late nap, I had time to think. I'm not good at a lot of things, but I'm a dang good mom. Am I perfect? No. Are my kids perfect? No. Do I lose my cool sometimes? Yes. Do they deserve it? Sometimes. 🤪 Do my kids know that I love them more than anything, I will always have their back and I'm their biggest cheerleader? I sure hope so. Motherhood is hard. Trying to find the balance of being their friend, but also being their parent is hard. I know I am going to keep on stumbling and making mistakes, but at the end of the day, I hope my kids know how hard I tried and how amazing I think they are.
#neededthis #hardonourselves #kindness #compassion# #wellbeing #dailystruggle #practice #forgiveness #lettinggo #whatmatters #humans ❤❤
#ThankYou @clean_week @megandaviesfitness for that #workout ..... going from 👉🏻 #advancedworkouts two years ago ⬇️to 👉🏻 #restarting at #beginnerworkout It’s a #hardpilltoswallow 💊 because we’re always so #hardonourselves 🙌🏻 but I did it and I plan on doing this #workout until I #masterit #therealfailureisntfailing #itsneverstarting
Since @clearmindnutrition is about achieving wellness on all fronts, not just nutrition, I would like think to say.... • • • • Forgive others. If you don’t, your internal well being is being compromised. Forgive yourself, we are always the hardest on ourselves 🙏🏻 • • • • • #forgivethyself #forgiveyourself #forgive #forgiveothers #behappy #rentfree #happysoul #hardonourselves #mindbodysoul #wellbeing #internal #internalbliss #clearmindnutrition #liveforgivelove #holisticnutrition #healthcoach #healthcoachinthemaking
Noticing someone else’s flaws gives us relief from our own. Let’s let others off the hook by letting ourselves off the hook and be content to know we are all flawed. Yet still lovable and madly loved.
#tbt to a #photosession with my sweet friend @paulcruzphoto (before he was famous). I had just turned 21, he was 20. It was just for fun and I felt all my insecurities fall away that day. The images aren’t sharp as they are from a #contactsheet. Where did the time go? That girl is still in me but outside is another story......why are we so #hardonourselves? I am brutal on myself. #photography #photos #artform #thosewerethedays #paulcruzphotography #fauxmodeling #blackandwhitephotography #lookingback #lisaswifka #eyes #anotherartform Swipe for more #images.
Sometimes we replace the word “coward” with other things 🙊 #hardonourselves #cantquitnow #canijustgohome #quitter #nurse #mirrortalks #givemeafew #wheredshego #harsh #coward #toughenup #peptalk #nursing #nurselife #lifeofanurse #job #work #workflow #report #shiftchange Follow us @nurse_lover_usa for more photos like this Credit goes to @nursesofinstagram Sometimes we replace the word “coward” with other things 🙊 #hardonourselves #cantquitnow #canijustgohome #quitter #nurse
Homemade ice creams for the win! Although I didn’t make them... and they did trigger a case of the Mum guilts! #newblogpost #linkinbio #readme #blog #glasshalffullvibes #unicornmums #enough #love #teddyhasallthelove #hardonourselves #shinyunicornmum #mumblog #mumfail
Sometimes we replace the word “coward” with other things 🙊 #hardonourselves #cantquitnow #canijustgohome #quitter #nurse #mirrortalks #givemeafew #wheredshego #harsh #coward #toughenup #peptalk #nursing #nurselife #lifeofanurse #job #work #workflow #report #shiftchange
Werbung da Marke sichtbar / unbezahlte Werbung • When your mom takes a pictures of you to show you that your tummy is not as bad looking as you think... ❗️we are often harder on ourselves and need to learn to see us through the eyes of the people who love us 💕 Sorry, I had just gotten up and didnt clean the make up of my face from the day before💄 🙈 #selfimage #selfworth #selbstbild #hardonourselves #dontbesohardonyourself #selbstwahrnehmung #selbstwahrnehmungsstörung #selflove #selfrespect #selflove #selbstliebe #blickwinkeländern #distortedbeauty #lipilife #lipödem #lipoedema #lipedema #liplymph #lipoedemgram #lipedemaofinstagram #lipodema #curelipedema #lipoedemgram #lipedemagram #lipödemladys #lipödemfighter #lipödemisteinarschloch #lipedemagirl #lipedemaawareness #lipedemalife #lipödemlife #lipoedemaawareness
I notice how I feel kind of pretty in the mirror and then I take a photo of myself, and I don't look as good as I thought I did. Anyone else notice this? The lens shows everything the mirror does not. I go on to critique the lens, and the mirror. And then I think, why am I being so hard on myself. I'm 52 and a half damn years old. Dammit! I should have grey hair. I should have wrinkles. I should have age spots and so on. Why are we so hard on ourselves? I've earned every wrinkle, grey hair, every spider vein. And you young ladies will too. Age has it's rewards. I'll go there another time. But for now, I'm glad to be alive. Now, back to the original question. Why does the mirror lie? Or is it the lens? Or, perhaps.... Is it us? Who tells the truth? #klw2017 #aging #being52 #ioncewasyoungtoo #hardonourselves #loveyourself #beautyisperception #whosinthemirror #silencetheinnercritic
Everyone needs a little #love sometimes... we can be so #hardonourselves... #tagafriend and #showthelove !!!
When your feeling like your not getting anywhere, time to reflect back on when your journey first began. Thats when you slap yourself and realise you have come so far....thank goodness for progress photos. A massive ongoing thanks to my amazing coaches 😘 and my sis 😘 and still so far to go.... #weightsbeforedates #weightlossjourney #goals #strivingforabetterme #hardonourselves @anytimefitnesstownsille @next_level_fitness_tsv
💛✨💪🏼 #thursdaymotivation #transformationthursday #qotd #lovethis #itspeakssomuchtruth #facebook #instagram #comparisonville #everysingleday #brilliance #drive #creativity #strippedaway #beyourself #youvsyou #tellyourstory #dontcomparechapter1to20 #hardonourselves #frustrated #special #takeabreak #socialmedia #walks #lunchdates #shutoffothersopinions #allowyourselftime #workinprogress #nopainnogain #inspiration #beyourownmotivation
Building a new gym always gives us wood. #climbing #climbinggym #carpentry #wood #building #cuttingremark #sliceanddice #cuttothechase #hardonourselves #cheeky
BE KIND {TO YOURSELF} has become a saying that is so close to my heart.💖💖💖 I mean, we all recognize the need for showing kindness to others (of course!), but are we demonstrating that to ourselves as well? ➡️➡️➡️ How are you talking to yourself? Are you encouraging yourself with your words? Are you showing yourself grace when you make a mistake? Do you let yourself rest and relax? Do you recognize your own gifts and talents or focus on your negative qualities?🤔 I think, often, we are not showing ourselves the care and kindness we so readily work to demonstrate to others. #ourownworstenemy #hardonourselves #overlycritical I am NOT SAYING we should not be kind to others; what I AM SAYING is that we should show ourselves that same level of kindness we desire to give to others. #nooneisperfect #selfcare #selftalk #madeinGodsimage Psalm 139 says we are "fearfully and wonderfully made" -- ALL of us! And this should impact how we live!!!⭐️ So give yourself a break, be kind to yourself, and remember that you are loved by the Creator of the universe. How do you think HE sees you? #bekindtoyourself #bekind #perspectacles #fearfullyandwonderfullymade #Godmadeyou #Godlovesyou #Psalm139 #shepaintstruth #woodsign #handlettering #handcut #floral #mixedmedia #handmadewithlove #madewithlove
This is probably more #true than most people admit. I know for sure its been one of my #biggestchallenges in life. Because we know our #flaws and #imperfections we can be really #hardonourselves and think that somehow we will never #measureup so learning to love and #accept ourselves and really see how #divine and #wonderful we are is so #important. So if you struggle with this too, make the #decision today to #embrace all that is you. Love yourself unconditionally! ❤️
Good ways and good tips to remember not to be hard on ourselves. We often are our own worst enemy and loudest critic. #inspirational #goodtips #mentalhealth #graphic #hardonourselves #dontbe #worstenemy
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Sad. #wearesmaller #bodyimage #hardonourselves #tough #motivation
Cut off but so true #comparing #hardonourselves #women #ridicule #stop #beyourself
Ostrich and conehead haha #hardonourselves @mrubbo43
Sometimes we're the hardest on ourselves. #believe #thinkers #crazy #hope #hardonourselves #breath #support #love #beyou #confidence #loveyourself